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Guys that stand up women constantly

By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

Been stood up 6 times in a row by a guy. Keeps making excuses that he has the kids or something important cane up. They might as well have no balls. Why do they demand a meet constantly then when it come to meeting they bail?? Guys...you do know women can easily get other men right away right??

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By *olden PoleMan over a year ago

Kent

Why are you giving him 6 chances to mess you about?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Six times, same guy?

Isn't this on you at this point.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How many more wanks will you let him have before you stop arranging to meet him?

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

6 times...

I have a one chance rule on purpose

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah, I wouldn’t be giving him 6 chances.

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

"Six times, same guy?

Isn't this on you at this point."

What do you mean? He's always begging to meet but when it comes to it, he bails. Quite a few guys do this. Maybe it's me. But I never stress to meet...they do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Someone woke up lacking a little attention today.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not a gender issue, it's a shitty people issue. I don't understand as why as 'adults' we can't just communicate. If they aren't feeling it anymore the cool but ghosting or letting people down isn't the way to handle yourself on here. Most of the reasons why I don't meet anymore is because of this.

On your point, I would never give someone the opportunity to let me down more than once. First time is understandable but more than that they are taking the piss. Cut it and move on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its a shame when that happens but swings both ways

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

6 chances? Well that doesnt seem like the normal behaviour for a woman on here. Methinks something is amiss here and were not getting the full picture.

Either that or the cynic in me would think this this is a post for a reasonably attractive woman to have smoke blown up her arse. But surely thats not the case, is it...?

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By *entBarryUKMan over a year ago

Ashford

Why would a guy do this? It just seems pointless.

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

We met a few times but seems like he can get better elsewhere so I'll just leave it at that.

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

Whataboutery is frowned upon here but there is a domino effect on fab.

If you are being stood up constantly regardless of whether it's by one person or more it's time to change your approach and look at the common denominator.

It doesn't matter if you are male or female but if you constantly complain publicly about your negative experiences that will just make more people ignore you because they don't need that negativity.

Men get tarred with this brush all the time but we are allowed to change our minds just as women are and we aren't obliged to give a reason.

Some women are serial ghosters and stand guys up all the time because of backup plans etc so it's often a knock-on effect of their own words or actions.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Six times, same guy?

Isn't this on you at this point.

What do you mean? He's always begging to meet but when it comes to it, he bails. Quite a few guys do this. Maybe it's me. But I never stress to meet...they do."

I mean its entirely your fault at that point.

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

I've never stood up anyone. But guys stand ladies up like crazy on here.

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

"Six times, same guy?

Isn't this on you at this point.

What do you mean? He's always begging to meet but when it comes to it, he bails. Quite a few guys do this. Maybe it's me. But I never stress to meet...they do.

I mean its entirely your fault at that point. "

I didn't do anything but ok.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op. If I say I will turn up it’s a definite.

I’ve said maybe and then turned into a no. But if it’s in my diary It would have to be an emergency for me to cancel or stand someone up.

I’ve been stood up, it feels shit and I don’t do what I wouldn’t want done to me.

Welcome to fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"6 chances? Well that doesnt seem like the normal behaviour for a woman on here. Methinks something is amiss here and were not getting the full picture.

Either that or the cynic in me would think this this is a post for a reasonably attractive woman to have smoke blown up her arse. But surely thats not the case, is it...? "

Exactly this.

It’s juvenile in its simplicity.

“Oh but babe you’re so gorgeous. Anyone would be mad to stand you up”

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By *entBarryUKMan over a year ago

Ashford

"We met a few times but seems like he can get better elsewhere so I'll just leave it at that."

Well, you seem lovely, so it's his loss.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

Yeah I wouldn't give someone 6 chances. No more chances if they just stood me up. 1 if they cancelled at short notice or had a very apologetic explanation within a reasonable time frame.

I think some people enjoy knowing someone is willing to meet them for sex more than actually doing it.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS over a year ago

chichester

"Six times, same guy?

Isn't this on you at this point.

What do you mean? He's always begging to meet but when it comes to it, he bails. Quite a few guys do this. Maybe it's me. But I never stress to meet...they do.

I mean its entirely your fault at that point.

I didn't do anything but ok."

He means it’s your fault for giving an imbecile 6 chances in a row. 1 is bad enough 2 should be the block limit

. 3/4 it’s obvious guy is playing you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

On your point, I would never give someone the opportunity to let me down more than once. First time is understandable but more than that they are taking the piss. Cut it and move on

I take a hint very fast.

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By *ilberto42Man over a year ago

north wales

If i had opertunity to meet a lady from fab i wouldn't be standing her up its hard to even get a lady to talk to you on here never mind get a date xx

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I've been fortunate to never have been stood up before, but the phenomenon isn't gender exclusive. I've seen numerous instances of men being stood up by women as well on here.

Doesn't make it any less unpleasant I imagine

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By *renchy19Man over a year ago

Heathrow

Unfortunately it’s a common thread and not just with single guys.

I have been stood up by couples and on one occasion by a woman which cost me a hotel room even after she messaged 30 mins before she was on her way

Some folks just like the chase but won’t meet when it comes to it

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By *edonandHellCouple over a year ago

Peterborough

2 is a block, things do happen and you have to give delegates of the doubt, 6 times tho is a joke.

I'm sure you would get plenty of single guys drive half way cross the country to meet you.

When you find a genuine guy who is an actual swinger and not just a single guy wanting to empty his sack you will have fun.

We go to clubs where we see single guys who turn up regular, they meet single ladies there and then from chatting to them they get alot who want to meet away from clubs.

Maybe be a bit more selective, you will have more fun when you find s decent one.

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By *azzler000Man over a year ago

hull

Unfortunately for some this site is all about the fun of the chase

That’s the excitement

Read reviews. Make sure they are from meets. You look incredible so you will have no issues x

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

Really have had my fair share of guys just after the chase then cause a lot of them prefer the banter that actually physically meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Really have had my fair share of guys just after the chase then cause a lot of them prefer the banter that actually physically meeting."

