Random question to the nation but for those who are on dating sites - do you expect the communication to be vastly different on here as it would on pof or tinder? Trying to work out how varied the approach is….:
I actually try to communication similar on all three platforms but doesn’t seem to be working ?? |
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"Think of it like this no matter where you are chatting with someone they are still a human being and the approach would be the same within that "
That’s the way I do approach it but wondering if a more direct approach is preferred in here. Just trying to work out what is best. I try to type specific messages depending on the profile and if I think there is a possible connection |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not on date sites
But if I was yes on date sites I would be looking to date I would be looking for a long term partner
On here it’s about sexual compatibility
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When I was on a dating site, if someone spoke to me there like some do here, they'd get blocked. Dating messages should be about getting to know each other on a social level, not a sex level. |
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"Think of it like this no matter where you are chatting with someone they are still a human being and the approach would be the same within that "
Ditto this. Be open, authentic, friendly, & whats for you, will find you. First impressions are everything so profiles, pics & initial messages matter. Laughter is the best ice breaker & friendship glue. Good luck  |
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"When I was on a dating site, if someone spoke to me there like some do here, they'd get blocked. Dating messages should be about getting to know each other on a social level, not a sex level. "
I get that. But just wondering whether a nicer, warmer message in here is the way forward or if people prefer a more direct approach. I’ve tried mixing it up but my natural reaction and gut is to try and be more respectful to start a convo. |
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"When I was on a dating site, if someone spoke to me there like some do here, they'd get blocked. Dating messages should be about getting to know each other on a social level, not a sex level.
I get that. But just wondering whether a nicer, warmer message in here is the way forward or if people prefer a more direct approach. I’ve tried mixing it up but my natural reaction and gut is to try and be more respectful to start a convo. "
I react better to a nice warmer message on here. One that shows you've read my profile, not just looked at my photos |
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"When I was on a dating site, if someone spoke to me there like some do here, they'd get blocked. Dating messages should be about getting to know each other on a social level, not a sex level. "
I agree but I'd still expect a respectful message either way. 'Fancy a f*ck tonight or tomorrow' from a blank profile, gets an instant delete from me. |
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"When I was on a dating site, if someone spoke to me there like some do here, they'd get blocked. Dating messages should be about getting to know each other on a social level, not a sex level.
I agree but I'd still expect a respectful message either way. 'Fancy a f*ck tonight or tomorrow' from a blank profile, gets an instant delete from me."
Yeah, I don't respond well to that either. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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"When I was on a dating site, if someone spoke to me there like some do here, they'd get blocked. Dating messages should be about getting to know each other on a social level, not a sex level.
I get that. But just wondering whether a nicer, warmer message in here is the way forward or if people prefer a more direct approach. I’ve tried mixing it up but my natural reaction and gut is to try and be more respectful to start a convo. "
Remember everyone is different but still deserve the respect if someone doesn't like something about either the profile or pictures it might not lead to a connection but words are very powerful |
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By *eisty LadyWoman
over a year ago
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Men are a nightmare to message people online, it’s all about them, they can’t be arsed to make conversation and think a response is a one word answer or an emoji
Those that do message make it all about THEIR sexual needs zzzz |
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I'm not on any social media except here, hence my experience is limited. I approach a person as a person. I find that the same social graces and decorum when conversing with someone in 'real world' works very well in the virtual one also. |
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"Think of it like this no matter where you are chatting with someone they are still a human being and the approach would be the same within that
Ditto this. Be open, authentic, friendly, & whats for you, will find you. First impressions are everything so profiles, pics & initial messages matter. Laughter is the best ice breaker & friendship glue. Good luck "
I agree with sinlingerie. Being yourself without any pretentious wording goes along way. Someone who can make me laugh definitely keeps me interested. |
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