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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My profile is fairly honest and open as my situation won’t be to everyone’s taste. Do you prefer honesty or a little bit of mystery ?"
I'll be watching this one lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How can we tell when it's honest and when it's not?
Not sure I understand ?
I'm not questioning your honesty just how can I tell how any profile is honest or not?"
Because if someone has put something that'll put people off ie married they don't know then It's probably honest. |
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"How can we tell when it's honest and when it's not?
Not sure I understand ?
I'm not questioning your honesty just how can I tell how any profile is honest or not?
I guess you can’t ultimately "
I take your point about honesty about marital status and I think that's a good thing. However plenty are dishonest about age, body size, looks (old photos) etc and there's no way of knowing until you get to Starbucks for the coffee date  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Guess you just have to make an inform decission if someone is being honest or not!
I personaly believe in being honest from the start (saves issues later down the line) although some people wont like it. |
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"How can we tell when it's honest and when it's not?
Not sure I understand ?
I'm not questioning your honesty just how can I tell how any profile is honest or not?
Because if someone has put something that'll put people off ie married they don't know then It's probably honest."
As my post above that isn't the only thing people lie about |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
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"How can we tell when it's honest and when it's not?
Not sure I understand ?
I'm not questioning your honesty just how can I tell how any profile is honest or not?
I guess you can’t ultimately
I take your point about honesty about marital status and I think that's a good thing. However plenty are dishonest about age, body size, looks (old photos) etc and there's no way of knowing until you get to Starbucks for the coffee date "
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
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"My profile is fairly honest and open as my situation won’t be to everyone’s taste. Do you prefer honesty or a little bit of mystery ?"
Is this a roundabout way of asking if telling people you're cheating on your missus is stopping you from getting meets?
It adds another hurdle for sure, but there are plenty of women who will meet married men, if they are attracted to him. |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"My profile is fairly honest and open as my situation won’t be to everyone’s taste. Do you prefer honesty or a little bit of mystery ?
Is this a roundabout way of asking if telling people you're cheating on your missus is stopping you from getting meets?
It adds another hurdle for sure, but there are plenty of women who will meet married men, if they are attracted to him."
Not really but now you mention it !! |
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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago
Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work) |
Honesty works best however I lay my cards out in my first message rather than on my profile, since I used to get abusive messages from people I’d never interacted with before. |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Honesty works best however I lay my cards out in my first message rather than on my profile, since I used to get abusive messages from people I’d never interacted with before. "
No one deserves abuse whatever their situation is |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Honesty works best however I lay my cards out in my first message rather than on my profile, since I used to get abusive messages from people I’d never interacted with before. "
No one deserves abuse whatever their situation is |
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Always honesty…we want to make choices based on truth.
But as people have said, you never know.
That’s why we chat and chat to people…the people who are genuinely interested in us and not just after a quick shag stay around and chat.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer honesty 100%, even if its not something I want to hear its better to be upfront.
If things get covered up they usually creep to the surface and get found out anyway |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"But you’re lying to your partner 
Are you trying to show the ladies of fab how honest you are … by being honest about lying to your partner …. If so 
Nailed it "
That’s another way of looking at it ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't judge folks situations. I don't expect them to judge mine either. I'm not on Fab seeking a relationship but I'm sure I'd rather know upfront if someone is attached or not. Better to know the lay of the land from the off? Also chatted to folk in the past who orginally make zero mention of a partner/state they can accomadate when they cannot... |
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"My profile is fairly honest and open as my situation won’t be to everyone’s taste. Do you prefer honesty or a little bit of mystery ?"
When it comes to non ethical non monogamy it’s best to be open then you don’t put people in jeopardy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I prefer honesty 100%, even if its not something I want to hear its better to be upfront.
If things get covered up they usually creep to the surface and get found out anyway "
Couldn't agree more! I always appreciate honesty even if its something i don't want to hear, how else can one improve themselves |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But you’re lying to your partner
Are you trying to show the ladies of fab how honest you are … by being honest about lying to your partner …. If so
Nailed it "
And yes I completey understand the irony  |
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"My profile is fairly honest and open as my situation won’t be to everyone’s taste. Do you prefer honesty or a little bit of mystery ?"
If it won’t effect them, then as they say, “what they don’t know won’t hurt them”
You don’t have to lie. You don’t have to disclose every fact either |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honesty always. Withholding the fact you are married does not create mystery, it's just not full disclosure; nothing mysterious about it. Letting people know from the start will put most people off and you should be left with the ones that then need to find you interesting or attractive enough to want to entertain you.
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Honesty always. Withholding the fact you are married does not create mystery, it's just not full disclosure; nothing mysterious about it. Letting people know from the start will put most people off and you should be left with the ones that then need to find you interesting or attractive enough to want to entertain you.
Mr."
