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I don't chat or date women so this thread may come across sexist but hey! Lol
Ok two things happened to me tonight: a guy who been "chasing me" for over two years online, I gave him q chance and said call me for a chat to arrange a date. He didn't. Didn't hear from him for over a week so I texted him tonight asking if he's disappeared. He replied "no still here. I didn't call you because I was too busy" So I replied "too busy to even tell me?"...yup, no apologies just said too busy.
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Guy on fab, with only 6 day old profile, one photo available wrote 'an resume' why I should give a single guy a chance. I replied nicely saying I need to see verifications and more photos. He said he's not going to rely on verification so will never get some, but he send me plenty of photos and reminding me what a great catch he is....  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Maybe he was too busy and also didn’t feel like he needed to tell you that"
Everyone is busy.
But if you've been chasing someone that long then surely a quick message or text to say "tied up at the mo - I'll be in touch soon/on 'x' day" takes seconds?
Some people are great at online chat but shit at real conversation on the phone/via webcam/in person. Some people get nervous.
But if you're keen, you'd put at least some effort in, surely?
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"Maybe he was too busy and also didn’t feel like he needed to tell you that
Everyone is busy.
But if you've been chasing someone that long then surely a quick message or text to say "tied up at the mo - I'll be in touch soon/on 'x' day" takes seconds?
Some people are great at online chat but shit at real conversation on the phone/via webcam/in person. Some people get nervous.
But if you're keen, you'd put at least some effort in, surely?
A"
He acted not bothered at all like a proper narcissist. Showed his true colours there. Good riddance |
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"After two years he has probably fed up of waiting and moved on...
The second guy, is doing fab his way"
No he kept saying he really wanted to meet me so there's no logic there.
Yes that dude is doing his own fab thing but it doesn't work with me. |
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"Maybe he was too busy and also didn’t feel like he needed to tell you that
Everyone is busy.
But if you've been chasing someone that long then surely a quick message or text to say "tied up at the mo - I'll be in touch soon/on 'x' day" takes seconds?
Some people are great at online chat but shit at real conversation on the phone/via webcam/in person. Some people get nervous.
But if you're keen, you'd put at least some effort in, surely?
A
He acted not bothered at all like a proper narcissist. Showed his true colours there. Good riddance"
A narcissist? For being too busy to call or text? |
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over a year ago
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"Maybe he was too busy and also didn’t feel like he needed to tell you that
Everyone is busy.
But if you've been chasing someone that long then surely a quick message or text to say "tied up at the mo - I'll be in touch soon/on 'x' day" takes seconds?
Some people are great at online chat but shit at real conversation on the phone/via webcam/in person. Some people get nervous.
But if you're keen, you'd put at least some effort in, surely?
A"
Agreed, it takes very little time to write. Sorry flat out, will be in contact soon haven't forgotten about you.
As for the second guy. He sent you plenty of pics, he doesn't need verifications as he's that great.
You should be greatful he messaged you.
Guys moan on here they don't get meets. But do these sort of things regularly(not all guys before someone says don't label us all the same or tar us to the one stick)
Yes we all have are own reasons for being on here.
What I don't understand Is would you walk up to a girl in a bar, whip your dick out say like let's go, you look like a fun slut let's fuck.
The amount of guys to women couples is outnumbered, so some effort is needed to get somewhere with a person.
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"Maybe he was too busy and also didn’t feel like he needed to tell you that
Everyone is busy.
But if you've been chasing someone that long then surely a quick message or text to say "tied up at the mo - I'll be in touch soon/on 'x' day" takes seconds?
Some people are great at online chat but shit at real conversation on the phone/via webcam/in person. Some people get nervous.
But if you're keen, you'd put at least some effort in, surely?
A
He acted not bothered at all like a proper narcissist. Showed his true colours there. Good riddance
A narcissist? For being too busy to call or text? "
I wasn't born yesterday. He wasn't too busy. |
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over a year ago
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"Maybe he was too busy and also didn’t feel like he needed to tell you that
Everyone is busy.