You're allowing that behaviour though. Put some boundaries in place and maybe you will find guys don't treat you like that.

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

"Really have had my fair share of guys just after the chase then cause a lot of them prefer the banter that actually physically meeting.

You're allowing that behaviour though. Put some boundaries in place and maybe you will find guys don't treat you like that. "

I'm just going to block all men that stand be up from now on, it's a lot easier lol

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Six times, same guy?

Isn't this on you at this point.

What do you mean? He's always begging to meet but when it comes to it, he bails. Quite a few guys do this. Maybe it's me. But I never stress to meet...they do.

I mean its entirely your fault at that point.

I didn't do anything but ok."

You didn't but you're letting him do it to you which I'd the point this guy is making.

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. At some point you need to stop enabling the behaviour of the guy that keeps standing you up.

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

"Six times, same guy?

Isn't this on you at this point.

What do you mean? He's always begging to meet but when it comes to it, he bails. Quite a few guys do this. Maybe it's me. But I never stress to meet...they do.

I mean its entirely your fault at that point.

I didn't do anything but ok.

You didn't but you're letting him do it to you which I'd the point this guy is making.

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. At some point you need to stop enabling the behaviour of the guy that keeps standing you up. "

Well he is a weirdo apparently. So I blocked him.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Really have had my fair share of guys just after the chase then cause a lot of them prefer the banter that actually physically meeting.

You're allowing that behaviour though. Put some boundaries in place and maybe you will find guys don't treat you like that.

I'm just going to block all men that stand be up from now on, it's a lot easier lol "

Sounds good.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Really have had my fair share of guys just after the chase then cause a lot of them prefer the banter that actually physically meeting."

Lots and lots of us have this same story.

I’ve come to realise the forum and the actual sex catalogue where people meet is two different things.

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By *rivervaderMan over a year ago

bolton

They must be mad to stand you up or any woman it’s hard enough to get a meet never mind not bother going after

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By *ememberTheNameMan over a year ago

barnsley

"Been stood up 6 times in a row by a guy. Keeps making excuses that he has the kids or something important cane up. They might as well have no balls. Why do they demand a meet constantly then when it come to meeting they bail?? Guys...you do know women can easily get other men right away right??"

Are you serious

Six times ….

More fool you

Once … yeah give home a second chance

twice never again

more than this I’m sorry but you’re a mug

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By *2000ManMan over a year ago

Worthing

A couple I met said I was their 7th attempt to get someone to turn up!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Really have had my fair share of guys just after the chase then cause a lot of them prefer the banter that actually physically meeting.

Lots and lots of us have this same story.

I’ve come to realise the forum and the actual sex catalogue where people meet is two different things.

There's a sex catalogue?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not a gender issue, it's a shitty people issue. I don't understand as why as 'adults' we can't just communicate. If they aren't feeling it anymore the cool but ghosting or letting people down isn't the way to handle yourself on here. Most of the reasons why I don't meet anymore is because of this.

On your point, I would never give someone the opportunity to let me down more than once. First time is understandable but more than that they are taking the piss. Cut it and move on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are you giving him 6 chances to mess you about? "

I'm thinking the same! 2 strikes and they'd be out for me....

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

Are you serious

Six times ….

More fool you

Once … yeah give home a second chance

twice never again

more than this I’m sorry but you’re a mug

Name calling isn't very nice but thank you x

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By *asty tatsyMan over a year ago

london

To be honest you get 2 chances max after that no way, begging also isn’t a very attractive trait

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you serious

Six times ….

More fool you

Once … yeah give home a second chance

twice never again

more than this I’m sorry but you’re a mug

Name calling isn't very nice but thank you x"

He's called you a mug and you've still said thank you with an x? I'm getting the sense that you don't have enough confidence to push back when others don't treat you with respect.

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

Here’s the thing your missing

The guys your picking are the best guys. All the other women are picking them too

They didn’t stand you up and sit at home

They went with the better option

The top guys have plenty of options

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

"We met a few times but seems like he can get better elsewhere so I'll just leave it at that."

So you've met him several times, then he stands you up repeatedly and are still willing to make plans to meet again?

He may feel he can get better elsewhere.

There may be valid reasons why he has to cancel last minute - which we'll never know.

He may feel that as he's been able to ditch a meet before and still make future plans with you that there's not actually an issue and that he isn't aware you're frustrated because you still keep agreeing to meet. Some people have no issue with loose arrangements and last minute changes of plans.

There may of course be a reason he keeps bailing that he hasn't told you about. He may well not want to meet again but doesn't want to tell you outright and hopes you'll take the hint and ditch him he he stands you up enough. Some people find that easier to do than be honest.

If you keep enabling this behaviour by making future plans with someone who continually lets you down then you have to take some responsibility for what's happening.

Cut contact and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You must really like him to have given 6 chances, you need to be a little more brutal on that...Xx

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By *r SproutMan over a year ago

the middle

In your own words OP.

I mainly unintentionally end up with fuckabout fuckboys that fuck around with you by making excuses not to meet,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Here’s the thing your missing

The guys your picking are the best guys. All the other women are picking them too

They didn’t stand you up and sit at home

They went with the better option

The top guys have plenty of options "

"Top guys" don't treat women with this level of disrespect

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

"Here’s the thing your missing

The guys your picking are the best guys. All the other women are picking them too

They didn’t stand you up and sit at home

They went with the better option

The top guys have plenty of options

"Top guys" don't treat women with this level of disrespect "

Your wrong there. The top guys get picked for their attractiveness. Not their morals

If you find a top guy with morals, marry him

But can you blame them? 10% of guys probably get 90% of the meets. They don’t need to have morals

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hiccups can happen but six chances, wow.

After the second chance, what is it that made you believe he will turn up and deserves another four chances?.