That was the plan ! Fishing in a very small pond ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Honesty always. Withholding the fact you are married does not create mystery, it's just not full disclosure; nothing mysterious about it. Letting people know from the start will put most people off and you should be left with the ones that then need to find you interesting or attractive enough to want to entertain you.
Mr.
That was the plan ! Fishing in a very small pond !"
With 1000s of the wrong type of fish lmao |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Cheating on his wife but claiming to be honest! Haha there really are some funny and deluded people on here!
As for "Professional", what a load of self proclaimed pretentious nonsense!"
I wish you would say what you think and not sit in the fence! |
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"Cheating on his wife but claiming to be honest! Haha there really are some funny and deluded people on here!
As for "Professional", what a load of self proclaimed pretentious nonsense!
I wish you would say what you think and not sit in the fence!"
Because we're honest! |
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By *ayHaychMan
over a year ago
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"Cheating on his wife but claiming to be honest! Haha there really are some funny and deluded people on here!
As for "Professional", what a load of self proclaimed pretentious nonsense!"
Which bit of being a professional is self-proclaimed pretentious nonsense? |
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"Cheating on his wife but claiming to be honest! Haha there really are some funny and deluded people on here!
As for "Professional", what a load of self proclaimed pretentious nonsense!
Which bit of being a professional is self-proclaimed pretentious nonsense? "
As in referring yourself as "professional" in regards to swinging as there is no such thing. |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Cheating on his wife but claiming to be honest! Haha there really are some funny and deluded people on here!
As for "Professional", what a load of self proclaimed pretentious nonsense!
Which bit of being a professional is self-proclaimed pretentious nonsense?
As in referring yourself as "professional" in regards to swinging as there is no such thing."
I was referring to my job I’m not even an amateur at swinging! Lol |
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"Cheating on his wife but claiming to be honest! Haha there really are some funny and deluded people on here!
As for "Professional", what a load of self proclaimed pretentious nonsense!
Which bit of being a professional is self-proclaimed pretentious nonsense?
As in referring yourself as "professional" in regards to swinging as there is no such thing.
I was referring to my job I’m not even an amateur at swinging! Lol"
When people say it, it never reads like that but even if so it's completely irrelevant as isn't everyone who works a professional?
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Cheating on his wife but claiming to be honest! Haha there really are some funny and deluded people on here!
As for "Professional", what a load of self proclaimed pretentious nonsense!
Which bit of being a professional is self-proclaimed pretentious nonsense?
As in referring yourself as "professional" in regards to swinging as there is no such thing.
I was referring to my job I’m not even an amateur at swinging! Lol
When people say it, it never reads like that but even if so it's completely irrelevant as isn't everyone who works a professional?
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Probably! Oh well not worth arguing the toss over really |
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"Cheating on his wife but claiming to be honest! Haha there really are some funny and deluded people on here!
As for "Professional", what a load of self proclaimed pretentious nonsense!
Which bit of being a professional is self-proclaimed pretentious nonsense?
As in referring yourself as "professional" in regards to swinging as there is no such thing.
I was referring to my job I’m not even an amateur at swinging! Lol
When people say it, it never reads like that but even if so it's completely irrelevant as isn't everyone who works a professional?
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No - professional should mean they work in a job that required at least an undergraduate degree but more usually a postgrad qualification too - dr lawyer architect etc but I think a lot of people just mean gainfully employer now which is also misleading
Op honesty is the best policy I won’t knowingly meet cheats, partly the ethics partly self preservation!
For my part I’m honest about my age, my size and my looks. I see no point in lying about these as that would waste everyone’s time.
I expect the same in return but of course don’t always get it! I swear some of the face pics I’ve seen the person is claiming to be at least 15 years younger than they actually are - do they really think we can’t tell?! Occasionally it’s younger ones claiming they’re older and that’s pretty obvious too. Just daft really |
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By *ames5169 OP Man
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Cheating on his wife but claiming to be honest! Haha there really are some funny and deluded people on here!
As for "Professional", what a load of self proclaimed pretentious nonsense!
Which bit of being a professional is self-proclaimed pretentious nonsense?
As in referring yourself as "professional" in regards to swinging as there is no such thing.
I was referring to my job I’m not even an amateur at swinging! Lol
When people say it, it never reads like that but even if so it's completely irrelevant as isn't everyone who works a professional?
No - professional should mean they work in a job that required at least an undergraduate degree but more usually a postgrad qualification too - dr lawyer architect etc but I think a lot of people just mean gainfully employer now which is also misleading
Op honesty is the best policy I won’t knowingly meet cheats, partly the ethics partly self preservation!
For my part I’m honest about my age, my size and my looks. I see no point in lying about these as that would waste everyone’s time.
