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I would imagine those feelings would stem from being told to "cover up", "put it away" or "wheeey hey, get em out love and give me a suck"
Plus the social media presence where some folk have condemned the behaviour over the years. Where women over time have been directed to places like toilets to feed their babies, yes, literally sit on the toilet to feed your child. |
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"A report has said that although breastfeeding in public is legal that some mums feel uncomfortable and stigmatized and even sexualised when doing it.
What is going on here guys?"
People are perverts. |
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"A report has said that although breastfeeding in public is legal that some mums feel uncomfortable and stigmatized and even sexualised when doing it.
What is going on here guys?
People are perverts. "
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There was an incident in Sainsbury's car park a couple of weeks ago.
A lady was breastfeeding in her car in the car park.
A staff member told her it was inappropriate and that she had to stop.
Sainsbury's later apologised.
It was all over the news  |
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"I would imagine those feelings would stem from being told to "cover up", "put it away" or "wheeey hey, get em out love and give me a suck"
Plus the social media presence where some folk have condemned the behaviour over the years. Where women over time have been directed to places like toilets to feed their babies, yes, literally sit on the toilet to feed your child."
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"There was an incident in Sainsbury's car park a couple of weeks ago.
A lady was breastfeeding in her car in the car park.
A staff member told her it was inappropriate and that she had to stop.
Sainsbury's later apologised.
It was all over the news "
Honestly! I sometimes wonder what goes through people's heads, I really do. |
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"I find that odd, it's the most natural thing in the world, it's a lovely thing but absolutely nothing sexy about it at all.
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I know. Who'd have thought using something for the purpose in which it's built would cause so much controversy, yet here we are. |
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over a year ago
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I made sure that I breastfed my babies wherever and whenever they required it. Don’t like it, get fucked!
I had twins to breastfeed, one on each boob, I didn’t have time to concern myself with other peoples opinions. |
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"I made sure that I breastfed my babies wherever and whenever they required it. Don’t like it, get fucked!
I had twins to breastfeed, one on each boob, I didn’t have time to concern myself with other peoples opinions. "
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I don’t understand how anybody can be anything but indifferent about people breast feeding.
Perhaps if these perves thought how difficult and stressful it is for some then they would give their heads a wobble.
Their is often a strange vibe about nudity in this country that has to sexualise it. |
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I breastfed all of mine and never encountered any issues. People tended to politely look away, sometimes looking slightly embarrassed.
But it is difficult, especially when it's your first one. It requires confidence. Plus it's trickier in the winter when you have to get through lots of layers in order to get to your nipple |
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"Tits are for perving and wanking over, right. So many incels assume a breastfeeding mother is doing it for their benefit.  "
I was just about to say it's the equivalent of calling someone a fat whore when they get turned down on here. How DARE these women get their boobs out (their boobs that can't be seen anyway coz the back of the babies head is in the way) for someone who is not me, the man.
As for women who scold other women for it... wtf? I can only assume some kind of insecurity that your man is gonna catch a glimpse of side boob and that's it, you've now lost his heart to the woman feeding her child. |
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As an aside when I got lost down the rabbit hole of 'my most awkward social moment ' on reddit last night a guy recounted how he leant forward and kissed his wife's friends baby on the head, only to discover she was breast feeding and he'd kissed her breast... |
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"A report has said that although breastfeeding in public is legal that some mums feel uncomfortable and stigmatized and even sexualised when doing it.
What is going on here guys?"
Its the most natural thing in the world, no sleaze, no arousal just a beautiful bonding moment between mother and child |
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"As an aside when I got lost down the rabbit hole of 'my most awkward social moment ' on reddit last night a guy recounted how he leant forward and kissed his wife's friends baby on the head, only to discover she was breast feeding and he'd kissed her breast..."
My uncle did this. He was stroking my baby's head and and accidentally stroked my boob. He was mortified. |
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"As an aside when I got lost down the rabbit hole of 'my most awkward social moment ' on reddit last night a guy recounted how he leant forward and kissed his wife's friends baby on the head, only to discover she was breast feeding and he'd kissed her breast..."
This reminds me of that scene from Me, Myself and Irene  |
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By *isycMan
over a year ago
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It is ridiculous and really annoys me that a Mother can't feed her child in public, it can be hard enough for a Mother to breastfeed without some ignorant person ridiculing them, and it always astonishes me when it's another woman |
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This published yesterday shows how large the issue is
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-62379724
Some people really need to get a grip and stop feeling embarrassed by a flipping boob.
A woman can really like men's chest in a sexual way without being weird if a man is topless around them. It's about time women's chests were treated the same. |
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I only ever got smiles and encouragement when I breastfed in public.
