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Is it ok to be reserved about sharing face pics?
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So I've noticed any chats I have end very fast when no face pics are given immediately, which I do actually understand because that's the go to verification we have naturally developed however I just wanted to say as a man/sissy in the real world with family and friends and a job I like me dressing up as a sissy and enjoying my sexual desires is a private thing for me and sharing my face is a huge deal as that exposes what I enjoy that's frowned upon out there, I know none of us want time wasters but is there a better way we can verify rather than a blanked end to to conversation when no face is provided trust is needed for some of us to share |
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I personally would like to see if there's any attraction before having long winded conversations, nothing worse than chatting for a week getting a face pic finally and having to say thanks but no thanks.
If we don't receive one quickly I'm not into chatting. I don't do blind date
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we have a simple rule if someone message us first then they show facepic first if we message someone forst then we show first ... as we use the site to get meets it makes no sense chattng away only to find out you dont sexually fancy someone so we dont carry on chatting say after a couple messages ...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Surely as part of your 5 truths, someone could easily establish your name, address, employer, bank balance +bank pin ... So in that case a face pic is probably way less crazy  |
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Everyone has their own way of using the site.
For me, a face pic is not important because it states very clearly on my profile that the ability to hold a conversation is a priority.
Some might mock the fact that people like to take time to build a connection before meeting but then again I've never had a no show or been one and apart from my very first fab experience I've never had any bad meets.
In 5 years here I've never once asked for a facepic. If I'm meeting someone for the first time we will exchange pics at that stage but the decision to meet will already have been made.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my opinion if you don't want to give one then don't but equally if you dont want to chat/meet a faceless profile then don't. I don't mind showing mine on request at all because if someone does recognise me it's not like they should care I'm on here because they are on here too. Think of it as mutualy assured destruction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally would like to see a face pic early on, as there has to be an attraction, nothing worse then spending days sending each other messages to then realise you're not attracted to each other. I respect anyone that doesn't want to show their face , and if so I politely end the conversation their |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In this day an age if you don’t eventually show a face pic then you are either a munter or you are not who/what you say you are!"
I wonder which of those i am  |
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I just think that it’s about protecting privacy; we don’t share them easily to protect our family and jobs as well as only do if serious about meeting.
But we don’t judge those who do - freedom to act how you wish is most important here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you don’t want to show your face then don’t.
There is though, as you have already discovered, a down side to not doing so.
Are you expecting a magic wand to make the world more the way you want it to be? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just think that it’s about protecting privacy; we don’t share them easily to protect our family and jobs as well as only do if serious about meeting.
But we don’t judge those who do - freedom to act how you wish is most important here "
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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago
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"If you don’t want to show your face then don’t.
There is though, as you have already discovered, a down side to not doing so.
Are you expecting a magic wand to make the world more the way you want it to be? "
Exactly this....not showing/sending a face pic becomes another type of filter for some people. |
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"Everyone has their own way of using the site.
For me, a face pic is not important because it states very clearly on my profile that the ability to hold a conversation is a priority.
Some might mock the fact that people like to take time to build a connection before meeting but then again I've never had a no show or been one and apart from my very first fab experience I've never had any bad meets.
In 5 years here I've never once asked for a facepic. If I'm meeting someone for the first time we will exchange pics at that stage but the decision to meet will already have been made.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't share them straight away either due to privacy, need to develop a conversation first. Also as a woman who's photos have been stolen many times, I have to be cautious of who I'm giving that too. If someone says I'm not for them after sending then it's cool, we can't be everyone's cup of tea. |
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Because I'm fortunate enough not to be a Quasemodo look alike, some people having said that I bear a striking resemblance to Bryan Ferry, others have said Johnny Cash, even Elvis Presley, depending on the way that I style my hair, my face photos are always readily available to anyone who wants to meet, but I have heard of people using downloaded photos of someone else to simply get a close encounter. There's always downside though, like the bitch who printed off a photo of me doing a stir fry (The naked chef) and sent it in to my company head office, for the attention of the MD, and written on the back was,"This is what he is doing when he is supposed to be working," all because I refused to bale her out financially. So I do get why some people are reluctant to send clear face photos with first messages. |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
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Yes to face pics early on. Provided the profile appears genuine we'll send ours first as a gesture of faith too.
The attraction has to be there!
We have the only connection we really need within each other, so that argument about getting to know people we find a little erroneous..
Sorry if it offends but we'll meet with those we feel we'd like to fuck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't share them, nor do we look for them, and it's never caused us a problem, a quick social meet is far better in our opinion to establish attraction.
