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"Do you have any? Mine is thinking anyone who doesn’t fancy me is blind or only attracted to women " Mine is causing an argument for no reason. Eg the mrs will ask if I want something from Deliveroo, I’ll say no, then when it arrives I’ll ask why she didn’t get me anything. I don’t know why I do it, other than the fact I am a horrible person | |||
"Do you have any? Mine is thinking anyone who doesn’t fancy me is blind or only attracted to women Mine is causing an argument for no reason. Eg the mrs will ask if I want something from Deliveroo, I’ll say no, then when it arrives I’ll ask why she didn’t get me anything. I don’t know why I do it, other than the fact I am a horrible person " Horrible no Knob head yes. | |||
"Do you have any? Mine is thinking anyone who doesn’t fancy me is blind or only attracted to women Mine is causing an argument for no reason. Eg the mrs will ask if I want something from Deliveroo, I’ll say no, then when it arrives I’ll ask why she didn’t get me anything. I don’t know why I do it, other than the fact I am a horrible person " Nice lol | |||
"Do you have any? Mine is thinking anyone who doesn’t fancy me is blind or only attracted to women Mine is causing an argument for no reason. Eg the mrs will ask if I want something from Deliveroo, I’ll say no, then when it arrives I’ll ask why she didn’t get me anything. I don’t know why I do it, other than the fact I am a horrible person Nice lol " Indeed. Not something I’m proud of but the question was asked… | |||
"Do you have any? Mine is thinking anyone who doesn’t fancy me is blind or only attracted to women Mine is causing an argument for no reason. Eg the mrs will ask if I want something from Deliveroo, I’ll say no, then when it arrives I’ll ask why she didn’t get me anything. I don’t know why I do it, other than the fact I am a horrible person Nice lol Indeed. Not something I’m proud of but the question was asked…" A good argument never hurt anyone | |||
"Do you have any? Mine is thinking anyone who doesn’t fancy me is blind or only attracted to women Mine is causing an argument for no reason. Eg the mrs will ask if I want something from Deliveroo, I’ll say no, then when it arrives I’ll ask why she didn’t get me anything. I don’t know why I do it, other than the fact I am a horrible person Nice lol Indeed. Not something I’m proud of but the question was asked… A good argument never hurt anyone " Maybe not but petty arguments just for the sake of it…no bueno. The worst thing is I know I am being a dick, but for some reason I carry on. | |||
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"Mine is being needy" I’m a people pleaser so I get this…so fucking annoying | |||
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"Toxic is too strong a word. I can be very stubborn. In certain situations it's proved advantageous. In others it just makes me a pain in the hoop." Ha, when people agree with you you’re strong/decisive/know your own mind, when they don’t, you’re an expletive. Often comes down to if you’re making a decision for indecisive people or going against the grain | |||
"Toxic is too strong a word. I can be very stubborn. In certain situations it's proved advantageous. In others it just makes me a pain in the hoop. Ha, when people agree with you you’re strong/decisive/know your own mind, when they don’t, you’re an expletive. Often comes down to if you’re making a decision for indecisive people or going against the grain" I was in the military .. a hard life both of us. My toxic trait is I have 0 empathy for certain things when I witnessed something that is appalling according to Western values. My brain goes you don't understand and you have it so much better than others. | |||
"Toxic is too strong a word. I can be very stubborn. In certain situations it's proved advantageous. In others it just makes me a pain in the hoop. Ha, when people agree with you you’re strong/decisive/know your own mind, when they don’t, you’re an expletive. Often comes down to if you’re making a decision for indecisive people or going against the grain I was in the military .. a hard life both of us. My toxic trait is I have 0 empathy for certain things when I witnessed something that is appalling according to Western values. My brain goes you don't understand and you have it so much better than others." Why do you think that’s toxic? Isn’t that just cutting through / cutting out the bullshit, in comparison to actual shit that does matter? | |||
