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What to talk about on a social meet
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do most people get the conversation going on a social meet is there much swingers/sex talk or does the conversation just flow about normal things like if you were on first date for example "
If there is a connection then the conversion should flow naturally..if you're struggling to chat then you'll struggle going further...simples |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We talk a little about us, general waffle & share our vibe. Kink wise, we share what we like/ what our hard limits are, what we are looking for in a meet & ask the other person/people to tell us the same for them.. Then if we are all on the same page & we find them hot, we flirt like crazy until we can meet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We meet have a drink together. And talk about. Ours and theirs sexual encounters. What we do and don't in the sex department. If we click fun to be had by all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If theres no vibe or they are shy, we chat waffle to fill the awkward silence & make a an excuses for a fast exit.
As the above poster says, if the social is hard going, that's a red flag! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mostly bs like ooo I like that tv show
Band or what ever
What you looking for off a serious relationship me two
Why don’t I come over and we watch tv show
Pumped and ghosted
Hence why I stick to fab at least people are honest in what they want |
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Bit of everything in our case. Start with the pleasantries and if it seems appropriate, move onto fab / swinger talk. We just play it by ear.
If we are meeting newbies we tend to be a bit more reserved though. Broach the subject of what got them onto fab and what they are expecting. Let them ask us rather than us tell them sort of thing. Don't wanna scare people off do we  |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
Milton keynes |
Conversation about their day is normally a good start and once you both are more comfortable and ensuring no one is around listening, a convo about embarrassing meets are always a barrel of laugh. Some of people's experiences can make me chuckle |
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My experience is that it is a bit of both. They certainly start off chasing about normal stuff but once you are more comfortable with each other you tend to swap stories about past swinging experiences and what you are looking fur.
I would be very put off and would end the social if a guy immediately launched into talking about sexual stuff. If I were a man I would let the women take the lead into straying into more intimate areas. |
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Just normal conversation. I talk about anything and everything but then I’m a chatty person. Sometimes we talk about fab briefly but not in detail.
It may be from fab but I still want a normal conversation/interaction with someone before I think about going further. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I talked about my stamp collection. It didn't go well..
'Oh, you really enjoy fellatio?...I thought you said philately...!' 
Explains why I never get past a social..  |
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I normally go off on a random tangent. They're either put off by the amount I talk or entertained and impressed by my passion for things. Its a good filter to find my people. Also if it gets too much kissing me and/or dragging me upstairs is a great way to shut me up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you're concerned I think you're putting to much pressure on what may come after the social. Try to relax, treat it like a normal conversation and chat as if you were talking to anyone else you might fancy a bit, be nice and charming. Show your true self and whatever happens happens. |
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By *isa40Couple
over a year ago
Cornwall |
We had our first social this week, I was really nervous.
Over thought it way too much, it was great, we just chatted about everyday stuff and some flirty talk too.
Was just like meeting up with friends.
Just go with the flow you will be fine. |
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Most of the time you have seen them naked before meeting them in person which is usually the opposite to what happens in real life. In that respect you need to remember that this is a slightly different world. Usual rules apply but you can talk about personal issues that you can't talk about to vanilla couples. I would say that most topics of conversation are fine just don't have an obsession with the sex aspect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me there's been conversation before so there's always something to pull from that.
We talk about normal day to day life but we dip into fab. If they use the forums maybe about posts from here. Usually about funny stories or experiences a bit like if I was to meet someone from an online dating site (funny dates etc).
I've never struggled for conversation and I've had socials that have lasted from as little as 15 mins to as much as 3 hours. |
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"How do most people get the conversation going on a social meet is there much swingers/sex talk or does the conversation just flow about normal things like if you were on first date for example "
You talk normally. I don’t like sex talk with someone I don’t know |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Talk is cheap, it’s all about the action...!
Kidding of course, good communication we all is key - so mainly talk about each others likes and dislikes to make sure we respect each others boundaries, etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do most people get the conversation going on a social meet is there much swingers/sex talk or does the conversation just flow about normal things like if you were on first date for example
You talk normally. I don’t like sex talk with someone I don’t know"
For me a social is to get to know each other as people. I never discuss sex. If it goes that way I'm polite but we will never meet again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anything that's current and relaxed, including about each other. It's not going to need sexual detail, as that's already covered and inappropriate for most public places "
Exactly this Sophie.
If they don't know how to behave in public I certainly won't trust them in private. |
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"I love meeting new people and never struggle for things to say. I do always ask why and when they joined fab as need to know we are here for the same reasons."
Same here. If the conversations not fun and naughty you have to suspect you're not all on the same page. |
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Certain people lately would testify I can and do talk about anything and everything! Love a good chat, tends not to be sexy stuff so much on a first social as will be in public but otherwise pretty much anything goes.
Recent topics have included politics, art, philosophy, psychology… |
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We had a video social during the week. We started off with what we knew was common ground, namely our lives on this scene - how we got here and what we've got up to. Then it naturally turned towards more regular things like jobs, kids, music etc. |
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