But if you've been chasing someone that long then surely a quick message or text to say "tied up at the mo - I'll be in touch soon/on 'x' day" takes seconds?
Some people are great at online chat but shit at real conversation on the phone/via webcam/in person. Some people get nervous.
But if you're keen, you'd put at least some effort in, surely?
A"
Well that would probably have been the best thing to do.
Like you say not everyone is good on the phone and the easiest thing for him to do was to not message back explaining that and potentially ruining a meet he’s been chasing for 2 years…
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Maybe he was too busy and also didn’t feel like he needed to tell you that
Everyone is busy.
But if you've been chasing someone that long then surely a quick message or text to say "tied up at the mo - I'll be in touch soon/on 'x' day" takes seconds?
Some people are great at online chat but shit at real conversation on the phone/via webcam/in person. Some people get nervous.
But if you're keen, you'd put at least some effort in, surely?
A
He acted not bothered at all like a proper narcissist. Showed his true colours there. Good riddance"
Sounds like he enjoyed the chase.
If you'd been stringing him along, teasing, making promises and then not keeping them, suggesting meets but then changing your mind......then I could understand him playing the same game.
If it's a case of he's been keen and it's just been a case of timing not being right or just it's taken him that long to really get your interest (and yes, that happens!) then he's basically shot himself in the foot and if he's now trying to play it cool just because you're showing interest then yep, narcissistic behaviour and quite arrogant.
Nowt queer as folk.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why is it getting to you?
Just wondering how normal it is to be illogical  "
Illogical to you, but maybe the first guy was busy. I'm generally shit at responding to messages and if Fab wasn't at the forefront of my mind, it would be one of those things I'd remember I needed to do and then forget 10 seconds later.
The second guy maybe wants to guage what Fab is like before putting pictures up for everyone to see and although he may not care about verifications now, he might do once he becomes more familiar with the site  |
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"After two years he has probably fed up of waiting and moved on...
The second guy, is doing fab his way
No he kept saying he really wanted to meet me so there's no logic there.
Yes that dude is doing his own fab thing but it doesn't work with me."
So what stopped him? If he has 'been chasing you for two years' why has it not happened if you were keen also?
Well, 2nd guy is entitled to his way, doesn't suit you so that is that, nothing illogical, you're incompatible.
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"Maybe he was too busy and also didn’t feel like he needed to tell you that
Everyone is busy.
But if you've been chasing someone that long then surely a quick message or text to say "tied up at the mo - I'll be in touch soon/on 'x' day" takes seconds?
Some people are great at online chat but shit at real conversation on the phone/via webcam/in person. Some people get nervous.
But if you're keen, you'd put at least some effort in, surely?
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He acted not bothered at all like a proper narcissist. Showed his true colours there. Good riddance"
He’s a plonker! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Do we even have logic when it comes to fab? To me a well thought out, well mannered and topical msg to do with their profile should warrant a reply...but then I could say to someone else..Nice rack, lovely arse pic, just missing one thing...my tounge , and wham I'm in lol no logic in here at all! |
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
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"I don't chat or date women so this thread may come across sexist but hey! Lol
Ok two things happened to me tonight: a guy who been "chasing me" for over two years online, I gave him q chance and said call me for a chat to arrange a date. He didn't. Didn't hear from him for over a week so I texted him tonight asking if he's disappeared. He replied "no still here. I didn't call you because I was too busy" So I replied "too busy to even tell me?"...yup, no apologies just said too busy.
Second scenerio:
Guy on fab, with only 6 day old profile, one photo available wrote 'an resume' why I should give a single guy a chance. I replied nicely saying I need to see verifications and more photos. He said he's not going to rely on verification so will never get some, but he send me plenty of photos and reminding me what a great catch he is.... "
Well there are plenty of good men on here as well. You would have your pick of any of them, so focus on them instead of guys like that |
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"Make the op a male...
Make the question about women...
And there would be 0 sympathy and a healthy dose of shut the f%£k up...
