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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is a good personality more important than a BBC? There are some great couples and single women on here and a BBC can just be a good bonus for everyone if personalities align. What does everyone think? |
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By *elloWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm not really up for anything with someone that defines himself by the size of his cock, so ya know... Attraction and personality go a long way! "
I'm absolutely the same, I can't stand messages offering a BBC, if all a man has to offer is a their cock then that's a nope from me, GSOH wins every time. And Big cocks are uncomfortable no matter the colour. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm not really up for anything with someone that defines himself by the size of his cock, so ya know... Attraction and personality go a long way! "
Agreed. Why are some couples obsessed with the number of inches? Is it different for different women? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm not really up for anything with someone that defines himself by the size of his cock, so ya know... Attraction and personality go a long way!
I'm absolutely the same, I can't stand messages offering a BBC, if all a man has to offer is a their cock then that's a nope from me, GSOH wins every time. And Big cocks are uncomfortable no matter the colour."
Isn’t the comfort aspect not a matter of rushing things? Otherwise agreed. GSOH is everything. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've got an AWC (Average White Cock) but I like to think I am also a BBC (bright broad conversationalist). Would that suit anyone? "
Absolutely mate. BBC can be overrated. Connection is everything. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Is a good personality more important than a BBC? There are some great couples and single women on here and a BBC can just be a good bonus for everyone if personalities align. What does everyone think? "
What was that well known phrase again.. it’s not what you have but what you do with it!
I think if someone has to sell themselves as a BBC then they are seriously lacking in personality….. |
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"Is a good personality more important than a BBC? There are some great couples and single women on here and a BBC can just be a good bonus for everyone if personalities align. What does everyone think?
What was that well known phrase again.. it’s not what you have but what you do with it!
I think if someone has to sell themselves as a BBC then they are seriously lacking in personality….."
Agreed, that's why you'll never find the term BBC or Black on my profile  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is a good personality more important than a BBC? There are some great couples and single women on here and a BBC can just be a good bonus for everyone if personalities align. What does everyone think?
What was that well known phrase again.. it’s not what you have but what you do with it!
I think if someone has to sell themselves as a BBC then they are seriously lacking in personality….."
Probably too harsh. A BBC is a kink for some people and they look out for that. Agreed though you can’t just be about a BBC. Personality is everything. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I mean always personality! Surely? The size of it is not what matter it’s if you know how to use it. That can be taught but a good personality can’t."
Agreed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is a good personality more important than a BBC? There are some great couples and single women on here and a BBC can just be a good bonus for everyone if personalities align. What does everyone think?
What was that well known phrase again.. it’s not what you have but what you do with it!
I think if someone has to sell themselves as a BBC then they are seriously lacking in personality….."
Exactly. Same goes for bbws. Or anyone that uses any label to describe themselves...ah... |
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"I mean always personality! Surely? The size of it is not what matter it’s if you know how to use it. That can be taught but a good personality can’t.
Agreed. "
That’s what guys should focus on. There’s very little cock type that would put me off but a long list of personality I would! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is a good personality more important than a BBC? There are some great couples and single women on here and a BBC can just be a good bonus for everyone if personalities align. What does everyone think?
What was that well known phrase again.. it’s not what you have but what you do with it!
I think if someone has to sell themselves as a BBC then they are seriously lacking in personality…..
Exactly. Same goes for bbws. Or anyone that uses any label to describe themselves...ah..."
How far would you take it? Blonde? Brunette? Height? I think there is nothing wrong with describing yourself but it can’t end there. Decent personality should follow. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is a good personality more important than a BBC? There are some great couples and single women on here and a BBC can just be a good bonus for everyone if personalities align. What does everyone think?
What was that well known phrase again.. it’s not what you have but what you do with it!
I think if someone has to sell themselves as a BBC then they are seriously lacking in personality…..
Exactly. Same goes for bbws. Or anyone that uses any label to describe themselves...ah...
How far would you take it? Blonde? Brunette? Height? I think there is nothing wrong with describing yourself but it can’t end there. Decent personality should follow. "
Exactly. Hence why I said both |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is a good personality more important than a BBC? There are some great couples and single women on here and a BBC can just be a good bonus for everyone if personalities align. What does everyone think?
What was that well known phrase again.. it’s not what you have but what you do with it!
I think if someone has to sell themselves as a BBC then they are seriously lacking in personality…..
