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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Fabbers we're in a dilemma. We have a great sex life, and herself is bisexual, which we're both comfortable with. We both think that my Mrs friend is bisexual also. Our question is, What's the best way of knowing if my Mrs friend, actually is bisexual, without offending her?? Thanks... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fabbers we're in a dilemma. We have a great sex life, and herself is bisexual, which we're both comfortable with. We both think that my Mrs friend is bisexual also. Our question is, What's the best way of knowing if my Mrs friend, actually is bisexual, without offending her?? Thanks..."
Why? Do you want to fuck her? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are having the idea of a night out, few drinks, and sus that way.
is it just me that feels this sounds creepy. "
Yep. This is exactly why Swingers get a bad name. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We need to be careful because both my Mrs and her friend are very good friends, and our kids are also, so gotta try say the right thing, without hurting feelings  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd not try that. Simple to drop that the missus is bi in a sober conversation.
This way you'll get an honest answer, if she is and even wants you to know in the first place.
Also don't try the have drinks and sus her out game. That could be an epic fail. She might be and not want yous to know or even be remotely interested in your wife. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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Have your Mrs take her into the toilets and throw her knickers at her.
If she picks em up and gives them a good sniff you’re onto a winner.
If she looks at your Mrs in disgust tell her it was just a game and to lighten up ffs! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd not try that. Simple to drop that the missus is bi in a sober conversation.
This way you'll get an honest answer, if she is and even wants you to know in the first place.
Also don't try the have drinks and sus her out game. That could be an epic fail. She might be and not want yous to know or even be remotely interested in your wife."
Me and my wife bith honestly feel, that her friend is actually interested, it's how we can sus the situation we're anxious to find out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd not try that. Simple to drop that the missus is bi in a sober conversation.
This way you'll get an honest answer, if she is and even wants you to know in the first place.
Also don't try the have drinks and sus her out game. That could be an epic fail. She might be and not want yous to know or even be remotely interested in your wife.
Me and my wife bith honestly feel, that her friend is actually interested, it's how we can sus the situation we're anxious to find out "
Does she know that you are Swingers?
What makes you think that she's interested? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You don’t.
If she wants you to know, she’ll tell you.
This with bells and brass knobs on."
We don't think she 'd tell us, because she's a married woman herself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We are having the idea of a night out, few drinks, and sus that way."
As a rule we don't mix swinging with anyone we know - you can risk friendships but making an unwanted advance - it's easy to misread a situation especially after a few drinks |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Fabbers we're in a dilemma. We have a great sex life, and herself is bisexual, which we're both comfortable with. We both think that my Mrs friend is bisexual also. Our question is, What's the best way of knowing if my Mrs friend, actually is bisexual, without offending her?? Thanks...
Why? Do you want to fuck her? "
Yes, she's attractive |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This has got car crash written all over it.
There’s literally hundreds of single women out there who’d happily play with a couple. Why risk a friendship for something that you may be completely misreading. |
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"I'd not try that. Simple to drop that the missus is bi in a sober conversation.
This way you'll get an honest answer, if she is and even wants you to know in the first place.
Also don't try the have drinks and sus her out game. That could be an epic fail. She might be and not want yous to know or even be remotely interested in your wife.
Me and my wife bith honestly feel, that her friend is actually interested, it's how we can sus the situation we're anxious to find out "
Maybe the Mrs might have a conversation about how liberating it is to accept herself as bi, and see if the friend responds?
I'm not even sure about that, but it's less bad than the other stuff. |
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"This has got car crash written all over it.
There’s literally hundreds of single women out there who’d happily play with a couple. Why risk a friendship for something that you may be completely misreading. "
Yup |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd not try that. Simple to drop that the missus is bi in a sober conversation.
This way you'll get an honest answer, if she is and even wants you to know in the first place.
Also don't try the have drinks and sus her out game. That could be an epic fail. She might be and not want yous to know or even be remotely interested in your wife.
Me and my wife bith honestly feel, that her friend is actually interested, it's how we can sus the situation we're anxious to find out
Does she know that you are Swingers?
What makes you think that she's interested?"
NO..... She has no idea we're swingers.