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Women what equality, except when it doesn’t suit them, much like socialists |
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"I don't chat or date women so this thread may come across sexist but hey! Lol
Ok two things happened to me tonight: a guy who been "chasing me" for over two years online, I gave him q chance and said call me for a chat to arrange a date. He didn't. Didn't hear from him for over a week so I texted him tonight asking if he's disappeared. He replied "no still here. I didn't call you because I was too busy" So I replied "too busy to even tell me?"...yup, no apologies just said too busy.
Second scenerio:
Guy on fab, with only 6 day old profile, one photo available wrote 'an resume' why I should give a single guy a chance. I replied nicely saying I need to see verifications and more photos. He said he's not going to rely on verification so will never get some, but he send me plenty of photos and reminding me what a great catch he is.... "
You’re meeting / giving time to the wrong people that don’t deserve it ..
Fab is a strange place sometimes |
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"I don't chat or date women so this thread may come across sexist but hey! Lol
Ok two things happened to me tonight: a guy who been "chasing me" for over two years online, I gave him q chance and said call me for a chat to arrange a date. He didn't. Didn't hear from him for over a week so I texted him tonight asking if he's disappeared. He replied "no still here. I didn't call you because I was too busy" So I replied "too busy to even tell me?"...yup, no apologies just said too busy.
Second scenerio:
Guy on fab, with only 6 day old profile, one photo available wrote 'an resume' why I should give a single guy a chance. I replied nicely saying I need to see verifications and more photos. He said he's not going to rely on verification so will never get some, but he send me plenty of photos and reminding me what a great catch he is....
You’re meeting / giving time to the wrong people that don’t deserve it ..
Fab is a strange place sometimes "
The Inhabitants hearts and minds are tainted, the world at large.
All a game = step on,ur in. view from afar only. The hunter and the hunted.
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"I don't chat or date women so this thread may come across sexist but hey! Lol
Ok two things happened to me tonight: a guy who been "chasing me" for over two years online, I gave him q chance and said call me for a chat to arrange a date. He didn't. Didn't hear from him for over a week so I texted him tonight asking if he's disappeared. He replied "no still here. I didn't call you because I was too busy" So I replied "too busy to even tell me?"...yup, no apologies just said too busy.
Second scenerio:
Guy on fab, with only 6 day old profile, one photo available wrote 'an resume' why I should give a single guy a chance. I replied nicely saying I need to see verifications and more photos. He said he's not going to rely on verification so will never get some, but he send me plenty of photos and reminding me what a great catch he is....
Well there are plenty of good men on here as well. You would have your pick of any of them, so focus on them instead of guys like that"
No my thread is about anyone experience men being illogical?? Have you met illogical women then? |
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"Make the op a male...
Make the question about women...
And there would be 0 sympathy and a healthy dose of shut the f%£k up...
Women what equality, except when it doesn’t suit them, much like socialists "
It's absolutely not about that, as I said in my original question, being a STRAIGHT WOMAN, how am I meant to comment about other women when I don't date or recieve flirty messages from them...so ok, do you know any example of illogical behaviour from women on fab? |
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"Why is it getting to you?
Just wondering how normal it is to be illogical
Illogical to you, but maybe the first guy was busy. I'm generally shit at responding to messages and if Fab wasn't at the forefront of my mind, it would be one of those things I'd remember I needed to do and then forget 10 seconds later.
The second guy maybe wants to guage what Fab is like before putting pictures up for everyone to see and although he may not care about verifications now, he might do once he becomes more familiar with the site "
But when I asked him a week later what happened, I received no apology for forgetting....to me that's red flag that he doesn't give a crap about the other person. Do you think that's acceptable to forget to call a person when you say you would, then not apologize even after the person reached out to you? I'm sorry if I old fashion in my manners |
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"Two years is a long while in most people's term without even meeting. Some people have got married and had kids in that time haha  "
I didn't mention I had a boyfriend in those two years. He knew that but still carried on asking if we could meet. |
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"If this dude had been chasing for a while chances is he will of pulled a few off to your photos, and probably still is.
Job done in his head move onto the next."
I don't think he seen my fab photos or really many photos of me in general as I usually post bike or scenery photos on my ig lol |
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"If this dude had been chasing for a while chances is he will of pulled a few off to your photos, and probably still is.
