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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bored of it
Pick guys that won't stand you up. Simples.  "
How are we supposed to know that we’re not mind readers of who are going to stand us up as to who aren’t |
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By *m3232Man
over a year ago
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Always amazes me that a sex site has a lot of wasters and fantasist. You should be on here looking for sex and when you get chance to meet you meet. If you want a wank turn on you porn and have a tug. |
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"Always amazes me that a sex site has a lot of wasters and fantasist. You should be on here looking for sex and when you get chance to meet you meet. If you want a wank turn on you porn and have a tug. "
I'm rarely on here looking for sex  |
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I think you have to know how to manage things not sure exactly how long you’ve been on fab or indeed any similar site inc vanilla sites.
I’ve found you have to be quite discerning, on here check veris are current and multiple and not circular possible fake ones. Chat here then a social - I arrange socials such that not only public but also somewhere I can easily get to/from under my own steam and if they don’t show it’s the kinda place I don’t feel it would look obvious and I’d be comfortable being there alone.
Then if no show, annoying, but not the end of the world and you can just get on with your day. Simple. But I’m a bit of an “old hand” fab wise |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ll lie you down.
Had the perfect opportunity to say you'd let her down and you blew it  "
I wanted to know what it feels like to be a White Knight.
It’s a bit shit really. Should have gone with your suggestion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think you have to know how to manage things not sure exactly how long you’ve been on fab or indeed any similar site inc vanilla sites.
I’ve found you have to be quite discerning, on here check veris are current and multiple and not circular possible fake ones. Chat here then a social - I arrange socials such that not only public but also somewhere I can easily get to/from under my own steam and if they don’t show it’s the kinda place I don’t feel it would look obvious and I’d be comfortable being there alone.
Then if no show, annoying, but not the end of the world and you can just get on with your day. Simple. But I’m a bit of an “old hand” fab wise "
 Never had a no show.
Social always first. No play or sex chat. They fuck off to have a wank over someone else.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ll lie you down.
Had the perfect opportunity to say you'd let her down and you blew it
I wanted to know what it feels like to be a White Knight.
It’s a bit shit really. Should have gone with your suggestion. "
It's alright, you can be my white knight  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ll lie you down.
Had the perfect opportunity to say you'd let her down and you blew it
Was that a guy joke?"
Just a joke in general to be fair. Standing you up and letting you down, though sound like opposites, actually mean the same thing in that you are left disappointed. Kinda like myself after having to explain my awful joke  |
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Are their lurkers who see a challenge here, thinking they could be #7, etc?
Some people like the chase and can have no intention of meeting.
Do you do social meets first OP? That might filter out a lot of wasters, as can not sharing many pics or sex talk, to feed wanking |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are their lurkers who see a challenge here, thinking they could be #7, etc?
Some people like the chase and can have no intention of meeting.
Do you do social meets first OP? That might filter out a lot of wasters, as can not sharing many pics or sex talk, to feed wanking"
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"Are their lurkers who see a challenge here, thinking they could be #7, etc?
Some people like the chase and can have no intention of meeting.
Do you do social meets first OP? That might filter out a lot of wasters, as can not sharing many pics or sex talk, to feed wanking"
Social first only. But think guys just want a quickie and piss off after arranging something |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is this by the guy who’s already stood you up 6 times it is this another guy?
It's men in the past off fab. But it's getting to a point where I might just stop meeting guys."
Women and couples have also been known to stand others up |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is this by the guy who’s already stood you up 6 times it is this another guy?
It's men in the past off fab. But it's getting to a point where I might just stop meeting guys."
Tbf, you said that after Mr 6 times. Maybe stop saying you ‘might’ stop meeting guys and just do it. Announcing it in the forums ain’t much use either, your intended audience probably don’t even know if it’s existence.
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"Is this by the guy who’s already stood you up 6 times it is this another guy?
It's men in the past off fab. But it's getting to a point where I might just stop meeting guys.
Tbf, you said that after Mr 6 times. Maybe stop saying you ‘might’ stop meeting guys and just do it. Announcing it in the forums ain’t much use either, your intended audience probably don’t even know if it’s existence.