Except when I was in church for my nana's funeral and I was asked to go to the toilet. Even though there was a stained glass window showing Mary with her tit out. |
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By *avie65Man
over a year ago
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I saw a woman in a square yesterday breastfeeding her baby, it is, as already said, the most natural thing in the world.
I would say it was me that was more conscious of her & the baby and trying not to look in her direction was difficult.
The more commonplace it becomes the better. If anyone trys to sexualise it they should be villified and charged by the police. |
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"I only ever got smiles and encouragement when I breastfed in public.
Except when I was in church for my nana's funeral and I was asked to go to the toilet. Even though there was a stained glass window showing Mary with her tit out. "
I hope you didn’t, the toilet is no place to eat |
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Unfortunately the sexualisation of women continues in the football When Kelly removed her shirt Linekar didn't comment on her excitement and joy at that moment but her bra, tweet now removed. Men ,particularly, do not know how to behave, on here how often are there comments in chat rooms like "get your tits out" "are you shaved or hairy" as the first thing said to women , would they be like that in their local pub meeting a woman for the first time,?
For many woman breastfeeding is not considered but bottle from birth because it might affect their breasts.
Thre are videos on here of women breastfeeding as a sexual stimulus I hate to say it but we are all part of a site that sexualises woman which is a shame
Breast feeding is the most natural thing but our society ,in general, is not as open minded as it likes to think |
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
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I'm not saying it doesn't happen by any stretch - but I have never known an incident of any of this for myself or any of my breastfeeding friends, either we were all extremely lucky or there isn't as much stigma as the media portrays?
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We went to a holiday park in may and whilst in the swimming centre 2 different women were breast feeding, I don't see anything wrong with it but it makes me a little uncomfortable as I don't want them to think I was watching. |
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"A report has said that although breastfeeding in public is legal that some mums feel uncomfortable and stigmatized and even sexualised when doing it.
What is going on here guys?"
I find issues like this the most telling of everything that's wrong with modern society.  |
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"We went to a holiday park in may and whilst in the swimming centre 2 different women were breast feeding, I don't see anything wrong with it but it makes me a little uncomfortable as I don't want them to think I was watching."
Just give them a smile and tell them they're doing a good job. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"A report has said that although breastfeeding in public is legal that some mums feel uncomfortable and stigmatized and even sexualised when doing it.
What is going on here guys?"
Keep that kind of kinky play within clubs and your own homes and there’s no issue |
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"Unfortunately the sexualisation of women continues in the football When Kelly removed her shirt Linekar didn't comment on her excitement and joy at that moment but her bra, tweet now removed. Men ,particularly, do not know how to behave, on here how often are there comments in chat rooms like "get your tits out" "are you shaved or hairy" as the first thing said to women , would they be like that in their local pub meeting a woman for the first time,?
For many woman breastfeeding is not considered but bottle from birth because it might affect their breasts.
Thre are videos on here of women breastfeeding as a sexual stimulus I hate to say it but we are all part of a site that sexualises woman which is a shame
Breast feeding is the most natural thing but our society ,in general, is not as open minded as it likes to think"
Gary didn’t sexualise Chloe Kelly. It was a simple play on words which he does about near enough every big sporting event. |
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"We went to a holiday park in may and whilst in the swimming centre 2 different women were breast feeding, I don't see anything wrong with it but it makes me a little uncomfortable as I don't want them to think I was watching.
Just give them a smile and tell them they're doing a good job. "
Or just go about your business and say nothing |
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"We went to a holiday park in may and whilst in the swimming centre 2 different women were breast feeding, I don't see anything wrong with it but it makes me a little uncomfortable as I don't want them to think I was watching."
I think is largely the issue. Some people just can't handle it (for various reasons) but instead of recognizing it as their own problem the attention is placed on the mother.
My wife never had any issues. People were generally very friendly when our kids were babies. |
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"We went to a holiday park in may and whilst in the swimming centre 2 different women were breast feeding, I don't see anything wrong with it but it makes me a little uncomfortable as I don't want them to think I was watching."
Why would they think that? |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"Unfortunately the sexualisation of women continues in the football When Kelly removed her shirt Linekar didn't comment on her excitement and joy at that moment but her bra, tweet now removed. Men ,particularly, do not know how to behave, on here how often are there comments in chat rooms like "get your tits out" "are you shaved or hairy" as the first thing said to women , would they be like that in their local pub meeting a woman for the first time,?
For many woman breastfeeding is not considered but bottle from birth because it might affect their breasts.
Thre are videos on here of women breastfeeding as a sexual stimulus I hate to say it but we are all part of a site that sexualises woman which is a shame
Breast feeding is the most natural thing but our society ,in general, is not as open minded as it likes to think"
We are part of a site where adults sexualise each other , of all genders , constantly, to varying degrees and sometimes conflicting views on what’s acceptable , vulgar, kinky etc . One persons kink is another’s offence - in here at least.
