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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is it just me that finds compliments here, a bit difficult to deal with?
If i say thanks, the guy assumes i want to chat and/or meet
If i ignore them, i get abuse for being ignorant (aparantly i should be grateful)
Ive even tried saying thanks, good luck here, bye. Even thats met with abuse
So tell me....
Ladies, how do you tackle it
Gents, what are you expecting/hoping for |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just say thanks. If they continue to message and I'm not interested I delete. If they respond with abuse I curse their families with perpetual acne for 7 generations. |
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"Is it just me that finds compliments here, a bit difficult to deal with?
If i say thanks, the guy assumes i want to chat and/or meet
If i ignore them, i get abuse for being ignorant (aparantly i should be grateful)
Ive even tried saying thanks, good luck here, bye. Even thats met with abuse
So tell me....
Ladies, how do you tackle it
Gents, what are you expecting/hoping for "
Oh so, with words like that it's a yes then is it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you should block straight away on reading a message from someone not to your liking.
Say thanks, give your reasons, block, move on. No comebacks and state this on your profile. Simples |
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Compliments are always nice and I say thanks even if not what I'm looking for.
If I compliment someone and get just 'thanks' back then I take it as not interested or they would've replied with more than that, no offence taken from me it's just different people like different things! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'll still never understand why people get abusive when they get knocked back. Do they really think it will change the mind of the person thats not interested in them.
To many keyboard warriors with no manners |
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"I’m a bit awkward about it. Especially when it’s based on just a few reasonably lucky photos!
Should send a pic back from first thing in the morning - that’d make them wince  "
Give it a go.....welcome it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I say thank you. And I don't believe a word 
If someone has met me in person, and pays me a compliment, thats totally different. "
bollox you dont believe it then either  |
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"I’m a bit awkward about it. Especially when it’s based on just a few reasonably lucky photos!
Should send a pic back from first thing in the morning - that’d make them wince
Give it a go.....welcome it x"
Haha like a melted welly with a beehive  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me that finds compliments here, a bit difficult to deal with?
If i say thanks, the guy assumes i want to chat and/or meet
If i ignore them, i get abuse for being ignorant (aparantly i should be grateful)
Ive even tried saying thanks, good luck here, bye. Even thats met with abuse
So tell me....
Ladies, how do you tackle it
Gents, what are you expecting/hoping for "
This  |
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No reply = not interested
I don’t think it’s unfair for a guy to assume if you reply, your somewhat interested, unless you outright tell him
So either don’t reply
Reply, say thanks, but make it clear, no thanks
Just block |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m a bit awkward about it. Especially when it’s based on just a few reasonably lucky photos!
Should send a pic back from first thing in the morning - that’d make them wince "
No need to send a picture, I'll just roll over in the bed in the morning and see for myself  |
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By *KloganMan
over a year ago
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Compliments and criticism are all ultimately based on some form of projection.
If you see someone’s profile and they strike you as beautiful in any way, why not just let them know?
Especially if the spam purse or the morning beehive is equally lovely.. |
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"I’m a bit awkward about it. Especially when it’s based on just a few reasonably lucky photos!
Should send a pic back from first thing in the morning - that’d make them wince
No need to send a picture, I'll just roll over in the bed in the morning and see for myself "
you’d have to move the dog & the cat out of the way first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I give a compliment then I gauge the reply.
No reply - no harm done. I'm an adult. Petulance has no place in my life. The intent was to simply compliment. What you do with it is your business.
Simple reply e.g. 'Thanks x' - I use my brain, take the hint and don't continue conversation. I've delivered what I wanted to say, it's been noted. I'll move on because not everyone feels comfortable recieving compliments but also not everyone has to have a conversation with me. I chose to compliment you, I can't force you into conversing with me and nor would I spit my dummy out if you didn't.
A happy, positive reply - If I see a conversation opener or something that I can reply to then I may do so. Again, that doesn't mean I expect someone to fall in love with me and meet. I've had a few 2 or 3 message chats on here and then we both go our separate ways. No harm, no foul.
I'm not here to shag everything but I am happy to talk to anyone. Politeness costs nothing, it's a shame there's a contingent of Fab who don't uphold that philosophy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I give a compliment then I gauge the reply.
No reply - no harm done. I'm an adult. Petulance has no place in my life. The intent was to simply compliment. What you do with it is your business.
Simple reply e.g. 'Thanks x' - I use my brain, take the hint and don't continue conversation. I've delivered what I wanted to say, it's been noted. I'll move on because not everyone feels comfortable recieving compliments but also not everyone has to have a conversation with me. I chose to compliment you, I can't force you into conversing with me and nor would I spit my dummy out if you didn't.
A happy, positive reply - If I see a conversation opener or something that I can reply to then I may do so. Again, that doesn't mean I expect someone to fall in love with me and meet. I've had a few 2 or 3 message chats on here and then we both go our separate ways. No harm, no foul.
