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Quality over quantity…

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I mentioned something last night where there is more truth behind it than you’d think.

I don’t pay attention to who has looked at me, but I can’t help notice how many do or how many people fab pics because they stand out.

So I turned 46 a few months ago, and before that I’d have around 50 views a day and possibly a few fabs on pictures a week.

And after my 46th ? I’m lucky to get a fab at all, and views are simply zero somedays.

I just imagine it’s all the quality people looking my way.. call me!!

So I seem to have fit those looking for ‘upto 45yrs’. Interesting.

Have others that have been around fab for a while seen the same pattern?

With risk of sounding like Sydney University, I do wonder what the most popular age group is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ll let you know when I’m old

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’ll let you know when I’m old

Ooft. I felt that.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple over a year ago

Leeds

Could just be the filters you won't show on searches anymore with a 45 age limit, could just be a quiet few weeks?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The most popular age group is female.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can only go from when I joined I'd say 30 upwards though I'll remember to leave when I turn 46.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"The most popular age group is female. "

I’ll try that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Can only go from when I joined I'd say 30 upwards though I'll remember to leave when I turn 46. "

I forgot to do that… it must be my memory…

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

There is real bias, natural preferences and system facilitated exclusion, such as 'helpful' age limits at milestone points.

You are who you are and you can do some things to appeal differently to others. It's better to ensure that you're doing the best to sell yourself, despite the hurdles that exist.

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By *afksedMan over a year ago

Birmingham

"I’ll let you know when I’m old

The worst thing about being 34 is that he will go to sleep and wake up 45. And then get the kind of message he sent.

I prefer this age for the very reason that we don’t have all that BS. I used to set my own filter to start at 35 because I can’t be bothered with all that narcissistic nonsense.

I have found that there are plenty of women out there who tire of men their own age and look for men who know what they are doing. It helps that we are reliable, discreet, and frankly, turn up.

Age is a stage. I don’t want 21 year old sex. The sex now is the best because it’s more cerebral and less self-obsessed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I turned 30 this year so my appeal is on the decline. It will pick back up when I reach cougar age.

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"I turned 30 this year so my appeal is on the decline. It will pick back up when I reach cougar age."

You have the magic pocket. Your appeal with never wane

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’d imagine the popular age groups are different for men than for women! I became more popular when I turned 40 than I was in my 30s.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I turned 30 this year so my appeal is on the decline. It will pick back up when I reach cougar age."

So I’ve got ‘creepy old man’ age to look forward to. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ll let you know when I’m old

The worst thing about being 34 is that he will go to sleep and wake up 45. And then get the kind of message he sent.

I prefer this age for the very reason that we don’t have all that BS. I used to set my own filter to start at 35 because I can’t be bothered with all that narcissistic nonsense.

I have found that there are plenty of women out there who tire of men their own age and look for men who know what they are doing. It helps that we are reliable, discreet, and frankly, turn up.

Age is a stage. I don’t want 21 year old sex. The sex now is the best because it’s more cerebral and less self-obsessed."

It's perfectly possible to offer praise to older men without disparaging others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ll let you know when I’m old

The worst thing about being 34 is that he will go to sleep and wake up 45. And then get the kind of message he sent.

I prefer this age for the very reason that we don’t have all that BS. I used to set my own filter to start at 35 because I can’t be bothered with all that narcissistic nonsense.

I have found that there are plenty of women out there who tire of men their own age and look for men who know what they are doing. It helps that we are reliable, discreet, and frankly, turn up.

Age is a stage. I don’t want 21 year old sex. The sex now is the best because it’s more cerebral and less self-obsessed."

Mine was a joke aimed at someone who knows I like to take the piss but yeah… I’m the narcissist

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

It's just a generalisation pocket, Same will happen when you are 50.

I do meet people out of my age range, but is not often that I can find him, I truly don't have the time to filter through so age preferences help

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By *ellhungvweMan over a year ago

Cheltenham

OP - I have just clicked over the 46 mark and I sort of agree with what you are saying. It has got a little quieter over the past couple of months. I thought, like you, it was me but speaking to friends (couples and ladies) they also say it has been quieter for a few months.

I also think I have been less active on the site (work etc)and, in my experience, the more active you are the more the site responds - I have started posting a bit more in the last few days and the site has responded. Don’t know if that helps?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's just a generalisation pocket, Same will happen when you are 50.

…."

My time on fab is a ticking time bomb isn’t it…?.

*MODS - “everyday woody! everyday!!!”

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Interestingly there’s much more age variation in womens hot pics than there are in mens. There’s plenty of 40/50+ women in hot pics but barely any men in the same age range!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Interestingly there’s much more age variation in womens hot pics than there are in mens. There’s plenty of 40/50+ women in hot pics but barely any men in the same age range! "

Told you.

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By *lynJMan over a year ago

Morden

"It's just a generalisation pocket, Same will happen when you are 50.

….

My time on fab is a ticking time bomb isn’t it…?.

*MODS - “everyday woody! everyday!!!” "

Just wait until you get to my age.

Though I have had 2 views already today.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP - I have just clicked over the 46 mark and I sort of agree with what you are saying. It has got a little quieter over the past couple of months. I thought, like you, it was me but speaking to friends (couples and ladies) they also say it has been quieter for a few months. ….

Maybe. I’ve noticed friend or people I’ve watched being less active, so maybe across the board there are less people around. You could have a point.

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By *ellhungvweMan over a year ago

Cheltenham

Maybe. I’ve noticed friend or people I’ve watched being less active, so maybe across the board there are less people around. You could have a point.