Exactly. Same goes for bbws. Or anyone that uses any label to describe themselves...ah...
How far would you take it? Blonde? Brunette? Height? I think there is nothing wrong with describing yourself but it can’t end there. Decent personality should follow.
Exactly. Hence why I said both"
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"Couldn’t give a shit about skin colour or cock size, fair more interested in the person "
Yes! Like the chemistry has to be there. That comes from personality has to be there more than anything else! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Couldn’t give a shit about skin colour or cock size, fair more interested in the person "
Isn’t the person a combination of the look and what they are like. Surely they must be some attraction? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Couldn’t give a shit about skin colour or cock size, fair more interested in the person
Yes! Like the chemistry has to be there. That comes from personality has to be there more than anything else!"
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"Couldn’t give a shit about skin colour or cock size, fair more interested in the person
Isn’t the person a combination of the look and what they are like. Surely they must be some attraction? "
I didn’t say we don’t need to find them attractive, I just said cock size and skin colour aren’t important! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Couldn’t give a shit about skin colour or cock size, fair more interested in the person
Isn’t the person a combination of the look and what they are like. Surely they must be some attraction?
I didn’t say we don’t need to find them attractive, I just said cock size and skin colour aren’t important! "
Fair point and mature outlook. It’s the way it should be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are a lot of size Queens on fab, so I'd say BBC is by far the bigger draw.
I've been rejected a lot based on my size, and that's before they get to know me as a person "
There are a lot of guys on fab who blame others for their lack of "success". That doesn't come across as attractive. |
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
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"There are a lot of size Queens on fab, so I'd say BBC is by far the bigger draw.
I've been rejected a lot based on my size, and that's before they get to know me as a person
There are a lot of guys on fab who blame others for their lack of "success". That doesn't come across as attractive. "
I'm not blaming anyone? A preference is a preference. I'm just saying that I've been rejected based on being small, and my personality was irrelevant |
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"There are a lot of size Queens on fab, so I'd say BBC is by far the bigger draw.
I've been rejected a lot based on my size, and that's before they get to know me as a person
There are a lot of guys on fab who blame others for their lack of "success". That doesn't come across as attractive. "
Confidence is so sexy. Like you won’t be everyone’s cup of tea but like own who you are and that will be so sexy to those that matter: |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are a lot of size Queens on fab, so I'd say BBC is by far the bigger draw.
I've been rejected a lot based on my size, and that's before they get to know me as a person
There are a lot of guys on fab who blame others for their lack of "success". That doesn't come across as attractive.
I'm not blaming anyone? A preference is a preference. I'm just saying that I've been rejected based on being small, and my personality was irrelevant"
Being small. And white? Right.
Not sure why you would continue trying if you've decided that's the issue. I'd explore other avenues if I kept getting told the same thing time after time. That's just me though. |
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
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"There are a lot of size Queens on fab, so I'd say BBC is by far the bigger draw.
I've been rejected a lot based on my size, and that's before they get to know me as a person
There are a lot of guys on fab who blame others for their lack of "success". That doesn't come across as attractive.
I'm not blaming anyone? A preference is a preference. I'm just saying that I've been rejected based on being small, and my personality was irrelevant
Being small. And white? Right.
Not sure why you would continue trying if you've decided that's the issue. I'd explore other avenues if I kept getting told the same thing time after time. That's just me though. "
I've never been rejected because I'm white, just because of my size
You're right though, I probably shouldn't try anymore |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There are a lot of size Queens on fab, so I'd say BBC is by far the bigger draw.
I've been rejected a lot based on my size, and that's before they get to know me as a person
There are a lot of guys on fab who blame others for their lack of "success". That doesn't come across as attractive.
I'm not blaming anyone? A preference is a preference. I'm just saying that I've been rejected based on being small, and my personality was irrelevant
Being small. And white? Right.
Not sure why you would continue trying if you've decided that's the issue. I'd explore other avenues if I kept getting told the same thing time after time. That's just me though.
I've never been rejected because I'm white, just because of my size
You're right though, I probably shouldn't try anymore"
I think focus on your positives and play to your strength. Look up BDE (Big Dick Energy). It’s nothing to do with size. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There are a lot of size Queens on fab, so I'd say BBC is by far the bigger draw.
I've been rejected a lot based on my size, and that's before they get to know me as a person
There are a lot of guys on fab who blame others for their lack of "success". That doesn't come across as attractive.