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Then if it's irritating you that much, simply stop commenting on my thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is this by the guy who’s already stood you up 6 times it is this another guy?
It's men in the past off fab. But it's getting to a point where I might just stop meeting guys.
Tbf, you said that after Mr 6 times. Maybe stop saying you ‘might’ stop meeting guys and just do it. Announcing it in the forums ain’t much use either, your intended audience probably don’t even know if it’s existence.
Then if it's irritating you that much, simply stop commenting on my thread "
Where did I say it’s irritating me?
Simply offering a solution to your continuing issue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is this by the guy who’s already stood you up 6 times it is this another guy?
It's men in the past off fab. But it's getting to a point where I might just stop meeting guys.
Women and couples have also been known to stand others up "
This does happen in our area pal. Sure I spoke to u in lc when it was open and mentioned this lol |
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"Is this by the guy who’s already stood you up 6 times it is this another guy?
It's men in the past off fab. But it's getting to a point where I might just stop meeting guys.
Tbf, you said that after Mr 6 times. Maybe stop saying you ‘might’ stop meeting guys and just do it. Announcing it in the forums ain’t much use either, your intended audience probably don’t even know if it’s existence.
Then if it's irritating you that much, simply stop commenting on my thread
Where did I say it’s irritating me?
Simply offering a solution to your continuing issue. "
You really weren't helping but thank you anyways lol |
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"Are their lurkers who see a challenge here, thinking they could be #7, etc?
Some people like the chase and can have no intention of meeting.
Do you do social meets first OP? That might filter out a lot of wasters, as can not sharing many pics or sex talk, to feed wanking"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Bored of it
Pick guys that won't stand you up. Simples.
How are we supposed to know that we’re not mind readers of who are going to stand us up as to who aren’t "
Do some of that female intuition stuff.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is this by the guy who’s already stood you up 6 times it is this another guy?
It's men in the past off fab. But it's getting to a point where I might just stop meeting guys.
Women and couples have also been known to stand others up
This does happen in our area pal. Sure I spoke to u in lc when it was open and mentioned this lol "
You probably did |
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"Are their lurkers who see a challenge here, thinking they could be #7, etc?
Some people like the chase and can have no intention of meeting.
Do you do social meets first OP? That might filter out a lot of wasters, as can not sharing many pics or sex talk, to feed wanking
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Always best to start with a “get invited to join a random ‘school reunion’ while watching the 6N in a premier inn in West Brom”
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is this by the guy who’s already stood you up 6 times it is this another guy?
It's men in the past off fab. But it's getting to a point where I might just stop meeting guys.
Tbf, you said that after Mr 6 times. Maybe stop saying you ‘might’ stop meeting guys and just do it. Announcing it in the forums ain’t much use either, your intended audience probably don’t even know if it’s existence.
Then if it's irritating you that much, simply stop commenting on my thread
Where did I say it’s irritating me?
Simply offering a solution to your continuing issue.
You really weren't helping but thank you anyways lol"
What were you hoping for then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"American women, stay away from me, American women mama let me be,don't come hanging round my door, I don't wanna see your face no more I got more important things to do than spend my time growin' old with you"
"Lenny kravits"
Sorry couldn't resist |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Perhaps we should have a reliability rating. If I say I'll be there, I will be. Although I was 15 minutes late once. Went to the wrong hotel, same chain.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This thread baffles me, doesn't take a lot...lol
I mean i don't understand the intentions of men that do this but read so much about it
It's incredible how many profiles mention,,if you agree to meet please turn up..thats half the reason why were here right
Im baffledddd |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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I get bored chatting to men who trail off when they realise they aren't getting in my drawers easily.
Every time it happens my brain goes Oh, there goes another 4 hours of my life I won't get back.
I keep doing it though. |
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"Bored of it
Pick guys that won't stand you up. Simples. "
Difficult to gauge which one who will stand you up though. We're not mind readers, there's no real clues. I wish there was! I would want an auto block on timewasters  |
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"I get bored chatting to men who trail off when they realise they aren't getting in my drawers easily.
