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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’ve had a meet. It was fun but he was very ‘loving’. He’s married and it’s not physical. After one meeting he says he’s in love with me / constant messaging. How do I deal with this? |
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"I’ve had a meet. It was fun but he was very ‘loving’. He’s married and it’s not physical. After one meeting he says he’s in love with me / constant messaging. How do I deal with this?"
That’s not healthy at all! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Run for the hills
But also do the decent thing and don’t just ghost
Let him down gently
Tell him you had a lovely time and the sex was wonderful but you weren’t looking for anything other than that and wish him the best off luck in the future
Try to get out off it without the need for blocking and such
If the worst comes to the worst block button |
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By *ister CMan
over a year ago
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"I’ve had a meet. It was fun but he was very ‘loving’. He’s married and it’s not physical. After one meeting he says he’s in love with me / constant messaging. How do I deal with this?"
I personally find that terrifying... how did he get through the net for a meet... surely there were signs pre emptying this mother of all red flags |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is a red flag. I'd block him and move on, this could turn to stalking if you're not careful. Please take care OP x
This. Good luck and stay safe. "
Definitely  |
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"I’ve had a meet. It was fun but he was very ‘loving’. He’s married and it’s not physical. After one meeting he says he’s in love with me / constant messaging. How do I deal with this?"
Then he is useing you to move on. If his life home was good but the physical wasn't happening then he wouldn't come out with that statement.
I would say cut ties unless you want a knock on the door by the wife |
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"I’ve had a meet. It was fun but he was very ‘loving’. He’s married and it’s not physical. After one meeting he says he’s in love with me / constant messaging. How do I deal with this?"
Ask for his bank details before you run....I'm in need of a service (car) |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Just say something along the lines of “look Dave, I know my pussy is magical but we got to face reality here. You’re married and I just want some light hearted, carefree sex. I don’t want to be tied down. We both want different things. So, if you really love me, you’ll set me free. And who knows, another time….another place, things could have been different. Take care sweetcheeks” *block him* |
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"Just say something along the lines of “look Dave, I know my pussy is magical but we got to face reality here. You’re married and I just want some light hearted, carefree sex. I don’t want to be tied down. We both want different things. So, if you really love me, you’ll set me free. And who knows, another time….another place, things could have been different. Take care sweetcheeks” *block him*"
 ....magical you say....where would you find these delightful things??  |
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"I’ve had a meet. It was fun but he was very ‘loving’. He’s married and it’s not physical. After one meeting he says he’s in love with me / constant messaging. How do I deal with this?
I personally find that terrifying... how did he get through the net for a meet... surely there were signs pre emptying this mother of all red flags "
So it's her fault?? I don't think so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Even men can be bunny boilers. Be kind say you don't feel it.
Haven't read other comments or the threat.
If he can't take no yes Men some of yous can't just block. |
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This is the reason I'd steer clear of anyone who is in a 'dead' marriage. It doesn't take much to ignite a spark in someone who has been feeling physically neglected by a long term partner for a long period of time.
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"You need to have a conversation with him About how you are feeling too as you're clearly not on the same page
Don't ghost that's just awful "
She doesn't owe him anything though. He's a stranger. He's over stepped a boundary. It's perfectly acceptable to just walk away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had my share of stalkers , let him know upfront that you are uncomfortable and he's being a pest . This will sound harsh but you need to be firm and not nice about it ...if you put it nicely it will make him think there is hope and he will attempt to wear you down. BE VERY CLEAR AND FIRM , HARSH EVEN ...take it from someone who has been there..it will get worse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've had my share of stalkers , let him know upfront that you are uncomfortable and he's being a pest . This will sound harsh but you need to be firm and not nice about it ...if you put it nicely it will make him think there is hope and he will attempt to wear you down. BE VERY CLEAR AND FIRM , HARSH EVEN ...take it from someone who has been there..it will get worse."
This ^^ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve had a meet. It was fun but he was very ‘loving’. He’s married and it’s not physical. After one meeting he says he’s in love with me / constant messaging. How do I deal with this?"
Devil advocate...what lies have you been feeding this man for him to fall in love? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This has the potential to go sideways ...you guys are saying block and delete but it might not be that simple.
OP you said he is married so assuming you guys met up at yours ? so he knows where you live ?
Also assuming you swapped numbers as well ? |
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"I’ve had a meet. It was fun but he was very ‘loving’. He’s married and it’s not physical. After one meeting he says he’s in love with me / constant messaging. How do I deal with this?
Devil advocate...what lies have you been feeding this man for him to fall in love?"
That’s not being devil's advocate. That's blaming someone for somebody else's actions.
Mrs TMN x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be firm with your boundaries, what do you want? If its not the same as him, move on, tell him that. I'm guessing the love bombing will only get worse. Try and lead your actions with your head, not your heart.
Alarm bells ringing for me. |
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By *ister CMan
over a year ago
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"I’ve had a meet. It was fun but he was very ‘loving’. He’s married and it’s not physical. After one meeting he says he’s in love with me / constant messaging. How do I deal with this?
I personally find that terrifying... how did he get through the net for a meet... surely there were signs pre emptying this mother of all red flags
So it's her fault?? I don't think so."
Absolutly not you cretin...
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"This is a way to go i suppose"
There is no other way just blocking wouldn't be enough as can still see bit's of your actively the man in question can see everything put down in forum and make contact though it. |
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"Run for the hills
But also do the decent thing and don’t just ghost
Let him down gently
Tell him you had a lovely time and the sex was wonderful but you weren’t looking for anything other than that and wish him the best off luck in the future
Try to get out off it without the need for blocking and such
If the worst comes to the worst block button "
The psychology of a stalker is a scary one, so I agree with the advice. Let down gently but definitively. Don't block straight away. But don't re-engage.
Speaking from experience. |
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Devil advocate...what lies have you been feeding this man for him to fall in love?
That’s not being devil's advocate. That's blaming someone for somebody else's actions.
Mrs TMN x "
As my dear departed nan used to say, "it takes two to tango.."
How is this situation not at least 50% the fault of the person who knowingly agreed to meet someone else's husband? |
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Devil advocate...what lies have you been feeding this man for him to fall in love?
That’s not being devil's advocate. That's blaming someone for somebody else's actions.
Mrs TMN x
As my dear departed nan used to say, "it takes two to tango.."
How is this situation not at least 50% the fault of the person who knowingly agreed to meet someone else's husband? "
Ummm... I don't think his marital status has anything to do with the OP being accused of telling him lies to make him fall in love with her. That's a whole other conversation. In any case, OP has left the site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op, you must be amazingly gorgeous to fall for after just once….. Call me??? 
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Haha.
I stand by what I said on another thread. I get half a story from a short post from an UNLOS.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tell him you don't feel that way and to ease up on the messages. If he doesn't comply block him. It's a common phenomena for people in unhappy marriages."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has anyone manager to check in on the OP ? do we know if this escalated ????? Is she ok ???
Escalated? Maybe To marriage?  not even remotely funny  "
I laughed from a geographical distance  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has anyone manager to check in on the OP ? do we know if this escalated ????? Is she ok ???
Escalated? Maybe To marriage? not even remotely funny "
You started it
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Big red flag, I'd have to say not meeting again and block