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By *reat me right OP   Woman  over a year ago

Rotherham

I've just been told I'm not a true sub as I have limits, true subs don't have limits (within reason) - the reasons that the dom specifies (in this particular case).

Was I wrong to suggest that, even in this sexual dynamic there had to be limits/boundaries/respect of opines???

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By *harpDressed ManMan  over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I don't believe you were wrong... your kink, your definition.

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
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East Sussex

He's wrong, you're right. Anyone who says that is dangerous

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Red flag run for the hills

If your not comfortable with things that your say

It’s your body

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By *gent CoulsonMan  over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Not wrong at all, and a true Dom would respect those limits.

Some people forget that submitting to someone is not a given right, and in most cases should be earned through respect and trust

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

From what you've stated here, I feel it's he that isn't a true Dom if he believes he should be able to push against your will

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

He is no 'Dom' if he isn't willing at accept and respect your limits.

It's a power exchange wrapped in trust and I personally wouldn't trust a 'Dom' who cannot respect basic limits.

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By *reat me right OP   Woman  over a year ago

Rotherham


"He's wrong, you're right. Anyone who says that is dangerous "
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Exactly the vibe I got too

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple  over a year ago

in Lancashire


"I've just been told I'm not a true sub as I have limits, true subs don't have limits (within reason) - the reasons that the dom specifies (in this particular case).

Was I wrong to suggest that, even in this sexual dynamic there had to be limits/boundaries/respect of opines??? "

No ..

What he said is a massive red flag, and not what a sub/Dom relationship should ever be..

Stay well away..

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By *reat me right OP   Woman  over a year ago

Rotherham


"Red flag run for the hills

If your not comfortable with things that your say

It’s your body "

Thank you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Red flag run for the hills

If your not comfortable with things that your say

It’s your body

Thank you xxx"

Your welcome anytime x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman  over a year ago

evesham


"I've just been told I'm not a true sub as I have limits, true subs don't have limits (within reason) - the reasons that the dom specifies (in this particular case).

Was I wrong to suggest that, even in this sexual dynamic there had to be limits/boundaries/respect of opines??? "

Wow. Massive red flags with that one

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By *nigmatic x DivinityCouple  over a year ago

Up town top ranking

Owwwwsshhhh! RED FLAG ALERT ?? ??

Please stay true to yourself xxx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

People like him are dangerous. You're definitely not wrong.

Pxx

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By *ophieslutTV/TS  over a year ago

Central

It's normal and healthy to have limits, including in relationships. A dom suggesting that it's not, suggests an unhealthy attitude, that's potentially dangerous for others.

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By *ollydoesWoman  over a year ago

Shangri-La

He sounds anything but dom. More a bully.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

More red flags than a fucking carnival.

Any Dom worth his salt will encourage you to state your limits and boundaries, discuss them at length, and respect them at ALL times.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Definitely not! You know your body & what you like & don't be strong & don't give in to him or it will be abuse no one deserves that xx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"He sounds anything but dom. More a bully. "

Why would someone make someone else do something they didn’t want to do? How does that make both parties happy ?

The real trick is to have the other person you care about take down their own boundaries. That’s the real seduction.

If nobody knows that, they are playing a game they know nothing about.

More Dim than Dom.

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By *reat me right OP   Woman  over a year ago

Rotherham


"He sounds anything but dom. More a bully.

Why would someone make someone else do something they didn’t want to do? How does that make both parties happy ?

The real trick is to have the other person you care about take down their own boundaries. That’s the real seduction.

If nobody knows that, they are playing a game they know nothing about.

More Dim than Dom. "

The dim gave me a good old belly laugh - which is quite opportune as I have an old belly xxxx

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By *etcplCouple  over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"I've just been told I'm not a true sub as I have limits, true subs don't have limits (within reason) - the reasons that the dom specifies (in this particular case).

Was I wrong to suggest that, even in this sexual dynamic there had to be limits/boundaries/respect of opines??? "

As the self appointed bearer of the ring of Domliness - this person is an absolute tool who has no idea of what he is talking about, and any experience he has is based on poorly written erotica and porn.

This is the type of person that gives the kink scene a bad reputation, and is likely going to end up damaging someone (physically, mentally or both).

Everyone has limits and they are to be respected.

Any form of power dynamic is based on negotiation, communication and consent. This guy wouldn’t know what it meant to he a Dom if it walked up and face fucked him with its fist.

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By *_Love_CandyWoman  over a year ago

Greater London

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By *_Love_CandyWoman  over a year ago

Greater London

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By *_Love_CandyWoman  over a year ago

Greater London

I'm just exploring the dom/sub relationship and loving it. I have a few things for me. Out of sex, we are 100% equal, no questions asked. Within sex, these are kept within the most conservative levels of one another. The minute a person says, you have reached my limit, it is respected, and cherished as the limit. The stepped back to that limit.

Any person pushing you over your safe word is an absolute arsehole, and does not deserve to be with you. You are wonderful in your sub relationship, and deserve every piece of respect going. Keep yourself safe!!! x x"

Oh, for the record, I'm sub

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By *o scandalousWoman  over a year ago

Glasgow

Dom’s are there to push you to your limit not force you over them. They are going to encourage you to reach the highest of highs and make sure that you are safe and respected in the process.