Outside of here , Everyone has a part to play - your either part of the problem, an observer who doesn’t care, or part of the solution. |
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"Unfortunately the sexualisation of women continues in the football When Kelly removed her shirt Linekar didn't comment on her excitement and joy at that moment but her bra, tweet now removed. Men ,particularly, do not know how to behave, on here how often are there comments in chat rooms like "get your tits out" "are you shaved or hairy" as the first thing said to women , would they be like that in their local pub meeting a woman for the first time,?
For many woman breastfeeding is not considered but bottle from birth because it might affect their breasts.
Thre are videos on here of women breastfeeding as a sexual stimulus I hate to say it but we are all part of a site that sexualises woman which is a shame
Breast feeding is the most natural thing but our society ,in general, is not as open minded as it likes to think"
If you see such a video on here please report it. Minors are not allowed in videos of photos |
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"We went to a holiday park in may and whilst in the swimming centre 2 different women were breast feeding, I don't see anything wrong with it but it makes me a little uncomfortable as I don't want them to think I was watching.
Just give them a smile and tell them they're doing a good job. "
Probably acceptable for a woman to do but not a man |
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
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"We went to a holiday park in may and whilst in the swimming centre 2 different women were breast feeding, I don't see anything wrong with it but it makes me a little uncomfortable as I don't want them to think I was watching."
Break the ice. Be OTT with watching while wide eyed. Remember to occasionally lick your lips as well.
Soon you won't be uncomfortable as they will pack up and leave.
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One of the things I can’t still believe is an issue - the same as someones sexuality - like when an actor or public figure comes out as gay - why is it even of interest? Breastfeeding…. Breasts are for feeding infants - look at the original patent application!! . Someone’s repressed sexual urges that link breastfeeding with any form of sexual arousal needs to have a strong word with themselves. Ffs |
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"One of the things I can’t still believe is an issue - the same as someones sexuality - like when an actor or public figure comes out as gay - why is it even of interest? Breastfeeding…. Breasts are for feeding infants - look at the original patent application!! . Someone’s repressed sexual urges that link breastfeeding with any form of sexual arousal needs to have a strong word with themselves. Ffs "
This..
The most natural thing a mum does which has absolutely nothing sexual about it.. |
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I didn't care for the opinions of the narrow minded.
I used to keep mine hungry for flights and feed them at take off and landing to stop their ears popping. Believe me, the passengers around a baby were grateful for the lack of screaming.
I lived in Italy and the attitudes there are completely different. I had people pinch the cheek of my bambino while he was feeding. It's all just part of loving life and accepting what comes naturally.
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Narrow minded muppets who think boobs are just for sexual gratification and not for feeding the next generation are the ones who tut and whinge when they see a woman breastfeeding. And sadly it is mostly women complaining in our experience. My wife takes no shit from them. |
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I don't give a shit if she has to feed the child so be it I had one not back sit next to me said I have to feed my Brest feed my child are ok with it I said go ahead and turned to one side to give privacy though she did it without me being embarrassed and said thank you for turn round I quite alright end of the day you have to feed your child as where we was no shops or toilets so had no option to do so I don't have a problem |
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"Tits are for perving and wanking over, right. So many incels assume a breastfeeding mother is doing it for their benefit.
I was just about to say it's the equivalent of calling someone a fat whore when they get turned down on here. How DARE these women get their boobs out (their boobs that can't be seen anyway coz the back of the babies head is in the way) for someone who is not me, the man.
As for women who scold other women for it... wtf? I can only assume some kind of insecurity that your man is gonna catch a glimpse of side boob and that's it, you've now lost his heart to the woman feeding her child."
Men can't help themselves. If they see a smidge of boob they're lost forever. |
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"I find that odd, it's the most natural thing in the world, it's a lovely thing but absolutely nothing sexy about it at all.
I know. Who'd have thought using something for the purpose in which it's built would cause so much controversy, yet here we are."
Not sure that is particularly surprising. Plenty of women find a man's hands and forearms look sexy while they're doing DIY but no one complains about that. I'm also fairly sure that just because one person doesn't think something is sexy the rest of humanity has to agree. I don't particularity find women's feet sexy but there's lots who do. If we're talking bodily functions, it's it wrong to find the way someone looks when they're glisten with sweat sexy simply because it's a bodily function with a totally non sexual purpose? What about people who like watersports or scat?
When women stop noticing things a man is doing and finding it sexy then they can complain about the same in reverse.
This is of course a totally different issue to behaving in a way that makes it clear you're sexualising a person's body/activities. Again this cuts both ways though I accept that in general men are less intimidated by this than women.