Confidence is so sexy. Like you won’t be everyone’s cup of tea but like own who you are and that will be so sexy to those that matter: "
True and True (Big Dick Energy as they call it) |
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
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" I think focus on your positives and play to your strength. Look up BDE (Big Dick Energy). It’s nothing to do with size. "
Couples and women don't see any positives in me based on my size. I'm 4 inches, no one wants that small |
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Size matters at times for some. That’s fine.
I know sometimes I only want to meet very large guys and will reject others. As for the old wives tale of its what you do with it 
That's not technically true in reality as if it’s a visual stimulus you need to get off first to meet. Well the guy is shit out of luck as the motion will never get to pass to start with .
Equally goes other way as well and with boob sizes / ass size blah blah
People meet for various reasons so all can be equally valid , it’s finding compatible meets … |
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" I think focus on your positives and play to your strength. Look up BDE (Big Dick Energy). It’s nothing to do with size.
Couples and women don't see any positives in me based on my size. I'm 4 inches, no one wants that small"
You have 13 verifications…. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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" I think focus on your positives and play to your strength. Look up BDE (Big Dick Energy). It’s nothing to do with size.
Couples and women don't see any positives in me based on my size. I'm 4 inches, no one wants that small
You have 13 verifications…. "
Good observation. I didn’t notice. Some have none. |
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For some having a big penis is their USP if it works for them then good for them I see plenty of people who are only after big cock I suppose porn has a lot to answer for in regards to fetishisation of certain things |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For some having a big penis is their USP if it works for them then good for them I see plenty of people who are only after big cock I suppose porn has a lot to answer for in regards to fetishisation of certain things "
Definitely. Porn has a huge role to play in it all. But a great personality os just as important. No one wants to chat with an arrogant guy even with a BBC let alone meet them. At least from my experience. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Is a good personality more important than a BBC? There are some great couples and single women on here and a BBC can just be a good bonus for everyone if personalities align. What does everyone think?
What was that well known phrase again.. it’s not what you have but what you do with it!
I think if someone has to sell themselves as a BBC then they are seriously lacking in personality…..
Probably too harsh. A BBC is a kink for some people and they look out for that. Agreed though you can’t just be about a BBC. Personality is everything."
Nope.. not harsh enough…
BBC is a generality, personality is unique!
If you have to sell yourself on a generality that like me saying I have red blood, or brown skin, or 2 eyes….
I also throw out 2 warnings when it comes to the term BBC,
1) it’s very much a double edged sword.. if you are going to use race to sell yourself, then don’t complain if people use race to reject you!!
2) people who use the term BBC in searching are likely to turn off as many of the people you are after and you may find are attracted!!
It will only change when you make people understand the consequences…. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is a good personality more important than a BBC? There are some great couples and single women on here and a BBC can just be a good bonus for everyone if personalities align. What does everyone think?
What was that well known phrase again.. it’s not what you have but what you do with it!
I think if someone has to sell themselves as a BBC then they are seriously lacking in personality…..
Probably too harsh. A BBC is a kink for some people and they look out for that. Agreed though you can’t just be about a BBC. Personality is everything.
Nope.. not harsh enough…
BBC is a generality, personality is unique!
If you have to sell yourself on a generality that like me saying I have red blood, or brown skin, or 2 eyes….
I also throw out 2 warnings when it comes to the term BBC,
1) it’s very much a double edged sword.. if you are going to use race to sell yourself, then don’t complain if people use race to reject you!!
2) people who use the term BBC in searching are likely to turn off as many of the people you are after and you may find are attracted!!
It will only change when you make people understand the consequences…. "
Not sure this is just about FAB. “Understand Consequences??
Isn’t BBC just an acronym? Like BWC. Like Tall and Dark. Like Blonde with big Boobs.
Point is those are all just physical attributes. We are all agreed, personality trumps all those physical attributes.
Happy Fabbing and enjoy Club F this evening. |
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
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" I think focus on your positives and play to your strength. Look up BDE (Big Dick Energy). It’s nothing to do with size.
Couples and women don't see any positives in me based on my size. I'm 4 inches, no one wants that small
You have 13 verifications…. "
Mostly socials and meets involving Voyeurism. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" I think focus on your positives and play to your strength. Look up BDE (Big Dick Energy). It’s nothing to do with size.
