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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I’m here as a married man, in a dead relationship (long and complicated story). Ideally looking to meet someone likeminded or who doesn’t have an issue with meeting married people.
I have had several comments from other fabbers. Some positive but mostly negative..
Am I the only married man on here looking to meet someone for a discreet affair?
Why is it acceptable for married women but not men or be on Fab?
Would you meet a married man for a discreet relationship?
Thoughts and comments appreciated… |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you're hoping to receive an answer that outright approves of your choices, I think it's unlikely.
But then why are you seeking others approval, given that they're likely to be complete strangers?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would never knowingly meet a married man or woman (unless part of a couple of course)
I've been cheated on and it's horrible so would ever contribute in doing it to anyone else |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would never knowingly meet a married man or woman (unless part of a couple of course)
I've been cheated on and it's horrible so would ever contribute in doing it to anyone else "
That’s fine not an issue I can respect that 
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"So I’m here as a married man, in a dead relationship (long and complicated story). Ideally looking to meet someone likeminded or who doesn’t have an issue with meeting married people.
I have had several comments from other fabbers. Some positive but mostly negative..
Am I the only married man on here looking to meet someone for a discreet affair?
Why is it acceptable for married women but not men or be on Fab?
Would you meet a married man for a discreet relationship?
Thoughts and comments appreciated… "
I won't meet with attached folk whether male or female. As to why it's all right for married women on here it's because most men don't give a toss about their marital status |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I not meet married guys knowingly
For a couple off reasons
1 cheating is wrong
But the big reason is 2
2 I don’t need the unwanted hassle it brings
As they other hafe always blames the side peace when it’s not the side peace fault
I don’t need someone’s wife turning up at my door shouting and letting the street know what I been up to
Or what I get up two
So it’s best to just avoid that all together |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm in a similar situation,in my case my wife knows I'm on here and is happy for me to get it elsewhere. Though I've encountered several people that refuse to have anything to do with me because they think I'm cheating on my wife. Very frustrating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I’m here as a married man, in a dead relationship (long and complicated story). Ideally looking to meet someone likeminded or who doesn’t have an issue with meeting married people.
I have had several comments from other fabbers. Some positive but mostly negative..
Am I the only married man on here looking to meet someone for a discreet affair?
Why is it acceptable for married women but not men or be on Fab?
Would you meet a married man for a discreet relationship?
Thoughts and comments appreciated…
I won't meet with attached folk whether male or female. As to why it's all right for married women on here it's because most men don't give a toss about their marital status"
I don’t think it’s this simple. Thinking back to the post from the married woman the other day. The hypocrisy was clear and many of the same commenters who vilified married men in other threads were fine with her cheating! |
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"So I’m here as a married man, in a dead relationship (long and complicated story). Ideally looking to meet someone likeminded or who doesn’t have an issue with meeting married people.
I have had several comments from other fabbers. Some positive but mostly negative..
Am I the only married man on here looking to meet someone for a discreet affair?
Why is it acceptable for married women but not men or be on Fab?
Would you meet a married man for a discreet relationship?
Thoughts and comments appreciated…
I won't meet with attached folk whether male or female. As to why it's all right for married women on here it's because most men don't give a toss about their marital status
I don’t think it’s this simple. Thinking back to the post from the married woman the other day. The hypocrisy was clear and many of the same commenters who vilified married men in other threads were fine with her cheating! "
This is so true….. |
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Is this really more about wanting to explore your bi side? Does your wife know about your sexuality?
Advertising that you’re looking for an affair just makes it sound complicated and with strings attached  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I’m here as a married man, in a dead relationship (long and complicated story). Ideally looking to meet someone likeminded or who doesn’t have an issue with meeting married people.
I have had several comments from other fabbers. Some positive but mostly negative..
Am I the only married man on here looking to meet someone for a discreet affair?
Why is it acceptable for married women but not men or be on Fab?
Would you meet a married man for a discreet relationship?