I caught her a few times looking up and down my Mrs, so we're simply guessing she has bi tendencies |
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"I'd not try that. Simple to drop that the missus is bi in a sober conversation.
This way you'll get an honest answer, if she is and even wants you to know in the first place.
Also don't try the have drinks and sus her out game. That could be an epic fail. She might be and not want yous to know or even be remotely interested in your wife.
Me and my wife bith honestly feel, that her friend is actually interested, it's how we can sus the situation we're anxious to find out
Does she know that you are Swingers?
What makes you think that she's interested?
NO..... She has no idea we're swingers.
I caught her a few times looking up and down my Mrs, so we're simply guessing she has bi tendencies "
Maybe she liked her outfit? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd not try that. Simple to drop that the missus is bi in a sober conversation.
This way you'll get an honest answer, if she is and even wants you to know in the first place.
Also don't try the have drinks and sus her out game. That could be an epic fail. She might be and not want yous to know or even be remotely interested in your wife.
Me and my wife bith honestly feel, that her friend is actually interested, it's how we can sus the situation we're anxious to find out
Does she know that you are Swingers?
What makes you think that she's interested?
NO..... She has no idea we're swingers.
I caught her a few times looking up and down my Mrs, so we're simply guessing she has bi tendencies "
She might have just liked her dress!
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"I'd not try that. Simple to drop that the missus is bi in a sober conversation.
This way you'll get an honest answer, if she is and even wants you to know in the first place.
Also don't try the have drinks and sus her out game. That could be an epic fail. She might be and not want yous to know or even be remotely interested in your wife.
Me and my wife bith honestly feel, that her friend is actually interested, it's how we can sus the situation we're anxious to find out
Does she know that you are Swingers?
What makes you think that she's interested?
NO..... She has no idea we're swingers.
I caught her a few times looking up and down my Mrs, so we're simply guessing she has bi tendencies "
Is this genuinely what you're going on? |
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"Fabbers we're in a dilemma. We have a great sex life, and herself is bisexual, which we're both comfortable with. We both think that my Mrs friend is bisexual also. Our question is, What's the best way of knowing if my Mrs friend, actually is bisexual, without offending her?? Thanks..."
Even if she’s bi she might not be interested in you guys as a threesome. Not all people fancy all other people. Don’t push for confirmation, it will seem weird and stalkerish and like you are grooming her. If she’s interested enough she’ll reach out when she’s ready. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"I caught her a few times looking up and down my Mrs, so we're simply guessing she has bi tendencies "
And if shes just looking at your wife in a judgey manner?
Go for it man, nothing ventured nothing gained  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This has got car crash written all over it.
There’s literally hundreds of single women out there who’d happily play with a couple. Why risk a friendship for something that you may be completely misreading.
Yup"
Fair point, she's an extremely private woman, so again we're guessing she's bi.
Fabbers we're not looking for criticism, we're asking what's the best way for us to find out if she's bi or straight |
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"This has got car crash written all over it.
There’s literally hundreds of single women out there who’d happily play with a couple. Why risk a friendship for something that you may be completely misreading.
Yup
Fair point, she's an extremely private woman, so again we're guessing she's bi.
Fabbers we're not looking for criticism, we're asking what's the best way for us to find out if she's bi or straight "
So you don't want to know that this could be a giant risk to your friendship? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This has got car crash written all over it.
There’s literally hundreds of single women out there who’d happily play with a couple. Why risk a friendship for something that you may be completely misreading.
Yup
Fair point, she's an extremely private woman, so again we're guessing she's bi.
Fabbers we're not looking for criticism, we're asking what's the best way for us to find out if she's bi or straight "
Why do you need to know? |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
"Fabbers we're in a dilemma. We have a great sex life, and herself is bisexual, which we're both comfortable with. We both think that my Mrs friend is bisexual also. Our question is, What's the best way of knowing if my Mrs friend, actually is bisexual, without offending her?? Thanks..."
Why does it matter?
Unless you are hoping to play with her but discussing if she's bi and then asking her to join you in an FFM if she is has a whole heap of potential to upset and lose a friendship |
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"This has got car crash written all over it.
