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Mental Health Check-in 01.08
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Good morning, how are we doing?
I’m mostly ok. Got some physical anxiety symptoms because of stuff I have going on and it’s threatening to set my health anxiety off. Things like waking up with a vibrating/tremor sensation through my whole body and jerky hand movements that seem to just happen, so I’ve been taking my meds more often, but I’m ok. Going to visit family Wednesday, going out with my sister Wednesday evening and taking the kids out for the day Thursday so that’ll be nice.
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Suprised the thread is so quiet. Hopefully it’s because everyone is feeling good this sunny Monday. More likely it’s because of school holidays and the rugrats are driving everyone mad.
Hope OP is okay.. Do whatever alleviates the anxiety for you and I hope it gets better before your trip.
From here it’s up and down, think I’ve bottomed out and it’s only better from here. Personal health issues are flaring up again so it’s been a pain riddled week. From a personal issues point of view it’s been difficult at home and I’ve been shrouded in a brain fog all week.
A weekend of reflection has helped get focus and some desire to self improve is returning. I feel a bit clearer this week so hope it continues.
Lots of difficult conversations are required, so that’s the next hurdle in the road. Time to challenge my fears and feel comfortable upsetting people  |
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Morning Lou and everyone,
Sorry to hear your Health Anxiety has flared up but it sounds like you know what to do to tackle it. It’s great you have also got plans to look forward to this week. I know having stuff to do definitely helps me.
I’m still ticking along ok… anxiety and brain fog are v low level at the moment and still mostly maintaining a positive outlook.
Last week off before I start a new job next Monday which I’m super excited about plus I’ve got quite a few fab plans coming up over the next month which is good!
Hope you all have a great week.   |
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As usual mixed here
Still seem to be on a search for pain to deal with emotional pain but fighting it
Wondering if much has changed after few months of therapy and if I feel any different
Went to my first kink event since Jan and left early to watch the lionesses. Mixture of changing priorities and old feelings of some only want me there because I crew and enable their fun |
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"Good morning, how are we doing?
I’m mostly ok. Got some physical anxiety symptoms because of stuff I have going on and it’s threatening to set my health anxiety off. Things like waking up with a vibrating/tremor sensation through my whole body and jerky hand movements that seem to just happen, so I’ve been taking my meds more often, but I’m ok. Going to visit family Wednesday, going out with my sister Wednesday evening and taking the kids out for the day Thursday so that’ll be nice.
How are you doing?"
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Bit of a bad one last week as a good friend from here ended his life as couldn't cope with the changes an accident caused his life, silly sod couldn't pick up the phone and just talk, just pretended life was ok. |
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"Bit of a bad one last week as a good friend from here ended his life as couldn't cope with the changes an accident caused his life, silly sod couldn't pick up the phone and just talk, just pretended life was ok."
That is so sad x |
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"Bit of a bad one last week as a good friend from here ended his life as couldn't cope with the changes an accident caused his life, silly sod couldn't pick up the phone and just talk, just pretended life was ok."
Sorry for your loss. Unfortunately many put up a face, even amongst friends |
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I've been quite good for a while now, I am a bit worried about telling a new employer about having anxiety problems in the past, in case it effect my job offer.
But the anxiety passed quickly, I can't change it so whybworry about it mentality is difficult to start using but it has helped over a period of time.
Lifes all ups and downs we have gotten through the tough times before and we can do it again.
Hope everyone has a good week. |
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"Trying taking some ashwagandha i think that's how it spelt
It makes you feel calm "
After divorce I used it and it significantly lowered my sex drive. Yes it helped with the stress and helped me survive worst moments. But later I started going out to the gigs, festivals, i discovered swinging clubs and fab community. Basically started enjoying single life and the stress/anxiety went away. |
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I've been really struggling recently which have ended up with night time panic attacks, stammering when trying to speak, unable to make eye contact and a general lack of wanting to go out. 
These threads do help as I don't feel so alone in it. X |
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"I've been really struggling recently which have ended up with night time panic attacks, stammering when trying to speak, unable to make eye contact and a general lack of wanting to go out.
These threads do help as I don't feel so alone in it. X "
Sending virtual good wishes |
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Been a good day today. Took folks home after a week with us (10 hrs of driving). Good to see them but stressful lol.