Thoughts and comments appreciated…
I won't meet with attached folk whether male or female. As to why it's all right for married women on here it's because most men don't give a toss about their marital status
I don’t think it’s this simple. Thinking back to the post from the married woman the other day. The hypocrisy was clear and many of the same commenters who vilified married men in other threads were fine with her cheating!
This is so true….."
That one surprised me…she basically said he’s a good guy but that she was just greedy…if a guy said that he’d be shot down in flames and even the women seemed to have no problem with it. And the same women who’ve commented on other threads from married men calling them all the names under the sun |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"So I’m here as a married man, in a dead relationship (long and complicated story). Ideally looking to meet someone likeminded or who doesn’t have an issue with meeting married people.
I have had several comments from other fabbers. Some positive but mostly negative..
Am I the only married man on here looking to meet someone for a discreet affair?
Why is it acceptable for married women but not men or be on Fab?
Would you meet a married man for a discreet relationship?
Thoughts and comments appreciated…
I won't meet with attached folk whether male or female. As to why it's all right for married women on here it's because most men don't give a toss about their marital status
I don’t think it’s this simple. Thinking back to the post from the married woman the other day. The hypocrisy was clear and many of the same commenters who vilified married men in other threads were fine with her cheating!
This is so true…..
That one surprised me…she basically said he’s a good guy but that she was just greedy…if a guy said that he’d be shot down in flames and even the women seemed to have no problem with it. And the same women who’ve commented on other threads from married men calling them all the names under the sun "
Yep the good old fab hypocrisy you see it time and time again on here. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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And op it's quite simple some people will meet you some won't. Some will claim publicly they won't meet married and stay true to their word ,others say it but it depends on whether they find you attractive or not I've seen plenty who say they don't yet they do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I’m here as a married man, in a dead relationship (long and complicated story). Ideally looking to meet someone likeminded or who doesn’t have an issue with meeting married people.
I have had several comments from other fabbers. Some positive but mostly negative..
Am I the only married man on here looking to meet someone for a discreet affair?
Why is it acceptable for married women but not men or be on Fab?
Would you meet a married man for a discreet relationship?
Thoughts and comments appreciated…
I won't meet with attached folk whether male or female. As to why it's all right for married women on here it's because most men don't give a toss about their marital status
I don’t think it’s this simple. Thinking back to the post from the married woman the other day. The hypocrisy was clear and many of the same commenters who vilified married men in other threads were fine with her cheating!
This is so true…..
That one surprised me…she basically said he’s a good guy but that she was just greedy…if a guy said that he’d be shot down in flames and even the women seemed to have no problem with it. And the same women who’ve commented on other threads from married men calling them all the names under the sun "
There was a massive double standard on that post.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op - I have met marrried men in the past, but I won’t do it anymore. Whilst I know that it’s rarely as simple as it seems, it’s not something I want to do, from an ethical standpoint. |
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We're not looking to meet single men, but in principle I don't think we would judge others just for being married. I think there can be legitimate reasons for married people being here.
Being an arsehole is a much bigger problem than being married. If they were having an affair just because they were an arsehole then I think we wouldn't be attracted to them anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I’m here as a married man, in a dead relationship (long and complicated story). Ideally looking to meet someone likeminded or who doesn’t have an issue with meeting married people.
I have had several comments from other fabbers. Some positive but mostly negative..
Am I the only married man on here looking to meet someone for a discreet affair?
Why is it acceptable for married women but not men or be on Fab?
Would you meet a married man for a discreet relationship?
Thoughts and comments appreciated…
I won't meet with attached folk whether male or female. As to why it's all right for married women on here it's because most men don't give a toss about their marital status
I don’t think it’s this simple. Thinking back to the post from the married woman the other day. The hypocrisy was clear and many of the same commenters who vilified married men in other threads were fine with her cheating!
This is so true…..