Couples and women don't see any positives in me based on my size. I'm 4 inches, no one wants that small
You have 13 verifications….
Mostly socials and meets involving Voyeurism."
purely from observation I'd be put off from meeting you because in every single thread I've seen you've been downing yourself on your cock size ...to me that means if we were to play I'd have to keep validating the experience as you are already overly self conscious....so in my mind I could picture you constantly questioning if you were any good ..huge turn off for me . I like big cocks for certain experiences but the best sex I've had to date was with a guy with a smaller cock...he just legit had big dick energy and fucked like he did ... |
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
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" I think focus on your positives and play to your strength. Look up BDE (Big Dick Energy). It’s nothing to do with size.
Couples and women don't see any positives in me based on my size. I'm 4 inches, no one wants that small
You have 13 verifications….
Mostly socials and meets involving Voyeurism. purely from observation I'd be put off from meeting you because in every single thread I've seen you've been downing yourself on your cock size ...to me that means if we were to play I'd have to keep validating the experience as you are already overly self conscious....so in my mind I could picture you constantly questioning if you were any good ..huge turn off for me . I like big cocks for certain experiences but the best sex I've had to date was with a guy with a smaller cock...he just legit had big dick energy and fucked like he did ..."
I wouldn't be looking for validation. I know how small it is, and I do the best I can with it. Its just that no one wants it in the first place |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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" I think focus on your positives and play to your strength. Look up BDE (Big Dick Energy). It’s nothing to do with size.
Couples and women don't see any positives in me based on my size. I'm 4 inches, no one wants that small
You have 13 verifications….
Mostly socials and meets involving Voyeurism. purely from observation I'd be put off from meeting you because in every single thread I've seen you've been downing yourself on your cock size ...to me that means if we were to play I'd have to keep validating the experience as you are already overly self conscious....so in my mind I could picture you constantly questioning if you were any good ..huge turn off for me . I like big cocks for certain experiences but the best sex I've had to date was with a guy with a smaller cock...he just legit had big dick energy and fucked like he did ..."
She knows what am talking about - BDE. Nothing about cock size. It’s all in the head. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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To the OP , I actually hate the term BBC...as a black women I feel too often black men are reduced or boxed in by this term when they have so much more to offer than just that ...sadly some black men lead with ...'would you like some BBC' ....I think confidence carries a man regardless of cock size but unfortunately confidence lies on the border of arrogance so it's a touch call at times. |
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Agreed. Why are some couples obsessed with the number of inches? Is it different for different women?"
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They're not, they're objectifying you because of your race and stereotypes.
You're not helping by also using crass acronyms, it perpetuates black men being seen as little more than a fetish. |
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"To the OP , I actually hate the term BBC...as a black women I feel too often black men are reduced or boxed in by this term when they have so much more to offer than just that ...sadly some black men lead with ...'would you like some BBC' ....I think confidence carries a man regardless of cock size but unfortunately confidence lies on the border of arrogance so it's a touch call at times."
All duly noted. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A good cock draws me in but a good personality will keep me interested"
Personality wins then but like all things. Others are drawn to blondes etc then stay because of personalities. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Agreed. Why are some couples obsessed with the number of inches? Is it different for different women?
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They're not, they're objectifying you because of your race and stereotypes.
You're not helping by also using crass acronyms, it perpetuates black men being seen as little more than a fetish."
Noted but isn’t it the same as guys going after a double d blonde with a nice bum? Just asking |
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Agreed. Why are some couples obsessed with the number of inches? Is it different for different women?
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They're not, they're objectifying you because of your race and stereotypes.
You're not helping by also using crass acronyms, it perpetuates black men being seen as little more than a fetish.
Noted but isn’t it the same as guys going after a double d blonde with a nice bum? Just asking"
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No because "Big Black Cock" is invariably used to describe a human being, reducing them to the sum of their genitalia.
I'm honestly baffled by the lack of understanding...the most obvious analogy would be if white women were described routinely by black men as White Cunts...the lid would blow off this place!
How hard can it be to describe black men as just that without all the (white) porn inspired nonsense? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Agreed. Why are some couples obsessed with the number of inches? Is it different for different women?
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They're not, they're objectifying you because of your race and stereotypes.
You're not helping by also using crass acronyms, it perpetuates black men being seen as little more than a fetish.
