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Monday Mental Health Check-in 11.07
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Good morning how are we all doing?
I’m not too bad, aware of sensations in my body that have the potential to trigger my health anxiety but I’m trying to just be aware and accepting of them and my thoughts/feelings around them. I’m trying to avoid the news for anything about threats from Russia which has been getting to me. I’ve done a couple of yoga/workout sessions in the past week and helped on the farm yesterday which are all good for leaning into the uncomfortable bodily sensations. Trying to eat better for weight loss but I’m struggling to suppress my greed when it comes to keep picking at stuff! I’m going to go shopping and get some healthier options on standby today. I did an online conference for creative arts in the modality of therapy that I’m studying over the weekend and there was some really interesting stuff that came out of that for me in terms of the drawing exercises we did for it. Still got one last essay to do so planning on getting on with that. All in all low level anxiety but I’m doing ok.
How are you feeling? xx |
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over a year ago
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"Good morning how are we all doing?
I’m not too bad, aware of sensations in my body that have the potential to trigger my health anxiety but I’m trying to just be aware and accepting of them and my thoughts/feelings around them. I’m trying to avoid the news for anything about threats from Russia which has been getting to me. I’ve done a couple of yoga/workout sessions in the past week and helped on the farm yesterday which are all good for leaning into the uncomfortable bodily sensations. Trying to eat better for weight loss but I’m struggling to suppress my greed when it comes to keep picking at stuff! I’m going to go shopping and get some healthier options on standby today. I did an online conference for creative arts in the modality of therapy that I’m studying over the weekend and there was some really interesting stuff that came out of that for me in terms of the drawing exercises we did for it. Still got one last essay to do so planning on getting on with that. All in all low level anxiety but I’m doing ok.
How are you feeling? xx"
I struggle to eat healthy
As I have food phobias and I’m such a fussy eater too |
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over a year ago
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Good morning Starfly
I’m starting to address some negative behaviours these past few days. Recognised that over the bast six months I’ve been drinking way to much and that is likely the cause of my weight can and general sluggishness. Using alcohol to cope with stress is NOT the way 
Focusing on running this week should help loads, I’ll be participating in the Windsor “Beat the Boat” 10km on Sunday. Will do me wonders |
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Well done in your mindset, that has changed for the positive for you x
The Boris Bashing triggered me last week and I barely kept that in with the added heat temper
All in though I'm coping, I'm not ready to snap and I can ride this out, three more weeks to go before hibernation in August where I can rejuvenate and start afresh in September  |
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Morning all, I had a lazy week which I think was much needed. Saw fwb later in the week. Also much needed 
Strange weekend as head wasn’t in a good place but I still managed to get out and about and do stuff. I think I’m just struggling with the outside world as it seems many of us do also.
Physical issue (ankle) isnt improving as it should be and so I’m considering seeing the physio through the doc surgery. Ugh.
Hugs to all in need  |
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"Good morning how are we all doing?
I’m not too bad, aware of sensations in my body that have the potential to trigger my health anxiety but I’m trying to just be aware and accepting of them and my thoughts/feelings around them. I’m trying to avoid the news for anything about threats from Russia which has been getting to me. I’ve done a couple of yoga/workout sessions in the past week and helped on the farm yesterday which are all good for leaning into the uncomfortable bodily sensations. Trying to eat better for weight loss but I’m struggling to suppress my greed when it comes to keep picking at stuff! I’m going to go shopping and get some healthier options on standby today. I did an online conference for creative arts in the modality of therapy that I’m studying over the weekend and there was some really interesting stuff that came out of that for me in terms of the drawing exercises we did for it. Still got one last essay to do so planning on getting on with that. All in all low level anxiety but I’m doing ok.
How are you feeling? xx
I struggle to eat healthy
As I have food phobias and I’m such a fussy eater too "
I’m sorry to hear that, it sounds really difficult x |
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"Good morning Starfly
I’m starting to address some negative behaviours these past few days. Recognised that over the bast six months I’ve been drinking way to much and that is likely the cause of my weight can and general sluggishness. Using alcohol to cope with stress is NOT the way
Focusing on running this week should help loads, I’ll be participating in the Windsor “Beat the Boat” 10km on Sunday. Will do me wonders"
Well done for recognising and admitting that. I’ve definitely been drinking too frequently too, trying to keep to weekends now but it can be tough to break behaviours that have become habits.
Good luck with the run! x |
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"Well done in your mindset, that has changed for the positive for you x
The Boris Bashing triggered me last week and I barely kept that in with the added heat temper
All in though I'm coping, I'm not ready to snap and I can ride this out, three more weeks to go before hibernation in August where I can rejuvenate and start afresh in September "
Thank you x
I’m sorry things have been tough for you, it sounds like there’s light at the end of the tunnel though! Hang on in there x |
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"Morning all, I had a lazy week which I think was much needed. Saw fwb later in the week. Also much needed
Strange weekend as head wasn’t in a good place but I still managed to get out and about and do stuff. I think I’m just struggling with the outside world as it seems many of us do also.