"Toxic is too strong a word. I can be very stubborn. In certain situations it's proved advantageous. In others it just makes me a pain in the hoop. Ha, when people agree with you you’re strong/decisive/know your own mind, when they don’t, you’re an expletive. Often comes down to if you’re making a decision for indecisive people or going against the grain I was in the military .. a hard life both of us. My toxic trait is I have 0 empathy for certain things when I witnessed something that is appalling according to Western values. My brain goes you don't understand and you have it so much better than others." I totally get this. Not on the same scale as the military but working in the police, I have been know to be very cold/ desensitised towards thinks that others find upsetting | |||
"Toxic is too strong a word. I can be very stubborn. In certain situations it's proved advantageous. In others it just makes me a pain in the hoop. Ha, when people agree with you you’re strong/decisive/know your own mind, when they don’t, you’re an expletive. Often comes down to if you’re making a decision for indecisive people or going against the grain I was in the military .. a hard life both of us. My toxic trait is I have 0 empathy for certain things when I witnessed something that is appalling according to Western values. My brain goes you don't understand and you have it so much better than others. Why do you think that’s toxic? Isn’t that just cutting through / cutting out the bullshit, in comparison to actual shit that does matter?" alot think it's toxic . I go to you can have it much worse. Yet because of my statement I am villified. | |||
"Toxic is too strong a word. I can be very stubborn. In certain situations it's proved advantageous. In others it just makes me a pain in the hoop. Ha, when people agree with you you’re strong/decisive/know your own mind, when they don’t, you’re an expletive. Often comes down to if you’re making a decision for indecisive people or going against the grain I was in the military .. a hard life both of us. My toxic trait is I have 0 empathy for certain things when I witnessed something that is appalling according to Western values. My brain goes you don't understand and you have it so much better than others. Why do you think that’s toxic? Isn’t that just cutting through / cutting out the bullshit, in comparison to actual shit that does matter? alot think it's toxic . I go to you can have it much worse. Yet because of my statement I am villified. " I was a flight medic 68w mos.. i get the call for a injured boy . I get there to help being a female was frowned upon in other nations. It was a bacha bazi incident. The locals didn't like my attitude.Maybe I holding on to that tragic incident too much. But to this day it's burned into my soul. A child...Yes I can be toxic and my posts I admit. But my brain goes ballistic on trivial posts and I do not know how to have empathetic behavior. | |||
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"Toxic is too strong a word. I can be very stubborn. In certain situations it's proved advantageous. In others it just makes me a pain in the hoop." Cuts both ways doesn't it, as long as those around you know it's not simple minded heels in the ground I'm not doing it behaviour, but more so just the wiring of you, it helps. It's a difficult one though, always trying to knock off the rough edges and make it more palatable. But a brick with slightly smoother corners, is still a brick haha. | |||
"I'm so self-critical it's toxic" Ah yeah, that lush chestnut. I found CBT techniques quite helpful, kind of accept the stupid self loathing, let it wash over you, acknowledge, process, then fight back against it with logic and kindness. Sounds a bit woo woo I know, but eventually it's habit forming and the neural pathways for the negativity reduces and the positive increases. | |||
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"I'm so self-critical it's toxic Ah yeah, that lush chestnut. I found CBT techniques quite helpful, kind of accept the stupid self loathing, let it wash over you, acknowledge, process, then fight back against it with logic and kindness. Sounds a bit woo woo I know, but eventually it's habit forming and the neural pathways for the negativity reduces and the positive increases. " I've done CBT at length. Guess I can't be saved.  | |||
Not intentionally. I have to try really hard not to be, and even then I don't always get it right.