Now we're having a date night out as we've not been alone for a week lol
Hope everyone else is smiling in the sun and putting the woes to one side for short time |
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"Suprised the thread is so quiet. Hopefully it’s because everyone is feeling good this sunny Monday. More likely it’s because of school holidays and the rugrats are driving everyone mad.
Hope OP is okay.. Do whatever alleviates the anxiety for you and I hope it gets better before your trip.
From here it’s up and down, think I’ve bottomed out and it’s only better from here. Personal health issues are flaring up again so it’s been a pain riddled week. From a personal issues point of view it’s been difficult at home and I’ve been shrouded in a brain fog all week.
A weekend of reflection has helped get focus and some desire to self improve is returning. I feel a bit clearer this week so hope it continues.
Lots of difficult conversations are required, so that’s the next hurdle in the road. Time to challenge my fears and feel comfortable upsetting people "
I’m sorry things have been so difficult for you. Sending positive thoughts for the tough times you’re still facing x |
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"Morning Lou and everyone,
Sorry to hear your Health Anxiety has flared up but it sounds like you know what to do to tackle it. It’s great you have also got plans to look forward to this week. I know having stuff to do definitely helps me.
I’m still ticking along ok… anxiety and brain fog are v low level at the moment and still mostly maintaining a positive outlook.
Last week off before I start a new job next Monday which I’m super excited about plus I’ve got quite a few fab plans coming up over the next month which is good!
Hope you all have a great week. "
Thank you!
I’m glad things are going ok for you atm and you have some positive things ahead! Hope it all goes smoothly for you x |
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"As usual mixed here
Still seem to be on a search for pain to deal with emotional pain but fighting it
Wondering if much has changed after few months of therapy and if I feel any different
Went to my first kink event since Jan and left early to watch the lionesses. Mixture of changing priorities and old feelings of some only want me there because I crew and enable their fun"
Glad you managed to get out but I’m sorry it didn’t go completely according to plan. Have you had reviews with your therapist about your progress? Sending love x |
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"I've been quite good for a while now, I am a bit worried about telling a new employer about having anxiety problems in the past, in case it effect my job offer.
But the anxiety passed quickly, I can't change it so whybworry about it mentality is difficult to start using but it has helped over a period of time.
Lifes all ups and downs we have gotten through the tough times before and we can do it again.
Hope everyone has a good week."
Sorry to hear about your worries but glad you’re ok overall. Wishing you a good week too x |
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"Trying taking some ashwagandha i think that's how it spelt
It makes you feel calm
After divorce I used it and it significantly lowered my sex drive. Yes it helped with the stress and helped me survive worst moments. But later I started going out to the gigs, festivals, i discovered swinging clubs and fab community. Basically started enjoying single life and the stress/anxiety went away."
Thank you for sharing, I’m glad you found a way out of the tougher times x |
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I struggle to talk about my mental health, partly an inferior complex and partly because I’m just far enough on the Autistic Spectrum to not process things quite the same as others.
Last week was a lovely week, everything went let.
This last 24 hours I’ve seriously crashed and started to burn. Spiralling down. I’m telling myself to think rationally, to process the triggers and control the reactions. But still on the down part of the curve and yet to level off and start climbing.
I don’t know if I want to scream, to hide from the world or over eat unhealthy foods. I think I may do all three. |
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"I've been really struggling recently which have ended up with night time panic attacks, stammering when trying to speak, unable to make eye contact and a general lack of wanting to go out.
These threads do help as I don't feel so alone in it. X "
That sounds really difficult, I’m sorry to hear you’ve been struggling and feeling isolated. I’m glad this has helped a little, always feel free to post to it again during the week if you need any support, it doesn’t have to just be for Mondays x |
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"Nice to see a thread like this in all honesty.
I'm due to travel to Cornwall tomorrow which has my anxiety playing up a bit but apart from that I'm doing well. "
Thank you for joining in with it!
Anxiety is so rubbish, I hope your journey goes smoothly x |
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"Been a good day today. Took folks home after a week with us (10 hrs of driving). Good to see them but stressful lol.
Now we're having a date night out as we've not been alone for a week lol
Hope everyone else is smiling in the sun and putting the woes to one side for short time"
That sounds lovely! Hope you have a fabulous evening x |
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At the moment am doing really well.. meds being taken regularly and I'd be lying if I said a little bit of me is waiting for the next downwards cycle.. I've had the odd warning signs that normally trigger a bad period but as of yet it hasn't happened.. which can only be a good thing.