Noted but isn’t it the same as guys going after a double d blonde with a nice bum? Just asking
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No because "Big Black Cock" is invariably used to describe a human being, reducing them to the sum of their genitalia.
I'm honestly baffled by the lack of understanding...the most obvious analogy would be if white women were described routinely by black men as White Cunts...the lid would blow off this place!
How hard can it be to describe black men as just that without all the (white) porn inspired nonsense?"
I hear you. Fair point. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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How hard can it be to describe black men as just that without all the (white) porn inspired nonsense?"
…. Which is the sort of point I was trying to make but it’s takes 2 things to make this happen
1) for couples and women to stop using the term… or again understanding the consequences… if people turn it into a negative people would stop using it
2) for black guys to stop using it as they see it as some sort of positive or as an advantage over others
But neither is going to happen whilst people think about what they are typing with their genitalia rather than their brains |
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How hard can it be to describe black men as just that without all the (white) porn inspired nonsense?
…. Which is the sort of point I was trying to make but it’s takes 2 things to make this happen
1) for couples and women to stop using the term… or again understanding the consequences… if people turn it into a negative people would stop using it
2) for black guys to stop using it as they see it as some sort of positive or as an advantage over others
But neither is going to happen whilst people think about what they are typing with their genitalia rather than their brains "
this this this well said
I don't think many people black or white fully grasp the depth of the sexualization of both the black male and female ...particularly how it all came about .If they did I would hope they would understand the stance some of us take with being fetishized. It's borderline repulsive for me .... I had this discussion with a white male and walked him through how the black woman was portrayed and then fetishized because of said portrayal. Ultimately he apologized for his ignorance but not everyone is open to that level of discussion and it's quite a depressing conversation to have ....
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Agreed. Why are some couples obsessed with the number of inches? Is it different for different women?
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They're not, they're objectifying you because of your race and stereotypes.
You're not helping by also using crass acronyms, it perpetuates black men being seen as little more than a fetish.
Noted but isn’t it the same as guys going after a double d blonde with a nice bum? Just asking"
You've just described Beyonce (at time of writing) |
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"Ultimately he apologized for his ignorance but not everyone is open to that level of discussion and it's quite a depressing conversation to have ....
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They don't care, that's why they use reductionist terms such as "bbc", "blacked", "bull" etc, etc it saves them having a coherent conversation with themselves about what they really think about black people...body parts aren't sentient. |
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"Ultimately he apologized for his ignorance but not everyone is open to that level of discussion and it's quite a depressing conversation to have ....
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They don't care, that's why they use reductionist terms such as "bbc", "blacked", "bull" etc, etc it saves them having a coherent conversation with themselves about what they really think about black people...body parts aren't sentient."
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
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" I think focus on your positives and play to your strength. Look up BDE (Big Dick Energy). It’s nothing to do with size.
Couples and women don't see any positives in me based on my size. I'm 4 inches, no one wants that small
You have 13 verifications….
Mostly socials and meets involving Voyeurism. purely from observation I'd be put off from meeting you because in every single thread I've seen you've been downing yourself on your cock size ...to me that means if we were to play I'd have to keep validating the experience as you are already overly self conscious....so in my mind I could picture you constantly questioning if you were any good ..huge turn off for me . I like big cocks for certain experiences but the best sex I've had to date was with a guy with a smaller cock...he just legit had big dick energy and fucked like he did ...
She knows what am talking about - BDE. Nothing about cock size. It’s all in the head. "
Its very easy for you to say this as a hung guy. Cock size has never been an issue you've had to contend with |
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"Ultimately he apologized for his ignorance but not everyone is open to that level of discussion and it's quite a depressing conversation to have ....
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They don't care, that's why they use reductionist terms such as "bbc", "blacked", "bull" etc, etc it saves them having a coherent conversation with themselves about what they really think about black people...body parts aren't sentient. facts "
Totally agree! As mother of a black man I find the term repulsive. And the term is deeply rooted in racism. Since the 1900s black men were portrayed as savages and this plays into this. This is actually the stereotype the KKK used to encourage violence against black men. It’s dehumanising and abhorrent. |
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" I think focus on your positives and play to your strength. Look up BDE (Big Dick Energy). It’s nothing to do with size.
Couples and women don't see any positives in me based on my size. I'm 4 inches, no one wants that small
You have 13 verifications….