Have you actually met at all?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Top guys" don't treat women with this level of disrespect "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Here’s the thing your missing

The guys your picking are the best guys. All the other women are picking them too

They didn’t stand you up and sit at home

They went with the better option

The top guys have plenty of options

"Top guys" don't treat women with this level of disrespect

Your wrong there. The top guys get picked for their attractiveness. Not their morals

If you find a top guy with morals, marry him

But can you blame them? 10% of guys probably get 90% of the meets. They don’t need to have morals "

You have a poor opinion of women. I don't know any who will put up with being treated like crap because a guy is attractive. The women I know who have put up with being treated like crap is because they love him. And I've seen that story on here too more than once.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Six times, same guy?

Isn't this on you at this point.

What do you mean? He's always begging to meet but when it comes to it, he bails. Quite a few guys do this. Maybe it's me. But I never stress to meet...they do."

I've had this before. Although I do tend to attract men with ASD, depression, anxiety and personality disorders. Hence the multiple chances. Now I'm strictly the world's worst bartender, one shot is all you get.

I still get messages from people that have messed me about and even though we had nice chats during the stringalongs I won't meet them. If they are serious I'm at clubs every week. They can turn up there if they have changed and are legit.

OP, not everyone is the same as us. I hate wasting time and being led on. For many this is just a "sexy on line game" to wank to.

However there are a fair few awesome people on here. Hope you find a few x

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

"Here’s the thing your missing

The guys your picking are the best guys. All the other women are picking them too

They didn’t stand you up and sit at home

They went with the better option

The top guys have plenty of options "

Women will always have more options, it's a fact women get more mail then men. Most of the time women will find hotter guys then the ones that stand them up.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

It might be disrespectful of the person who lets someone down six times but it also indicates a lack of self respect or desperation for the person allowing it that many times..

When does the penny drop, ten let downs?

Massive red flag..

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

"Here’s the thing your missing

The guys your picking are the best guys. All the other women are picking them too

They didn’t stand you up and sit at home

They went with the better option

The top guys have plenty of options

"Top guys" don't treat women with this level of disrespect

Your wrong there. The top guys get picked for their attractiveness. Not their morals

If you find a top guy with morals, marry him

But can you blame them? 10% of guys probably get 90% of the meets. They don’t need to have morals

Being treated like crap falls more into the longer term stuff. I’m talking short term stuff like first meets on here. Don’t twist it

And my comment says nothing about my opinion of women either, so don’t twist that.

The most attractive guys get picked the most. So why can you expect them to value their meets when they get so many offers.

People seem to think that a guy stands you up because he’s sat at home doing nothing. It’s more likely that other women said yes to him for the same reason you did, and he just didn’t pick you that night

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Plenty of NW clubs to choose from op

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Here’s the thing your missing

The guys your picking are the best guys. All the other women are picking them too

They didn’t stand you up and sit at home

They went with the better option

The top guys have plenty of options

"Top guys" don't treat women with this level of disrespect

Your wrong there. The top guys get picked for their attractiveness. Not their morals

If you find a top guy with morals, marry him

But can you blame them? 10% of guys probably get 90% of the meets. They don’t need to have morals

Being treated like crap falls more into the longer term stuff. I’m talking short term stuff like first meets on here. Don’t twist it

And my comment says nothing about my opinion of women either, so don’t twist that.

The most attractive guys get picked the most. So why can you expect them to value their meets when they get so many offers.

I judged your opinion on women from your statement that they judge a top guy on attractiveness only. Which is shallow.

"The most attractive guys get picked the most. So why can you expect them to value their meets when they get so many offers. "

Because it's basic respect for others.

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

"Here’s the thing your missing

The guys your picking are the best guys. All the other women are picking them too

They didn’t stand you up and sit at home

They went with the better option

The top guys have plenty of options

"Top guys" don't treat women with this level of disrespect

Your wrong there. The top guys get picked for their attractiveness. Not their morals

If you find a top guy with morals, marry him

But can you blame them? 10% of guys probably get 90% of the meets. They don’t need to have morals

Being treated like crap falls more into the longer term stuff. I’m talking short term stuff like first meets on here. Don’t twist it

And my comment says nothing about my opinion of women either, so don’t twist that.

The most attractive guys get picked the most. So why can you expect them to value their meets when they get so many offers.

I judged your opinion on women from your statement that they judge a top guy on attractiveness only. Which is shallow.

"The most attractive guys get picked the most. So why can you expect them to value their meets when they get so many offers. "

Because it's basic respect for others. "

I think your shallow for assuming when I say top guy I mean only looks

Top guys have it all. Looks, charm, body, humour, charism etc

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

I'll always find hot guys so he's not really top guy. No such thing on fab. It's just funny how he keeps coming back and trying it on. As if I'm out of options haha x

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

"I'll always find hot guys so he's not really top guy. No such thing on fab. It's just funny how he keeps coming back and trying it on. As if I'm out of options haha x

Isn’t it even funnier though that with all these options, you keep saying yes?

Why is that?

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

"I'll always find hot guys so he's not really top guy. No such thing on fab. It's just funny how he keeps coming back and trying it on. As if I'm out of options haha x

Isn’t it even funnier though that with all these options, you keep saying yes?

Why is that? "

Because the excuses are so clever lol but it's nice to know he keeps asking x but I blocked him cause now it's annoying x

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

"I'll always find hot guys so he's not really top guy. No such thing on fab. It's just funny how he keeps coming back and trying it on. As if I'm out of options haha x

Isn’t it even funnier though that with all these options, you keep saying yes?

Why is that?