Obviously the good weather really helps and tbh am dreading the cold dark winter .. as am sure all of you can sympathise.. has anyone tried a sun lamp in the winter ? How has this worked for you ? |
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"I struggle to talk about my mental health, partly an inferior complex and partly because I’m just far enough on the Autistic Spectrum to not process things quite the same as others.
Last week was a lovely week, everything went let.
This last 24 hours I’ve seriously crashed and started to burn. Spiralling down. I’m telling myself to think rationally, to process the triggers and control the reactions. But still on the down part of the curve and yet to level off and start climbing.
I don’t know if I want to scream, to hide from the world or over eat unhealthy foods. I think I may do all three. "
I get the sense of that feeling like it’s all happening very suddenly and rapidly and maybe you feel a little out of control in it all? It can feel really scary in that situation, I hope you manage to feel back in control very soon. In the mean time be kind to yourself and take some time to look after yourself if you’re able to x |
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"I struggle to talk about my mental health, partly an inferior complex and partly because I’m just far enough on the Autistic Spectrum to not process things quite the same as others.
Last week was a lovely week, everything went let.
This last 24 hours I’ve seriously crashed and started to burn. Spiralling down. I’m telling myself to think rationally, to process the triggers and control the reactions. But still on the down part of the curve and yet to level off and start climbing.
I don’t know if I want to scream, to hide from the world or over eat unhealthy foods. I think I may do all three.
I get the sense of that feeling like it’s all happening very suddenly and rapidly and maybe you feel a little out of control in it all? It can feel really scary in that situation, I hope you manage to feel back in control very soon. In the mean time be kind to yourself and take some time to look after yourself if you’re able to x"
Thank you and yes, at times I have no control, it’s like something else goes “right we’re spiralling today” and I just need to ride it out. Sometimes that is easier than others. |
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"Also what a lovely and thoughtful thread to start lou , and taking the time to answer posts, very beautiful trait to have ?? "
Thank you, that’s really kind. I post every Monday, feel free to join us anytime, everybody’s very welcome x |
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"I struggle to talk about my mental health, partly an inferior complex and partly because I’m just far enough on the Autistic Spectrum to not process things quite the same as others.
Last week was a lovely week, everything went let.
This last 24 hours I’ve seriously crashed and started to burn. Spiralling down. I’m telling myself to think rationally, to process the triggers and control the reactions. But still on the down part of the curve and yet to level off and start climbing.
I don’t know if I want to scream, to hide from the world or over eat unhealthy foods. I think I may do all three.
I get the sense of that feeling like it’s all happening very suddenly and rapidly and maybe you feel a little out of control in it all? It can feel really scary in that situation, I hope you manage to feel back in control very soon. In the mean time be kind to yourself and take some time to look after yourself if you’re able to x
Thank you and yes, at times I have no control, it’s like something else goes “right we’re spiralling today” and I just need to ride it out. Sometimes that is easier than others. "
That sounds really tough. Sending love  |
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"Also what a lovely and thoughtful thread to start lou , and taking the time to answer posts, very beautiful trait to have ??
Thank you, that’s really kind. I post every Monday, feel free to join us anytime, everybody’s very welcome x"
I'll definitely look for your forum posts every Monday x
It really does help to talk xxx |
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"Also what a lovely and thoughtful thread to start lou , and taking the time to answer posts, very beautiful trait to have ??
Thank you, that’s really kind. I post every Monday, feel free to join us anytime, everybody’s very welcome x
I'll definitely look for your forum posts every Monday x
It really does help to talk xxx"
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"Also what a lovely and thoughtful thread to start lou , and taking the time to answer posts, very beautiful trait to have ??
Thank you, that’s really kind. I post every Monday, feel free to join us anytime, everybody’s very welcome x
I'll definitely look for your forum posts every Monday x
It really does help to talk xxx
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Off topic but how do you do emojis ? I've only the standard ones |
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"Also what a lovely and thoughtful thread to start lou , and taking the time to answer posts, very beautiful trait to have ??
