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One of my old girlfriends from secondary school has messaged me out of the blue,saying she's coming back to the UK to live after living in America for 22 years she just upped and left with her mum without a word to me.she has a 18 year old son now,she wants me to help her find a car etc.i don't know what to do I,what do you guys think I should do.do I trust her or not I'm not sure |
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Yes her mum and son are coming back to the UK for health reasons.she wants me to buy the car and keep it for her until they arrives back in the UK in september.she doesn't want to get back with me at all. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"One of my old girlfriends from secondary school has messaged me out of the blue,saying she's coming back to the UK to live after living in America for 22 years she just upped and left with her mum without a word to me.she has a 18 year old son now,she wants me to help her find a car etc.i don't know what to do I,what do you guys think I should do.do I trust her or not I'm not sure "
I'm assuming there's been no contact in the last 22 years?
Seems a tad odd that odd that someone would get in touch with an old school flame to try and source a car and whateber 'etc' may be....but it's just as odd to ask a website full of random strangers who don't know you, her or anyone else involved what to do!
Go with your gut instinct.
Unless you think that by helping her you may get in the good books and rekindle your old romance....in which case just crack on!
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over a year ago
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"Yes her mum and son are coming back to the UK for health reasons.she wants me to buy the car and keep it for her until they arrives back in the UK in september.she doesn't want to get back with me at all."
She’s mugging you off. No way on this planet would I entertain this request. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Find the car when she is due and she can go and pay for it.
I did suggest that to her but she wasn't keen on the idea she wants me to pay for it"
Just no.
Hadn't seen this detail when I previously posted.
But it's no different to any of those scam emails/texts with a sob story looking for some mug to chuck them some free cash.
Cut contact with her immediately.
I doubt she's even heading back to the UK
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Find the car when she is due and she can go and pay for it.
I did suggest that to her but she wasn't keen on the idea she wants me to pay for it"
You tell her no. It’s as simple as that. Anything else and you’d be a fool. |
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By *lynJMan
over a year ago
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"Find the car when she is due and she can go and pay for it.
I did suggest that to her but she wasn't keen on the idea she wants me to pay for it"
That sounds very dodgy. Why does she want you to pay for it?
What else does she want you to pay for? Don't forget there will be the tax and insurance to cover as well. |
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"One of my old girlfriends from secondary school has messaged me out of the blue,saying she's coming back to the UK to live after living in America for 22 years she just upped and left with her mum without a word to me.she has a 18 year old son now,she wants me to help her find a car etc.i don't know what to do I,what do you guys think I should do.do I trust her or not I'm not sure
I'm assuming there's been no contact in the last 22 years?
Seems a tad odd that odd that someone would get in touch with an old school flame to try and source a car and whateber 'etc' may be....but it's just as odd to ask a website full of random strangers who don't know you, her or anyone else involved what to do!
Go with your gut instinct.
Unless you think that by helping her you may get in the good books and rekindle your old romance....in which case just crack on!
A"
No contact from her in 22 years at all doesn't want to get back with me at all ,she's bringing her mum and son back to the UK for health reasons and to get treatment from the NHS as they can't afford to pay for it in America |
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"Find the car when she is due and she can go and pay for it.
I did suggest that to her but she wasn't keen on the idea she wants me to pay for it"
I wouldn’t do that for most of the people I speak to on a regular basis, never mind someone who lives 3000 miles away and just popped up after a quarter decade  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"One of my old girlfriends from secondary school has messaged me out of the blue,saying she's coming back to the UK to live after living in America for 22 years she just upped and left with her mum without a word to me.she has a 18 year old son now,she wants me to help her find a car etc.i don't know what to do I,what do you guys think I should do.do I trust her or not I'm not sure
I'm assuming there's been no contact in the last 22 years?
Seems a tad odd that odd that someone would get in touch with an old school flame to try and source a car and whateber 'etc' may be....but it's just as odd to ask a website full of random strangers who don't know you, her or anyone else involved what to do!
Go with your gut instinct.
Unless you think that by helping her you may get in the good books and rekindle your old romance....in which case just crack on!
A
No contact from her in 22 years at all doesn't want to get back with me at all ,she's bringing her mum and son back to the UK for health reasons and to get treatment from the NHS as they can't afford to pay for it in America "
If she's been in the USA for 22 years she must have taken citizenship to remain that long, meaning she won't be eligible for free NHS treatment.
It's a scam. Use your brain.
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She's not your problem. Ypu owe her nothing and the whole thing sounds suss as hell.
If my ex from 27 years ago contacted me out of the blue to buy her a car I'd tell her were to go.
You are being scammed. What sort of sane person asks someone they've not spoken to in over 22 years to buy them a car?
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"Find the car when she is due and she can go and pay for it.
I did suggest that to her but she wasn't keen on the idea she wants me to pay for it"
I think you know the answer, OP. You shouldn't buy her a car. That's a very odd request for anyone to make of a near stranger (I assume you've not been close over the last 22 years?) |
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"She's not your problem. Ypu owe her nothing and the whole thing sounds suss as hell.
If my ex from 27 years ago contacted me out of the blue to buy her a car I'd tell her were to go.
You are being scammed. What sort of sane person asks someone they've not spoken to in over 22 years to buy them a car?
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When she messaged me she never asked how I was or what I've been doing at all it was all about her and her mum coming back to the UK to get medical treatment off the NHS and would I get her a car,I just didn't know if I should trust her and you guys have helped me out a great deal as I don't have anyone else to ask and imagine if I did help her id be stupid idiot as usual |
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"Find the car when she is due and she can go and pay for it.
I did suggest that to her but she wasn't keen on the idea she wants me to pay for it
I think you know the answer, OP. You shouldn't buy her a car. That's a very odd request for anyone to make of a near stranger (I assume you've not been close over the last 22 years?)"