Personally I think there was a lot of activity right after lockdown and then people have settled into a routine.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not sure i care who looks all that much im more bothered about who gets in touch

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"It's just a generalisation pocket, Same will happen when you are 50.

….

My time on fab is a ticking time bomb isn’t it…?.

*MODS - “everyday woody! everyday!!!” "

Not at all, socials will help massively, gotta get yourself out there to be seen

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's just a generalisation pocket, Same will happen when you are 50.

….

My time on fab is a ticking time bomb isn’t it…?.

*MODS - “everyday woody! everyday!!!”

Not at all, socials will help massively, gotta get yourself out there to be seen

I’m going out-out in a couple of weeks

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By *ad boy maverickMan over a year ago

basildon

"It's just a generalisation pocket, Same will happen when you are 50.

I do meet people out of my age range, but is not often that I can find him, I truly don't have the time to filter through so age preferences help

love the star wars pants

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By *ad boy maverickMan over a year ago

basildon

With so many fake profiles, men pretending to be women or couples. It's a nightmare. Younger men seems to indicate stronger erections and staying power

You can't beat experience and wisdom.

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Give it a few months and you can drop your age by 5 years. No one will notice so long as you don’t post a thread pointing out your age

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By *ou only live onceMan over a year ago

London

"It's just a generalisation pocket, Same will happen when you are 50.

….

My time on fab is a ticking time bomb isn’t it…?.

*MODS - “everyday woody! everyday!!!” "

You speak for all of us, Woody! Tick, tick, tick...

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By *andR2019Couple over a year ago

Nunya

"I mentioned something last night where there is more truth behind it than you’d think.

I don’t pay attention to who has looked at me, but I can’t help notice how many do or how many people fab pics because they stand out.

So I turned 46 a few months ago, and before that I’d have around 50 views a day and possibly a few fabs on pictures a week.

And after my 46th ? I’m lucky to get a fab at all, and views are simply zero somedays.

I just imagine it’s all the quality people looking my way.. call me!!

So I seem to have fit those looking for ‘upto 45yrs’. Interesting.

Have others that have been around fab for a while seen the same pattern?

With risk of sounding like Sydney University, I do wonder what the most popular age group is."

Don’t think it’s a case of popularity think it’s more what catches the eye. Change your profile up a bit maybe xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It's just a generalisation pocket, Same will happen when you are 50.

….

My time on fab is a ticking time bomb isn’t it…?.

*MODS - “everyday woody! everyday!!!”

You speak for all of us, Woody! Tick, tick, tick...

There was a time I couldn’t imagine 50. And now it’s just around the corner. Time really does move fast now.

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By *ou only live onceMan over a year ago

London

"It's just a generalisation pocket, Same will happen when you are 50.

….

My time on fab is a ticking time bomb isn’t it…?.

*MODS - “everyday woody! everyday!!!”

You speak for all of us, Woody! Tick, tick, tick...

There was a time I couldn’t imagine 50. And now it’s just around the corner. Time really does move fast now. "

I know. Literally terrifying. I think I'm supposed to say something reassuring like "you're only as old as you feel", but I feel ancient some days! On the plus side, I've upped your view count by one (sorry about that)!

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

No. But I think in a couple of years when I'm 35 I'll probably experience that. I won't be able to say I'm even kind of a young woman.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

I didn't join here until I was 52 so can't comment beyond that but I average 1 message a month, 3-4 views a day and a handful of fabs a week.

Normally when I put a new pic up the views and messages don't change and the fabs are always without fail from friends only.

I put up a new one yesterday and had 7 views and 13 fabs which is the most I've had in a very long time.

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By *otSoPoshWoman over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Give it a few months and you can drop your age by 5 years. No one will notice so long as you don’t post a thread pointing out your age"

He has never done that.

But yet has pictures of himself next to the pyramids when they were being built.

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By *lynJMan over a year ago

Morden

"No. But I think in a couple of years when I'm 35 I'll probably experience that. I won't be able to say I'm even kind of a young woman.

You'll always be younger than woody.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Give it a few months and you can drop your age by 5 years. No one will notice so long as you don’t post a thread pointing out your age

He has never done that.

But yet has pictures of himself next to the pyramids when they were being built."

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

When I hit 50 the same thing happened but to be fair I still meet lovely people and have fewer messages to plough through. I go to socials and a local club so I am always meeting people where age is not discussed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No. But I think in a couple of years when I'm 35 I'll probably experience that. I won't be able to say I'm even kind of a young woman.

You'll always be younger than woody.

Ooft….,I’m regretting starting this thread …

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No. But I think in a couple of years when I'm 35 I'll probably experience that. I won't be able to say I'm even kind of a young woman.

You'll always be younger than woody.

Ooft….,I’m regretting starting this thread …

it's August; all quiet on the Western Front

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By *viatrixWoman over a year ago

Redhill

I’ll tell you when I cross the 50 threshold next year.

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"It's just a generalisation pocket, Same will happen when you are 50.

….

My time on fab is a ticking time bomb isn’t it…?.

*MODS - “everyday woody! everyday!!!”

Not at all, socials will help massively, gotta get yourself out there to be seen

I’m going out-out in a couple of weeks

Yey, have a awesome time

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By *lynJMan over a year ago

Morden

"No. But I think in a couple of years when I'm 35 I'll probably experience that. I won't be able to say I'm even kind of a young woman.

You'll always be younger than woody.

Ooft….,I’m regretting starting this thread …

You'll always be younger than me. I hope that helps.

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By *hristopherd999Man over a year ago

Brentwood