Ok I’m gonna throw this topic out there as I don’t think guys talk about it enough due to stigma and I don’t think enough women understand issues guys have.
I suffer from anxiety and being with a new partner in the bedroom can bring this on and lead to not much going on down there which then adds to more anxiety and then even less going on etc etc etc
I know I’m not the only one and this is why I tend not to meet very much unless we really click and I can feel comfortable.
Also just to point out, it could also be a reason a guy cancels a meet last minute! ! !
Just thought I’d share this as a ED support thread more than anything else  |
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"Do you masturbate?
Stop doing that "
Thank you for trying to help, but thats not what I’m here for.
I’m sure that would be an issue for some people but that’s not what my issue is.
I just wanted to create an open space for guys to console.
Not for guys that don’t have an issue to try and fix others issue with throw away comments ha |
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Thanks OP. I think pointing out a possible reason for someone else's behaviour that is a bit more nuanced than "time wasting twat" is airways worth it.
There is always an assumption here that any person who does a no show is automatically an arsehole. While I'm sure some are, and I definitely agree that a no show is not a good way to respond to inner difficulties, I do wonder though at the seeming total lack of suggestions to explain the behaviour beyond "what a prick". You are of course right, men as well as women do suffer with anxiety, agoraphobia and low self worth and I'm quite sure many no shows are triggered by this.
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"Do you masturbate?
Stop doing that
Thank you for trying to help, but thats not what I’m here for.
I’m sure that would be an issue for some people but that’s not what my issue is.
I just wanted to create an open space for guys to console.
Not for guys that don’t have an issue to try and fix others issue with throw away comments ha "
It’s not a throw away comment. It’s how I fixed mine
So many guys with ED completely ignore the fact that they are over stimulated with porn and masturbate too much
Don’t masturbate for 2 weeks, then see how you get on, if there’s still an issue then we have other things to tackle. But to fix ED you need to take it step by step and the 1st step is seeing if you are masturbating too much |
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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago
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"It’s not a medical issue.
It’s a mental illness issue. "
It can be both tbf, I appreciate that with you it may be mental. I'm very anxious about lots of things at the moment and it definitely can have an effect on sex drive. |
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I had about six months of it turned out I had a blood clot that needed to be zapped, apparently it's an early warning sign for many conditions and shouldn't be ignored |
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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago
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Good on you for speaking open and honestly as well as providing a space for others to do so.
I've had troubles with anxiety and it's definitely impacted hugely on both general libido and being able to get and maintain an erection. Like others have said, some form of psychological input would be a good start to help you identify the root causes of your anxiety as well as being able to develop tools to manage it better. I personally found it to be a great decision.
Some medications, especially those for anxiety/depression, are known to cause problems with sexual function. If you take anything for your anxiety, it would be worthwhile discussing with your GP/pharmacist to make them aware of the potentially adverse effects. This will allow them to maybe trial something different which may not carry the same side effects
Only you know what will work best for you though and hopefully this thread gives some helpful info/advice/coping methods.
All the best mate!
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"Good on you for speaking open and honestly as well as providing a space for others to do so.
I've had troubles with anxiety and it's definitely impacted hugely on both general libido and being able to get and maintain an erection. Like others have said, some form of psychological input would be a good start to help you identify the root causes of your anxiety as well as being able to develop tools to manage it better. I personally found it to be a great decision.
Some medications, especially those for anxiety/depression, are known to cause problems with sexual function. If you take anything for your anxiety, it would be worthwhile discussing with your GP/pharmacist to make them aware of the potentially adverse effects. This will allow them to maybe trial something different which may not carry the same side effects
Only you know what will work best for you though and hopefully this thread gives some helpful info/advice/coping methods.
All the best mate!
C (mr) x"
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Yeah I’m off all meds now. |
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I think this is a great thread, I suffer horribly at times with anxiety and whilst I don’t have a penis for it to affect, it gets to me in many other ways such as not being feeling able to meet if it’s particularly bad to not being able to reach orgasm on meets. I think it hugely important to increase awareness on the different ways mental health struggles can impact us.
I hope you manage to find something to help you with it soon, and get and offer the support you want here  x |
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"I think this is a great thread, I suffer horribly at times with anxiety and whilst I don’t have a penis for it to affect, it gets to me in many other ways such as not being feeling able to meet if it’s particularly bad to not being able to reach orgasm on meets. I think it hugely important to increase awareness on the different ways mental health struggles can impact us.
I hope you manage to find something to help you with it soon, and get and offer the support you want here x"
It’s nice to hear from ladies that suffer similar issues.
I think it’s important to speak about the mental health side of this site and respect other peoples needs. |
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"Have you focused on trying to manage the axixiety? Sought help to try manage or reduce it? "
Oh yes. I’m 41 and have suffered with my mental health most of my life.
I manage it by knowing my triggers mainly.
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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"Have you focused on trying to manage the axixiety? Sought help to try manage or reduce it?
Oh yes. I’m 41 and have suffered with my mental health most of my life.
I manage it by knowing my triggers mainly.
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And can you apply some of that when preparing for or arranging a meet? |
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"Have you focused on trying to manage the axixiety? Sought help to try manage or reduce it?
Oh yes. I’m 41 and have suffered with my mental health most of my life.
I manage it by knowing my triggers mainly.
And can you apply some of that when preparing for or arranging a meet? "
Oh I do. I used to meet quite often on here a few years back , people seemed a lot more friendly then and there would be way more conversations. It’s gone a bit like horny tinder on here now though sadly.
I mean I’m a great lay so they are missing out haha |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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"Have you focused on trying to manage the axixiety? Sought help to try manage or reduce it?
Oh yes. I’m 41 and have suffered with my mental health most of my life.
I manage it by knowing my triggers mainly.
And can you apply some of that when preparing for or arranging a meet?
Oh I do. I used to meet quite often on here a few years back , people seemed a lot more friendly then and there would be way more conversations. It’s gone a bit like horny tinder on here now though sadly.
I mean I’m a great lay so they are missing out haha "
You appear to have a positive attitude so I'm sure you'll do OK. |
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"I think this is a great thread, I suffer horribly at times with anxiety and whilst I don’t have a penis for it to affect, it gets to me in many other ways such as not being feeling able to meet if it’s particularly bad to not being able to reach orgasm on meets. I think it hugely important to increase awareness on the different ways mental health struggles can impact us.
I hope you manage to find something to help you with it soon, and get and offer the support you want here x
It’s nice to hear from ladies that suffer similar issues.
I think it’s important to speak about the mental health side of this site and respect other peoples needs. "
Another lady here who suffers in much the same way as StarflyLou. Not got much to add, just know you're not alone. X |
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