There’s literally hundreds of single women out there who’d happily play with a couple. Why risk a friendship for something that you may be completely misreading.
Yup
Fair point, she's an extremely private woman, so again we're guessing she's bi.
Fabbers we're not looking for criticism, we're asking what's the best way for us to find out if she's bi or straight "
Ask her. She might be bi but not a swinger tho. Be prepared for that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd not try that. Simple to drop that the missus is bi in a sober conversation.
This way you'll get an honest answer, if she is and even wants you to know in the first place.
Also don't try the have drinks and sus her out game. That could be an epic fail. She might be and not want yous to know or even be remotely interested in your wife.
Me and my wife bith honestly feel, that her friend is actually interested, it's how we can sus the situation we're anxious to find out
Does she know that you are Swingers?
What makes you think that she's interested?
NO..... She has no idea we're swingers.
I caught her a few times looking up and down my Mrs, so we're simply guessing she has bi tendencies "
Yes car crash written all over it.
Leave this situation well alone.
Looking someone up and down make you guess she has bi tendencies is hilarious.
I look women up and down all the time.
It doesn't mean I want to sleep with them, it's human nature outfit good or bad etc.
That's like saying make a vision board and it'll come true. Guess what Tom Hardy still isn't my husband.
Stick to other swingers who you know are bi its on their profile here so use wont have to guess. Keep your friends and person life separate from your sex life. |
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By *batMan
over a year ago
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" If she’s interested enough she’ll reach out when she’s ready. "
I agree with what you've said. I think pursuing this as a possible threesome has "car crash" written all over it. I think people you swing with can become friends, but you shouldn't expect your friends to become swingers with you.
But ...
With your last sentence, what if she's said to herself, "If they are interested enough, they'll reach out when they are ready."
Somebody has to go first! (although in this instance, I don't think any of them should go first!)
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
Wish I'd read the whole post before commenting, I'm pretty sure that while getting her d*unk and them suggesting she's bi and inviting her to an FFM because she may or msybmot have checked your wife out might work, but Ibthonk the car crash scenario everyone else has mentioned is more likely!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This has got car crash written all over it.
There’s literally hundreds of single women out there who’d happily play with a couple. Why risk a friendship for something that you may be completely misreading.
Yup
Fair point, she's an extremely private woman, so again we're guessing she's bi.
Fabbers we're not looking for criticism, we're asking what's the best way for us to find out if she's bi or straight
Why do you need to know?"
1st of all, she's a fine woman, and I'd like to see my Mrs and her together. It's when we talk to her, it's like there's a want in her eyes |
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"This has got car crash written all over it.
There’s literally hundreds of single women out there who’d happily play with a couple. Why risk a friendship for something that you may be completely misreading.
Yup
Fair point, she's an extremely private woman, so again we're guessing she's bi.
Fabbers we're not looking for criticism, we're asking what's the best way for us to find out if she's bi or straight
Why do you need to know?
1st of all, she's a fine woman, and I'd like to see my Mrs and her together. It's when we talk to her, it's like there's a want in her eyes "
Is this a fantasy scene for you? Are you maybe projecting your fantasy on to her?
This is a genuine query not criticism. |
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Stick an add in the local paper shop window !?
Local couple looking for bi female playmate, we really fancy (insert name here). Wondering if you are up for it? Leave sealed “yes” or “no” in an envelope with newsagent and we will get back asap!
Job done
Can’t fail
Nobody will get burned at all … will they?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Stick an add in the local paper shop window !?
Local couple looking for bi female playmate, we really fancy (insert name here). Wondering if you are up for it? Leave sealed “yes” or “no” in an envelope with newsagent and we will get back asap!
Job done
Can’t fail
Nobody will get burned at all … will they? "
Not a chance of finding out that way |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This has got car crash written all over it.
There’s literally hundreds of single women out there who’d happily play with a couple. Why risk a friendship for something that you may be completely misreading.
Yup
Fair point, she's an extremely private woman, so again we're guessing she's bi.
Fabbers we're not looking for criticism, we're asking what's the best way for us to find out if she's bi or straight
Why do you need to know?