Mostly socials and meets involving Voyeurism. purely from observation I'd be put off from meeting you because in every single thread I've seen you've been downing yourself on your cock size ...to me that means if we were to play I'd have to keep validating the experience as you are already overly self conscious....so in my mind I could picture you constantly questioning if you were any good ..huge turn off for me . I like big cocks for certain experiences but the best sex I've had to date was with a guy with a smaller cock...he just legit had big dick energy and fucked like he did ...
She knows what am talking about - BDE. Nothing about cock size. It’s all in the head.
Its very easy for you to say this as a hung guy. Cock size has never been an issue you've had to contend with"
Oh woe is me. So what you haven’t got a huge cock. Black men have to deal with much bigger issues than that. Cock size isn’t your issue, personality is. Your whole personality has become you fixating and moaning about your cock size. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
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How hard can it be to describe black men as just that without all the (white) porn inspired nonsense?
…. Which is the sort of point I was trying to make but it’s takes 2 things to make this happen
1) for couples and women to stop using the term… or again understanding the consequences… if people turn it into a negative people would stop using it
2) for black guys to stop using it as they see it as some sort of positive or as an advantage over others
But neither is going to happen whilst people think about what they are typing with their genitalia rather than their brains this this this well said
I don't think many people black or white fully grasp the depth of the sexualization of both the black male and female ...particularly how it all came about .If they did I would hope they would understand the stance some of us take with being fetishized. It's borderline repulsive for me .... I had this discussion with a white male and walked him through how the black woman was portrayed and then fetishized because of said portrayal. Ultimately he apologized for his ignorance but not everyone is open to that level of discussion and it's quite a depressing conversation to have ....
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I have known one of my best female swinger’s friends for years and I love her to bits… but when she was discussing getting a QoS tattoo I just had to sit her down and have a big long conversation… I would never tell her not to or throw around ultimatums.. but I just wanted to let her know how some people feel about the representation and that there were as many negatives as positives…. |
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
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"you can have the biggest cock on fab,, but if your dull as dish water its not much use,,"
I'm sure big harold is getting plenty of messages and offers before anyone even knows him, so I know who I'd rather be |
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"you can have the biggest cock on fab,, but if your dull as dish water its not much use,,
I'm sure big harold is getting plenty of messages and offers before anyone even knows him, so I know who I'd rather be "
Would you really want to be fetishised about and have it so noone actually cared about anything other than your dick?
Personally, I'd prefer to get less messages, but have them from people that actually want to know me, and spend time with me.
Luckily I do get that. Not because of my dick (it's not on display to everyone) or my looks (I'm nothing special), but I believe because of my personality. I try to be cheery, positive and make people feel good. That I've been assured is very attractive. |
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
"you can have the biggest cock on fab,, but if your dull as dish water its not much use,,
I'm sure big harold is getting plenty of messages and offers before anyone even knows him, so I know who I'd rather be
Would you really want to be fetishised about and have it so noone actually cared about anything other than your dick?
Personally, I'd prefer to get less messages, but have them from people that actually want to know me, and spend time with me.
Luckily I do get that. Not because of my dick (it's not on display to everyone) or my looks (I'm nothing special), but I believe because of my personality. I try to be cheery, positive and make people feel good. That I've been assured is very attractive. "
I'd rather be fetishised if it helped me meet more people and I could get my personality across after when I meet them.
I've done nothing but be polite and confident in messages and socials. Doesn't work unless you have the physical traits to back it up. Everything I send gets deleted |
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"you can have the biggest cock on fab,, but if your dull as dish water its not much use,,
I'm sure big harold is getting plenty of messages and offers before anyone even knows him, so I know who I'd rather be
Would you really want to be fetishised about and have it so noone actually cared about anything other than your dick?
Personally, I'd prefer to get less messages, but have them from people that actually want to know me, and spend time with me.
Luckily I do get that. Not because of my dick (it's not on display to everyone) or my looks (I'm nothing special), but I believe because of my personality. I try to be cheery, positive and make people feel good. That I've been assured is very attractive.
I'd rather be fetishised if it helped me meet more people and I could get my personality across after when I meet them.