It means relationships are out for me. | |||
"Toxic is too strong a word. I can be very stubborn. In certain situations it's proved advantageous. In others it just makes me a pain in the hoop. Ha, when people agree with you you’re strong/decisive/know your own mind, when they don’t, you’re an expletive. Often comes down to if you’re making a decision for indecisive people or going against the grain I was in the military .. a hard life both of us. My toxic trait is I have 0 empathy for certain things when I witnessed something that is appalling according to Western values. My brain goes you don't understand and you have it so much better than others. Why do you think that’s toxic? Isn’t that just cutting through / cutting out the bullshit, in comparison to actual shit that does matter? alot think it's toxic . I go to you can have it much worse. Yet because of my statement I am villified. I was a flight medic 68w mos.. i get the call for a injured boy . I get there to help being a female was frowned upon in other nations. It was a bacha bazi incident. The locals didn't like my attitude.Maybe I holding on to that tragic incident too much. But to this day it's burned into my soul. A child...Yes I can be toxic and my posts I admit. But my brain goes ballistic on trivial posts and I do not know how to have empathetic behavior." Two things here. One, people don't like being told that their problems could be worse, especially if you give them examples of those with worse problems. They don't care about others problems, only theirs for the most part. Two, military, ems, police etc. see so much human suffering that you have to harden yourself to it to an extent or you couldn't deal with it. I don't think that's toxic but I understand how you feel it appears to others who never experience such things, and simply can't relate to it. | |||
"I'm so self-critical it's toxic Ah yeah, that lush chestnut. I found CBT techniques quite helpful, kind of accept the stupid self loathing, let it wash over you, acknowledge, process, then fight back against it with logic and kindness. Sounds a bit woo woo I know, but eventually it's habit forming and the neural pathways for the negativity reduces and the positive increases. I've done CBT at length. Guess I can't be saved. "It's no silver bullet, that's for sure, but, a tool in the box that's useful when combined with other strategies. There's no simple prescriptive strategy, it's a journey of picking up bit's and pieces as you go. Difference being, when rocked, you know the feeling, the pitfalls, outcomes and pathways. That does have value, compared to someone that's never had an issue, because when they do, it can be such a shock it's destabilising in the extreme. So take solace in the past failures and difficulties, that's learning, experience and insight to help future you and possibly someone else. In my next Ted Talk, why writing off cars has value, you learn about braking distances, lift off oversteer and changing conditions affecting grip. Also, how you prop up body shops, repair technicians and the insurance industry. | |||
"Toxic is too strong a word. I can be very stubborn. In certain situations it's proved advantageous. In others it just makes me a pain in the hoop. Ha, when people agree with you you’re strong/decisive/know your own mind, when they don’t, you’re an expletive. Often comes down to if you’re making a decision for indecisive people or going against the grain I was in the military .. a hard life both of us. My toxic trait is I have 0 empathy for certain things when I witnessed something that is appalling according to Western values. My brain goes you don't understand and you have it so much better than others. I totally get this. Not on the same scale as the military but working in the police, I have been know to be very cold/ desensitised towards thinks that others find upsetting " I wouldn't say I'm desensitised but having worked in an environment where I've seen genuine suffering, I've limited empathy or sympathy for people who moan but do fuck all to improve their situation. | |||
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"Mine is a self distructive streak, when things are going smoorhly its like I am hard wired to find comfort in stress." I get this issue too. | |||
"I'm so self-critical it's toxic Ah yeah, that lush chestnut. I found CBT techniques quite helpful, kind of accept the stupid self loathing, let it wash over you, acknowledge, process, then fight back against it with logic and kindness. Sounds a bit woo woo I know, but eventually it's habit forming and the neural pathways for the negativity reduces and the positive increases. I've done CBT at length. Guess I can't be saved.
It's no silver bullet, that's for sure, but, a tool in the box that's useful when combined with other strategies.
There's no simple prescriptive strategy, it's a journey of picking up bit's and pieces as you go. Difference being, when rocked, you know the feeling, the pitfalls, outcomes and pathways. That does have value, compared to someone that's never had an issue, because when they do, it can be such a shock it's destabilising in the extreme.
So take solace in the past failures and difficulties, that's learning, experience and insight to help future you and possibly someone else.
