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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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Are you quite a decisive person? Or do you tend to dither when you're faced with deciding what to do/have/eat? Do you find indecisiveness a bit irksome?
I was going to ask for opinions on something but decided... no need to. :D |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends what it is; for things like food etc, i am usually quite routine at least on my own, as it's just fuel for my body and brain, who cares what it is, is my rationale, so tends to be the same breakfast and lunch most of the time.
For other more important things, I tend to be a bit more indecisive. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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Yes.
Even when asking others for theirs I will always have made my own decision, and then its simply a case of explaining why they are wrong!
I try and avoid being seen as a control freak, although I clearly am  |
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"If I give myself limited options, there aren't many choices to make.
Coco pops or nothing. (Only have coco pops in the house)
Nothing it is then? Coco pops are Satan's breakfast "
**other Lords of evil are available |
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"If I give myself limited options, there aren't many choices to make.
Coco pops or nothing. (Only have coco pops in the house)
Nothing it is then? Coco pops are Satan's breakfast
**other Lords of evil are available "
Avofuckingcados are Satan's breakfast. Satan's wrinkly ballbags removed and consumed. |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"If I give myself limited options, there aren't many choices to make.
Coco pops or nothing. (Only have coco pops in the house)
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Ah yes! A friend sparked an interest in to that sort of thing for me - about working/performing at an optimal level. Cutting down the noise and reducing unimportant choices so you can focus on what is. Frees up emotional bandwidth and headspace. I've started incorporating that into day to day life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I give myself limited options, there aren't many choices to make.
Coco pops or nothing. (Only have coco pops in the house)
Ah yes! A friend sparked an interest in to that sort of thing for me - about working/performing at an optimal level. Cutting down the noise and reducing unimportant choices so you can focus on what is. Frees up emotional bandwidth and headspace. I've started incorporating that into day to day life. "
How do you know what's important and unimportant though? |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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I'm decisive, but then I overthink. However, once I've committed to my decision I can think about it and rue the fact I've made it, but it is a done deal.
I'm crap when it comes to deciding on things that involve others though, so "what shall we do / eat / where shall we go" etc, no point in asking me. I spent way too long with whatever I said being the wrong answer, so now I avoid answering entirely. |
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"If I give myself limited options, there aren't many choices to make.
Coco pops or nothing. (Only have coco pops in the house)
Ah yes! A friend sparked an interest in to that sort of thing for me - about working/performing at an optimal level. Cutting down the noise and reducing unimportant choices so you can focus on what is. Frees up emotional bandwidth and headspace. I've started incorporating that into day to day life.
How do you know what's important and unimportant though?"
Will I die or hinder myself if I don't do it? No = unimportant
Yes = important. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I give myself limited options, there aren't many choices to make.
Coco pops or nothing. (Only have coco pops in the house)
Ah yes! A friend sparked an interest in to that sort of thing for me - about working/performing at an optimal level. Cutting down the noise and reducing unimportant choices so you can focus on what is. Frees up emotional bandwidth and headspace. I've started incorporating that into day to day life.
How do you know what's important and unimportant though?
Will I die or hinder myself if I don't do it? No = unimportant
Yes = important."
Bit too binary for my liking but I applaud your ability to compartmentalise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It sometimes takes me a while to reach an ultimate decision, but once I do I stick to it completely. Usually my gut decision is always right but I have an overactive brain sometimes so can ponder things first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was once a man who lived by impulse relied on instinct and went for it
Now im a diffent animal i think once then twice then 3 times before i get the tin of beans out |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I overthink everything, literally can waste days of my life trying to make what are for most people fairly straight forward decisions like what to have for lunch!"
Overthinking should really do one. It doesn't serve you but it's not quite as simple as saying that is it? Cut down the lunch choices! Make it easier.  |
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"If I give myself limited options, there aren't many choices to make.
Coco pops or nothing. (Only have coco pops in the house)
Ah yes! A friend sparked an interest in to that sort of thing for me - about working/performing at an optimal level. Cutting down the noise and reducing unimportant choices so you can focus on what is. Frees up emotional bandwidth and headspace. I've started incorporating that into day to day life.
How do you know what's important and unimportant though?
Will I die or hinder myself if I don't do it? No = unimportant
Yes = important.
