OP, amongst many things for me it has to be some synergy at the mental layer; intellectual conversation, similarities about what turns us on. Reciprocal chat based on complementing interests inside and outside of the bedroom, coupled with a beguiling sense of humour and a peppering of empathy. |
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By *eliWoman
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Stimulating, easy conversation that can flow from intense to jovial without batting an eyelid. A sense of humour similar to mine. Hints of being a deep thinker and passion on any topic because I wonder what it will be like to experience their passion directed at me.
And because I'm a slow burner, the sense that there is genuine, reciprocated interest, where I feel lightly desired but not suffocated.
I really don't think I'm a swinger though, just an ENM poly slut.  |
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"Yeah as others said, the ability to hold a conversation. When it's free flowing and natural, it's a good sign.
^^^ echoing this too ...  "
What if he's not much of a conversationalist but brings cake and Jaffa Cakes?  |
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"Stimulating, easy conversation that can flow from intense to jovial without batting an eyelid. A sense of humour similar to mine. Hints of being a deep thinker and passion on any topic because I wonder what it will be like to experience their passion directed at me.
And because I'm a slow burner, the sense that there is genuine, reciprocated interest, where I feel lightly desired but not suffocated.
I really don't think I'm a swinger though, just an ENM poly slut. "
Deep thinker? I'm out. 
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"Stimulating, easy conversation that can flow from intense to jovial without batting an eyelid. A sense of humour similar to mine. Hints of being a deep thinker and passion on any topic because I wonder what it will be like to experience their passion directed at me.
And because I'm a slow burner, the sense that there is genuine, reciprocated interest, where I feel lightly desired but not suffocated.
I really don't think I'm a swinger though, just an ENM poly slut.
Deep thinker? I'm out.
Winston "
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You don't have to be "deep", Winston. You can be shallow too. Better still, an inch deep and a mile wide. |
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By *eliWoman
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"Stimulating, easy conversation that can flow from intense to jovial without batting an eyelid. A sense of humour similar to mine. Hints of being a deep thinker and passion on any topic because I wonder what it will be like to experience their passion directed at me.
And because I'm a slow burner, the sense that there is genuine, reciprocated interest, where I feel lightly desired but not suffocated.
I really don't think I'm a swinger though, just an ENM poly slut.
Deep thinker? I'm out.
Winston "
Shush you. I don't want deep all the time, just sometimes it's nice to have a conversation that isn't "I really want to do x, y and z" to you". Actually most of the time when I'm not ovulating.
You're in Winston. With a little violin welcoming you.  |
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"Stimulating, easy conversation that can flow from intense to jovial without batting an eyelid. A sense of humour similar to mine. Hints of being a deep thinker and passion on any topic because I wonder what it will be like to experience their passion directed at me.
And because I'm a slow burner, the sense that there is genuine, reciprocated interest, where I feel lightly desired but not suffocated.
I really don't think I'm a swinger though, just an ENM poly slut.
Deep thinker? I'm out.
Winston
Shush you. I don't want deep all the time, just sometimes it's nice to have a conversation that isn't "I really want to do x, y and z" to you". Actually most of the time when I'm not ovulating.
You're in Winston. With a little violin welcoming you. "
Phwoar..... top totty.
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"Stimulating, easy conversation that can flow from intense to jovial without batting an eyelid. A sense of humour similar to mine. Hints of being a deep thinker and passion on any topic because I wonder what it will be like to experience their passion directed at me.
And because I'm a slow burner, the sense that there is genuine, reciprocated interest, where I feel lightly desired but not suffocated.
I really don't think I'm a swinger though, just an ENM poly slut. "
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Good conversation on all manner of subjects, not just sexual talk. A sense of humour and free spirit, and keeping it tasteful when any flirting starts. The one thing that will stand out to me is openness as it can quite often go hand in hand with honesty.
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"Stimulating, easy conversation that can flow from intense to jovial without batting an eyelid. A sense of humour similar to mine. Hints of being a deep thinker and passion on any topic because I wonder what it will be like to experience their passion directed at me.
And because I'm a slow burner, the sense that there is genuine, reciprocated interest, where I feel lightly desired but not suffocated."
I was going to say this exact thing, only less eloquently and with more typos. You have a fine way with words, Meli. |
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By *eliWoman
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"Stimulating, easy conversation that can flow from intense to jovial without batting an eyelid. A sense of humour similar to mine. Hints of being a deep thinker and passion on any topic because I wonder what it will be like to experience their passion directed at me.
And because I'm a slow burner, the sense that there is genuine, reciprocated interest, where I feel lightly desired but not suffocated.
I was going to say this exact thing, only less eloquently and with more typos. You have a fine way with words, Meli."
 - an accurate depiction of my face right now. I'm rapidly developing a praise kink.
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"Biggest one has to be that they’re actually holding a conversation, if there’s some flirty back and forth that usually translates well in person "
This! If conversation is hard work or they’re ONLY about the sexy stuff I find that very odd putting
Flow in conversation generally means you’ll get along well otherwise in my experience |
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over a year ago
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"Yeah as others said, the ability to hold a conversation. When it's free flowing and natural, it's a good sign.
^^^ echoing this too ...
What if he's not much of a conversationalist but brings cake and Jaffa Cakes? "
But then what do you do when the cake  is finished?! 
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"Yeah as others said, the ability to hold a conversation. When it's free flowing and natural, it's a good sign.
^^^ echoing this too ...
What if he's not much of a conversationalist but brings cake and Jaffa Cakes?
But then what do you do when the cake is finished?!
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With single ladies it's the case that if I would be delighted to take them on a date as well as having sensual erotic pleasure together, then they are under starters orders. With couples it's a case of being sufficiently self assured that I can tick their boxes as well as them ticking mine. That way more often than not it leads to repeat get togethers. |
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"With single ladies it's the case that if I would be delighted to take them on a date as well as having sensual erotic pleasure together, then they are under starters orders. With couples it's a case of being sufficiently self assured that I can tick their boxes as well as them ticking mine. That way more often than not it leads to repeat get togethers. "
Too often guys can really make it feel like " any hole is a goal" or " last chance lottery" kinda thing. So refreshing to hear when a fella says, like you just did, about making sure your ticking theirs but also they tick yours. I too often see here where its made out by couples that a single guy should be eternally grateful they let him join them and give them what they want during a meet without even entertaining the idea of making sure or asking a guy what he wants out of it too and isnt just a means to an end.. |
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