In my next Ted Talk, why writing off cars has value, you learn about braking distances, lift off oversteer and changing conditions affecting grip. Also, how you prop up body shops, repair technicians and the insurance industry. "Quality Ted Talk   | |||
"Toxic is too strong a word. I can be very stubborn. In certain situations it's proved advantageous. In others it just makes me a pain in the hoop." Like that time you wouldn't stop pegging me! | |||
"Do you have any? Mine is thinking anyone who doesn’t fancy me is blind or only attracted to women " yes that is quite toxic or egotistical | |||
"Do you have any? Mine is thinking anyone who doesn’t fancy me is blind or only attracted to women yes that is quite toxic or egotistical " I know. I just zero reasons how someone couldn’t fancy me | |||
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"Toxic is too strong a word. I can be very stubborn. In certain situations it's proved advantageous. In others it just makes me a pain in the hoop. Like that time you wouldn't stop pegging me! "Your hoop loved it | |||
"I probably have traits that are not entirely positive...don't we all? But I wouldn't say toxic " This. Toxic is a new buzzword at the moment and seems to encompass everything from wanting the baked bean tins on your shelf to face the same way all the way through to being a violent abuser. I know for a fact there's lots of ways I could be a better person but I'm not toxic in any way. Mr P.S. being an argumentative twat isn't toxic  | |||
"I probably have traits that are not entirely positive...don't we all? But I wouldn't say toxic This. Toxic is a new buzzword at the moment and seems to encompass everything from wanting the baked bean tins on your shelf to face the same way all the way through to being a violent abuser. I know for a fact there's lots of ways I could be a better person but I'm not toxic in any way. Mr P.S. being an argumentative twat isn't toxic "PPS I was going to say pedantic, not argumentative. Is that toxic? | |||
" Two things here. One, people don't like being told that their problems could be worse, especially if you give them examples of those with worse problems. They don't care about others problems, only theirs for the most part. Two, military, ems, police etc. see so much human suffering that you have to harden yourself to it to an extent or you couldn't deal with it. I don't think that's toxic but I understand how you feel it appears to others who never experience such things, and simply can't relate to it." That is a failure to understand empathy. Seeing bad shit and learning not to be affected by it is totally different to seeing someone else struggling and not understanding that while it could be worse, for them this is a struggle. After all, whatever bad shit you've experienced I can garuntee there are people out there who have experienced worse. Mr | |||
"I probably have traits that are not entirely positive...don't we all? But I wouldn't say toxic This. Toxic is a new buzzword at the moment and seems to encompass everything from wanting the baked bean tins on your shelf to face the same way all the way through to being a violent abuser. I know for a fact there's lots of ways I could be a better person but I'm not toxic in any way. Mr P.S. being an argumentative twat isn't toxic
PPS I was going to say pedantic, not argumentative. Is that toxic? "Not in the slightest. Pedantic is healthy.
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"I probably have traits that are not entirely positive...don't we all? But I wouldn't say toxic This. Toxic is a new buzzword at the moment and seems to encompass everything from wanting the baked bean tins on your shelf to face the same way all the way through to being a violent abuser. I know for a fact there's lots of ways I could be a better person but I'm not toxic in any way. Mr P.S. being an argumentative twat isn't toxic
PPS I was going to say pedantic, not argumentative. Is that toxic?
Not in the slightest. Pedantic is healthy.
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"Yes i dont have the ability to let go of people i care for when there gone im a bit like a dog in that way loyalty is my religion tbh its the reason i get up" Pack animals protect your own ? | |||
"I can't forget any negative comments that are made to me by people who mean something to me and I keep repeating these things to myself. I don't take compliments seriously, I always think there's a hidden agenda." This is me too. I never believe that people are talking to me or spending time with me because they like me - it must be out of politeness or because they want something from me. It means I frequently decline invitations or refuse to make plans because I don't believe they're genuine, which makes me come across as aloof and snobby. I can't accept compliments either, yet I remember every nasty thing that's ever been said to or about me. | |||