1st of all, she's a fine woman, and I'd like to see my Mrs and her together. It's when we talk to her, it's like there's a want in her eyes
Is this a fantasy scene for you? Are you maybe projecting your fantasy on to her?
This is a genuine query not criticism. "
Hand on heart, not a fantasy at all. We basically are try to find out the best way of sussing is my Mrs friend is bi, simple as that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don’t say anything. If she wants you to know, she’ll tell you. "
Fabbers are ye missing our topic. We are asking ppl for an honest opinion as to what we could flirt with to her, to hear her reaction |
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"Don’t say anything. If she wants you to know, she’ll tell you.
Fabbers are ye missing our topic. We are asking ppl for an honest opinion as to what we could flirt with to her, to hear her reaction "
* Ask
* Have your partner talk about how liberating it is to accept her bisexuality and allow the friend space to say her own stuff
* Alcohol not wise in this instance |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd leave it be
If she is bi and wants you to know she would have told you I'd say .
I don't know what you can do or say that won't make it totally awkward if she's not. "
We can't see her coming out and telling us if she's bi, because she's a married woman. So we think we've to sus her, and see if she'll open up |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don’t say anything. If she wants you to know, she’ll tell you.
Fabbers are ye missing our topic. We are asking ppl for an honest opinion as to what we could flirt with to her, to hear her reaction "
Invite her round to your house. Mrs wears a sexy dress and lingerie, stockings. You wait upstairs. Mrs tells her friend how sexy she is. Mrs pulls her dress up and asks her if she likes her stockings.
Friend says they are very sexy can she have a feel.
Mrs gets her tits out, friend licks them.
Mrs snogs her friend.
You walk in with your cock out and watch them.
Mrs asks friend if she is bi. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don’t say anything. If she wants you to know, she’ll tell you.
Fabbers are ye missing our topic. We are asking ppl for an honest opinion as to what we could flirt with to her, to hear her reaction
* Ask
* Have your partner talk about how liberating it is to accept her bisexuality and allow the friend space to say her own stuff
* Alcohol not wise in this instance "
She had no idea my Mrs is bi sexual, my Mrs has no idea if her friend is, hense we're finding the right conversation to talk about such |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Oh god, did I really just read that? 
What if she is Bi but doesn't want you to know? You pushing to find out could make her feel embarrassed, anxious or angry that her private life has been violated. You've already said she's a very private woman.
What if she is but isn't a swinger or interested in you guys like that or anything to do with the swinging world? You prepared to lose a friendship and possibly your kids lose their friends?
She may not be comfortable with the fact her friends have pushed for information on her that is frankly , none of their business. She may not be comfortable being around you after you've propositioned her.
What if she's not Bi, not a swinger, not in to your wife at all like that and finds the whole things disgusting?
Then you lose a friendship just because you wanted to know something that's none of your business unless that person decides they want to tell you.
Leave it alone 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it worth risking the awkwardness if it doesn't go as you anticipate?
We see your point, yer we'd like to know either way"
. I would suggest that if she wants you to know “either way” she would drop a hint of some sort. You may not get to know what you want to know. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Don’t say anything. If she wants you to know, she’ll tell you.
Fabbers are ye missing our topic. We are asking ppl for an honest opinion as to what we could flirt with to her, to hear her reaction "
You want a blow by blow account of how to seduce a woman? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don’t say anything. If she wants you to know, she’ll tell you.
Fabbers are ye missing our topic. We are asking ppl for an honest opinion as to what we could flirt with to her, to hear her reaction
Invite her round to your house. Mrs wears a sexy dress and lingerie, stockings. You wait upstairs. Mrs tells her friend how sexy she is. Mrs pulls her dress up and asks her if she likes her stockings.
Friend says they are very sexy can she have a feel.
Mrs gets her tits out, friend licks them.
Mrs snogs her friend.
You walk in with your cock out and watch them.
Mrs asks friend if she is bi."
Ideal scenario  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don’t say anything. If she wants you to know, she’ll tell you.
Fabbers are ye missing our topic. We are asking ppl for an honest opinion as to what we could flirt with to her, to hear her reaction
You want a blow by blow account of how to seduce a woman?"