Thank you, that’s really kind. I post every Monday, feel free to join us anytime, everybody’s very welcome x
I'll definitely look for your forum posts every Monday x
It really does help to talk xxx
Off topic but how do you do emojis ? I've only the standard ones "
If you do a forum search for emojis it will bring a list of past threads up - the second one down has a big list in it  |
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"Also what a lovely and thoughtful thread to start lou , and taking the time to answer posts, very beautiful trait to have ??
Thank you, that’s really kind. I post every Monday, feel free to join us anytime, everybody’s very welcome x
I'll definitely look for your forum posts every Monday x
It really does help to talk xxx
Off topic but how do you do emojis ? I've only the standard ones
If you do a forum search for emojis it will bring a list of past threads up - the second one down has a big list in it "
Well you learn something every day , thank you very much.. love |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
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"I've been quite good for a while now, I am a bit worried about telling a new employer about having anxiety problems in the past, in case it effect my job offer.
But the anxiety passed quickly, I can't change it so whybworry about it mentality is difficult to start using but it has helped over a period of time.
Lifes all ups and downs we have gotten through the tough times before and we can do it again.
Hope everyone has a good week."
Tell them. Because if its a red flag to them it's surely not an environment you'd want to work in? |
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Just bumping this for anyone who’s been impacted by the sad news about BikerDrew (I know I am) - and also for sharing anything else of course.
A reminder that this thread can be added to at any point during the week, you don’t have to wait for the next Monday post.
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Find myself sleeping a lot.
Dislike my job but it really is the only thing that gets me out of bed.
Had the day off yesterday and got up OK coz I needed the shop, but then vegged for ages. Cut the front and back grass then watched some you tube and telly.
Fell asleep around 5pm on the sofa and woke still there at half 8 this morning.
I've just got nothing.
No motivation. No energy. No will.
Most nights when I go to sleep I listen to podcasts about near death experiences and in truth, it sounds a whole lot more inviting than life does.
There. That's me |
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I've never opened up in a forum like this but it can only help.
I'm not great at the mo, feeling of anxiety and stress. The weird thing for me is there seems to be no real reason, maybe just a culmination of minor things.. Debating whether i really enjoy my job, not feeling as fit as id like (used to run but haven't got the mojo), pride has taken a dent on here.
I did have quite a stressful year last year and I'm not sure i ever recovered (if that's such a thing) even though those stresses have gone?
Willingly take any advice..
Graham |
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"Its gone over a year since i read fair well so im planning on being in a sad mood today to honour it in my mind"
Nothing wrong in that i don't think, tomorrow is another day - onwards and upwards friend.. |
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I’m just back from a long weekend in North Devon. Was hoping to see my parents but they are both bad with Covid, and I missed my Great Aunts funeral on the Friday due to traffic. It took a ridiculous 6 hours to get there from North Hampshire!
Still I got to see my sister and one of my brothers so it wasn’t a total waste of time. Trying to focus on the good now after the crappy start to the trip. |
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I’m having a weird old time of it.
Put myself in exile last week to force me to rest my ankle but that messed with my mental health massively, however, seemed to help the ankle.
I’m not in a bad place but I’m not comfortable where I am so I’m working to improve those thoughts and feelings to allow me to feel more settled |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
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I'm feeling a bit weird. On one hand it's now over 2 months since I tried to kill myself and I'm liking measuring it in months not weeks, but, and it's a weird but, I'm feeling my own mortality a lot. I've always been quite cold hearted around death, but Bernard Cribbens death really upset me (celebrity deaths have never bothered me before) and a casual friend died of cancer last week and that really upset me even though it was expected. I've lost people closer with far less emotional impact. And while I quite like the fact I'm not the cold hearted bastard I thought I was, I'm srruggling to process where this fits if that makes sense? |
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"I'm feeling a bit weird. On one hand it's now over 2 months since I tried to kill myself and I'm liking measuring it in months not weeks, but, and it's a weird but, I'm feeling my own mortality a lot. I've always been quite cold hearted around death, but Bernard Cribbens death really upset me (celebrity deaths have never bothered me before) and a casual friend died of cancer last week and that really upset me even though it was expected. I've lost people closer with far less emotional impact. And while I quite like the fact I'm not the cold hearted bastard I thought I was, I'm srruggling to process where this fits if that makes sense?"
IMHO, it's a massive positive you're counting in months not weeks so that's a big plus point. Are you getting any help from the NHS - counsellor / advice? |
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"I’m having a weird old time of it.