Because the excuses are so clever lol but it's nice to know he keeps asking x but I blocked him cause now it's annoying x"

Well good for you. 2 strike rule if you ask me. No one is worth being messed around like that

I always tell myself, actions over words. If they wanted to, they would

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I'll always find hot guys so he's not really top guy. No such thing on fab. It's just funny how he keeps coming back and trying it on. As if I'm out of options haha x

But are you not encouraging his behaviour?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Here’s the thing your missing

The guys your picking are the best guys. All the other women are picking them too

They didn’t stand you up and sit at home

They went with the better option

The top guys have plenty of options

"Top guys" don't treat women with this level of disrespect

Your wrong there. The top guys get picked for their attractiveness. Not their morals

If you find a top guy with morals, marry him

But can you blame them? 10% of guys probably get 90% of the meets. They don’t need to have morals

Being treated like crap falls more into the longer term stuff. I’m talking short term stuff like first meets on here. Don’t twist it

And my comment says nothing about my opinion of women either, so don’t twist that.

The most attractive guys get picked the most. So why can you expect them to value their meets when they get so many offers.

I judged your opinion on women from your statement that they judge a top guy on attractiveness only. Which is shallow.

"The most attractive guys get picked the most. So why can you expect them to value their meets when they get so many offers. "

Because it's basic respect for others.

I think your shallow for assuming when I say top guy I mean only looks

Top guys have it all. Looks, charm, body, humour, charism etc "

Charm, humour, charisma but stands women up for a better offer? Not a top guy. I did interpret attractiveness as looks not because I am shallow but because this site is.

We just see the world differently. And men and women differently.

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

"I'll always find hot guys so he's not really top guy. No such thing on fab. It's just funny how he keeps coming back and trying it on. As if I'm out of options haha x

But are you not encouraging his behaviour?

Yeah I encourage to see what was the next excuse. But now it bored me so I blocked him cause he deserved it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

1 chance is enough, 6 is just crazy

But if that keeps happening then maybe change your approach and look for why it keeps happening.

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By *elshcouple18Couple over a year ago

Cardiff

We've been stood up twice by single men, that was their only chance..

Maybe she enjoys being stood up?

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

"I'll always find hot guys so he's not really top guy. No such thing on fab. It's just funny how he keeps coming back and trying it on. As if I'm out of options haha x

Isn’t it even funnier though that with all these options, you keep saying yes?

Why is that?

Because the excuses are so clever lol but it's nice to know he keeps asking x but I blocked him cause now it's annoying x

Well good for you. 2 strike rule if you ask me. No one is worth being messed around like that

I always tell myself, actions over words. If they wanted to, they would

Your a character lol

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By *r SproutMan over a year ago

the middle

"In your own words OP.

I mainly unintentionally end up with fuckabout fuckboys that fuck around with you by making excuses not to meet,

Literally taken from the OP’s profile. I know it’s a long read but it’s right there

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

"Here’s the thing your missing

The guys your picking are the best guys. All the other women are picking them too

They didn’t stand you up and sit at home

They went with the better option

The top guys have plenty of options

"Top guys" don't treat women with this level of disrespect

Your wrong there. The top guys get picked for their attractiveness. Not their morals

If you find a top guy with morals, marry him

But can you blame them? 10% of guys probably get 90% of the meets. They don’t need to have morals

Being treated like crap falls more into the longer term stuff. I’m talking short term stuff like first meets on here. Don’t twist it

And my comment says nothing about my opinion of women either, so don’t twist that.

The most attractive guys get picked the most. So why can you expect them to value their meets when they get so many offers.

I judged your opinion on women from your statement that they judge a top guy on attractiveness only. Which is shallow.

"The most attractive guys get picked the most. So why can you expect them to value their meets when they get so many offers. "

Because it's basic respect for others.

I think your shallow for assuming when I say top guy I mean only looks

Top guys have it all. Looks, charm, body, humour, charism etc

Charm, humour, charisma but stands women up for a better offer? Not a top guy. I did interpret attractiveness as looks not because I am shallow but because this site is.

We just see the world differently. And men and women differently. "

We can agree there

I think a lot of the top guys get a lot of options. So they stand people up a lot for a better option. Their kids in a candy store.

Statistics and data from the dating apps support this. About 10% of the guys get 90% of the matches.

I’m not saying it’s a nice thing to do, but when a guy gets a lion share of the meets in his pocket, is anyone surprised when he isn’t exactly moral about who/how he meets

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

"I'll always find hot guys so he's not really top guy. No such thing on fab. It's just funny how he keeps coming back and trying it on. As if I'm out of options haha x

But are you not encouraging his behaviour?

Yeah I encourage to see what was the next excuse. But now it bored me so I blocked him cause he deserved it."

Maybe unblock him, sounds like your made for each other..

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

"In your own words OP.

I mainly unintentionally end up with fuckabout fuckboys that fuck around with you by making excuses not to meet,

Literally taken from the OP’s profile. I know it’s a long read but it’s right there"

Maybe he knows he's a closet fuckboy?

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"They must be mad to stand you up or any woman it’s hard enough to get a meet never mind not bother going after"

I'm assuming this is tongue in cheek or is that really how you approach fab?

Are men supposed to feel grateful that women even look at them?

Do people really look at a few pics on a profile and that's enough to say they are amazing and it's mad that anyone could consider standing them up?

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By *elshcouple18Couple over a year ago

Cardiff

"In your own words OP.

I mainly unintentionally end up with fuckabout fuckboys that fuck around with you by making excuses not to meet,

Literally taken from the OP’s profile. I know it’s a long read but it’s right there"
I got 17 pages down and gave up on the rest.. who needs a profile that long?

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By *r SproutMan over a year ago

the middle

"In your own words OP.

I mainly unintentionally end up with fuckabout fuckboys that fuck around with you by making excuses not to meet,

Literally taken from the OP’s profile. I know it’s a long read but it’s right thereI got 17 pages down and gave up on the rest.. who needs a profile that long? "

Maybe the guy who stood her up 6 times is still reading it

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

"I'll always find hot guys so he's not really top guy. No such thing on fab. It's just funny how he keeps coming back and trying it on. As if I'm out of options haha x

Isn’t it even funnier though that with all these options, you keep saying yes?

Why is that?