That one surprised me…she basically said he’s a good guy but that she was just greedy…if a guy said that he’d be shot down in flames and even the women seemed to have no problem with it. And the same women who’ve commented on other threads from married men calling them all the names under the sun "
This is one attitude that's still accepted, that it's always the man's fault.
Man cheats, he's bad.
Woman cheats, Man must be bad. There has to be a reason for a Woman to cheat, right?.
I appreciate not all feel this way, though it is far more readily accepted in general. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We won't meet those sneaking around because we don't want the drama that can follow.
Not our Circus, not our monkey.
I appreciate there can be understandable reasons but we don't know if they're genuine reasons or more lies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely not. If you can lie to the person you love and are married to, why would I trust you?"
This. Nor do we want to risk the partner getting in touch with us when they get caught. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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Op it doesn't matter to me if someone's male or female ,I'd feel the same about them cheating ie it's not for me & they wouldn't be someone I'd meet.I'm half a couple and we've turned down couples where she's been married to someone else and paired up with a fb for meets.
Men outnumber women massively here,so many men won't criticise a married women openly as it would decrease their chances with her or other married women.Some even get off on meeting married women as they see it as getting one over on the unsuspecting hubby.
Lots of men and women are here behind someone's back ,but it's nearly almost always men who start these type of threads and draw attention to themselves.Thats why they tend to get slated more,plus alot of them blame their wives for the lack of sex which gets people's backs up too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Op it doesn't matter to me if someone's male or female ,I'd feel the same about them cheating ie it's not for me & they wouldn't be someone I'd meet.I'm half a couple and we've turned down couples where she's been married to someone else and paired up with a fb for meets.
Men outnumber women massively here,so many men won't criticise a married women openly as it would decrease their chances with her or other married women.Some even get off on meeting married women as they see it as getting one over on the unsuspecting hubby.
**Lots of men and women are here behind someone's back ,but it's nearly almost always men who start these type of threads and draw attention to themselves.Thats why they tend to get slated more,plus alot of them blame their wives for the lack of sex which gets people's backs up too. **"
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Yeah I have. Totally depends on their situation, why they’re here etc etc. Depends on an awful lot! Part of me prefers it. Always been less drama and hassle with married ones in my personal experience on here x |
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"Yeah I have. Totally depends on their situation, why they’re here etc etc. Depends on an awful lot! Part of me prefers it. Always been less drama and hassle with married ones in my personal experience on here x "
Thing that puts me off more than anything is if they can only meet in the daytime. That would be a no for me. |
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"Yeah I have. Totally depends on their situation, why they’re here etc etc. Depends on an awful lot! Part of me prefers it. Always been less drama and hassle with married ones in my personal experience on here x
Thing that puts me off more than anything is if they can only meet in the daytime. That would be a no for me. "
I could only meet at night I work during the day |
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"Yeah I have. Totally depends on their situation, why they’re here etc etc. Depends on an awful lot! Part of me prefers it. Always been less drama and hassle with married ones in my personal experience on here x
Thing that puts me off more than anything is if they can only meet in the daytime. That would be a no for me. "
And can’t do overnight or go to a club |
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"Yeah I have. Totally depends on their situation, why they’re here etc etc. Depends on an awful lot! Part of me prefers it. Always been less drama and hassle with married ones in my personal experience on here x
Thing that puts me off more than anything is if they can only meet in the daytime. That would be a no for me.
And can’t do overnight or go to a club"
I don’t like clubs but yeah if they can’t do overnight too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah I have. Totally depends on their situation, why they’re here etc etc. Depends on an awful lot! Part of me prefers it. Always been less drama and hassle with married ones in my personal experience on here x
Thing that puts me off more than anything is if they can only meet in the daytime. That would be a no for me. "
As a couple, that's often our best opportunity. |
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"Yeah I have. Totally depends on their situation, why they’re here etc etc. Depends on an awful lot! Part of me prefers it. Always been less drama and hassle with married ones in my personal experience on here x
Thing that puts me off more than anything is if they can only meet in the daytime. That would be a no for me.