Put myself in exile last week to force me to rest my ankle but that messed with my mental health massively, however, seemed to help the ankle.
I’m not in a bad place but I’m not comfortable where I am so I’m working to improve those thoughts and feelings to allow me to feel more settled "
If you're working to improve, that's a great start |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
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"I'm feeling a bit weird. On one hand it's now over 2 months since I tried to kill myself and I'm liking measuring it in months not weeks, but, and it's a weird but, I'm feeling my own mortality a lot. I've always been quite cold hearted around death, but Bernard Cribbens death really upset me (celebrity deaths have never bothered me before) and a casual friend died of cancer last week and that really upset me even though it was expected. I've lost people closer with far less emotional impact. And while I quite like the fact I'm not the cold hearted bastard I thought I was, I'm srruggling to process where this fits if that makes sense?
IMHO, it's a massive positive you're counting in months not weeks so that's a big plus point. Are you getting any help from the NHS - counsellor / advice? "
Thank you, I preferred it when it was years but it is what it is, months feels like more of a gap which is psychologically good.
I'm not getting help at the moment but when I was struggling I had the mental health team, my GP surgery and a charity in London all supporting me and at least one checking in with me most days so I had the support I needed when I most needed it. The door is open to all of them but removing myself from a toxic work environment has had a huge positive impact, if I start to struggle again I'll be straight back on the phone to them all! |
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"I'm feeling a bit weird. On one hand it's now over 2 months since I tried to kill myself and I'm liking measuring it in months not weeks, but, and it's a weird but, I'm feeling my own mortality a lot. I've always been quite cold hearted around death, but Bernard Cribbens death really upset me (celebrity deaths have never bothered me before) and a casual friend died of cancer last week and that really upset me even though it was expected. I've lost people closer with far less emotional impact. And while I quite like the fact I'm not the cold hearted bastard I thought I was, I'm srruggling to process where this fits if that makes sense?
IMHO, it's a massive positive you're counting in months not weeks so that's a big plus point. Are you getting any help from the NHS - counsellor / advice?
Thank you, I preferred it when it was years but it is what it is, months feels like more of a gap which is psychologically good.
I'm not getting help at the moment but when I was struggling I had the mental health team, my GP surgery and a charity in London all supporting me and at least one checking in with me most days so I had the support I needed when I most needed it. The door is open to all of them but removing myself from a toxic work environment has had a huge positive impact, if I start to struggle again I'll be straight back on the phone to them all!"
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So sad to hear about Biker Drew, only spoke to him a few times, and he always seemed like a good guy.
I wish he had just picked up the phone and spoken to someone.
If anyone is contemplating suicide, please reach out for help. |
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"Find myself sleeping a lot.
Dislike my job but it really is the only thing that gets me out of bed.
Had the day off yesterday and got up OK coz I needed the shop, but then vegged for ages. Cut the front and back grass then watched some you tube and telly.
Fell asleep around 5pm on the sofa and woke still there at half 8 this morning.
I've just got nothing.
No motivation. No energy. No will.
Most nights when I go to sleep I listen to podcasts about near death experiences and in truth, it sounds a whole lot more inviting than life does.
There. That's me "
I got a real feeling of flatness when I was reading that. Sending lots of love xx |
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I find it hard to talk about my mental health. All I know is that I'm different from the rest. Would you say Aspergers is a mental health problem? I was diagnosed 4 years ago and I was told I was borderline. |
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"I've never opened up in a forum like this but it can only help.
I'm not great at the mo, feeling of anxiety and stress. The weird thing for me is there seems to be no real reason, maybe just a culmination of minor things.. Debating whether i really enjoy my job, not feeling as fit as id like (used to run but haven't got the mojo), pride has taken a dent on here.
I did have quite a stressful year last year and I'm not sure i ever recovered (if that's such a thing) even though those stresses have gone?
Willingly take any advice..
Graham "
There definitely is such a thing - when it comes to stress, anxiety and trauma, our bodies can be altered in a neurobiological way (think fight/flight/freeze). These states can remain. I can feel absolutely fine mentally, but have physical symptoms that I know are anxiety, this goes back to trauma from 2019. Have a look at Polyvagal theory, it’s fascinating.