Physical issue (ankle) isnt improving as it should be and so I’m considering seeing the physio through the doc surgery. Ugh.
Hugs to all in need "
It sounds like there have been some ups and downs for you, sorry to hear you’ve been struggling with some stuff. That’s rubbish about your ankle, hopefully if you do go down the physio route things will improve x |
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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago
Swindon |
"I've been anxious for a couple of weeks which hasn't helped, but today I'm too busy to think of what's causing the anxiety."
This is me.......I get anxious at all sorts of things which never caused me a problem at all in the past. I have no idea why. |
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"Been dissociating a lot recently which really sucks. Filling in forms for benefits as my mental health is so bad I’m just barely coping. "
Sending lots of love to you, I hope you can manage to get the help you need x |
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"I've been anxious for a couple of weeks which hasn't helped, but today I'm too busy to think of what's causing the anxiety.
This is me.......I get anxious at all sorts of things which never caused me a problem at all in the past. I have no idea why. "
It’s strange the things that can trigger us once our bodies are on heightened alertness. There will be reasons, it’s just working out what they are and that can be uncomfortable and hard work! x |
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"I've been anxious for a couple of weeks which hasn't helped, but today I'm too busy to think of what's causing the anxiety.
Hope being busy helps! Anxiety is the pits, sending love x"
Thanks, its appreciated |
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"I've been anxious for a couple of weeks which hasn't helped, but today I'm too busy to think of what's causing the anxiety.
This is me.......I get anxious at all sorts of things which never caused me a problem at all in the past. I have no idea why. "
Been there. Luckily I know what's causing mine, I just need to pull up my big boy pants and actually address the issue. |
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I'm good, have a new outlook on life which is prioritising myself, for too long I have put up with being treated poorly and I decided, with some help from good friends that it needed to stop and I need to put myself first and start to get out more and do things for me.
I've not turned into a narcissist lol
Just focusing on self care, that phrase always make me think I have been having a wank  lol
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"I'm good, have a new outlook on life which is prioritising myself, for too long I have put up with being treated poorly and I decided, with some help from good friends that it needed to stop and I need to put myself first and start to get out more and do things for me.
I've not turned into a narcissist lol
Just focusing on self care, that phrase always make me think I have been having a wank lol
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Haha!
The line about not being a narcissist felt a bit to me as though you’re still not 100% comfortable with putting yourself first and maybe there’s some fear around what people will think of you if you do? I hope you can manage to put that to one side and push through the discomfort, old ways of thinking and acting can be challenging to change but I’m sure you’ll benefit from doing so. Wishing you lots of luck with it! Look up Kristen Neff too, she’s done some great work on self-compassion x |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
Not all that North of North London |
I'm better than I've been in months, went to a kink event yesterday for the first time in 6 months. A few weeks ago I was barely leaving the houde
And was actually excited to go and socialise and have fun rather than a mess if anxiety and I can't remember the last time that was the case but it's been a good few years.
I know recovery is never linear but it feels so good to be in a good place even if it's only for a while |
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"I'm better than I've been in months, went to a kink event yesterday for the first time in 6 months. A few weeks ago I was barely leaving the houde
And was actually excited to go and socialise and have fun rather than a mess if anxiety and I can't remember the last time that was the case but it's been a good few years.
I know recovery is never linear but it feels so good to be in a good place even if it's only for a while"
That’s awesome, I’m really pleased for you that you’ve made so much progress . I feel your pain with that last line though, you always wonder if/when it will strike again!
Enjoy while you can x |
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"Been dissociating a lot recently which really sucks. Filling in forms for benefits as my mental health is so bad I’m just barely coping.
Sending lots of love to you, I hope you can manage to get the help you need x"
Thank you x |
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Mixed week here but always knew it would be as the anniversary of my darkest hour falls this week and not sure if have done enough in the following years to still be here |
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"Mixed week here but always knew it would be as the anniversary of my darkest hour falls this week and not sure if have done enough in the following years to still be here "
Anniversaries can be really tough, thinking of you x |
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"I've been struggling with anxiety for the last couple of months didn't want to go out or see anyone it was horrible "
Sorry to hear that, how horrible for you . Are you feeling a bit better now? I noticed you used the past tense x |
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"I've been struggling with anxiety for the last couple of months didn't want to go out or see anyone it was horrible "
I've struggled like that in the past, I found getting out although terrible initially did me the world of good. I was lucky enough to live near a quiet country park that I could go for a walk in though.
