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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t know any % as I only have my own experience, and a few anecdotes from friends.
As for calling people out…….pointless. I could call you out, and label you a time waster. It wouldn’t be true of course but it’d be out there for people to read. Mud sticks n all that.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been ghosted once. It wasn't a big deal, I wasn't that into him either.
Should he be named? No, it's just opening myself up to a whole load of drama and he said/she said.
The site has the facilities to report no shows, if it bothered me enough I'd use that once I'd blocked them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never experienced 'ghosting', but certainly had late cancellations with dubious excuses, but that's life and people's excitement and appetite can fluctuate for all sorts of reasons.
Calling people out? No. Its not a legally binding contract,they haven't committed a heinous offence, they simply got cold feet for a variety of reasons and they're entitled to do that, even if they could have handled it better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It happens, why?, doesn't matter, move on.
Seriously, I've had things stop dead after 2 messages and well over 20. Am I owed an explanation, nope, if they're interested they'll let me know.
But also, I will remember them as being a tad fucking useless and adjust my behaviour accordingly.
I guess I'm a bit ruthless as to who gets to my mobile number, let alone me wasting my dino juice. So the time wasters are filtered off pretty damn quick. |
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Excellent balanced view from all. We are lucky as have no kids etc. Must be awful if you arrange something weeks ahead and then on the day being ghosted. That is good to know you can report no shows. Loved the legal contract comment - agreed and getting cold feet is understood but not ghosting. |
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"Hey all,
What sort of % no shows / ghosting on the day of meets do people experience? And should people who do this be called out?
Big love xx"
We've been on and off Fab for 10 years and are active enough. Can honestly say "it depends". Depends on the type of meet and who you are meeting.
There's no solid answer for a percentage. Can just say there are more legit people than not if you use some common sense about meets you arrange.
And called out..well that is a he said, she said situation. Hard to prove and can land you in hot water. Easier to report. I'm sure if several people report them as no shows, they'll be banned.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve disappeared when I’ve found out I’ve been told untruths…. or I’ve found someone is attached …..
I had it very clearly in my profile that I will do this and I don’t need to enter into a conversation.
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By *atdaveCouple
over a year ago
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We had planned to meet this people, then when we got to meet all excuses started hotel was full and they canceled it. Have booked onother and it 20 miles way from the Previous post code.
West 2hrs driving and head back home. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I've never had a no show so far and I've never not shown for a meet on the day either. I have cancelled a few a day or so beforehand though when things they have said have been massive red flags.
As for calling them out. No not publicly because it could just be pure fabrication and done just to be malicious because someone refused to meet someone else. In private yes you can ask chances are they don't reply though I'd say or just make up some bullshite excuse. |
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Never had a no show or been one in 5 years here.
Had one experience where I was a plan B so while it wasn't exactly ghosting I worked out in advance that she had deliberately double booked social meets and when she cancelled an hour before we were due to meet I already knew it wouldn't be happening.
Her new veri the next morning even mentioned the name of the coffee shop we had arranged to meet in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never had a no show or been one in 5 years here.
Had one experience where I was a plan B so while it wasn't exactly ghosting I worked out in advance that she had deliberately double booked social meets and when she cancelled an hour before we were due to meet I already knew it wouldn't be happening.
Her new veri the next morning even mentioned the name of the coffee shop we had arranged to meet in. "
That's shirty. Never ever be a plan B
I had arranged to meet a guy, literally 30 minutes before meeting he messaged to say he had made 'other plans' oh, OK. Later on he messaged asking if I was still available, on asking why 'his other plan never turned up' after laughing my arse off I told him to go fuck himself |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Never had a no show or been one in 5 years here.
Had one experience where I was a plan B so while it wasn't exactly ghosting I worked out in advance that she had deliberately double booked social meets and when she cancelled an hour before we were due to meet I already knew it wouldn't be happening.
Her new veri the next morning even mentioned the name of the coffee shop we had arranged to meet in.
That's shirty. Never ever be a plan B
I had arranged to meet a guy, literally 30 minutes before meeting he messaged to say he had made 'other plans' oh, OK. Later on he messaged asking if I was still available, on asking why 'his other plan never turned up' after laughing my arse off I told him to go fuck himself "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On a previous account I had here with a GF at the time, we were looking for local guys to meet to share her, and we had all 4 arranged meets cancel close to or on the day of the arranged meet
Sent her anxiety of it all through the roof and we stopped.
Relationship ended & I saw a different side to fab that I do as a single guy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve not experienced it so far, but it appears to be a sign of the times.
Looking at your profile you probably never will either  "
Thank you  . I’m sure I will at one point or another though. |
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
Brighton |
"Hey all,
What sort of % no shows / ghosting on the day of meets do people experience? And should people who do this be called out?
Big love xx"
Anyone being a no show for you guys is simply nuts. Hot hot hot. Their loss. Big time!
Only reason must be either not being genuine or total cold feet. Also shows a lack of manners. Doesn’t take much to let people know you can’t meet (no matter how dubious) so they can make other arrangements. No shows are downright rude and show disrespect. Ghosting after just underlines that.
Chalk it up and consider it a lucky escape from a crap meet/person/people.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve not experienced it so far, but it appears to be a sign of the times.
Looking at your profile you probably never will either
Thank you . I’m sure I will at one point or another though. "
I wouldn’t hold my breath if I was you xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It swings both ways though (no pun intended). My worst one was driving to Sheffield from York to be ghosted minutes before the intended meet. Youngish so probably nerves.
Hosts can also pull funny stunts. It’s the luck of comms that get me. Why not just say plans have changed let’s rearrange.
Can’t say percentage now. My bullshit radar has improved. |
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"Never had a no show or been one in 5 years here.
Had one experience where I was a plan B so while it wasn't exactly ghosting I worked out in advance that she had deliberately double booked social meets and when she cancelled an hour before we were due to meet I already knew it wouldn't be happening.
Her new veri the next morning even mentioned the name of the coffee shop we had arranged to meet in.
That's shirty. Never ever be a plan B
I had arranged to meet a guy, literally 30 minutes before meeting he messaged to say he had made 'other plans' oh, OK. Later on he messaged asking if I was still available, on asking why 'his other plan never turned up' after laughing my arse off I told him to go fuck himself "
Exactly. Plan A, or not in your plans  x |
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In 15 years I've probably had 2 or 3 who have not fulfilled the meet agreements. I've learned better how to stipulate the communication contract, so that I'm forewarned if something isn't likely to go ahead.
Years ago 1 person was stuck on the motorway, not too far away. A check on traffic showed no delays, so I knew it was BS, even though he kept the excuse going for a couple of hours   . I wouldn't miss such a waster.
It's easy to give too much leeway and I don't. Agree rules and observe, to be in the know. Don't rush anything - there will be some attrition of good and bad people along the way but it clears out the system very well. |
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