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What do you think of me?
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
It’s been a little while since I posted this thread, so let’s bring a moment of self reflection, introspection and non reactive thought about others to the forums, as it can be helpful.
It might seem a strange idea but at it’s heart is the intent for us to be more rounded and understanding people.
Self reflection is an important tool in understanding what, why and how we act but so is how others honestly see us.
Post that you’re in on the thread, then respond to others via private message with honest opinions about people. Not nasty, not sycophantic, honest appraisals of how you feel about them, this isn’t a chance to try to ‘get in’ with that hottie, this should be a self improvement exercise.
Please remember to keep it via PM, not on the thread.
The intent is to honestly see how others view us, if you give criticism, then please be constructive with it. Try to think of it like group therapy, it’s not about you, it’s about others too. Remember to be kind folks. Let’s see how this goes...
Remember to respect filters, if you can’t directly message someone, then don’t post it on the thread, it’s meant to be private and personal.
Please also do send messages, passivity only lessens the interaction and those that often complain about not receiving messages, also tend to be the ones that didn’t send any.
Away you go folks |
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
"This is actually interesting...I shall partake  "
Dude, if we are ever in the same club, I'm drinking up and going home. There's no way I'm going to be able to measure up against you for getting picked for fun  |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"This is actually interesting...I shall partake
Dude, if we are ever in the same club, I'm drinking up and going home. There's no way I'm going to be able to measure up against you for getting picked for fun "
That’s not what this thread is about and also completely wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is actually interesting...I shall partake
Dude, if we are ever in the same club, I'm drinking up and going home. There's no way I'm going to be able to measure up against you for getting picked for fun "
Will you stop derailing threads with this attitude! |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"This is actually interesting...I shall partake
Dude, if we are ever in the same club, I'm drinking up and going home. There's no way I'm going to be able to measure up against you for getting picked for fun
Will you stop derailing threads with this attitude! "
It’s not against the rules though, anyone can constructively join in , take the piss, sat popcorn or whatever they want.
Not in. Don’t care what strangers on the internet think about me, those that matter tell me without being asked. |
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"I’m intrigued as to what you think of me, because I’m perplexed as to how I feel about me. 
I loves you "
Oh my giddy aunt and I loves you too.
Shall we run away together and start a cult dedicated to the pursuit of happiness, commemorative tea towels and marmite. |
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
Orpington |
"This is actually interesting...I shall partake
Dude, if we are ever in the same club, I'm drinking up and going home. There's no way I'm going to be able to measure up against you for getting picked for fun "
I don't go to swinging clubs...you can have all the ladies  |
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
abruzzo Italy (and UK) |
Unless they are people you have met in person and spent time with, then surely these thoughts, impressions and opinions are going to be very superficial and largely based on the persona that is displayed in a profile and maybe occasional forum posts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unless they are people you have met in person and spent time with, then surely these thoughts, impressions and opinions are going to be very superficial and largely based on the persona that is displayed in a profile and maybe occasional forum posts."
I like the fact you meet people in real life |
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
"This is actually interesting...I shall partake
Dude, if we are ever in the same club, I'm drinking up and going home. There's no way I'm going to be able to measure up against you for getting picked for fun
I don't go to swinging clubs...you can have all the ladies "
They're not interested, but thanks anyway |
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"This is actually interesting...I shall partake
Dude, if we are ever in the same club, I'm drinking up and going home. There's no way I'm going to be able to measure up against you for getting picked for fun
I don't go to swinging clubs...you can have all the ladies
They're not interested, but thanks anyway "
I think u should stop putting yourself down! U are a lovely looking young man! X |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"There is no understanding some people's actions but know some 'self reflect' when it suits them, but in reality they have no clue what it means. "
Surely any form of self reflection is better than none and personal growth on any level is a positive.
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Unless they are people you have met in person and spent time with, then surely these thoughts, impressions and opinions are going to be very superficial and largely based on the persona that is displayed in a profile and maybe occasional forum posts."
On the face of it, maybe. I’ve found that people are remarkably astute though and you’d be amazed at what they pick up.
It’s not just what’s said, it’s what’s not said.
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"There is no understanding some people's actions but know some 'self reflect' when it suits them, but in reality they have no clue what it means.
