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There have been many occasions where I have been invited to go out socially where I really didn’t fancy going for whatever reason e.g tiredness, not really my kind of crowd, my kind of thing etc etc. but I never say I just don’t want to go as have always been worried about causing offence so I always end up making up some poor excuse as to why I can’t go.
What do you do to get out of going somewhere when you don’t want to go ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There’s nothing worse than dragging me along to something I didn’t want to got to. My energy is drained just trying to email and make small talk. People who know me will know, my bag of sarcasm is empty by the end of it all.
I just say I don’t want to go or make excuses. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah all good answers, thing is if o say I’m busy, most of the people I know will ask me what I’m doing, they’re that nosy! And rude really."
Why, what are you doing? |
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"Yeah all good answers, thing is if o say I’m busy, most of the people I know will ask me what I’m doing, they’re that nosy! And rude really."
My nosy social friends will get a aubergine emoji and that normally stops the conversation as they then make their own assumptions  |
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"Yeah all good answers, thing is if o say I’m busy, most of the people I know will ask me what I’m doing, they’re that nosy! And rude really.
My nosy social friends will get a aubergine emoji and that normally stops the conversation as they then make their own assumptions "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have a blunt, brutal honesty. My replies are usually.... fuck off, no way I'm going there.
Who's going? The fuck im going if they're there.
And I have blanket "don't even ask me" policies for weddings, funerals, christenings, hospital, school shows or prison visits.
Get me out of a lot of awkward situations.
My brother has spent the last 5 years trying to get me to visit his house. I ask him "are the kids home? Then no"
I spend so much of my day having to "use my filter" I don't want to have to use it in my down time.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why won’t you go and see your brother if the kids are there ? But good for you for not messing about."
One of my brothers kids became a mum last year. He announced to me "Nads, you're a great aunt now" to which I replied "Bruv, I wasn't even a good one to start with"
I work at school during the week, last thing I want to do when I'm not working is be around other peoples kids.
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"Why won’t you go and see your brother if the kids are there ? But good for you for not messing about.
One of my brothers kids became a mum last year. He announced to me "Nads, you're a great aunt now" to which I replied "Bruv, I wasn't even a good one to start with"
I work at school during the week, last thing I want to do when I'm not working is be around other peoples kids.
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Horrible |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why won’t you go and see your brother if the kids are there ? But good for you for not messing about.
One of my brothers kids became a mum last year. He announced to me "Nads, you're a great aunt now" to which I replied "Bruv, I wasn't even a good one to start with"
I work at school during the week, last thing I want to do when I'm not working is be around other peoples kids.
Horrible "
Then why comment? |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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I tend to make the effort if it’s people I care about , I think it’s important. Unless I’ve already committed to doing something else , then I might try and sweep by for an hour.
If it’s just work colleagues or people I don’t care too much about & Id rather not go I just say no, no need to give a reason |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a blunt, brutal honesty. My replies are usually.... fuck off, no way I'm going there.
Who's going? The fuck im going if they're there.
And I have blanket "don't even ask me" policies for weddings, funerals, christenings, hospital, school shows or prison visits.
Get me out of a lot of awkward situations.
My brother has spent the last 5 years trying to get me to visit his house. I ask him "are the kids home? Then no"
I spend so much of my day having to "use my filter" I don't want to have to use it in my down time.
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Prison visits.
I like your style. You have to look out for yourself.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah all good answers, thing is if o say I’m busy, most of the people I know will ask me what I’m doing, they’re that nosy! And rude really."
I hate when people ask personal questions like that. I think at that point I'd just say I'm tired and may have covid.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a blunt, brutal honesty. My replies are usually.... fuck off, no way I'm going there.
Who's going? The fuck im going if they're there.
And I have blanket "don't even ask me" policies for weddings, funerals, christenings, hospital, school shows or prison visits.
Get me out of a lot of awkward situations.
My brother has spent the last 5 years trying to get me to visit his house. I ask him "are the kids home? Then no"
I spend so much of my day having to "use my filter" I don't want to have to use it in my down time.
Prison visits.
I like your style. You have to look out for yourself. "
When my brother and best friend were serving I wrote to them everyday so they new I cared. I just didn't want to see them in a cage.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to get worried about letting people down which always caused me yet more anxiety.. but as I've got older I realise that others aren't as bothered as i am if I don't want to go somewhere so I just tell them outright I can't be bothered |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a blunt, brutal honesty. My replies are usually.... fuck off, no way I'm going there.
Who's going? The fuck im going if they're there.
And I have blanket "don't even ask me" policies for weddings, funerals, christenings, hospital, school shows or prison visits.
Get me out of a lot of awkward situations.
My brother has spent the last 5 years trying to get me to visit his house. I ask him "are the kids home? Then no"
I spend so much of my day having to "use my filter" I don't want to have to use it in my down time.
Prison visits.
I like your style. You have to look out for yourself.
When my brother and best friend were serving I wrote to them everyday so they new I cared. I just didn't want to see them in a cage.
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Ahh shit sorry I thought you were joking. Xx   |
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"I used to get worried about letting people down which always caused me yet more anxiety.. but as I've got older I realise that others aren't as bothered as i am if I don't want to go somewhere so I just tell them outright I can't be bothered "
Yep, this was 100% me. Even yesterday I told a friend I couldn’t go out a couple of weekends from now (just saw him last week) and he threw a little hissy fit. F sake why can’t people just accept that not everyone wants to do what they want to do and move on.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a blunt, brutal honesty. My replies are usually.... fuck off, no way I'm going there.
Who's going? The fuck im going if they're there.
And I have blanket "don't even ask me" policies for weddings, funerals, christenings, hospital, school shows or prison visits.
Get me out of a lot of awkward situations.
My brother has spent the last 5 years trying to get me to visit his house. I ask him "are the kids home? Then no"
I spend so much of my day having to "use my filter" I don't want to have to use it in my down time.
Prison visits.
I like your style. You have to look out for yourself.
When my brother and best friend were serving I wrote to them everyday so they new I cared. I just didn't want to see them in a cage.
Ahh shit sorry I thought you were joking. Xx "
Hey they were teenage scumbags lol. The policies were in place from wayyyy back.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just like tonight work asked me to go out for colleagues leaving do
I’m honest so I said
Why would I go out with colleague when I don’t like him he’s a lazy little twat
Good Riddance
So that’s a no from me |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
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I tell the truth, all of my friends know that I have a lot of social anxiety and fairly limited energy and that I'm rarely more than a maybe.
One of the few perks of being brutally honest around my mental health is my friends tend to be understanding to how much of a struggle I find many aspects of life. I used to name all manner of excuses though |
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