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Can sexual attraction be built?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im attracted to someone sexually from their personality over there looks anyway so if you already know they are a great person but your not attracted to them then I’d say it’s probably not something you can just build on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes and no
Really depends
On what I am looking for in that person
Ie if I am looking for someone to date and settle down with then yes
As looks comes and sexually attractiveness take a back seat to
Personality
If the person is just for sexy time then probably not as there wouldn’t be time spent to build appon it
But also it’s a multiple layer question as well
Depending on the gender off the person as well
Ie woman wouldn’t lead them on just for a bang would tell them straight up they not for me but can be friends
Couple the same
Tv/ts would say we can be friends but that’s it
For guys this whare it gets a bit complicated
It’s all depends on the effort put in on the outcome
meaning if we meet for coffee in a public place mid afternoon would probably tell them they not for me
If they wine and dine me with a hotel room booked for after
I would let them bang ones as a thank you for the night and then tell them they aren’t really for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can only speak from a personal perspective. Which is, for the purposes of how I use Fab…..no. If I don’t fancy a person straight away, no amount of personality, etc will sway me to finding them sexually attractive. |
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By *iddylad87 OP Man
over a year ago
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I ask because I met a girl we’ve been speaking for a while, at the weekend she got pissed and I drove her home she asked me to stop and have a drink, she fell asleep on me on the sofa, woke up and asked me to put her to bed which I did she then demanded I got in for a cuddle she fell asleep, I left
In the morn I got a text saying It was a shame she wasn’t physically attracted to me :/
An before anyone says it I’m not really physically attracted to her |
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I have fucked people not overly physically attracted to but have been great buddies mentally with . Was worth experimenting some sex with to see how it goes.
Usually we just laugh it off as ok for a laugh 
If I just want to play with cock for an hour then I use a sauna as don’t even have to worry about asking names / attraction etc If I want to actually have a good day / night hangout (sex etc ) then some physical attraction is paramount to initiate it |
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By *iddylad87 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I have fucked people not overly physically attracted to but have been great buddies mentally with . Was worth experimenting some sex with to see how it goes.
Usually we just laugh it off as ok for a laugh
If I just want to play with cock for an hour then I use a sauna as don’t even have to worry about asking names / attraction etc If I want to actually have a good day / night hangout (sex etc ) then some physical attraction is paramount to initiate it "
So what you saying there’s a little bit of attraction there? As I said I’m only asking because I don’t want to keep seeing her and her fall for me because I don’t think I like her In that way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" you go out meet someone they are a great person but there’s no physical or sexual attraction, can it be built? "
Maybe, if you are compatible, looking to build a similar kind of relationship, don't find them radically unattractive/a turn off - more meh/neutral. Then as your feelings grow, their attractiveness can grow.
A persons personality can also be a turn off even if they are good looking IMO.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have fucked people not overly physically attracted to but have been great buddies mentally with . Was worth experimenting some sex with to see how it goes.
Usually we just laugh it off as ok for a laugh
If I just want to play with cock for an hour then I use a sauna as don’t even have to worry about asking names / attraction etc If I want to actually have a good day / night hangout (sex etc ) then some physical attraction is paramount to initiate it
So what you saying there’s a little bit of attraction there? As I said I’m only asking because I don’t want to keep seeing her and her fall for me because I don’t think I like her In that way"
If your certain your not feeling her that way then just be upfront that you care about her (if you do) in a platonic mates way. Definitely better to avoid mixed signals (words/actions not in sync) so then if someone gets hurt, its their choice, you haven't lead anyone on with unclear signals. If your not sure, keep it platonic until you are sure  |
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By *iddylad87 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I have fucked people not overly physically attracted to but have been great buddies mentally with . Was worth experimenting some sex with to see how it goes.
Usually we just laugh it off as ok for a laugh
If I just want to play with cock for an hour then I use a sauna as don’t even have to worry about asking names / attraction etc If I want to actually have a good day / night hangout (sex etc ) then some physical attraction is paramount to initiate it
So what you saying there’s a little bit of attraction there? As I said I’m only asking because I don’t want to keep seeing her and her fall for me because I don’t think I like her In that way
If your certain your not feeling her that way then just be upfront that you care about her (if you do) in a platonic mates way. Definitely better to avoid mixed signals (words/actions not in sync) so then if someone gets hurt, its their choice, you haven't lead anyone on with unclear signals. If your not sure, keep it platonic until you are sure "
like I don’t wanna see her hurt or be the one responsible for hurting her, so when she text and said that was she protecting me? Or genuinely wishing she was into me |
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By *iddylad87 OP Man
over a year ago
kidderminster |
"I have fucked people not overly physically attracted to but have been great buddies mentally with . Was worth experimenting some sex with to see how it goes.
Usually we just laugh it off as ok for a laugh
If I just want to play with cock for an hour then I use a sauna as don’t even have to worry about asking names / attraction etc If I want to actually have a good day / night hangout (sex etc ) then some physical attraction is paramount to initiate it
So what you saying there’s a little bit of attraction there? As I said I’m only asking because I don’t want to keep seeing her and her fall for me because I don’t think I like her In that way
If your certain your not feeling her that way then just be upfront that you care about her (if you do) in a platonic mates way. Definitely better to avoid mixed signals (words/actions not in sync) so then if someone gets hurt, its their choice, you haven't lead anyone on with unclear signals. If your not sure, keep it platonic until you are sure like I don’t wanna see her hurt or be the one responsible for hurting her, so when she text and said that was she protecting me? Or genuinely wishing she was into me "
I got d*unk an told her I loved her 6months ago, she didn’t speak to me for 3 months cuz it freaked her out, she thought I meant in a romantic sense |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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presumably you mean grow rather than built?
Yes, It can. I've had it with several relationships in my life time. As others have said there needs to be a connection, and as we get to know each other better that turned sexual.
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By *iddylad87 OP Man
over a year ago
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"presumably you mean grow rather than built?
Yes, It can. I've had it with several relationships in my life time. As others have said there needs to be a connection, and as we get to know each other better that turned sexual.
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yes poor choice of words |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
It has, in the past.
As I can't tell who it will happen with I have to have some interest in them as a person.
I am more likely to stop feeling sexually attracted to someone if I become annoyed with their behaviour and treatment of people. Or, if the relationship remains on one note - it gets boring.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wow, I am surprised at these responses. I must be ‘odd’ - I can be attracted to someone but then get to know them and be completely put off. I can then not really notice someone, but then get to know them and I get totally into them. No matter how attracted I am to someone, unless there is no mental stimulation and a spark of magic I would never. I do have a very specific type though.  |
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