Every time it happens my brain goes Oh, there goes another 4 hours of my life I won't get back.
I keep doing it though."
Yes I get them men too. I now limit how many messages I send. |
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"This thread baffles me, doesn't take a lot...lol
I mean i don't understand the intentions of men that do this but read so much about it
It's incredible how many profiles mention,,if you agree to meet please turn up..thats half the reason why were here right
Im baffledddd"
I don't get it either, thought men wanted sex? Erm, maybe not after all or they meant to be inundated with too much choice?? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Are their lurkers who see a challenge here, thinking they could be #7, etc?
Some people like the chase and can have no intention of meeting.
Do you do social meets first OP? That might filter out a lot of wasters, as can not sharing many pics or sex talk, to feed wanking
Always best to start with a “get invited to join a random ‘school reunion’ while watching the 6N in a premier inn in West Brom”
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Who would possibly bundle a perfectly innocent young man into a swingers club after dragging him away from a hotel bar? 
Shocking, outrageous behaviour..... 
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"Bored of it
Pick guys that won't stand you up. Simples.
Difficult to gauge which one who will stand you up though. We're not mind readers, there's no real clues. I wish there was! I would want an auto block on timewasters "
Unless we decide to chat to men who sound desperate we can't know who will or won't turn up.
I had one man in all my time here not turn up, and I knew he wouldn't, even though he had lots of verifications, so I didn't bother getting dressed.
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"I get bored chatting to men who trail off when they realise they aren't getting in my drawers easily.
Every time it happens my brain goes Oh, there goes another 4 hours of my life I won't get back.
I keep doing it though.
Yes I get them men too. I now limit how many messages I send."
4 hours isn't that long, considering. I make it clear I don't meet at the drop of a hat at the beginning of a conversation, and don't do sex chat or pics. That might be why I've only had the one no show in 12 years, but I'm still bored with talking to men I think will probably stop chatting. I rarely bother with a conversation now.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This thread baffles me, doesn't take a lot...lol
I mean i don't understand the intentions of men that do this but read so much about it
It's incredible how many profiles mention,,if you agree to meet please turn up..thats half the reason why were here right
Im baffledddd
I don't get it either, thought men wanted sex? Erm, maybe not after all or they meant to be inundated with too much choice?? "
Speaking for myself, fuck yeah i do,,but for the percentage of guys on here then obviously not.
If theres to much choice then handle it properly instead of burning bridges,,,still baffled aha
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"I get bored chatting to men who trail off when they realise they aren't getting in my drawers easily.
Every time it happens my brain goes Oh, there goes another 4 hours of my life I won't get back.
I keep doing it though."
4hrs?  Jeez, I don’t want a relationship  |
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"Is this by the guy who’s already stood you up 6 times it is this another guy?
It's men in the past off fab. But it's getting to a point where I might just stop meeting guys."
You have to start meeting first with this track record… i read some posts saying a guy had stood you up 6 times - if thats true then more fool you after failure 2 he should have been binned. Xx. Lots of decent guys on here - who turn up. |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"I get bored chatting to men who trail off when they realise they aren't getting in my drawers easily.
Every time it happens my brain goes Oh, there goes another 4 hours of my life I won't get back.
I keep doing it though.
4hrs? Jeez, I don’t want a relationship "
I did hear you're a 3 minute hero |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get bored chatting to men who trail off when they realise they aren't getting in my drawers easily.
Every time it happens my brain goes Oh, there goes another 4 hours of my life I won't get back.
I keep doing it though.
4hrs? Jeez, I don’t want a relationship
I did hear you're a 3 minute hero "
Blimey, that was the luxury version then |
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"We’ve even sent a wink & messaged single fellas to join us but to no avail . Don’t know what’s going on ? "
Maybe it’s a night they are at home with their wives. You need to pick a night that they are working away. Lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Honestly, it's just you.
Reflect, adapt, improve.
There's some really good threads about getting meets, maybe you could review them, get some tips.
Attention seeking though, always a good start. That's like, my favourite trick.