I'm not here to shag everything but I am happy to talk to anyone. Politeness costs nothing, it's a shame there's a contingent of Fab who don't uphold that
philosophy."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it's up to you if you want to reply to compliments. I usually do. But after you say thank you - you have to be VERY clear. Crystal. Even if they don't ask for anything, be clear if you reply. "No, I don't want to chat" "No, I don't want to meet you in a hotel" "No, I don't want you to rim my arse, fuck off".
And then block if you never want to hear from them again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just use the thumb emoji.
I personally think its a clear was of letting the person know. You're thanking them but making it clear that you're not getting into a conversation. |
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"I’m a bit awkward about it. Especially when it’s based on just a few reasonably lucky photos!
Should send a pic back from first thing in the morning - that’d make them wince
Give it a go.....welcome it x
Haha like a melted welly with a beehive "
Lovely x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What kinda compliments are we talking?
You’re gorgeous?
Nice tits?
I like the circumference of your areola?
I'm stealing that last one "
Only say it once you’ve seen the tits. If you say it before she’ll know you’ve been peering through her windows… I learned that the hard way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually assume that if I receive a 1 or 2 word response then they're not interested and move on, but it doesn't make the compliment void as I genuinely would mean it and not see it as an in |
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"What kinda compliments are we talking?
You’re gorgeous?
Nice tits?
I like the circumference of your areola?
I'm stealing that last one
Only say it once you’ve seen the tits. If you say it before she’ll know you’ve been peering through her windows… I learned that the hard way "
Noted |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just say thank you. Anyone who's a nuisance gets blocked "
This
But i do get you OP it's a nuisance sometimes.
And I hate to be rude as it's just not me, unless they're rude to me of course.
Miss S x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol first world problems …. Only on FAB
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What's the "first world problems" you refer to?  "
Getting so many compliments it fuzzies your brain on how to deal with them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lol first world problems …. Only on FAB
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What's the "first world problems" you refer to?
Getting so many compliments it fuzzies your brain on how to deal with them
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I like your underpants. "
Thanks very much x |
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
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I tend to delete unread as I would the majority of messages I get... I rarely get abuse but just block if I do... I only talk to the people I want to and only when I want to... I feel most compliments from randoms are just blowing smoke up my arse in the hope of some sort of interaction anyway and rarely believe what was said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually assume that if I receive a 1 or 2 word response then they're not interested and move on, but it doesn't make the compliment void as I genuinely would mean it and not see it as an in"
But some guys sadly don't mean them and just use them as an in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually assume that if I receive a 1 or 2 word response then they're not interested and move on, but it doesn't make the compliment void as I genuinely would mean it and not see it as an in
But some guys sadly don't mean them and just use them as an in. "
This isn't a dating site. Try Screwfix |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I usually assume that if I receive a 1 or 2 word response then they're not interested and move on, but it doesn't make the compliment void as I genuinely would mean it and not see it as an in
But some guys sadly don't mean them and just use them as an in.
This isn't a dating site. Try Screwfix "
I don't follow |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me that finds compliments here, a bit difficult to deal with?
If i say thanks, the guy assumes i want to chat and/or meet
If i ignore them, i get abuse for being ignorant (aparantly i should be grateful)
Ive even tried saying thanks, good luck here, bye. Even thats met with abuse
So tell me....
Ladies, how do you tackle it
Gents, what are you expecting/hoping for "
You are right to be wary of compliments. Some guys think compliments will get you to drop your knickers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me that finds compliments here, a bit difficult to deal with?
If i say thanks, the guy assumes i want to chat and/or meet
If i ignore them, i get abuse for being ignorant (aparantly i should be grateful)
Ive even tried saying thanks, good luck here, bye. Even thats met with abuse
So tell me....
Ladies, how do you tackle it
Gents, what are you expecting/hoping for
You are right to be wary of compliments. Some guys think compliments will get you to drop your knickers. "
shhhhh dont tell em ffs  |
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"Is it just me that finds compliments here, a bit difficult to deal with?
If i say thanks, the guy assumes i want to chat and/or meet
If i ignore them, i get abuse for being ignorant (aparantly i should be grateful)
Ive even tried saying thanks, good luck here, bye. Even thats met with abuse
So tell me....
Ladies, how do you tackle it
Gents, what are you expecting/hoping for "
A ride, obviously |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly, if it's a bother delete on sight. Repeat offender, block.
I don't nor wouldn't even bother sending a compliment knowing the sheer weight of messages women receive here, and even if it had no ulterior motives, it would still feel that way due to the nature of the masses.
The fab button works fine though for a little shake and a shimmy of approval. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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When I've given compliments in the past, it's been off the back of a post on a forum thread with no expectation.
This was normally well accepted, then leading to further exchange of messages. It helped that it was tied to something we could both relate to (a forum post) as opposed to sending some random compliment out of the blue that would likely be interpreted as insincere. |
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So, umm, I've held off for two hours...what exactly is a "pretty spam purse"?
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