Surely any form of self reflection is better than none and personal growth on any level is a positive.
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Not really , people need to be mature & secure to a degree to self reflect and people giving feedback need to be genuine and not have motives like sex and popularity.
Why not just ask your closet friends for honest feedback, if you really want it ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is no understanding some people's actions but know some 'self reflect' when it suits them, but in reality they have no clue what it means.
Surely any form of self reflection is better than none and personal growth on any level is a positive.
Not really , people need to be mature & secure to a degree to self reflect and people giving feedback need to be genuine and not have motives like sex and popularity.
Why not just ask your closet friends for honest feedback, if you really want it ? "
It's a bit of fun. You're taking this far too seriously. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is no understanding some people's actions but know some 'self reflect' when it suits them, but in reality they have no clue what it means.
Surely any form of self reflection is better than none and personal growth on any level is a positive.
Not really , people need to be mature & secure to a degree to self reflect and people giving feedback need to be genuine and not have motives like sex and popularity.
Why not just ask your closet friends for honest feedback, if you really want it ? "
You know that Kiss, Fuck, Pass threads aren't legally binding, right? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is no understanding some people's actions but know some 'self reflect' when it suits them, but in reality they have no clue what it means.
Surely any form of self reflection is better than none and personal growth on any level is a positive.
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For that you need self awareness and to own your flaws. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is no understanding some people's actions but know some 'self reflect' when it suits them, but in reality they have no clue what it means.
Surely any form of self reflection is better than none and personal growth on any level is a positive.
Not really , people need to be mature & secure to a degree to self reflect and people giving feedback need to be genuine and not have motives like sex and popularity.
Why not just ask your closet friends for honest feedback, if you really want it ?
You know that Kiss, Fuck, Pass threads aren't legally binding, right? "
The reason I don’t join in them anymore. I wish I had known from th start.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is no understanding some people's actions but know some 'self reflect' when it suits them, but in reality they have no clue what it means.
Surely any form of self reflection is better than none and personal growth on any level is a positive.
Not really , people need to be mature & secure to a degree to self reflect and people giving feedback need to be genuine and not have motives like sex and popularity.
Why not just ask your closet friends for honest feedback, if you really want it ? "
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"There is no understanding some people's actions but know some 'self reflect' when it suits them, but in reality they have no clue what it means.
Surely any form of self reflection is better than none and personal growth on any level is a positive.
For that you need self awareness and to own your flaws. "
Wait, you're saying folk on Fab sometimes aren't self aware and don't always know/see their flaws?
Ludicrous.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is no understanding some people's actions but know some 'self reflect' when it suits them, but in reality they have no clue what it means.
Surely any form of self reflection is better than none and personal growth on any level is a positive.
Not really , people need to be mature & secure to a degree to self reflect and people giving feedback need to be genuine and not have motives like sex and popularity.
Why not just ask your closet friends for honest feedback, if you really want it ?
You know that Kiss, Fuck, Pass threads aren't legally binding, right? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Isn't it "one man's rubbish is one man's treasure"? I duno if I portray the true me here but if anyone wants to critique me, I don't mind lol"
I don’t know the real you. But your legs look hot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is no understanding some people's actions but know some 'self reflect' when it suits them, but in reality they have no clue what it means.
Surely any form of self reflection is better than none and personal growth on any level is a positive.
For that you need self awareness and to own your flaws.
Wait, you're saying folk on Fab sometimes aren't self aware and don't always know/see their flaws?
Ludicrous.
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It's Hypocrisy Meli, that is what that is |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"There is no understanding some people's actions but know some 'self reflect' when it suits them, but in reality they have no clue what it means.
Surely any form of self reflection is better than none and personal growth on any level is a positive.
For that you need self awareness and to own your flaws. "
Probably still better than making snide remarks on threads that are meant to be positive |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is no understanding some people's actions but know some 'self reflect' when it suits them, but in reality they have no clue what it means.
Surely any form of self reflection is better than none and personal growth on any level is a positive.
For that you need self awareness and to own your flaws.
Probably still better than making snide remarks on threads that are meant to be positive "
Only adding my input |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting concept, however the real person behind the keyboard can be a completely different person ..you can't get a feel for emotions over this , however if they write on forum's you can get a feel for their views and come character instincts..  |
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