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over a year ago
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Perfect as in they tick all my boxes? Not really, I find it exciting. Well, up until the crashing disappointment when I realise I don't tick any of theirs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or do you find people who are too perfect on Fab a bit daunting? I wouldn't message or meet people I found too good looking for me x "
I met someone for a social, saw him waiting and thought “he is gorgeous, way out of my league. He’ll stay for coffee and make his excuse”
We talked three hours, met that night and the following night. We are human and attraction isn’t just looks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Shoot for the stars, what have you got to lose?? Sometimes it surprises you who is actually interested in you!! I was taking a punt when I messaged Mrs EK yet, here we are!!! 
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Daunting isn't a word I'd consider on here especially not from a few words or pics on a screen.
Perfection doesn't exist.
Striving for perfection is a waste of time and effort and is a very lonely journey. |
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"Daunting isn't a word I'd consider on here especially not from a few words or pics on a screen.
Perfection doesn't exist.
Striving for perfection is a waste of time and effort and is a very lonely journey. "
In saying that though I've been told a few times that I'm nobody and apparently nobody is perfect so that's probably why I'm not getting lots of messages from all the daunted women  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Daunting isn't a word I'd consider on here especially not from a few words or pics on a screen.
Perfection doesn't exist.
Striving for perfection is a waste of time and effort and is a very lonely journey. "
I think I can relate to Things and people being daunting in here. There’s big personalities and loud voices who I was awkward to approach for a conversation.
There’s then those that are stupidly gorgeous who appear out of my league too. (I understand when people have said this)
So I hear what the op is saying. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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No OP, I can't say I do. Sure there are people who are more stereotypically aesthically pleasing but I don't see them as being perfect. They still shit. Cry, swear, have issues, you get the idea. They're human. Not better or less than.
But I've found maybe once or twice I've been a bit intimidated by someone's intelligence. Actually once. She's now a good friend of mine and I embrace her mind, it's far more brilliant than mine and that's okay. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She's now a good friend of mine and I embrace her mind, it's far more brilliant than mine and that's okay."
It's not really okay though is it? But that's okay. Because it's okay to not be okay with the fact that you say you're okay with it when actually you're not really okay.
Okay? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I massively punch ubove my weight on here. Those that are "physically perfect" have a lot of emotional flaws in my opinion.
But I am a freak magnet anyway |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"She's now a good friend of mine and I embrace her mind, it's far more brilliant than mine and that's okay.
It's not really okay though is it? But that's okay. Because it's okay to not be okay with the fact that you say you're okay with it when actually you're not really okay.
Okay?"
Ha! Very good. No, I'm okay with being okay with the fact I'm okay about it because being okay is okay in itself, if that's okay? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"She's now a good friend of mine and I embrace her mind, it's far more brilliant than mine and that's okay.
It's not really okay though is it? But that's okay. Because it's okay to not be okay with the fact that you say you're okay with it when actually you're not really okay.
Okay?
Ha! Very good. No, I'm okay with being okay with the fact I'm okay about it because being okay is okay in itself, if that's okay? "
Being okay with being okay is definitely okay. Just as it's okay to be okay with not being okay.
It is what is it hun. You do you xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmmm I find when ppl are pitching themselves as perfect in messages ....red flag for me . I don't think anyone is perfect ....I most definitely am not ...pretty filthy at times but perfect no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No.
I find them boring.
.....and if you scratch the surface, they're just as fucked up as the next person."
So not as boring as you first thought then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No.
I find them boring.
.....and if you scratch the surface, they're just as fucked up as the next person.
So not as boring as you first thought then? "
Aye, aww right smart arse! 
I suppose the persona and image of perfection put forward annoys me so would be a total turn off. I like personality and idiosyncrasies. |
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"No.
I find them boring.
.....and if you scratch the surface, they're just as fucked up as the next person.
So not as boring as you first thought then?
Aye, aww right smart arse!
I suppose the persona and image of perfection put forward annoys me so would be a total turn off. I like personality and idiosyncrasies."
That’s it right there. A perfect persona is rather bland and often turns out to be a thin veil.
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or do you find people who are too perfect on Fab a bit daunting?"
Maybe this is the reason I am getting very few approaches… hm… eye opening 
As for me I don’t think anyone is too perfect same as I am not so no hesitation. I have to say I chose not to approach first to lesser workload on single ladies and couples inboxes
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Nah, there are people who we wouldn’t message as whilst they look fantastic, I don’t think we’d get on. But not daunted by anyone…
Would see it more as a challenge if we liked the look of someone and their profile intrigued us 
K |
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By *KloganMan
over a year ago
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Take a look in the mirror and tell yourself you are gorgeous, when you realise that your (perceived) imperfections are the beauty that others find deeply attractive then there is nothing that’s too out of reach.
As Keyser said up in this thread, nothing is too daunting when you realise you there’s someone for you here.. no matter how beautiful they look. |
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
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There’s certainly people I’ve thought were way out of my league, but have occasionally still tried my luck with given the right forum thread to respond to, and surprisingly it hasn’t always gone catastrophically wrong |
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People may be a great match or have the ideal attributes that you'd like at that moment. But nobody is perfect, however much time, money, effort or genetic fortune that they have invested.
Most people are not mutually matched, so not meeting respective ideals is standard. Some realism helps to ensure expectations aren't unmet, due to having a head outside of the real world of life |
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Like in everyday life, I think that there are profiles on the forum where people are a little snobbish or have a high opinion of themselves. That doesn't mean they are perfect, but its enough to put us off messaging. |
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"Is it just me or do you find people who are too perfect on Fab a bit daunting?"
No and also the physically perfect specimens are complete fucktards personality wise. So it’s not always plain sailing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Where does this assumption come from that physically beautiful people have horrible personalities come from?
Some of the most physically stunning people I’ve met have been beautiful souls.
Equally, I’m met some very physically unappealing people who have been absolute scum bags.
You’re either nice or a nob, appearance aside. |
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"Where does this assumption come from that physically beautiful people have horrible personalities come from?
Some of the most physically stunning people I’ve met have been beautiful souls.
Equally, I’m met some very physically unappealing people who have been absolute scum bags.
You’re either nice or a nob, appearance aside. "
Well said.
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
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There are alot of "socially accepted", physically beautiful people on here that are just as beautiful in the personality stakes too... And they seem to like some of us that would be deemed not so beautiful, too... Weird huh?! |
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over a year ago
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I understand what you're saying as I've seen a lot of profiles I'd never message due to them (I my opinion being too good for me) but having to spoken to a few people on here now most (not all) care about anything other than the connection and the time spent together.
I've now decided that even if I believe them to be "too good for me" I will still endeavour to send a wink or even a message, what's the worst to happen ?? Just get ignored and blocked ??? Not gonna meet half the people on here anyway |
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"Too perfect" and "daunting" aren't the words I'd use to describe it.
It's easy to only see the idealised fantasy of someone through thier profile, a snapshot of the person they are and what they're willing to show us, but the reality is they're just human like all of us.
People are just people, like your friends/family/colleagues or randoms in the the street.
But (and this is probably what your point is) I do regularly come across profiles that after a quick read and flick through thier pics I know I haven't got a chance in hell with them.
Don't worry about it, just keep trying your best, your best is all that you can ever do |
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