As a couple, that's often our best opportunity. "
Yeah I get that. Especially if you have kids etc. It’s just not for me. x |
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"I not meet married guys knowingly
For a couple off reasons
1 cheating is wrong
But the big reason is 2
2 I don’t need the unwanted hassle it brings
As they other hafe always blames the side peace when it’s not the side peace fault
I don’t need someone’s wife turning up at my door shouting and letting the street know what I been up to
Or what I get up two
So it’s best to just avoid that all together "
This with bells on!
Swinging is meant to be about open honest fun NOT cheating.
I would never meet a cheating man or woman. Been cheated on myself and it’s a despicable thing to do to someone.
Plus as a woman living alone but also when I started on fab I had a young daughter to consider (she’s now an adult) I really did not need a hurt, angry spouse on my doorstep shouting my business to my neighbours.
There are other sites and apps for cheats to use I don’t personally think fab is the right place for it.
Personally again - if your relationship/marriage is dead do the mature and sensible thing and leave! And yes it really is that simple. |
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" Why is it acceptable for married women but not men or be on Fab?
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Cheating married women are a popular kink
Cheating married men are not
Hothusbands with full consent are quite popular, being able to borrow him is  |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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" Why is it acceptable for married women but not men or be on Fab?
Cheating married women are a popular kink
Cheating married men are not
Hothusbands with full consent are quite popular, being able to borrow him is "
Ohh im a kink ...who knew  |
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Not acceptable from either sex is my point of view, if you have permission then it's a different story but if your relationship is dead in the water then break it off first instead of cheating.
I lost everything when I broke up with my ex and I had it all but I'd rather have done that than cheat on her because I couldn't handle the guilt of doing things behind her back |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm in a similar situation,in my case my wife knows I'm on here and is happy for me to get it elsewhere. Though I've encountered several people that refuse to have anything to do with me because they think I'm cheating on my wife. Very frustrating."
you are a rarity being honest about it but i still wouldnt
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I not meet married guys knowingly
For a couple off reasons
1 cheating is wrong
But the big reason is 2
2 I don’t need the unwanted hassle it brings
As they other hafe always blames the side peace when it’s not the side peace fault
I don’t need someone’s wife turning up at my door shouting and letting the street know what I been up to
Or what I get up two
So it’s best to just avoid that all together
This with bells on!
Swinging is meant to be about open honest fun NOT cheating.
I would never meet a cheating man or woman. Been cheated on myself and it’s a despicable thing to do to someone.
Plus as a woman living alone but also when I started on fab I had a young daughter to consider (she’s now an adult) I really did not need a hurt, angry spouse on my doorstep shouting my business to my neighbours.
There are other sites and apps for cheats to use I don’t personally think fab is the right place for it.
Personally again - if your relationship/marriage is dead do the mature and sensible thing and leave! And yes it really is that simple. "
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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago
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"So I’m here as a married man, in a dead relationship (long and complicated story). Ideally looking to meet someone likeminded or who doesn’t have an issue with meeting married people.
I have had several comments from other fabbers. Some positive but mostly negative..
Am I the only married man on here looking to meet someone for a discreet affair?
Why is it acceptable for married women but not men or be on Fab?
Would you meet a married man for a discreet relationship?
Thoughts and comments appreciated… "
Married men and women who cheat is wrong , if it's a dead end relationship sort it out and separate .talk better for children if there is any and better for your mental health sorry my option, |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think anyone getting involved with a married person knowingly, male or female, is just as bad as the person doing the cheating"
I wouldn’t say just as bad, but I still find it morally wrong! I couldn’t knowingly be involved in hurting another person! |
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"I think anyone getting involved with a married person knowingly, male or female, is just as bad as the person doing the cheating
I wouldn’t say just as bad, but I still find it morally wrong! I couldn’t knowingly be involved in hurting another person! "
Yes this too, but there are plenty of single people out there, so no excuses as far as i'm concerned
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