" Two things here. One, people don't like being told that their problems could be worse, especially if you give them examples of those with worse problems. They don't care about others problems, only theirs for the most part. Two, military, ems, police etc. see so much human suffering that you have to harden yourself to it to an extent or you couldn't deal with it. I don't think that's toxic but I understand how you feel it appears to others who never experience such things, and simply can't relate to it. That is a failure to understand empathy. Seeing bad shit and learning not to be affected by it is totally different to seeing someone else struggling and not understanding that while it could be worse, for them this is a struggle. After all, whatever bad shit you've experienced I can gaurantee there are people out there who have experienced worse. Mr" I believe I understand empathy. I also understand whiny bastards who want everything on a plate. | |||
"Yes i dont have the ability to let go of people i care for when there gone im a bit like a dog in that way loyalty is my religion tbh its the reason i get up Pack animals protect your own ?" Comes naturally to some, many actually, but it's good if it's reciprocated. My problem is I never ask anyone for help. | |||
"Yes i dont have the ability to let go of people i care for when there gone im a bit like a dog in that way loyalty is my religion tbh its the reason i get up Pack animals protect your own ? Comes naturally to some, many actually, but it's good if it's reciprocated. My problem is I never ask anyone for help." That's the issues my mind goes to protect your loved ones at all costs. I have no need for others that's is not iny social circle. | |||
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"Toxic is too strong a word. I can be very stubborn. In certain situations it's proved advantageous. In others it just makes me a pain in the hoop. Ha, when people agree with you you’re strong/decisive/know your own mind, when they don’t, you’re an expletive. Often comes down to if you’re making a decision for indecisive people or going against the grain I was in the military .. a hard life both of us. My toxic trait is I have 0 empathy for certain things when I witnessed something that is appalling according to Western values. My brain goes you don't understand and you have it so much better than others. I totally get this. Not on the same scale as the military but working in the police, I have been know to be very cold/ desensitised towards thinks that others find upsetting " Totally relate as an ex AED nurse now district nurse. | |||
"Toxic is too strong a word. I can be very stubborn. In certain situations it's proved advantageous. In others it just makes me a pain in the hoop. Ha, when people agree with you you’re strong/decisive/know your own mind, when they don’t, you’re an expletive. Often comes down to if you’re making a decision for indecisive people or going against the grain I was in the military .. a hard life both of us. My toxic trait is I have 0 empathy for certain things when I witnessed something that is appalling according to Western values. My brain goes you don't understand and you have it so much better than others. I totally get this. Not on the same scale as the military but working in the police, I have been know to be very cold/ desensitised towards thinks that others find upsetting Totally relate as an ex AED nurse now district nurse." I would guess that's generally when you are actually dealing with stuff though. Later, when you are alone and recount it in the quiet hours, you may feel differently? | |||
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"Toxic is too strong a word. I can be very stubborn. In certain situations it's proved advantageous. In others it just makes me a pain in the hoop. Ha, when people agree with you you’re strong/decisive/know your own mind, when they don’t, you’re an expletive. Often comes down to if you’re making a decision for indecisive people or going against the grain I was in the military .. a hard life both of us. My toxic trait is I have 0 empathy for certain things when I witnessed something that is appalling according to Western values. My brain goes you don't understand and you have it so much better than others. I totally get this. Not on the same scale as the military but working in the police, I have been know to be very cold/ desensitised towards thinks that others find upsetting Totally relate as an ex AED nurse now district nurse. I would guess that's generally when you are actually dealing with stuff though. Later, when you are alone and recount it in the quiet hours, you may feel differently?" Our coping mechanisms is totally different from the general public. Dark humor comes into play. | |||
"Do you have any? Mine is thinking anyone who doesn’t fancy me is blind or only attracted to women " I can be very sarcastic | |||
"Toxic is too strong a word. I can be very stubborn. In certain situations it's proved advantageous. In others it just makes me a pain in the hoop. Like that time you wouldn't stop pegging me!