I found it was all about baby steps, hope you are feeling better. |
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"I've been struggling with anxiety for the last couple of months didn't want to go out or see anyone it was horrible
I've struggled like that in the past, I found getting out although terrible initially did me the world of good. I was lucky enough to live near a quiet country park that I could go for a walk in though.
I found it was all about baby steps, hope you are feeling better."
yes you are right it's baby steps i go out for walks too my sick note runs out next week but don't know if I'm ready for work |
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By *ussD1Man
over a year ago
Gloucester |
"I've been anxious for a couple of weeks which hasn't helped, but today I'm too busy to think of what's causing the anxiety.
This is me.......I get anxious at all sorts of things which never caused me a problem at all in the past. I have no idea why. "
I traced my anxiety back to a very very toxic employment environment, specifically one or two individuals. I didn’t realise until I left to start a new job. Take a look around you, one toxic part of your life Dan cause anxiety elsewhere. |
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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago
Birmingham |
Crap, to be honest. Not coping too well. Tired of covering it all up.
Work mostly, it’s just soul destroying. Can’t focus and that really isn’t ideal when you’re self-employed. I should be thinking of growing the business but imposter syndrome, total lack of enthusiasm and knowing what work business growth takes (none of which I want to do) is stopping it.
This place should be making me happy and it isn’t. I went to a social a few months back, had a great time with great people….I should be excited to do it all again, but I’m not. I’ve booked in for another social to force myself out because at the moment I just don’t want to. I should be thrilled at the potential for intimacy , but sex scares the shit out of me in all honesty…..I can’t see it as anything other than massive pressure to perform and the likelihood I’ll either bore or disappoint them.
Some ex-colleagues are meeting this week for a night out and I just can’t be arsed with it. My main group of friends I’ve not seen properly since late 2019.
All of this is set against a mate/ex-colleague who was barely older than me that died recently, as a reminder of how short our time can be……and yet the impetus to make the most of it all just can’t be found.
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over a year ago
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I’ve been on fab on and off for some time and this if the first time I’ve ever noticed this.
I think it’s amazing.
I suffer with depression and self harm when times are hard, thankfully I’m in a good spell now, but it never goes away it will come back.
I just want to say if anybody ever needs a chat, a shout, a cry anything my mail book is always open for this.
#itsokaynottobeokay |
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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Crap, to be honest. Not coping too well. Tired of covering it all up.
Work mostly, it’s just soul destroying. Can’t focus and that really isn’t ideal when you’re self-employed. I should be thinking of growing the business but imposter syndrome, total lack of enthusiasm and knowing what work business growth takes (none of which I want to do) is stopping it.
This place should be making me happy and it isn’t. I went to a social a few months back, had a great time with great people….I should be excited to do it all again, but I’m not. I’ve booked in for another social to force myself out because at the moment I just don’t want to. I should be thrilled at the potential for intimacy , but sex scares the shit out of me in all honesty…..I can’t see it as anything other than massive pressure to perform and the likelihood I’ll either bore or disappoint them.
Some ex-colleagues are meeting this week for a night out and I just can’t be arsed with it. My main group of friends I’ve not seen properly since late 2019.
All of this is set against a mate/ex-colleague who was barely older than me that died recently, as a reminder of how short our time can be……and yet the impetus to make the most of it all just can’t be found.
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…….and then as these things often go, I’ve been feeling much better for the last couple of days. Guess I just needed to let it out. |
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"Crap, to be honest. Not coping too well. Tired of covering it all up.
Work mostly, it’s just soul destroying. Can’t focus and that really isn’t ideal when you’re self-employed. I should be thinking of growing the business but imposter syndrome, total lack of enthusiasm and knowing what work business growth takes (none of which I want to do) is stopping it.
This place should be making me happy and it isn’t. I went to a social a few months back, had a great time with great people….I should be excited to do it all again, but I’m not. I’ve booked in for another social to force myself out because at the moment I just don’t want to. I should be thrilled at the potential for intimacy , but sex scares the shit out of me in all honesty…..I can’t see it as anything other than massive pressure to perform and the likelihood I’ll either bore or disappoint them.
Some ex-colleagues are meeting this week for a night out and I just can’t be arsed with it. My main group of friends I’ve not seen properly since late 2019.
All of this is set against a mate/ex-colleague who was barely older than me that died recently, as a reminder of how short our time can be……and yet the impetus to make the most of it all just can’t be found.
…….and then as these things often go, I’ve been feeling much better for the last couple of days. Guess I just needed to let it out."
So sorry I missed your first post a couple of days ago. I’m glad you’ve had a better couple of days, I hope it continues for you xx |
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