Inbox is open ladies, wit woo |
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By (user no longer on site)
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OP you have started a few threads saying very similar. Maybe Try something different if this keeps happening. Are you always having video or phone chats with these men? Something like that obviously doesn't mean you won't get stood up but I do find it reduces your chances if you ask a lot more questions and get to know people a little bit before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Oh but hun, you're so gorgeous babes, they must be mad to stand you up, I'd never stand you up, it's their loss, you're beautiful, etc...
There, is that enough smoke blown up your arse? |
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"Oh but hun, you're so gorgeous babes, they must be mad to stand you up, I'd never stand you up, it's their loss, you're beautiful, etc...
There, is that enough smoke blown up your arse? "
Had me in the first half, not gonna lie |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is why I go to clubs
Yes i can see the appeal. They're already there so no ghosting is possible unless they disappear from the club? Are the men more genuine in clubsm"
It depends what you mean by genuine. Obviously if they are in a club they are there aren't they so not going to stand you up. |
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"This is why I go to clubs
Yes i can see the appeal. They're already there so no ghosting is possible unless they disappear from the club? Are the men more genuine in clubsm
It depends what you mean by genuine. Obviously if they are in a club they are there aren't they so not going to stand you up. "
Maybe the "American woman " thing is a turn off. |
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"This is why I go to clubs
Yes i can see the appeal. They're already there so no ghosting is possible unless they disappear from the club? Are the men more genuine in clubsm
It depends what you mean by genuine. Obviously if they are in a club they are there aren't they so not going to stand you up.
Maybe the "American woman " thing is a turn off. "
Why would it be? |
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"I think you have to know how to manage things not sure exactly how long you’ve been on fab or indeed any similar site inc vanilla sites.
I’ve found you have to be quite discerning, on here check veris are current and multiple and not circular possible fake ones. Chat here then a social - I arrange socials such that not only public but also somewhere I can easily get to/from under my own steam and if they don’t show it’s the kinda place I don’t feel it would look obvious and I’d be comfortable being there alone.
Then if no show, annoying, but not the end of the world and you can just get on with your day. Simple. But I’m a bit of an “old hand” fab wise
Never had a no show.
Social always first. No play or sex chat. They fuck off to have a wank over someone else. "
Always have a plan b, value yourself and your time always. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm sure some people get jitters or nerves and not just for a meet but maybe for trying to tell someone that, but as we are all on this site, I'd say we should all be open to say how we feel and as long as total piss hasn't been taken, roll with it
Sorry to hear its happened to you and hope if you are still looking for fun, the next is twice as good in all ways x |
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"This is why I go to clubs
Yes i can see the appeal. They're already there so no ghosting is possible unless they disappear from the club? Are the men more genuine in clubsm
It depends what you mean by genuine. Obviously if they are in a club they are there aren't they so not going to stand you up.
Maybe the "American woman " thing is a turn off. "
...I mean....look at your profile pic...just sayin haha |
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"Honestly, it's just you.
Reflect, adapt, improve.
There's some really good threads about getting meets, maybe you could review them, get some tips.
Attention seeking though, always a good start. That's like, my favourite trick.
Inbox is open ladies, wit woo "
Haha wit woo.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ever thought about moving
Think we all should relocate lol
Well that sounds like a plan you can start up here first and I'll move further north
I'll move south. It's a better option."
Could be |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh but hun, you're so gorgeous babes, they must be mad to stand you up, I'd never stand you up, it's their loss, you're beautiful, etc...
There, is that enough smoke blown up your arse?
Had me in the first half, not gonna lie "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Always amazes me that a sex site has a lot of wasters and fantasist. You should be on here looking for sex and when you get chance to meet you meet. If you want a wank turn on you porn and have a tug. "
Should? I'm mostly on here to talk crap in the forums and read random opinions on random stuff and learn new ways to think. Occasionally one or other of us gets around to organising a bit of sex.
I would agree that if you arrange something you should keep to your word or at least give a reasonable excuse with a reasonable amount of notice.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Findthis bs .. 100 men to 1 women and you get let down. Maybe verify with the person your meeting first on video call or look at their veris or your very picky |
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