You do you, if people don't like it they can look elsewhere |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends how you go about it.
A pet hate of mine is when I ask someone for a face photo and they ignore the question and continue the conversation as if I didn’t ask.
Another annoying thing is if I ask and they say “yes” but don’t send it. And another if if they say “after you” or something like that.
I dislike evasiveness. It’s a real turn off x
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over a year ago
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"It depends how you go about it.
A pet hate of mine is when I ask someone for a face photo and they ignore the question and continue the conversation as if I didn’t ask.
Another annoying thing is if I ask and they say “yes” but don’t send it. And another if if they say “after you” or something like that.
I dislike evasiveness. It’s a real turn off x
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You ask for a face pic first, and don’t send?
It’s not being evasive imo, I wouldn’t send first if someone requested one |
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"It depends how you go about it.
A pet hate of mine is when I ask someone for a face photo and they ignore the question and continue the conversation as if I didn’t ask.
Another annoying thing is if I ask and they say “yes” but don’t send it. And another if if they say “after you” or something like that.
I dislike evasiveness. It’s a real turn off x
You ask for a face pic first, and don’t send?
It’s not being evasive imo, I wouldn’t send first if someone requested one "
I send, but never request. I hopefully find it's going naturally for them to send one as the conversation flows |
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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago
Nr Leicester |
To add, the banner of "keeping discreet" can be a little tiresome..
We respect privacy and wish ours to be treated in the same fashion.
Had messages like "we'll send you some pictures when we get to know you"
and "here's me, but my man isn't comfortable sending his picture"
We ain't got the time and he won't be meeting us then.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It depends how you go about it.
A pet hate of mine is when I ask someone for a face photo and they ignore the question and continue the conversation as if I didn’t ask.
Another annoying thing is if I ask and they say “yes” but don’t send it. And another if if they say “after you” or something like that.
I dislike evasiveness. It’s a real turn off x
You ask for a face pic first, and don’t send?
It’s not being evasive imo, I wouldn’t send first if someone requested one "
Yes, because I get around 100 messages a day off people who are asking me to meet. So I ask what they look like before I make that decision, as most of the time they’re asking before I even know who they are and often they have no photos at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It depends how you go about it.
A pet hate of mine is when I ask someone for a face photo and they ignore the question and continue the conversation as if I didn’t ask.
Another annoying thing is if I ask and they say “yes” but don’t send it. And another if if they say “after you” or something like that.
I dislike evasiveness. It’s a real turn off x
You ask for a face pic first, and don’t send?
It’s not being evasive imo, I wouldn’t send first if someone requested one
Yes, because I get around 100 messages a day off people who are asking me to meet. So I ask what they look like before I make that decision, as most of the time they’re asking before I even know who they are and often they have no photos at all."
I’m not saying you’re wrong. I just don’t count it as being evasive. |
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By *1bttmMan
over a year ago
Shoreditch east London |
"It depends how you go about it.
A pet hate of mine is when I ask someone for a face photo and they ignore the question and continue the conversation as if I didn’t ask.
Another annoying thing is if I ask and they say “yes” but don’t send it. And another if if they say “after you” or something like that.
I dislike evasiveness. It’s a real turn off x
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If someone asks for a specif pic my normal response is
'don't ask for something yr not prepared to send first yrself'.
Might sound blunt but hate my time wasted.More so when there's been little or hardly any chat to begin with. I often find people ask for pics on the basis if they like they will reply so that's when I use the rule above. |
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
Secret hideaway in the pennines |
It comes down to attraction at the end of the day, a fair few people need to feel a physical attraction to someone if they are going play.
Even though I have face pics on my profile, I can have a great conversation with someone till they get a look at me then its "not for me", which is fine. |
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maybe goto a tv/cd club event .. just to socialise with some other people .... then yo can arrange a more private meet perhaps later on from the back of that where you feel comfortable dressing up etc
all these clubs are discrete and most tv/cd clubs will have at least 50% of clients in some boat as you with needing discretion . |
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With facial recognition software being rolled-out in the coming years, your face image will essentially be your ID linked to all aspects of your life. Not something you'd want to spread too widely I'd have thought. |
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over a year ago
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"I personally would like to see if there's any attraction before having long winded conversations, nothing worse than chatting for a week getting a face pic finally and having to say thanks but no thanks.
If we don't receive one quickly I'm not into chatting. I don't do blind date
Mrs "
Exactly this
Miss S x |
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over a year ago
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"With facial recognition software being rolled-out in the coming years, your face image will essentially be your ID linked to all aspects of your life. Not something you'd want to spread too widely I'd have thought."