Because the excuses are so clever lol but it's nice to know he keeps asking x but I blocked him cause now it's annoying x

Well good for you. 2 strike rule if you ask me. No one is worth being messed around like that

I always tell myself, actions over words. If they wanted to, they would

Your a character lol "

Quite, but I definitely wouldn’t let myself be stood up 6 times by the same person. I’ve got a little dignity

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

"In your own words OP.

I mainly unintentionally end up with fuckabout fuckboys that fuck around with you by making excuses not to meet,

Literally taken from the OP’s profile. I know it’s a long read but it’s right thereI got 17 pages down and gave up on the rest.. who needs a profile that long? "

I get a lot of messages everyday. Covers the basics. Plus reading is important to me. X

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

"I'll always find hot guys so he's not really top guy. No such thing on fab. It's just funny how he keeps coming back and trying it on. As if I'm out of options haha x

Isn’t it even funnier though that with all these options, you keep saying yes?

Why is that?

Because the excuses are so clever lol but it's nice to know he keeps asking x but I blocked him cause now it's annoying x

Well good for you. 2 strike rule if you ask me. No one is worth being messed around like that

I always tell myself, actions over words. If they wanted to, they would

Your a character lol

Quite, but I definitely wouldn’t let myself be stood up 6 times by the same person. I’ve got a little dignity "

You need people skills but definitely have little tiny dignity.

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By *oo..Woman over a year ago

Boo's World

It's time to move on from him for sure.

Even if you have met the person several times before, to be stood up 6 or so times by the same person, they are just taking the total piss out of you.

Walk away and don't give them so many chances

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"In your own words OP.

I mainly unintentionally end up with fuckabout fuckboys that fuck around with you by making excuses not to meet,

Literally taken from the OP’s profile. I know it’s a long read but it’s right thereI got 17 pages down and gave up on the rest.. who needs a profile that long? "

Did she ask for people to critique her profile?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm actually surprised that any woman would get to that many fta before writing him off.

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By *izandpaulCouple over a year ago

merseyside

We've had a couple call us saying they are outside a house to attend a private party but are too nervous to come in by themselves can someone come out to collect them, give them a bit of support.

OK, what car are you in?

Pop outside the house, guess what, not there. Call the phone, no answer.

It can happen to us all, take it on the chin, move on and have a ball.

Notice on your photos you mention your Dad, very sorry, its a terrible disease.

Have a great time, chalk the timewasters up to experience.

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By *onkeynutWoman over a year ago

somewhere

6 times

Why have you let this happen so many times? Yes it’s on him for being shitty and bailing but at what point do you say enough is enough?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We've had guys stand us up. They get one chance. If they arrange to meet and don't turn up after Mrs C has made the effort to look her best for someone, then they can do one. No second chances here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Whataboutery is frowned upon here but there is a domino effect on fab.

If you are being stood up constantly regardless of whether it's by one person or more it's time to change your approach and look at the common denominator.

It doesn't matter if you are male or female but if you constantly complain publicly about your negative experiences that will just make more people ignore you because they don't need that negativity.

Men get tarred with this brush all the time but we are allowed to change our minds just as women are and we aren't obliged to give a reason.

Some women are serial ghosters and stand guys up all the time because of backup plans etc so it's often a knock-on effect of their own words or actions."

Totally agree with this

May I also point out my dislike of the OP's last sentence, the attitude that sentence carries is rather unfortunate and is not an attitude I share.

NBVN x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op - why are you letting him do this? On here, one strike and they are out.

You’re choosing to be messed about.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not cool but I am with everyone else here, why give him so many chances? At this point he feels he can get away with what he likes and clearly enjoys the chase and anything else that is happening up to that point.

Also feel free to move down south, I wouldn't stand you up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just had a no show. It’s the 2nd time he’s done it so no 3rd time lucky for him!! J x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Really have had my fair share of guys just after the chase then cause a lot of them prefer the banter that actually physically meeting.

Lots and lots of us have this same story.

I’ve come to realise the forum and the actual sex catalogue where people meet is two different things.

I love thumbing through the sex catalogue.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve read the whole thread and I’m disappointed that there aren’t more white knights charging in on their trusty steeds. Come on fellas

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

If this thread was written by a man etc etc..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll always find hot guys so he's not really top guy. No such thing on fab. It's just funny how he keeps coming back and trying it on. As if I'm out of options haha x

But are you not encouraging his behaviour?

Yeah I encourage to see what was the next excuse. But now it bored me so I blocked him cause he deserved it."

If your only contact is via Fab I'd block him. If he's contacting you via off site I'd keep arranging meets but never show up. An ego boost is nice. Let him beg.

(But don't meet him.)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Surprised to hear this to be honest

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You could just be incredibly unlucky that these things come up as soon as you decide to meet them.

On the other hand, some guys on here may just be fantasists who love the idea of meeting but when accepted, they suddenly lose interest because the chase is over

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

"Six times, same guy?

Isn't this on you at this point.

What do you mean? He's always begging to meet but when it comes to it, he bails. Quite a few guys do this. Maybe it's me. But I never stress to meet...they do.

I mean its entirely your fault at that point.

I didn't do anything but ok.

You didn't but you're letting him do it to you which I'd the point this guy is making.

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. At some point you need to stop enabling the behaviour of the guy that keeps standing you up.

Well he is a weirdo apparently. So I blocked him. "

From your phone contacts too I hope. You'll have more time for those who are actually interested.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"If i had opertunity to meet a lady from fab i wouldn't be standing her up its hard to even get a lady to talk to you on here never mind get a date xx "

Then the minority ruin it for the rest of you doing just this. I met far too many timewasters on fab. All talk and no action like it's just a game they play to stroke their ego

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

"If this thread was written by a man etc etc.."

If this thread was written by a man it would read:

You wouldn't believe it, I travelled 40 miles to a meet last night after chatting to this woman for days. We got on great, exchanged pics and had bants from the off that you just don't get from any other chats.