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I was in the garden center with my 2 year old who loves babies. She wasn't too keen on the plants and was getting bored and angsty. When a lady carrying her baby came along, smiling we exchanged parenting quips and I picked my daughter up so she could see the baby. I didn't realise she was feeding when I leaned over and came far too close to be comfortable. I was immediately embarrassed and apologised profusely, however the lady found my reaction hilarious.  |
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I’ve never seen the problem that people seem to have with breast feeding, I can only guess it because the only time they are out is in porno vids and mags, and when having sex generally and any exposure is considered crude at best, whiles in other countries where topless bathing, men n women being in same saunas naked are the norm I guess they don’t have as much of the same problem |
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Unfortunately I have seen a woman have a go at another woman for breastfeeding in a café. This was about 8 years ago when I was working in a friend's café to help them out. A young woman came in with a small baby, Ordered a drink and then started breastfeeding. I went over and asked if she need anything and gave her a cushion. She was happily breastfeeding then an older lady Looked over at her and told her she was disgusting and should do that in the toilet! My boss went over and asked the older lady to leave but the poor lady breastfeeding burst into tears and said that it had happened before. |
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"A report has said that although breastfeeding in public is legal that some mums feel uncomfortable and stigmatized and even sexualised when doing it.
What is going on here guys?"
I can see why some would feel uncomfortable as others look at it in disgust and will voice that it shouldn't be done in public.
And yes you can be conscious of a guy looking and getting a stiffy over a flash of boobs.
When I breast fed I didn't give a fuck where, when or who was looking. Its a shame women worry about what people think in this, but they wouldn't if people kept their opinions to themselves and just respected others are different.
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"I’d shamelessly look if she had decent tits "
Oh... You've changed your name, I liked the other one it suited you so much better.
Would you still look if she was breast feeding and had implants? Just curious?
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Being serious momentarily, I was shamed for breastfeeding my son in a café, 20yrs ago. I was 16. The only other person in the café at the time was an older man. He obviously complained (despite choosing to sit facing me) and I was told (not asked) to feed him in the toilet. I refused and never returned to that café and even though it's changed hands, I still won't go in.
I never had any issues when breastfeeding my daughter, who is now 5. I don't know if being obviously disabled with baby no.2 shut people up or whether things had just moved on. I did get lots of supportive comments from little old ladies, who wanted to tell me how much they wished they'd had the same freedoms.
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"Do some women complain because it makes them feel inadawy because they could not breastfeed.. ?
Do they feel that breasfeeders are rubbing their noses in it?
Just a thought  "
It wouldn't ever occur to me that people would think that way. Surely only a minority would be so vindictive? |
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By *ssex_tom OP Man
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"Do some women complain because it makes them feel inadawy because they could not breastfeed.. ?
Do they feel that breasfeeders are rubbing their noses in it?
Just a thought
It wouldn't ever occur to me that people would think that way. Surely only a minority would be so vindictive? "
A vocal minority..
How dare you breastfeed in public and rub my nose in it because I never could..
Just an idea |
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"Sometimes there is no alternative to feed your baby in public, done it myself many times but I always covered myself up, no need for a show. "
It's not a 'show'. |
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"So is there a thing called breast feed shaming..
Breath feed in public and shame those women who cannot breastfeed ..."
No Tom there isn't.
Babies need feeding. Women feed them. They have no ulterior motive. |
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over a year ago
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"So is there a thing called breast feed shaming..
Breath feed in public and shame those women who cannot breastfeed ...
No Tom there isn't.
Babies need feeding. Women feed them. They have no ulterior motive."
Some women # |
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"So is there a thing called breast feed shaming..
Breath feed in public and shame those women who cannot breastfeed ...
No Tom there isn't.
Babies need feeding. Women feed them. They have no ulterior motive.
Some women #"
If you say so Tom. |
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"So is there a thing called breast feed shaming..
Breath feed in public and shame those women who cannot breastfeed ..."
How would they know Tom?
I mean women do know some things and at times can appear almost psychic with their partners, but they haven't yet reached a level where if they wanted to 'shame' other women with babies they actually could..
Even if they wanted to which they don't as mum's have a bit of an affinity with other mums in my experience.. |
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By *ssex_tom OP Man
over a year ago
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"So is there a thing called breast feed shaming..
Breath feed in public and shame those women who cannot breastfeed ...
How would they know Tom?
I mean women do know some things and at times can appear almost psychic with their partners, but they haven't yet reached a level where if they wanted to 'shame' other women with babies they actually could..
Even if they wanted to which they don't as mum's have a bit of an affinity with other mums in my experience.."
Check out mumsnet..
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