Job done in his head move onto the next.
I don't think he seen my fab photos or really many photos of me in general as I usually post bike or scenery photos on my ig lol"
A wiff of a cleavage is enough for some. |
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"If this dude had been chasing for a while chances is he will of pulled a few off to your photos, and probably still is.
Job done in his head move onto the next.
I don't think he seen my fab photos or really many photos of me in general as I usually post bike or scenery photos on my ig lol
A wiff of a cleavage is enough for some."
Nope I hardly put them pics up on my social media |
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"If he's too busy to message then he's too busy to date"
I actually didn't think he was busy. It was just an lame excuse with no apology attached. Illogical in my opinion. But he obviously wasn't interested, just wanted to play games. So maybe his behaviour is logical after all lol |
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"Make the op a male...
Make the question about women...
And there would be 0 sympathy and a healthy dose of shut the f%£k up...
Women what equality, except when it doesn’t suit them, much like socialists
It's absolutely not about that, as I said in my original question, being a STRAIGHT WOMAN, how am I meant to comment about other women when I don't date or recieve flirty messages from them...so ok, do you know any example of illogical behaviour from women on fab? "
If you want illogical women's behaviour how about turning someone down for 2 years then getting miffed when they don't ask how high to your jump command?
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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It's not really a man thing is it? More a people thing.
I think that everyone is busy to varying degrees, if someone wants to they'll find the time to message you. Maybe after two years he's lost interest?
The second sounds like incompatibility; it happens. It's not down to him having a penis. Just a person has different ways of dealing with things than you.
I can guess it's slightly irksome for you OP - you can't really account for another's behaviour so try and not focus too much on it and move on. Focus the energy on positive interactions that don't leave you questioning the whys. |
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I know a beautiful lady on here. She was chatting to a bloke for two whole years. The moment she suggested meeting he disappeared in a puff of smoke.
I don’t do cyber relationships for this very reason. |
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After two years, I'm surprised he's kept talking. If you haven't at least met for a drink after a month, he'll move on, just like the rest of us.
Also, ladies aren't shy in doing this to us fellas too. Chat, everything fine, then they're gone.  |
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"After two years, I'm surprised he's kept talking. If you haven't at least met for a drink after a month, he'll move on, just like the rest of us.
Also, ladies aren't shy in doing this to us fellas too. Chat, everything fine, then they're gone. "
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If people wanted to meet you, they’d be doing all they can to do so.
Just like messaging, people will always find time to message if they really wanted to.
Life does get in the way but people will always find time for the people they think about.
Some people like to keep plates spinning.
If you don’t want to just be a plate then just remove them from your world and waste no more time on them and concentrate on people who want to meet/talk.
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I think it’s weird as fuck you know some has been chasing you online for 2 years and you gave him a pity chance like your doing him a favour
He wasn’t good enough for 2 years but then caught on the right day? Yikes  |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"If people wanted to meet you, they’d be doing all they can to do so.
Just like messaging, people will always find time to message if they really wanted to.
Life does get in the way but people will always find time for the people they think about.
Some people like to keep plates spinning.
If you don’t want to just be a plate then just remove them from your world and waste no more time on them and concentrate on people who want to meet/talk.
K
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This is a remarkably reductionist argument but I can see the grain of truth at the centre.
Life is never as simple as just willing something to happen and things do get in the way but if someone wants it enough, then most things can be worked around |
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"If he's too busy to message then he's too busy to date
I actually didn't think he was busy. It was just an lame excuse with no apology attached. Illogical in my opinion. But he obviously wasn't interested, just wanted to play games. So maybe his behaviour is logical after all lol"
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"If he's too busy to message then he's too busy to date
I actually didn't think he was busy. It was just an lame excuse with no apology attached. Illogical in my opinion. But he obviously wasn't interested, just wanted to play games. So maybe his behaviour is logical after all lol"
Illogical to you maybe.
He owes you nothing.
He can change his mind at anytime without explanation.