Basically yes |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd leave it be
If she is bi and wants you to know she would have told you I'd say .
I don't know what you can do or say that won't make it totally awkward if she's not.
We can't see her coming out and telling us if she's bi, because she's a married woman. So we think we've to sus her, and see if she'll open up"
Do you not realise how creepy this reads? |
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"Don’t say anything. If she wants you to know, she’ll tell you.
Fabbers are ye missing our topic. We are asking ppl for an honest opinion as to what we could flirt with to her, to hear her reaction
* Ask
* Have your partner talk about how liberating it is to accept her bisexuality and allow the friend space to say her own stuff
* Alcohol not wise in this instance
She had no idea my Mrs is bi sexual, my Mrs has no idea if her friend is, hense we're finding the right conversation to talk about such "
I've made suggestions as to the least awkward way to do it
There's no magic miracle flirting boozy situation where it'll all be fine |
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"Don’t say anything. If she wants you to know, she’ll tell you.
Fabbers are ye missing our topic. We are asking ppl for an honest opinion as to what we could flirt with to her, to hear her reaction
You want a blow by blow account of how to seduce a woman?
Basically yes"
1. Don't
2. Do
3. It |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
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"I'd leave it be
If she is bi and wants you to know she would have told you I'd say .
I don't know what you can do or say that won't make it totally awkward if she's not.
We can't see her coming out and telling us if she's bi, because she's a married woman. So we think we've to sus her, and see if she'll open up"
Hang on, she's married?
So not only do you want to get her d*unk, see if she's bisexual because she may have checked the Mrs out, and seduce her. You also expect her to cheat on her husband? |
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"I'd leave it be
If she is bi and wants you to know she would have told you I'd say .
I don't know what you can do or say that won't make it totally awkward if she's not.
We can't see her coming out and telling us if she's bi, because she's a married woman. So we think we've to sus her, and see if she'll open up
Hang on, she's married?
So not only do you want to get her d*unk, see if she's bisexual because she may have checked the Mrs out, and seduce her. You also expect her to cheat on her husband?"
Yes, that makes it all worse |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
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"I'd leave it be
If she is bi and wants you to know she would have told you I'd say .
I don't know what you can do or say that won't make it totally awkward if she's not.
We can't see her coming out and telling us if she's bi, because she's a married woman. So we think we've to sus her, and see if she'll open up
Hang on, she's married?
So not only do you want to get her d*unk, see if she's bisexual because she may have checked the Mrs out, and seduce her. You also expect her to cheat on her husband?
Yes, that makes it all worse"
There are so many huge red flags in there around consent aren't there |
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"Fabbers we're in a dilemma. We have a great sex life, and herself is bisexual, which we're both comfortable with. We both think that my Mrs friend is bisexual also. Our question is, What's the best way of knowing if my Mrs friend, actually is bisexual, without offending her?? Thanks..."
Your wife's mate would of let her know already if she saw your wife as a potential playmate .... the fact she hasn't I would take as she's happy being just friends NOT play mates .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don’t say anything. If she wants you to know, she’ll tell you.
Fabbers are ye missing our topic. We are asking ppl for an honest opinion as to what we could flirt with to her, to hear her reaction "
No body is missing the point.
Everyone is saying leave well alone.
What does it matter if she's bi.
She's a private person. You don't need to know this.
Your wife is comfortable with being bi and a swinger.
You've said her friend is a very private person. You don't need to flirt. To hear her reaction.
Plain and simple if your wife wants to know all she had to do is mention she's bi and that's it. If her friend reacts and sailys she is you know she's bi.
This doesn't mean anything would happen.
I'd leave this all well alone and keep a good friendship.
As you've been giving some great advice here but seem to be ignoring it.
She's very private even if she is bi it's her business no-one else's. There's some things people won't discuss with some friends no matter how close they are. |
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over a year ago
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"Fabbers we're in a dilemma. We have a great sex life, and herself is bisexual, which we're both comfortable with. We both think that my Mrs friend is bisexual also. Our question is, What's the best way of knowing if my Mrs friend, actually is bisexual, without offending her?? Thanks...