No contact at all from her until now |
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Quite simply my answer would be no. If/when she returns you could signpost her to sites, but the responsibility to purchase anything is hers not yours.
NBVN x |
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"One of my old girlfriends from secondary school has messaged me out of the blue,saying she's coming back to the UK to live after living in America for 22 years she just upped and left with her mum without a word to me.she has a 18 year old son now,she wants me to help her find a car etc.i don't know what to do I,what do you guys think I should do.do I trust her or not I'm not sure "
Leave it buddy. Who knows what she wants. I wouldn’t get involved. Surely there are family members that can help her find a car. What for example if you find a car and she buys it and it turns out to be a wreck? Perhaps she doesn’t have all the cash.
I’m always suspicious of people that get in touch after so long, merely to ask you to do something for them. |
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By *lynJMan
over a year ago
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"Where is she planning to stay when she gets here?
If she does.
I don't have any clue
Don't be surprised if she asks to stay with you.
What in a 1 bedroom flat "
Just remember what I said when she asks. |
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"Where is she planning to stay when she gets here?
If she does.
I don't have any clue
Don't be surprised if she asks to stay with you.
What in a 1 bedroom flat
Just remember what I said when she asks."
I will definitely thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dude, do yourself a favour and forget you’ve posted the thread. You’ll keep coming back and trying to justify her requests, to the point that you’ll convince yourself to do it.
The soundest advice has already been given. You sever contact with this person, and forget she got in touch. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Take YOUR hard earned money and buy YOURSELF a car, top of the range Mac etc.
She’s fishing for a sucker, don’t be one.
She’ll want to leach off you. Pay for her flat / hotel etc.
I’ll draft the reply if you want  |
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"Where is she planning to stay when she gets here?
If she does.
I don't have any clue
Don't be surprised if she asks to stay with you.
What in a 1 bedroom flat "
Bro… don’t disclose that kind of shit on here  |
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"She's only coming back to the UK for health reasons and she can't afford the medical care she needs in america."
so for 22 years she’s not contributed to the system but now wants to use the NHS? Why didn’t she have the relevant cover in America?
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"One of my old girlfriends from secondary school has messaged me out of the blue,saying she's coming back to the UK to live after living in America for 22 years she just upped and left with her mum without a word to me.she has a 18 year old son now,she wants me to help her find a car etc.i don't know what to do I,what do you guys think I should do.do I trust her or not I'm not sure "
Friend zone do what you can I see no reason not to help another person. |
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"She's only coming back to the UK for health reasons and she can't afford the medical care she needs in america. so for 22 years she’s not contributed to the system but now wants to use the NHS? Why didn’t she have the relevant cover in America?"
She won't be entitled to it and most hospital systems should hopefully flag it up, especially if she struggles to provide an address and GP details.
150% of the cost too. |
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"One of my old girlfriends from secondary school has messaged me out of the blue,saying she's coming back to the UK to live after living in America for 22 years she just upped and left with her mum without a word to me.she has a 18 year old son now,she wants me to help her find a car etc.i don't know what to do I,what do you guys think I should do.do I trust her or not I'm not sure "
Do an old friend a favour..? ... Sure why not. Invest more time and emotion than that? No chance. |
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"Yes her mum and son are coming back to the UK for health reasons.she wants me to buy the car and keep it for her until they arrives back in the UK in september.she doesn't want to get back with me at all."
No no and again no.
Help her find a car and she can pay for it by all means.
But do not pay for it for her. |
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"In all bluntness, I’d tell her to go fuck herself.
No contact for 22 years and now she wants you to buy a car?
Jog on love."
Kind of assumed she's paying for it? If you / he are expected to pay for it... Oh why would you do such a thing? |
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"In all bluntness, I’d tell her to go fuck herself.
No contact for 22 years and now she wants you to buy a car?
Jog on love.
Kind of assumed she's paying for it? If you / he are expected to pay for it... Oh why would you do such a thing? "
she wants him to pay. |
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"In all bluntness, I’d tell her to go fuck herself.
No contact for 22 years and now she wants you to buy a car?
Jog on love.
Kind of assumed she's paying for it? If you / he are expected to pay for it... Oh why would you do such a thing?
she wants him to pay. "
What a splendid idea....! |
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"In all bluntness, I’d tell her to go fuck herself.
No contact for 22 years and now she wants you to buy a car?
Jog on love.
Kind of assumed she's paying for it? If you / he are expected to pay for it... Oh why would you do such a thing?
she wants him to pay.
What a splendid idea....! "
I wouldn't have the brass neck myself after 22 years of radio silence. |
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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago
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"Yes her mum and son are coming back to the UK for health reasons.she wants me to buy the car and keep it for her until they arrives back in the UK in september.she doesn't want to get back with me at all."
I wouldn't do that for someone I've not spoken to in 22 years!! |
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Has anyone suggested it may not be her at all and just a scam?
Wife had an "old friend" contact and all nice, sounded interesting, then conversation got a little off. She flagged it with me.
I said ask a question that only she knew the answer to - "what was that pub we always went to?" or "where did we actually see each other last".
Never heard another word! |
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Simply no. Jusy no.
22 years away, no payment into the intsituation (NHS) she wants help from. No thought about health insurance in the country she went to and now wants you to pay for a car for her?
This is scam and not a nice person written all over it.
If you even contemplate it you're daft. Just tell her no chance and cut all contact
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"Has anyone suggested it may not be her at all and just a scam?
Wife had an "old friend" contact and all nice, sounded interesting, then conversation got a little off. She flagged it with me.
I said ask a question that only she knew the answer to - "what was that pub we always went to?" or "where did we actually see each other last".
Never heard another word!"
That's a good point. |
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