Bit too binary for my liking but I applaud your ability to compartmentalise."
It's called being skint. No more or less than that. You gotta bring decisions back to the most basic to make it through |
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"If I give myself limited options, there aren't many choices to make.
Coco pops or nothing. (Only have coco pops in the house)
Ah yes! A friend sparked an interest in to that sort of thing for me - about working/performing at an optimal level. Cutting down the noise and reducing unimportant choices so you can focus on what is. Frees up emotional bandwidth and headspace. I've started incorporating that into day to day life.
How do you know what's important and unimportant though?
Will I die or hinder myself if I don't do it? No = unimportant
Yes = important."
Step away from the coco pops ma'am |
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For a big call I will make a decision relatively easily but then question whether it was the right one for the rest of my entire life.
For something minor indecisiveness really bothers me. One of my best mates is a really picky eater, so there aren't many restaurants we can go to. I get infuriated when I ask where he wants to eat and he asks the same question back of me. I start reeling off lists of restaurants and pubs and every single one is "Nah... don't fancy it... Nothing there I like...". Just bloody tell me where you want to go then! "No, you choose, I'll eat anywhere. Except there. And there." |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Yes.
Even when asking others for theirs I will always have made my own decision, and then its simply a case of explaining why they are wrong!
I try and avoid being seen as a control freak, although I clearly am "
So why do you ask their opinion if you've decided already?
I tend to ask opinions if I'm very much leaning towards one but have a niggle. Feels better if someone confirms/poo-poos it. |
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I'm a bit of both.
I'm decisive on big decisions - do I take that job? Put an offer in on that house? - I find those quite easy.
But can then spend ages deciding which coffee shop to go to or what to have for lunch. Maybe that's the "too much choice" thing so I quite like the 'only buy Coco pops' approach above!! |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"If I give myself limited options, there aren't many choices to make.
Coco pops or nothing. (Only have coco pops in the house)
Ah yes! A friend sparked an interest in to that sort of thing for me - about working/performing at an optimal level. Cutting down the noise and reducing unimportant choices so you can focus on what is. Frees up emotional bandwidth and headspace. I've started incorporating that into day to day life.
How do you know what's important and unimportant though?"
I think I'm slightly different to PP. Perhaps not quite as binary. It's the small minutiae of the day that I normally give headspace to that I've stopped doing so. Like deciding on the smoothie. Faffing about what sports bra to wear for half hour instead of actually going to the gym. All of those little things I'd normally give headspace to, I've stopped repeatedly doing so if that makes sense?
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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago
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Depends what it is. Lately I’ve been taking a long time to make decisions about certain things because I want to make sure it’s right for me and I don’t have to go back and work through it all again. But other times I can be spontaneous and decide on a whim. |
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"Are you quite a decisive person? Or do you tend to dither when you're faced with deciding what to do/have/eat? Do you find indecisiveness a bit irksome?
I was going to ask for opinions on something but decided... no need to. :D "
i cannot make my mind up if i am indecisive or not,,  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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Generally I'm easy going which often makes me indecisive about mundane, non-urgent things that aren't really important. Usually means I'll faff around looking at options and eventually end up much where I first started - a bit like that meme about women vs men shopping.
If it's an important issue or decision I'm often much more decisive. Not always for the best, but I usually feel the need to come to a quicker decision when something really matters or is time dependant.
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm decisive, but then I overthink. However, once I've committed to my decision I can think about it and rue the fact I've made it, but it is a done deal.
I'm crap when it comes to deciding on things that involve others though, so "what shall we do / eat / where shall we go" etc, no point in asking me. I spent way too long with whatever I said being the wrong answer, so now I avoid answering entirely."
Ach that's quite sad NS. Hopefully you've got positive influences that'll show you that's not the case at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mean, if it's something really important like what tyres I want to fit to the car, or which graphics card I want, or a particular type of suit, then yeah, I can take my time weighing up all the options and reviews. It's agonising.
But for the simple stuff, like mortgages, life partners, career changes, who lives and who dies in a hostage situation it's usually pretty quick. Any decision is the right decision, and at a push flip the imaginary coin in your head.
Except for Barbara, no way she survives being a hostage, sorry, stirring tea with the same spoon you just stirred the coffee with. Done. |
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