I just don't know what happened, I got to the car park, I contacted her on fab, she was on at the time, and she immediately went off-line. I stayed for 20mins and contacted her again - nothing. Contacted her again 20 mins later, after an hour I got something to eat and still had no reply, waited another 15 mins and got a reply that she had to cancel but could meet next week as something came up she couldn't get out of but thought she could rearrange it.

She hasn't given me her number yet, but still looking forward to meeting her. Still trying to get her address as I don't understand why I arrived at a car park.. anyone else experienced this?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

More fool him

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By *entleman JayMan over a year ago

Wakefield

My rules. Everybody gets one chance. Then block. Take ownership back and build your self respect.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If this thread was written by a man etc etc..

If this thread was written by a man it would read:

She hasn't given me her number yet, but still looking forward to meeting her. Still trying to get her address as I don't understand why I arrived at a car park.. anyone else experienced this?

r/OddlySpecific

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Maybe you should choose a better one if it’s that easy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been stood up several times now by women, so it affects both sexes and I suspect couples as well. For those of us that are genuine, its so frustrating!

I waited 50 odd minutes for the last couple to not turn up. (Well I was in a pub garden, the weather was beautiful, and the beer was nice and cool so stayed longer than I normally would!).

Like so many other have said OP, I wouldn't give anyone 6 chances, no matter how good they looked, sounded and promised. 2 usually 3 at the every most. Make sure you report him as a 'no show'. If the genuine one's all report 'no shows' then perhaps we can get rid of some of the time wasters from this site!

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By *oodmessMan over a year ago

yumsville

"If this thread was written by a man etc etc..

If this thread was written by a man it would read:

She hasn't given me her number yet, but still looking forward to meeting her. Still trying to get her address as I don't understand why I arrived at a car park.. anyone else experienced this?

r/OddlySpecific

Gadzumps!

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"If this thread was written by a man etc etc..

If this thread was written by a man it would read:

She hasn't given me her number yet, but still looking forward to meeting her. Still trying to get her address as I don't understand why I arrived at a car park.. anyone else experienced this?

If a guy complains about scenarios like this a lot of people will quickly tell him he wasn't chatting to a woman at all

Here's a little twist on that and I wonder how many have even considered it?

There is a sizeable percentage of women here who have multiple accounts including single male accounts. They have all sorts of excuses for having them including safety reasons but they often use them to befriend and chat to other women that they may view as direct competition.

Based on that I wouldn't be too surprised if some of those guys standing women up weren't actually guys at all.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

See what you can learn from the experience and what you may do differently in future. We can only change ourselves.

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By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

Delete, block and move on.

2nd chance, if you think they're genuine, but after that... Gone!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Delete, block and move on.

2nd chance, if you think they're genuine, but after that... Gone! "

And good luck Op

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

6 times!!!! Fool me once...but 6(six) might as well see if he turns up 7th time lol

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS over a year ago

Bristol

Fool me once - fool you.

Fool me twice - fool me.

Fool me six times...

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By *gent CoulsonMan over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

One no show without any communication and they don't get a second chance no matter how hot they are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Block and move on

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

"If this thread was written by a man etc etc..

If this thread was written by a man it would read:

She hasn't given me her number yet, but still looking forward to meeting her. Still trying to get her address as I don't understand why I arrived at a car park.. anyone else experienced this?

If a guy complains about scenarios like this a lot of people will quickly tell him he wasn't chatting to a woman at all

Here's a little twist on that and I wonder how many have even considered it?

Based on that I wouldn't be too surprised if some of those guys standing women up weren't actually guys at all. "

Interesting theory. I could see that. Having dealt with a few crazies in my time, I can confirm that many women will go to some extreme lengths of psycho to accomplish stuff. I could absolutely see women doing this

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It's not the quantity of men you can get that matters, it's the quality.

It happens SIX times because YOU allow it.

I'm going to put my keys squarely in the fruit bowl and say this is an attention seeking thread ..... cos anyone that dumb couldn't press all the buttons in the right order to type a message.

I do like your swimming cozzie. Is it from The Asda ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Fool me once - fool you.

Fool me twice - fool me.

Fool me six times... "

Fool me once - Shame on you.

Fool me twice - Shame on me.

Fool me six times realise I am a goldfish going round and round and round.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Crumpet, the lack of fucks.

Oh my, I think I've got competition

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"Crumpet, the lack of fucks.

Oh my, I think I've got competition

No, you really don't. Crumpet is truly something else in the best way.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman over a year ago

Reading

"6 times...

I have a one chance rule on purpose

I'm kind they get 2 from me

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

Dang this has gone waaay overboard.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have a 2 strike rule.. life happens so sometimes there can be a valid excuse. I know I have had to cancel a meet due to a child ending up in hospital but I did let them know as soon as I could.

However wrt another posters reference to if someone is a top guy ie a popular member of fab coveted by many ladies therefore they have lots of choice so don’t hang around etc….I’m sorry but that doesn’t wash as a valid excuse.

Many women on here are popular & coveted and could have meets morning noon & night with attractive men.

But I would hazard a guess that for most of these ‘top’ women if they arrange a meet they won’t ditch it for a last minute better offer.

It’s just a display of arrogance & disrespect & entitlement end of.

But it also suggests that women shouldn’t look for top/(perceived) attractive guys and instead settle for someone less attractive to them because they may be more reliable & grateful.

It almost feels like your saying ‘hey women know your place in the pecking order…

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By *imi_RougeWoman over a year ago

Portsmouth

"Crumpet, the lack of fucks.

Oh my, I think I've got competition

No, you really don't. Crumpet is truly something else in the best way.

We all love a bit of crumpet

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

Seems like we all could use a shag. Happy fabbing haha xx

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By *ex HolesMan over a year ago

Up North

I always let the 7’s and below down if an 8 or above pops up

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Dang this has gone waaay overboard.

Are you THE A.W. who's been in before ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Seems like we all could use a shag. Happy fabbing haha xx

This sounds more like you.