I've done nothing but be polite and confident in messages and socials. Doesn't work unless you have the physical traits to back it up. Everything I send gets deleted"
Although you’ve had numerous meets including 3 last month. Do you not think it’s slightly rude to the ones who you have met and left you nice verifications, to just pretend you haven’t met anyone?  |
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"you can have the biggest cock on fab,, but if your dull as dish water its not much use,,
I'm sure big harold is getting plenty of messages and offers before anyone even knows him, so I know who I'd rather be
Would you really want to be fetishised about and have it so noone actually cared about anything other than your dick?
Personally, I'd prefer to get less messages, but have them from people that actually want to know me, and spend time with me.
Luckily I do get that. Not because of my dick (it's not on display to everyone) or my looks (I'm nothing special), but I believe because of my personality. I try to be cheery, positive and make people feel good. That I've been assured is very attractive.
I'd rather be fetishised if it helped me meet more people and I could get my personality across after when I meet them.
I've done nothing but be polite and confident in messages and socials. Doesn't work unless you have the physical traits to back it up. Everything I send gets deleted
Although you’ve had numerous meets including 3 last month. Do you not think it’s slightly rude to the ones who you have met and left you nice verifications, to just pretend you haven’t met anyone? "
This, plus the constant moaning.
That doesn't come across as confident or fun, and would probably put most people off wanting to meet you rather than anything about your physical self as there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.
I know I'd never even consider meeting a women who acted in this way, no matter what they look like, and there are far fewer of them to choose from on this site.
I really do hope at somepoint you realise that you are a decent looking bloke, and (judging by your veris) you are actually doing pretty well on here for a single guy, then drop the whole woe is me attitude and start enjoying yourself. You and everyone deserve to be happy. |
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"you can have the biggest cock on fab,, but if your dull as dish water its not much use,,
I'm sure big harold is getting plenty of messages and offers before anyone even knows him, so I know who I'd rather be
Would you really want to be fetishised about and have it so noone actually cared about anything other than your dick?
Personally, I'd prefer to get less messages, but have them from people that actually want to know me, and spend time with me.
Luckily I do get that. Not because of my dick (it's not on display to everyone) or my looks (I'm nothing special), but I believe because of my personality. I try to be cheery, positive and make people feel good. That I've been assured is very attractive.
I'd rather be fetishised if it helped me meet more people and I could get my personality across after when I meet them.
I've done nothing but be polite and confident in messages and socials. Doesn't work unless you have the physical traits to back it up. Everything I send gets deleted"
That’s a gross comment, unless you’re constantly fetishised your have no idea. I’ve been fetishised since my very early teens and I hate it. It’s demeaning and demoralising. You have zero idea what it’s like to be black and it shows. Your dick size isn’t your issue, your personality is! |
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"you can have the biggest cock on fab,, but if your dull as dish water its not much use,,
I'm sure big harold is getting plenty of messages and offers before anyone even knows him, so I know who I'd rather be
Would you really want to be fetishised about and have it so noone actually cared about anything other than your dick?
Personally, I'd prefer to get less messages, but have them from people that actually want to know me, and spend time with me.
Luckily I do get that. Not because of my dick (it's not on display to everyone) or my looks (I'm nothing special), but I believe because of my personality. I try to be cheery, positive and make people feel good. That I've been assured is very attractive.
I'd rather be fetishised if it helped me meet more people and I could get my personality across after when I meet them.
I've done nothing but be polite and confident in messages and socials. Doesn't work unless you have the physical traits to back it up. Everything I send gets deleted
That’s a gross comment, unless you’re constantly fetishised your have no idea. I’ve been fetishised since my very early teens and I hate it. It’s demeaning and demoralising. You have zero idea what it’s like to be black and it shows. Your dick size isn’t your issue, your personality is!"
I second this but no matter what you say to him he still moans on and on ...makes no sense ..Best to ignore ..personality more a turn off than the little cock he's been going on about. |
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
"you can have the biggest cock on fab,, but if your dull as dish water its not much use,,
I'm sure big harold is getting plenty of messages and offers before anyone even knows him, so I know who I'd rather be
Would you really want to be fetishised about and have it so noone actually cared about anything other than your dick?
Personally, I'd prefer to get less messages, but have them from people that actually want to know me, and spend time with me.
Luckily I do get that. Not because of my dick (it's not on display to everyone) or my looks (I'm nothing special), but I believe because of my personality. I try to be cheery, positive and make people feel good. That I've been assured is very attractive.
I'd rather be fetishised if it helped me meet more people and I could get my personality across after when I meet them.