Facial recognition software has been out since the 90’s. It’s nothing new.
Also a flat image photo is not what’s used for facial recognition in any high security context because it’s too easy to fake.
You need a live image using a 3dimensional camera or depth sensors (like those on the front of an iPhone). Nobody can steal your photo and access “all aspects of your life” |
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"With facial recognition software being rolled-out in the coming years, your face image will essentially be your ID linked to all aspects of your life. Not something you'd want to spread too widely I'd have thought.
Facial recognition software has been out since the 90’s. It’s nothing new.
Also a flat image photo is not what’s used for facial recognition in any high security context because it’s too easy to fake.
You need a live image using a 3dimensional camera or depth sensors (like those on the front of an iPhone). Nobody can steal your photo and access “all aspects of your life”"
A passport and driving licence use a 2D image for ID no? |
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Well I don’t share face pics I happily meet people blind for a coffee and my mantra is if they’re will only meet “folk they’re attracted to” for a coffee then they ain’t my kind of people because I’ll meet everyone and anyone because it’s nice to be nice and you just never know |
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"In this day an age if you don’t eventually show a face pic then you are either a munter or you are not who/what you say you are!"
Well whilst I’m no super model I am most defo not a minter in fact I’m quite high on the attractiveness scale apparently and I refuse to share face pics |
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By *hismMan
over a year ago
Ballygonowhere |
If you don't want to share your face pic,don't share it,it's not compulsory
However many will insist on seeing one before they consider meeting,that's their choice,just as not sending one is yours
There are people that meet without one |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people are very keen to share face pic after a couple of messages. That's fine, but we are not going to just meet after a couple of messages, I think we make that clear in our profile.
For us the worst offenders are those who ask for a face pic after a couple of messages, without even sending their own.
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I absolutely will NOT share face photos and if that’s not ok I understand.
But each of my meets has wanted further meets.
If someone is ok to send me one it’s appreciated but I will not ever reciprocate and that is clear on my profile.
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In my experience the people who won’t share face photos and/or chat on the phone at some point in the chat tend to be the people who won’t meet.
Life is just too short for those people.
If I have doubts about a meet then I will ask for face photos/phone chat and that usually stops them in their tracks. |
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"In this day an age if you don’t eventually show a face pic then you are either a munter or you are not who/what you say you are!"
What a load of bull.
There are many reasons why others will not send face pics. I'm sure that someone in the police would love having their face pics public and that's only one occupation out of many where privacy needs to be respected.
There are a lot of singles and couples on here in our area and in my job (social housing) I have to be discreet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With the amount of fake profiles around(even verified ones) We don’t like to share face pics. At least not at the beginning of the conversation. We much prefer a short video call to establish who we are and with whom we are chatting. |
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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
You have to take a leap of faith at some point, if someone was really out to 'get you' I'm sure they would be able to get you to the point of the big reveal, even if that is at a social meet. Use your intuition and only contact those that give you confidence in their credibility. None of this is subversive or illegal so I don't really see the problem. |
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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago
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Perhaps meeting for a drink? That will separate the wheat from the chaff. A public big bar?
You could have friends or close family (cousins), nearby. Just in case it's a no.
It's ok for someone to say NO! It's free will.
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Unless you have no intention of meeting then showing your face shouldn't be a problem as they would see it in person anyway.
Better to show earlier than waste your time talking to then have it suddenly end if they aren't interested after seeing it |
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over a year ago
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"Unless you have no intention of meeting then showing your face shouldn't be a problem as they would see it in person anyway.
Better to show earlier than waste your time talking to then have it suddenly end if they aren't interested after seeing it"
As I’m not meeting and only chatting I don’t mind if I see a picture or not. If we was chatting with the intentions of hopefully meeting then of course I’d like to see who I’m meeting as i need to have an attraction |
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I am actually really pleased with allot of these replies , I was expecting a bit more hate for this thread but it's nice to know others share a similar sentiment, at the end of the day we all have our choices to make and if a face pic is something I'm not ready to share this thread has made me realise it's my choice and maybe I should label my exact thoughts on my profile so anyone I chat to is aware of my situation. I do agree eventually a face will have to be shared with a potential meet to establish a attraction that is very clear from this thread, it's a shame Fab cant Impliment a face photo sharing system where after say 10 messages a verified face photo will be mutually exchanged if both parties agree, if not it could be deferred to 10 messages later and if it's cancelled after 20 then maybe that's your out? But I agree time wasting is a big issue on this site so where as this would help with 1 issue it would introduce a time issue which might be worse?. Maybe there's no way past this other than honesty and hoping the right people understand and are happy to work to my face pic schedule thank you all for your help and messages xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't like to share face pics via the site.