Your wife's mate would of let her know already if she saw your wife as a potential playmate .... the fact she hasn't I would take as she's happy being just friends NOT play mates .... "
We're both after reading all responses so we've decided it's best to drop the idea, as Mrs values their friendship too much. Cheers for input fabbers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmmmm
I’m bisexual and none of my mates know , not even my best mate I’ve known forever .
I don’t agree with the ‘ if she wants to, she will let you know ‘ responses . I wouldn’t .
I don’t think it’s massively creepy either , not sure how you approach it though.
I think go out for a drink, mention something casual , see how she responds and then you can then either just leave it ( friendship intact ) or approach the subject further |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don’t say anything. If she wants you to know, she’ll tell you.
Fabbers are ye missing our topic. We are asking ppl for an honest opinion as to what we could flirt with to her, to hear her reaction
No body is missing the point.
Everyone is saying leave well alone.
What does it matter if she's bi.
She's a private person. You don't need to know this.
Your wife is comfortable with being bi and a swinger.
You've said her friend is a very private person. You don't need to flirt. To hear her reaction.
Plain and simple if your wife wants to know all she had to do is mention she's bi and that's it. If her friend reacts and sailys she is you know she's bi.
This doesn't mean anything would happen.
I'd leave this all well alone and keep a good friendship.
As you've been giving some great advice here but seem to be ignoring it.
She's very private even if she is bi it's her business no-one else's. There's some things people won't discuss with some friends no matter how close they are."
That's the best advice so far, so we're dropping the idea, as Mrs values their friendship too much. Thanks.... |
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"Don’t say anything. If she wants you to know, she’ll tell you.
Fabbers are ye missing our topic. We are asking ppl for an honest opinion as to what we could flirt with to her, to hear her reaction
No body is missing the point.
Everyone is saying leave well alone.
What does it matter if she's bi.
She's a private person. You don't need to know this.
Your wife is comfortable with being bi and a swinger.
You've said her friend is a very private person. You don't need to flirt. To hear her reaction.
Plain and simple if your wife wants to know all she had to do is mention she's bi and that's it. If her friend reacts and sailys she is you know she's bi.
This doesn't mean anything would happen.
I'd leave this all well alone and keep a good friendship.
As you've been giving some great advice here but seem to be ignoring it.
She's very private even if she is bi it's her business no-one else's. There's some things people won't discuss with some friends no matter how close they are.
That's the best advice so far, so we're dropping the idea, as Mrs values their friendship too much. Thanks...."
Glad you've listened to your Auntie Wendi lol.
Keep a friendship you'll make friends with other swingers who are bi and you can plat with.
Don't cross your personal and swinging life. It can get very messy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don’t say anything. If she wants you to know, she’ll tell you.
Fabbers are ye missing our topic. We are asking ppl for an honest opinion as to what we could flirt with to her, to hear her reaction
No body is missing the point.
Everyone is saying leave well alone.
What does it matter if she's bi.
She's a private person. You don't need to know this.
Your wife is comfortable with being bi and a swinger.
You've said her friend is a very private person. You don't need to flirt. To hear her reaction.
Plain and simple if your wife wants to know all she had to do is mention she's bi and that's it. If her friend reacts and sailys she is you know she's bi.
This doesn't mean anything would happen.
I'd leave this all well alone and keep a good friendship.
As you've been giving some great advice here but seem to be ignoring it.
She's very private even if she is bi it's her business no-one else's. There's some things people won't discuss with some friends no matter how close they are.
That's the best advice so far, so we're dropping the idea, as Mrs values their friendship too much. Thanks....
Glad you've listened to your Auntie Wendi lol.
Keep a friendship you'll make friends with other swingers who are bi and you can plat with.
Don't cross your personal and swinging life. It can get very messy."
Haha thank you kindly Auntie Wendy  |
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I think the question you should ask yourself, is would you be happy for a couple to try to find out if your wife was interested in the guy and prepared to have a threesome without you present? It's no different. |
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"Don’t say anything. If she wants you to know, she’ll tell you.
Fabbers are ye missing our topic. We are asking ppl for an honest opinion as to what we could flirt with to her, to hear her reaction "
Read the room. Or in this case, read the comments.