Subs ultimately have control - over their body, over their limit, and have to be treated with great care. They may be submissive, but they hold all the cards in the end.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"He sounds anything but dom. More a bully.

Why would someone make someone else do something they didn’t want to do? How does that make both parties happy ?

The real trick is to have the other person you care about take down their own boundaries. That’s the real seduction.

If nobody knows that, they are playing a game they know nothing about.

More Dim than Dom.

The dim gave me a good old belly laugh - which is quite opportune as I have an old belly xxxx"

you’re welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Dom’s are there to push you to your limit not force you over them. They are going to encourage you to reach the highest of highs and make sure that you are safe and respected in the process.

Subs ultimately have control - over their body, over their limit, and have to be treated with great care. They may be submissive, but they hold all the cards in the end."

It’s a power exchange, no one is greater

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By *tephenBunChowMan  over a year ago

Haywards heath/Waterlooville

Rule of thumb 'safe word'. No one should breach that!

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By *ohn KanakaMan  over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"I've just been told I'm not a true sub as I have limits, true subs don't have limits (within reason) - the reasons that the dom specifies (in this particular case).

Was I wrong to suggest that, even in this sexual dynamic there had to be limits/boundaries/respect of opines??? "

Any Dom who preaches about true Subs should be avoided.

And this one sounds dangerous and abusive as there's clearly no understanding of consent

Personally I'd neverbpkay with anyone who couldn't clearly define their limits nor anyone who would ignore them. Limits evolve and change for all of us but again thst should be mutual and consensusl

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By *heaspieswingerMan  over a year ago

Peak District


"I've just been told I'm not a true sub as I have limits, true subs don't have limits (within reason) - the reasons that the dom specifies (in this particular case).

Was I wrong to suggest that, even in this sexual dynamic there had to be limits/boundaries/respect of opines??? "

Fake Dom/abuser. Red flag. Run like fuck.

It’s actually the subs that hold all the power. Doms only have power because the subs let us

Put it this way: You have a safeword. You use it. He doesn’t respect that because “you’re not truly submissive.” Then what? You get bloody hurt (and not in the good kinky consensual way.)

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By *reat me right OP   Woman  over a year ago

Rotherham


"I've just been told I'm not a true sub as I have limits, true subs don't have limits (within reason) - the reasons that the dom specifies (in this particular case).

Was I wrong to suggest that, even in this sexual dynamic there had to be limits/boundaries/respect of opines???

Fake Dom/abuser. Red flag. Run like fuck.

It’s actually the subs that hold all the power. Doms only have power because the subs let us

Put it this way: You have a safeword. You use it. He doesn’t respect that because “you’re not truly submissive.” Then what? You get bloody hurt (and not in the good kinky consensual way.)"

Been there, had that in this scenario. Had handmarks round my throat and hair pulled out (because, apparently I liked it) Think ill just stay on here for the forums now

Thank you for all the replies xxx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I've just been told I'm not a true sub as I have limits, true subs don't have limits (within reason) - the reasons that the dom specifies (in this particular case).

Was I wrong to suggest that, even in this sexual dynamic there had to be limits/boundaries/respect of opines???

Fake Dom/abuser. Red flag. Run like fuck.

It’s actually the subs that hold all the power. Doms only have power because the subs let us

Put it this way: You have a safeword. You use it. He doesn’t respect that because “you’re not truly submissive.” Then what? You get bloody hurt (and not in the good kinky consensual way.)"

The D/s dynamic is a power exchange. Neither party holds all the power, you can’t have one without the other.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan  over a year ago

Coventry

It's not for them to berate you for your limits. That to me is a bit of a toxic trait. It's one thing to try and open up people up to new experiences but it's another thing to shame people for their limitations and/or use shaming tactics as a form of coercion.

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By *omsubdevonCouple  over a year ago

Newton Abbot

I will keep this simple. Absolute bollocks. Get rid.

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By *ohn KanakaMan  over a year ago

Not all that North of North London


"I've just been told I'm not a true sub as I have limits, true subs don't have limits (within reason) - the reasons that the dom specifies (in this particular case).

Was I wrong to suggest that, even in this sexual dynamic there had to be limits/boundaries/respect of opines???

Fake Dom/abuser. Red flag. Run like fuck.

It’s actually the subs that hold all the power. Doms only have power because the subs let us

Put it this way: You have a safeword. You use it. He doesn’t respect that because “you’re not truly submissive.” Then what? You get bloody hurt (and not in the good kinky consensual way.)

Been there, had that in this scenario. Had handmarks round my throat and hair pulled out (because, apparently I liked it) Think ill just stay on here for the forums now

Thank you for all the replies xxx"

That's not D/s that's abuse

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By *affeine DuskMan  over a year ago

Caerphilly


"He's wrong, you're right. Anyone who says that is dangerous "

This as fuck, whoever said that nonsense needs help

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Everyone has a limit and that should be respected at all times

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