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

"I always let the 7’s and below down if an 8 or above pops up

I would comment but so not worth it lol

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"I always let the 7’s and below down if an 8 or above pops up

I don’t even waste my time with anything below a nine

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

Guys go get a shag. I know chatting on here is easier but go get a shag please.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"I always let the 7’s and below down if an 8 or above pops up

I don’t even waste my time with anything below a nine

Hurry up with the 10s then and using all the hitty things. Stop typing on here. Geez.

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By *lym4realCouple over a year ago

plymouth

6 times ??? Mrs4 operates on a first strike and your out policy now as far better things to do with our limited time together she says ..mind couples can and are just as bad though ...as been let down far more times by them than by males ?? but life does get in the way sometimes and we are quite proud of our record of only cancelled twice on meets over the many years we've been on the scene ( reason we only ever meet on a saturday night )

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tihi

Editorial review prevailed.

Am good boy, gets ribena now and biscuits.

Seriously ladies, stahp, she's dead already.

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Here's a little twist on that and I wonder how many have even considered it?

Based on that I wouldn't be too surprised if some of those guys standing women up weren't actually guys at all. "

Tin foil hat at the ready

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I guy stands me up once that's it. Blocked and moved on. There's no excuse not to drop a quick message in my opinion.

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"Here's a little twist on that and I wonder how many have even considered it?

Based on that I wouldn't be too surprised if some of those guys standing women up weren't actually guys at all.

Tin foil hat at the ready

" I'll ruin her!" was a comment by one woman that I know for a fact did this so stand down on the tinfoil hat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Seems like we all could use a shag. Happy fabbing haha xx

Yep...but your get stood up again lol x

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"I always let the 7’s and below down if an 8 or above pops up

I don’t even waste my time with anything below a nine

Hurry up with the 10s then and using all the hitty things. Stop typing on here. Geez."

Easy there tiger, there’s always time in my schedule for people into hitty things

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan over a year ago

All over the place

Name and shame, some guys ruin this site for the rest of us I swear.

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"”I'll ruin her!" was a comment by one woman that I know for a fact did this so stand down on the tinfoil hat

Thats my line! Who the fuck is stealing my lines…. Tell me…… I’ll ruin her!!

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By *ister CMan over a year ago

liverpool

Ok am shocked... I thought this cant be true...

So... thinking outside the box... am close... ill meet you.

There I've said it... I'll take one for the team am good like that

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By *wistedTooCouple over a year ago

Frimley

"Six times, same guy?

Isn't this on you at this point.

What do you mean? He's always begging to meet but when it comes to it, he bails. Quite a few guys do this. Maybe it's me. But I never stress to meet...they do.

I mean its entirely your fault at that point. "

Entirely her fault? Jesus. lol. No, it’s clearly silly on her part allowing it but it’s still him fucking her around. Jesus, that was actually pretty rude of you lol

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By *iss DevilWoman over a year ago

Bedford

"Why are you giving him 6 chances to mess you about? "

This! I give no more than 2 chances, usually one only.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If I guy stands me up once that's it. Blocked and moved on. There's no excuse not to drop a quick message in my opinion.

Got no credit, tend to wife and kids, approached by FF couple, found out he's your long distance cousin etc etc

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"I always let the 7’s and below down if an 8 or above pops up

I don’t even waste my time with anything below a nine

Hurry up with the 10s then and using all the hitty things. Stop typing on here. Geez.

Easy there tiger, there’s always time in my schedule for people into hitty things

Thanks OP, your thread has been a success for me.

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By *merican Woman OP Woman over a year ago

live by the Pool xx

Thanks for the comments lovelies haha you made my morning!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Six times, same guy?

Isn't this on you at this point.

What do you mean? He's always begging to meet but when it comes to it, he bails. Quite a few guys do this. Maybe it's me. But I never stress to meet...they do.

I mean its entirely your fault at that point.

Entirely her fault? Jesus. lol. No, it’s clearly silly on her part allowing it but it’s still him fucking her around. Jesus, that was actually pretty rude of you lol"

Sup, I'm good.

See ya around.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It really is the best thing about being an old woman. You can say whatever you want and people somehow don't get offended.

Got to admit that although I don't always agree with her I do have a soft spot for Granny

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why have you given him 5 previous chances

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By *wislandMan over a year ago

Newquay

Crikey - being a bloke on here I can't afford to be too picky but even I adopt a "1 strike & your out" approach!

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By *elshcouple18Couple over a year ago

Cardiff

It's not the quantity of men you can get that matters, it's the quality.

It happens SIX times because YOU allow it.

I'm going to put my keys squarely in the fruit bowl and say this is an attention seeking thread ..... cos anyone that dumb couldn't press all the buttons in the right order to type a message.

I do like your swimming cozzie. Is it from The Asda ?"
the curtains are too thick for most men to see through them tho..

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

He wouldn't have had chance to stand me up that many times op ,why are you letting him mess you about?.

If they bailed twice i'd be blocking them .

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By *issmorganWoman over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Women and couples also stand others up ,so its not just on men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why have you given him 5 previous chances

She must have really wanted to meet him

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"It really is the best thing about being an old woman. You can say whatever you want and people somehow don't get offended.

Got to admit that although I don't always agree with her I do have a soft spot for Granny

Mr"

1. Don't call me old.

2. What would you know about being an old woman ?

3. Is it a swamp somewhere?

4. I'm very careful about what I say.

5. I didn't say anything I wanted to.

6. I don't know what you are on about.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hugs

For a first or second time meet I only give one chance stand next up and they never get that chance again

For a regular or semi regular that I meet I may let one or two slide as I understand things can come up

But if they made a habit off it would have to tell them look this isn’t working

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

"If this thread was written by a man etc etc..

If this thread was written by a man it would read:

She hasn't given me her number yet, but still looking forward to meeting her. Still trying to get her address as I don't understand why I arrived at a car park.. anyone else experienced this?