Personally, this sounds like a fantasy from your imagination that you desperately want to make real.
The "signals" you're "reading" are nothing more than wishful thinking and your desperation is creating a reality from your imagination that isn't really there.
Two pence spent.
Winston
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don’t say anything. If she wants you to know, she’ll tell you.
Fabbers are ye missing our topic. We are asking ppl for an honest opinion as to what we could flirt with to her, to hear her reaction
Invite her round to your house. Mrs wears a sexy dress and lingerie, stockings. You wait upstairs. Mrs tells her friend how sexy she is. Mrs pulls her dress up and asks her if she likes her stockings.
Friend says they are very sexy can she have a feel.
Mrs gets her tits out, friend licks them.
Mrs snogs her friend.
You walk in with your cock out and watch them.
Mrs asks friend if she is bi.
Ideal scenario "
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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Best way to find out is to just ask her if ye feel ye really need to know . From what ye have said it sounds like ye are jumping to conclusions because it is what ye want.She looked the woman up and down a few times,she could have been admiring her dress sense or something equally innocent .She is meant to be a good friend and getting her on a night out and drinking to find out is a recipe for disaster.If you are real friends you would be able to ask her when she is sober as oppose to setting a scene in the hope it would lead to sex with her.I know if a friend did something like that to me I wouldn't consider them a friend and I'd be extremely pissed off with them.
Even if she is bi there is no guarantee she will want to play with either of ye. But it could completely ruin your friendship. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Don’t say anything. If she wants you to know, she’ll tell you.
Fabbers are ye missing our topic. We are asking ppl for an honest opinion as to what we could flirt with to her, to hear her reaction
You want a blow by blow account of how to seduce a woman?
Basically yes"
If you don't know by now you never will. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don’t say anything. If she wants you to know, she’ll tell you.
Fabbers are ye missing our topic. We are asking ppl for an honest opinion as to what we could flirt with to her, to hear her reaction
You want a blow by blow account of how to seduce a woman?
Basically yes
If you don't know by now you never will."
As stated earlier, we've decided NOT to pursue this, as the friendship means more, than any sexual fun. So thanks again  |
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"Don’t say anything. If she wants you to know, she’ll tell you.
Fabbers are ye missing our topic. We are asking ppl for an honest opinion as to what we could flirt with to her, to hear her reaction
Invite her round to your house. Mrs wears a sexy dress and lingerie, stockings. You wait upstairs. Mrs tells her friend how sexy she is. Mrs pulls her dress up and asks her if she likes her stockings.
Friend says they are very sexy can she have a feel.
Mrs gets her tits out, friend licks them.
Mrs snogs her friend.
You walk in with your cock out and watch them.
Mrs asks friend if she is bi."
What seedy sounding senario |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don’t say anything. If she wants you to know, she’ll tell you.
Fabbers are ye missing our topic. We are asking ppl for an honest opinion as to what we could flirt with to her, to hear her reaction
Invite her round to your house. Mrs wears a sexy dress and lingerie, stockings. You wait upstairs. Mrs tells her friend how sexy she is. Mrs pulls her dress up and asks her if she likes her stockings.
Friend says they are very sexy can she have a feel.
Mrs gets her tits out, friend licks them.
Mrs snogs her friend.
You walk in with your cock out and watch them.
Mrs asks friend if she is bi.
What seedy sounding senario "
You'd have candles and Lambrini too, right.  |
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"Fabbers we're in a dilemma. We have a great sex life, and herself is bisexual, which we're both comfortable with. We both think that my Mrs friend is bisexual also. Our question is, What's the best way of knowing if my Mrs friend, actually is bisexual, without offending her?? Thanks..."
I think if you can't work out how to broach the subject yourself, and you can't work out that you really shouldn't broach the subject.............you really shouldn't broach the subject.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"We need to be careful because both my Mrs and her friend are very good friends, and our kids are also, so gotta try say the right thing, without hurting feelings "
Why would you want to jeopardise that? Even if she is, what do you gain by getting her to disclose information she has not felt the need to share with you?
If you want something sexual, and she agrees, what happens when it ends? What happens if she rejects the offer?
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