I've done nothing but be polite and confident in messages and socials. Doesn't work unless you have the physical traits to back it up. Everything I send gets deleted
That’s a gross comment, unless you’re constantly fetishised your have no idea. I’ve been fetishised since my very early teens and I hate it. It’s demeaning and demoralising. You have zero idea what it’s like to be black and it shows. Your dick size isn’t your issue, your personality is! I second this but no matter what you say to him he still moans on and on ...makes no sense ..Best to ignore ..personality more a turn off than the little cock he's been going on about."
I meant fetishised based on size (if mine was big). It would be much easier to be called on purely for being big, and then getting the chance to charm and show your personality during the meet.
I would never comment on being fetishised based on race, as I agree that its wrong and something I would never be a part of |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"you can have the biggest cock on fab,, but if your dull as dish water its not much use,,
I'm sure big harold is getting plenty of messages and offers before anyone even knows him, so I know who I'd rather be
Would you really want to be fetishised about and have it so noone actually cared about anything other than your dick?
Personally, I'd prefer to get less messages, but have them from people that actually want to know me, and spend time with me.
Luckily I do get that. Not because of my dick (it's not on display to everyone) or my looks (I'm nothing special), but I believe because of my personality. I try to be cheery, positive and make people feel good. That I've been assured is very attractive.
I'd rather be fetishised if it helped me meet more people and I could get my personality across after when I meet them.
I've done nothing but be polite and confident in messages and socials. Doesn't work unless you have the physical traits to back it up. Everything I send gets deleted
That’s a gross comment, unless you’re constantly fetishised your have no idea. I’ve been fetishised since my very early teens and I hate it. It’s demeaning and demoralising. You have zero idea what it’s like to be black and it shows. Your dick size isn’t your issue, your personality is! I second this but no matter what you say to him he still moans on and on ...makes no sense ..Best to ignore ..personality more a turn off than the little cock he's been going on about.
I meant fetishised based on size (if mine was big). It would be much easier to be called on purely for being big, and then getting the chance to charm and show your personality during the meet.
I would never comment on being fetishised based on race, as I agree that its wrong and something I would never be a part of"
Digging a hole here mate… not helping!
I don’t know the person you referenced but what are now trying to say is that they are not being fetishised for being black, but they are being fetishised for being big….. which is then in the context of the thread a weird thing to say because it’s about race…..
So please… do me a favour…. Pin open your ears and actually listen to what the black people are telling you how they feel about being fetishised as a black person!
I am not saying everyone feels this way because we are not a monolith… but what I think is finally getting across to white people is that black people don’t like it nearly as much as you think we do! |
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"There are a lot of size Queens on fab, so I'd say BBC is by far the bigger draw.
I've been rejected a lot based on my size, and that's before they get to know me as a person "
If you were close I’d love to get my hands on you!! |
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By *imGimMan
over a year ago
london |
I think it is possible to have a big dick and a brain. I am not shy and retiring when it comes to sex, and tend to go back and forth on the bbc terminology.
However I have had people in clubs and saunas (women and men) ask me things like “can I see your cock” one time at a bi themed night I was sitting in the jacuzzi when a woman sitting next to me put her hand under the water and grabbed my cock. At tbh a point i got out and covered up, the same woman is now following me, saying can i suck your cock, in the end i turned around and told her to fuck off. Now if a man did this he’s be thrown out, but that place is ok but it can be awkward getting condoms, regular ones are dotted around the building, but the XL ones are kept in reception, so you have to actually go and ask for the XL condoms |
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"I think it is possible to have a big dick and a brain. I am not shy and retiring when it comes to sex, and tend to go back and forth on the bbc terminology.
However I have had people in clubs and saunas (women and men) ask me things like “can I see your cock” one time at a bi themed night I was sitting in the jacuzzi when a woman sitting next to me put her hand under the water and grabbed my cock. At tbh a point i got out and covered up, the same woman is now following me, saying can i suck your cock, in the end i turned around and told her to fuck off. Now if a man did this he’s be thrown out, but that place is ok but it can be awkward getting condoms, regular ones are dotted around the building, but the XL ones are kept in reception, so you have to actually go and ask for the XL condoms "
Who’s resurrecting all the old BBC posts? |
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Thought this was a BBC sports personality of the year award. Will defo be a women's euro team.
Anyway, I find the whole only sleep with one colour rather distasteful. It does sometimes seem like they're a prop than a person. |
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