If a guy complains about scenarios like this a lot of people will quickly tell him he wasn't chatting to a woman at all

Here's a little twist on that and I wonder how many have even considered it?

Based on that I wouldn't be too surprised if some of those guys standing women up weren't actually guys at all. "

That seriously belongs in the conspiracy theory box.

Even for some of the bat shit crazy women I've met in my life that idea is hilarious. But I'm sure it's a convenient theory to back up other views on why things happen on this site. Much like the underground covens of female site users deciding between them who's worthy of meeting and who isn't and how certain cliques control the forums and dictate which posts get attention and which don't.

Honestly the most tin foil hat comment I think I've read in over a decade on the forums.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Tsk ....

Another theorist above me ......

Theory here

Theory there

I thee hith theory everywhere......

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

No I spoke to one guy extensively before he stood me up. After waiting over 30 mins at the location, I went home trying to call him dozens of times. He eventually told me he accidentally left his phone at work and make it up to me....like heck he did ...just properly ghosted me. So all those months chatting endlessly on the phone wasted ...weird

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By *ealitybitesMan over a year ago

Belfast

"If this thread was written by a man etc etc..

If this thread was written by a man it would read:

She hasn't given me her number yet, but still looking forward to meeting her. Still trying to get her address as I don't understand why I arrived at a car park.. anyone else experienced this?

If a guy complains about scenarios like this a lot of people will quickly tell him he wasn't chatting to a woman at all

Here's a little twist on that and I wonder how many have even considered it?

Based on that I wouldn't be too surprised if some of those guys standing women up weren't actually guys at all.

That seriously belongs in the conspiracy theory box.

Honestly the most tin foil hat comment I think I've read in over a decade on the forums.

I'm delighted I've given you a laugh in your little cabin in the hills.

As I've said many times here before it appears the longer you are here the more blinkered some people become.

In all my time posting on the forums I've yet to put forward any theories.

There is method in every post I make and as I already said above this does actually happen because I've seen the agressors and I've seen when they mistakenly post on the forums using the wrong account or continue a private conversation using a different profile from the one that started it.

As to people dictating what others can or can't do on fab, maybe start a thread and ask for contributions from all those who know prominent forumites who are no longer on the site because they have been outed on social media to their families by disgruntled women and their backing singers.

Just because you may think it's bat shit crazy or the fact you've been here so long doesn't take away the fact that Thundercunts aren't a fab urban myth.

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

Stop giving people so many chances. Real life comes up but 6 times!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"He wouldn't have had chance to stand me up that many times op ,why are you letting him mess you about?.

If they bailed twice i'd be blocking them ."

Correct

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It really is the best thing about being an old woman. You can say whatever you want and people somehow don't get offended.

Got to admit that although I don't always agree with her I do have a soft spot for Granny

1. Don't call me old.

2. What would you know about being an old woman ?

3. Is it a swamp somewhere?

4. I'm very careful about what I say.

5. I didn't say anything I wanted to.

6. I don't know what you are on about."

1. I didn't, I used it to describe an age bracket that I consider you (or at least your online persona) fit into. It's a loose term, young - middle aged - old. I can't remember if I've seen your age but for some reason I have this mental image of a person in their 60's. For me the boundary between 'middle aged' and 'old' is pretty vague, I'm starting to feel old at 43, I'm sure I will consider myself old if only in numbers by my mid 50's. I did not mean offense and apologise if I caused it.

2. Depends what you're asking. If it is what experience do I have of being an old woman? The answer is none. If it is what have you been told about being, noticed about those who are or experienced from old women? I'd say roughly about the same as any other person my age.

3. No

4. I never suggested you weren't. In fact I'm absolutely certain you are.

5. I apologise, you can say also anything you don't want to ... if you want. Or something like that.

6. That's ok, I don't either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Happened to me 3 times last weekend he won't be getting another chance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m waiting for the dude to come and defend himself…

*shouts - Dude? Why did you stand her up?

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By *adyBugsWoman over a year ago

cognito

He wouldn’t get a second chance if he didn’t meet the first one.

Block & move on

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By *ilverjagMan over a year ago

swansea

Words like castrated, and a shortage of glass come to mind namely, no balls, and no bottle. If I'd been in your age group, and locality, you wouldn't have needed to ask me twice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This has happened to me twice with a guy from here

He still messages me to meet and when I told him I don't trust him he got shocked and said I should give another chance so he can make it upto me LOL absolutly not

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"Here’s the thing your missing

The guys your picking are the best guys. All the other women are picking them too

They didn’t stand you up and sit at home

They went with the better option

The top guys have plenty of options

"Top guys" don't treat women with this level of disrespect

Your wrong there. The top guys get picked for their attractiveness. Not their morals

If you find a top guy with morals, marry him

But can you blame them? 10% of guys probably get 90% of the meets. They don’t need to have morals

Being treated like crap falls more into the longer term stuff. I’m talking short term stuff like first meets on here. Don’t twist it

And my comment says nothing about my opinion of women either, so don’t twist that.

The most attractive guys get picked the most. So why can you expect them to value their meets when they get so many offers.

By this logic, no woman would value any of their meets.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sounds like there is a good chance he is in a relationship. Either that or is just messing you around given it’s been 6 times now . Would block and move on

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a 2 strike rule.. life happens so sometimes there can be a valid excuse. I know I have had to cancel a meet due to a child ending up in hospital but I did let them know as soon as I could.

Many women on here are popular & coveted and could have meets morning noon & night with attractive men.

But I would hazard a guess that for most of these ‘top’ women if they arrange a meet they won’t ditch it for a last minute better offer.

It’s just a display of arrogance & disrespect & entitlement end of.

But it also suggests that women shouldn’t look for top/(perceived) attractive guys and instead settle for someone less attractive to them because they may be more reliable & grateful.

It almost feels like your saying ‘hey women know your place in the pecking order…"

Underrated comment

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

Jeez ..I'd never not meet a lady

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