We tend to have a phonecall to see we're like minded, then swap face pics via WhatsApp, if we're getting along.
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"So I've noticed any chats I have end very fast when no face pics are given immediately, which I do actually understand because that's the go to verification we have naturally developed however I just wanted to say as a man/sissy in the real world with family and friends and a job I like me dressing up as a sissy and enjoying my sexual desires is a private thing for me and sharing my face is a huge deal as that exposes what I enjoy that's frowned upon out there, I know none of us want time wasters but is there a better way we can verify rather than a blanked end to to conversation when no face is provided trust is needed for some of us to share "
You do exactly what you feel comfortable doing.
It has absolutely nothing to do with anyone else.
We wouldn't dream of putting face pics on here and don't send face pics even if meeting.
On individual meets, initially we meet for a drink and chat, if you can't manage that, no problem, meet off.
Like to believe our verifications show us both as a normal, friendly, drama free couple.
It's up to each individual to decide how much or how little you place on a profile.
Swinging is our secret life, don't want our 'normal' life to cross over.
Just do what makes you happy and have a great time, we do. |
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"So I've noticed any chats I have end very fast when no face pics are given immediately, which I do actually understand because that's the go to verification we have naturally developed however I just wanted to say as a man/sissy in the real world with family and friends and a job I like me dressing up as a sissy and enjoying my sexual desires is a private thing for me and sharing my face is a huge deal as that exposes what I enjoy that's frowned upon out there, I know none of us want time wasters but is there a better way we can verify rather than a blanked end to to conversation when no face is provided trust is needed for some of us to share "
Each to there own as far as face pics go, we never send ours , people insist, we just do not meet up, fairly straight forward. |
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Of course it's ok. You have a right to your own privacy, if you don't wanna share that and someone's being pushy they're a waste of time.
This whole platform is based on shared respect, it you can't get that from step 1 you're not gonna have a good experience with them. |
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"Unless you have no intention of meeting then showing your face shouldn't be a problem as they would see it in person anyway.
Better to show earlier than waste your time talking to then have it suddenly end if they aren't interested after seeing it
As I’m not meeting and only chatting I don’t mind if I see a picture or not. If we was chatting with the intentions of hopefully meeting then of course I’d like to see who I’m meeting as i need to have an attraction "
Exactly, I wouldn't meet anyone without seeing a recent face pic |
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What I would also add is that you're gonna have to show your face at some point if you're gonna meet with this person. (Unless you're going for a ski mask).
If you're more worried about the idea of someone having that information and spreading it maybe some kinda video call is the way to go. Even then they can screenshot.
Best bet is trust them before you send the pic. |
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By *eisty LadyWoman
over a year ago
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"So I've noticed any chats I have end very fast when no face pics are given immediately, which I do actually understand because that's the go to verification we have naturally developed however I just wanted to say as a man/sissy in the real world with family and friends and a job I like me dressing up as a sissy and enjoying my sexual desires is a private thing for me and sharing my face is a huge deal as that exposes what I enjoy that's frowned upon out there, I know none of us want time wasters but is there a better way we can verify rather than a blanked end to to conversation when no face is provided trust is needed for some of us to share "
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I’ve been on/off here 10 years, met plenty and have never ever shown a face photo
As I don’t show a face pic I have never asked anyone else to show one either
I don’t have verifications as I deleted previous accounts and don’t want any, being unverified is not an issue either
It someone wants to meet you they will, irrespective of whether they see a face photo or not |
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"So I've noticed any chats I have end very fast when no face pics are given immediately, which I do actually understand because that's the go to verification we have naturally developed however I just wanted to say as a man/sissy in the real world with family and friends and a job I like me dressing up as a sissy and enjoying my sexual desires is a private thing for me and sharing my face is a huge deal as that exposes what I enjoy that's frowned upon out there, I know none of us want time wasters but is there a better way we can verify rather than a blanked end to to conversation when no face is provided trust is needed for some of us to share
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I’ve been on/off here 10 years, met plenty and have never ever shown a face photo
As I don’t show a face pic I have never asked anyone else to show one either
I don’t have verifications as I deleted previous accounts and don’t want any, being unverified is not an issue either
It someone wants to meet you they will, irrespective of whether they see a face photo or not"
I would never meet without seeing a face pic first ! But each to their own x |
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