FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > Women and couples - How do you keep up with your inboxes?
Women and couples - How do you keep up with your inboxes?
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By *ammo89 OP Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
I've heard some eye-watering numbers in terms of sitting messages, and can't even imagine where you would start with so many
Do you look for something that stands out while scrolling through, or do you try to read them all? Seems like it would take so long to read through that many, while more are still stacking up as you go? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I just check the profiles before reading. Most are deleted straight away. They don't meet what I want and have either not read my profile or decided that it doesn't apply to them |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *eisty LadyWoman
over a year ago
Count Your Blessings Cottage, Gratitude Grove |
Strict filters and block block block
A clear profile that says what kind of messages I’ll accept
No point opening messages from people who live miles away, out of my preferred age range, smokers or who simply aren’t what I’m looking for |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I just check the profiles before reading. Most are deleted straight away. They don't meet what I want and have either not read my profile or decided that it doesn't apply to them "
Same approach here |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I just check the profiles before reading. Most are deleted straight away. They don't meet what I want and have either not read my profile or decided that it doesn't apply to them
Same approach here"
This too on my female profile. Don't get many from our couples profile. Sin xo
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *eisty LadyWoman
over a year ago
Count Your Blessings Cottage, Gratitude Grove |
"I just check the profiles before reading. Most are deleted straight away. They don't meet what I want and have either not read my profile or decided that it doesn't apply to them "
…
Me too
It tends to be obvious who doesn’t match what I’m looking for yet messages anyway - a sure sign they couldn’t be arsed to read a profile before messaging first |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Before I blocked all categories completely I would mostly just skim through. Any with no profile picture or that just said hi got deleted and I would try to spot any interesting ones from the message preview. Sometimes I would just get fed up though and deleted them all. When that became a regular thing, that's when I changed my message filters to just block everyone. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Filters
Blocking when necessary
Screening - kinda like screening on phone easy enough to see which messages are of the one word, faf or similarly uninteresting variety and they’re instantly deleted
Stealth mode - check profiles before reading messages. Very rare I’ll bother reading message if the profile doesn’t appeal to me.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
* tight filters. Friends contact me via whattsapp.
* Any messages I do get, I check out their profile before I decide to reply.
I rarely get more than 15 messages a day so it's easy to keep on top. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
Tight filters so I don't get many messages I don't see the point of getting a load of messages off people I am not interested in interacting with.
When I do get one I look at the profile before I even open a message if I'm not interested in the profile or if they cheated to get through my filters it usually gets deleted.
In saying that I probably answer the majority of the messages I get even if it's just to say no thanks. But then due to filters I only get a handful a week which is the way I like it.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Imagine how this site would work if we didn’t send each other DMs. The male ratio on here is unbalanced, so the inboxes of a few (and it is a few ) is just going to be that way. They’ll get over it!   
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Click profile
If no decent pics, or profile doesn't match what we are after, or if profile text is shite then delete/block without reading message.
Harsh, but if they read our profile before emailing they'd only email if they matched!
Not reading and just deleting/blocking gets rid of the liars "I know my profile says X but I'm really Y".
In the real world we are polite, but sadly fab politeness on rejection replies does not work - people see it as an "in" to continue the conversation which is a waste of time for everyone.
So delete & block is the simplest way and saves everyone time. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I have my filters open at the moment. I’ve had some interesting messages, and conversations I wouldn’t have had otherwise.
I tend to skim/ninja check profiles as much as I can, but some of them will get missed/ignored.
I leave them for a while, then I bulk delete because they are annoying me, then I feel guilty.
Some of the messages are just dire, from the haven’t read the profile, to couldn’t be arsed to read the profile, crude, crass or plain boring/unimaginative. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Quick check if they have read our profile.
If not its a delete, about 80% deleted.
If its a hi or how's things, it's a delete and block.
Works a treat for us. The people we meet then tend to be on our wavelength, especially single guys.
This week only 1 guy received a reply, rest deleted, didn't read our profile as probably trawling and sending 1 line messages to lots of couples.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *elloWoman
over a year ago
alpha centauri |
I've currently got 35 unread messages, I have to be in the mood to open the often odd, sometimes rude messages especially if they contain a dick pic, it really isn't the most attractive piece of the human body and not what I want to see whilst eating my cornflakes  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
We're not swamped with messages - we're on most days and just delete anything that isn't for us. I know some people have heaps of messages but honestly I don't think most couples are totally overloaded in the way that forum lore suggests.
Mrs TMN x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
We also have men blocked (sorry guys), and we barely get anything, maybe 2 a week. The ones we do get never seem to have read our profile anyway and are looking for private meets.
We do like getting messages though, hint hint |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I get maybe 5 messages a day which start with "I know I'm not what you're looking for but...."
And if I do get one from someone that matches my tastes they are uually from someone 100+ miles away |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *eliWoman
over a year ago
. |
Filters. Look for people I recognize/I've interacted with before when I've got the headspace to reply.
I need to start going through it and cleaning it out/replying to some very sweet and thoughtful messages before they start deleting magically. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
We get so few messages I wonder why we’re doing wrong! We’re still new here and as yet haven’t met anyone- so maybe that’s a factor. Maybe one of our settings is wrong and makes us less viewable. I don’t know. Maybe people just don’t fancy us?!!! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
We deal with them throughout the day so couldn’t say for certain how many we get…maybe 30 - 50 depending on if we’ve posted a pic.
A lot can just be deleted as they a one word or we can see a cock pic as a profile pic.
The others we respond with polite replies and we will engage with intriguing messages/profiles.
If we’ve not posted anything then our messages can be less than 5…
We take people on to Telegram once we’ve established a connection so we don’t get a lot of message tennis.
K
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
LvM