Your hoop loved it "It's not hoop shaped anymore! | |||
"Toxic is too strong a word. I can be very stubborn. In certain situations it's proved advantageous. In others it just makes me a pain in the hoop. Ha, when people agree with you you’re strong/decisive/know your own mind, when they don’t, you’re an expletive. Often comes down to if you’re making a decision for indecisive people or going against the grain I was in the military .. a hard life both of us. My toxic trait is I have 0 empathy for certain things when I witnessed something that is appalling according to Western values. My brain goes you don't understand and you have it so much better than others. I totally get this. Not on the same scale as the military but working in the police, I have been know to be very cold/ desensitised towards thinks that others find upsetting Totally relate as an ex AED nurse now district nurse. I would guess that's generally when you are actually dealing with stuff though. Later, when you are alone and recount it in the quiet hours, you may feel differently? Our coping mechanisms is totally different from the general public. Dark humor comes into play. " Absolutely, and it's difficult for others to understand. Probably why we feel isolated when we leave. | |||
"Toxic is too strong a word. I can be very stubborn. In certain situations it's proved advantageous. In others it just makes me a pain in the hoop. Ha, when people agree with you you’re strong/decisive/know your own mind, when they don’t, you’re an expletive. Often comes down to if you’re making a decision for indecisive people or going against the grain I was in the military .. a hard life both of us. My toxic trait is I have 0 empathy for certain things when I witnessed something that is appalling according to Western values. My brain goes you don't understand and you have it so much better than others. I totally get this. Not on the same scale as the military but working in the police, I have been know to be very cold/ desensitised towards thinks that others find upsetting Totally relate as an ex AED nurse now district nurse. I would guess that's generally when you are actually dealing with stuff though. Later, when you are alone and recount it in the quiet hours, you may feel differently? Our coping mechanisms is totally different from the general public. Dark humor comes into play. Absolutely, and it's difficult for others to understand. Probably why we feel isolated when we leave." it's strange and upsetting. You try to be what is the social normal. Yet you cannot express the things that gives you comfort. | |||
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"Toxic is too strong a word. I can be very stubborn. In certain situations it's proved advantageous. In others it just makes me a pain in the hoop. Ha, when people agree with you you’re strong/decisive/know your own mind, when they don’t, you’re an expletive. Often comes down to if you’re making a decision for indecisive people or going against the grain I was in the military .. a hard life both of us. My toxic trait is I have 0 empathy for certain things when I witnessed something that is appalling according to Western values. My brain goes you don't understand and you have it so much better than others. I totally get this. Not on the same scale as the military but working in the police, I have been know to be very cold/ desensitised towards thinks that others find upsetting Totally relate as an ex AED nurse now district nurse. I would guess that's generally when you are actually dealing with stuff though. Later, when you are alone and recount it in the quiet hours, you may feel differently? Our coping mechanisms is totally different from the general public. Dark humor comes into play. " I was a nurse for many years, and at first everything distressed me, made me feel inadequate as I couldn’t cope like the more experienced nurses and got too emotionally involved. As time went on I realised it wasn’t that they were hardened to death or suffering, it was that they had learned to cope with it by humour, being pragmatic, and compartmentalising, so that they could maintain their professionalism, but they never stopped caring. It certainly helped me cope with all of life’s curveballs x Viv x | |||
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I’m a fucking delight deep down though. | |||
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"Toxic is a strong word. I don’t have any toxic traits. I’m stubborn, sarcastic, very pragmatic and perhaps a little too blunt sometimes
I’m a fucking delight deep down though. "I get told I'm blunt. Typical Yorkshireman, I suppose. Loveable though | |||
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"Another toxic trait I have is I think if I had to go one on one against Tom hardy for a woman I’d come out victorious because she’ll choose my looks, wit and charm. " Because Tom Hardy has no noticeable looks, wit or charm?  | |||
"Do you have any? Mine is thinking anyone who doesn’t fancy me is blind or only attracted to women Mine is causing an argument for no reason. Eg the mrs will ask if I want something from Deliveroo, I’ll say no, then when it arrives I’ll ask why she didn’t get me anything. I don’t know why I do it, other than the fact I am a horrible person Nice lol Indeed. Not something I’m proud of but the question was asked… A good argument never hurt anyone Maybe not but petty arguments just for the sake of it…no bueno. The worst thing is I know I am being a dick, but for some reason I carry on. " Being brutally honest: I had a girlfriend who used to do that. Dumped her as I couldn’t be dealing with the stress and the stupid arguments. One of my life choices is not to be around people who behave like that. | |||
"I'm a lady but when I'm mad, I'm an evil sadistic demon spawned bitch from hell that'll make you wish you were never born "Dm me | |||
"Another toxic trait I have is I think if I had to go one on one against Tom hardy for a woman I’d come out victorious because she’ll choose my looks, wit and charm. Because Tom Hardy has no noticeable looks, wit or charm? "This is why it’s toxic. I feel I bring more to the table in every area of life for a lady | |||