Block and move on.  |
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Sounds to me like you enjoyed his attention when he chased you for 2 years but expected him to be available to meet your schedule or dare I say demands.
How dare a person (note this is not a male problem) have a life of their own and utilise fab to suit their own convenience.
There's probably no dodgy motive or unnecessary reasoning behind his actions other than he didn't have time. If any person bipped at me expecting me to justify myself to them I'd remove myself from all communication with them.
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"Sounds to me like you enjoyed his attention when he chased you for 2 years but expected him to be available to meet your schedule or dare I say demands.
How dare a person (note this is not a male problem) have a life of their own and utilise fab to suit their own convenience.
There's probably no dodgy motive or unnecessary reasoning behind his actions other than he didn't have time. If any person bipped at me expecting me to justify myself to them I'd remove myself from all communication with them.
NBVN x
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He asked me when shall I call you. I proved a point he was online available as he had time to answer my questionnaire on my ig storyline that night he was meant to call. But he didn't have to the time or inclination to apologize. I never lead him on in them two years of following me on Instagram as I had a boyfriend at the time, I never returned his flirty messages. So frankly your assumption is wrong as I know the details of what happened and you don't. |
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"Did you give him a specific day and time to ring?
He might have thought it was a bit like call whenever not call now!
Some folk have to be pinned down to specifics."
He asked. I told him. He said ok. Pretty straightforward there. All recorded on our message history so he couldn't get confused. He just didn't want to call. Simple as that.To me that's illogical, why say something you just never intended to do. |
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
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"I think it’s weird as fuck you know some has been chasing you online for 2 years and you gave him a pity chance like your doing him a favour
He wasn’t good enough for 2 years but then caught on the right day? Yikes "
This
I don't get why OP is so caught up on one guy, who she didn't even want in thr first place.
There are hundreds and hundreds of guys on fab who would be dying to talk to you, and you can pick who you like, so why not just move on and do this? |
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I think you liked the thrill of being pursued and desired for two years.
It's possible he thought, after two years, suddenly she wants me, nah, I can't be doing with being kept dangling, I'm out.
The second chap, trying Fab his way. Might work for him, might not. But it's his way. You've exercised your right to decline.
I hope he doesn't read the forums.
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"I don't chat or date women so this thread may come across sexist but hey! Lol
Ok two things happened to me tonight: a guy who been "chasing me" for over two years online, I gave him q chance and said call me for a chat to arrange a date. He didn't. Didn't hear from him for over a week so I texted him tonight asking if he's disappeared. He replied "no still here. I didn't call you because I was too busy" So I replied "too busy to even tell me?"...yup, no apologies just said too busy.
Second scenerio:
Guy on fab, with only 6 day old profile, one photo available wrote 'an resume' why I should give a single guy a chance. I replied nicely saying I need to see verifications and more photos. He said he's not going to rely on verification so will never get some, but he send me plenty of photos and reminding me what a great catch he is.... "
it takes seconds to send a quick message but chasing for 2 years i would have given up afte 13 months |
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"I don't chat or date women so this thread may come across sexist but hey! Lol
Ok two things happened to me tonight: a guy who been "chasing me" for over two years online, I gave him q chance and said call me for a chat to arrange a date. He didn't. Didn't hear from him for over a week so I texted him tonight asking if he's disappeared. He replied "no still here. I didn't call you because I was too busy" So I replied "too busy to even tell me?"...yup, no apologies just said too busy.
Second scenerio:
Guy on fab, with only 6 day old profile, one photo available wrote 'an resume' why I should give a single guy a chance. I replied nicely saying I need to see verifications and more photos. He said he's not going to rely on verification so will never get some, but he send me plenty of photos and reminding me what a great catch he is.... it takes seconds to send a quick message but chasing for 2 years i would have given up afte 13 months "
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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There is no logic with online stuff.
It's easy to write whatever we want, even if we are totally feeling it.
Man number one, you gave him a chance and he's not that into you.
Man number two, he's probably sent loads of messages that have been ignored so thought he'd try a different method.
If you're not interested in him it's easy to say so, unlike man number one. |
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