Sorry to hear you’re struggling x |
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"I’m just back from a long weekend in North Devon. Was hoping to see my parents but they are both bad with Covid, and I missed my Great Aunts funeral on the Friday due to traffic. It took a ridiculous 6 hours to get there from North Hampshire!
Still I got to see my sister and one of my brothers so it wasn’t a total waste of time. Trying to focus on the good now after the crappy start to the trip."
That sounds like a really mixed bag - sorry to hear things didn’t go to plan for you, but glad you got to see some of your siblings x |
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"I’m having a weird old time of it.
Put myself in exile last week to force me to rest my ankle but that messed with my mental health massively, however, seemed to help the ankle.
I’m not in a bad place but I’m not comfortable where I am so I’m working to improve those thoughts and feelings to allow me to feel more settled "
I love that you’re so aware and working on yourself, that’s definitely a big part of the battle! Hope things improve now your ankle is on the mend x |
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"I'm feeling a bit weird. On one hand it's now over 2 months since I tried to kill myself and I'm liking measuring it in months not weeks, but, and it's a weird but, I'm feeling my own mortality a lot. I've always been quite cold hearted around death, but Bernard Cribbens death really upset me (celebrity deaths have never bothered me before) and a casual friend died of cancer last week and that really upset me even though it was expected. I've lost people closer with far less emotional impact. And while I quite like the fact I'm not the cold hearted bastard I thought I was, I'm srruggling to process where this fits if that makes sense?"
That does seem like some big stuff to be working through. I’m curious if maybe the fact you’re having these feelings now for people you weren’t as close to has left you with some guilt that you haven’t felt previous losses quite so much maybe? I think we do change over time and can be changed by events and a change in outlook. I hope you can manage to make enough sense of it for you to feel more settled x |
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"So sad to hear about Biker Drew, only spoke to him a few times, and he always seemed like a good guy.
I wish he had just picked up the phone and spoken to someone.
If anyone is contemplating suicide, please reach out for help."
Sending love xx |
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"I find it hard to talk about my mental health. All I know is that I'm different from the rest. Would you say Aspergers is a mental health problem? I was diagnosed 4 years ago and I was told I was borderline. "
I have limited knowledge on neurodivergence and somebody else might pop in who can help more but I’d say that it isn’t a mental health problem, but it might affect how you experience the world and may mean you have struggles that neurotypical people don’t. I think the term Asperger’s has been phased out now and replaced by ASD (Autistic Soectrum Disorder) which just places everybody on a continuum.
Did you mean you were diagnosed as borderline Asperger’s or Borderline Perosnality Disorder? The latter would be considered a ‘mental health condition’ x |
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"I've never opened up in a forum like this but it can only help.
I'm not great at the mo, feeling of anxiety and stress. The weird thing for me is there seems to be no real reason, maybe just a culmination of minor things "
One thing I would say from personal experience is that if you can identify a reason, that’s great, but don’t feel like you have to have a reason that validates your feelings. Easy to get trapped worrying about why you feel low and trying to find a socially acceptable reason when really it just doesn’t matter. You feel the way you do.
In the past I’ve found breaking out of my comfort zone helps me to refocus. Exercise definitely helps. You say you used to run, try and drag yourself out, or maybe just do whatever else that gets you back out and active as I personally find it (physical activity) does help. Indoor climbing? White water kayak session?
But yeah, you don’t need a reason to feel poop. |
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"I've never opened up in a forum like this but it can only help.
I'm not great at the mo, feeling of anxiety and stress. The weird thing for me is there seems to be no real reason, maybe just a culmination of minor things
One thing I would say from personal experience is that if you can identify a reason, that’s great, but don’t feel like you have to have a reason that validates your feelings. Easy to get trapped worrying about why you feel low and trying to find a socially acceptable reason when really it just doesn’t matter. You feel the way you do.
In the past I’ve found breaking out of my comfort zone helps me to refocus. Exercise definitely helps. You say you used to run, try and drag yourself out, or maybe just do whatever else that gets you back out and active as I personally find it (physical activity) does help. Indoor climbing? White water kayak session?
But yeah, you don’t need a reason to feel poop. "
That’s a really good point to make, I like this!
I also heard the point the other day that a lot of people with anxiety dislike exercise because it puts you in a physical state that feels the same as being under threat (increased heart rate etc) but if you can tolerate it then it helps to regulate you |
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