I expect the same in return but of course don’t always get it! I swear some of the face pics I’ve seen the person is claiming to be at least 15 years younger than they actually are - do they really think we can’t tell?! Occasionally it’s younger ones claiming they’re older and that’s pretty obvious too. Just daft really "
Thanks I’m a fully qualified accountant so I think that’s ok to deem myself as a professional!! |
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"Cheating on his wife but claiming to be honest! Haha there really are some funny and deluded people on here!
As for "Professional", what a load of self proclaimed pretentious nonsense!
Which bit of being a professional is self-proclaimed pretentious nonsense?
As in referring yourself as "professional" in regards to swinging as there is no such thing.
I was referring to my job I’m not even an amateur at swinging! Lol
When people say it, it never reads like that but even if so it's completely irrelevant as isn't everyone who works a professional?
No - professional should mean they work in a job that required at least an undergraduate degree but more usually a postgrad qualification too - dr lawyer architect etc but I think a lot of people just mean gainfully employer now which is also misleading
Op honesty is the best policy I won’t knowingly meet cheats, partly the ethics partly self preservation!
For my part I’m honest about my age, my size and my looks. I see no point in lying about these as that would waste everyone’s time.
I expect the same in return but of course don’t always get it! I swear some of the face pics I’ve seen the person is claiming to be at least 15 years younger than they actually are - do they really think we can’t tell?! Occasionally it’s younger ones claiming they’re older and that’s pretty obvious too. Just daft really "
Well I'm a professional personal shopper x |
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"Cheating on his wife but claiming to be honest! Haha there really are some funny and deluded people on here!
As for "Professional", what a load of self proclaimed pretentious nonsense!
Which bit of being a professional is self-proclaimed pretentious nonsense?
As in referring yourself as "professional" in regards to swinging as there is no such thing.
I was referring to my job I’m not even an amateur at swinging! Lol
When people say it, it never reads like that but even if so it's completely irrelevant as isn't everyone who works a professional?
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Yep. Universities are all closing down because there's no need for edyoocayshun anymore. |
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"Accountant definitely
Personal shopper I am less familiar with the entry requirements for that.
Absoulutly none!Still a professional at what I do same as a road sweeper or toilet cleaner ! X"
But that’s not what “professional” in a work context has historically meant. Nothing wrong with non graduate jobs done plenty of them myself! But they’re not “professions” |
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"Accountant definitely
Personal shopper I am less familiar with the entry requirements for that.
Absoulutly none!Still a professional at what I do same as a road sweeper or toilet cleaner ! X
But that’s not what “professional” in a work context has historically meant. Nothing wrong with non graduate jobs done plenty of them myself! But they’re not “professions”"
We'd both class ourselves professional at what we do and neither of us graduated from anything.
You can be professional at any job you do, whether you are a Teacher or a Bin man/woman. My point was that the way the word is used on here is that they are claiming they are professional when it comes to Swinging and even the ones who don't mean it that way still write it like that. |
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But that’s not what “professional” in a work context has historically meant. Nothing wrong with non graduate jobs done plenty of them myself! But they’re not “professions”"
"Professional" on a site like this could sometimes have other connotations and I wasn't thinking about the newer professions!
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"My profile is fairly honest and open as my situation won’t be to everyone’s taste. Do you prefer honesty or a little bit of mystery ?"
Where cheating is concerned honesty.
Although the two words do not go hand in hand. |
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"Accountant definitely
Personal shopper I am less familiar with the entry requirements for that.
Absoulutly none!Still a professional at what I do same as a road sweeper or toilet cleaner ! X
But that’s not what “professional” in a work context has historically meant. Nothing wrong with non graduate jobs done plenty of them myself! But they’re not “professions”"
Um yes they are! Agree to disagree! X |
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"My profile is fairly honest and open as my situation won’t be to everyone’s taste. Do you prefer honesty or a little bit of mystery ?
Is this a roundabout way of asking if telling people you're cheating on your missus is stopping you from getting meets?
It adds another hurdle for sure, but there are plenty of women who will meet married men, if they are attracted to him."
Um, not sure there are 'plenty of women' who will meet married men knowingly |
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
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"My profile is fairly honest and open as my situation won’t be to everyone’s taste. Do you prefer honesty or a little bit of mystery ?
Is this a roundabout way of asking if telling people you're cheating on your missus is stopping you from getting meets?
It adds another hurdle for sure, but there are plenty of women who will meet married men, if they are attracted to him.
Um, not sure there are 'plenty of women' who will meet married men knowingly"
I've seen threads on here before where women HAVE stated that they would meet men playing without permission |
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"My profile is fairly honest and open as my situation won’t be to everyone’s taste. Do you prefer honesty or a little bit of mystery ?
Is this a roundabout way of asking if telling people you're cheating on your missus is stopping you from getting meets?
It adds another hurdle for sure, but there are plenty of women who will meet married men, if they are attracted to him.
Um, not sure there are 'plenty of women' who will meet married men knowingly
I've seen threads on here before where women HAVE stated that they would meet men playing without permission "
But have you seen plenty of them?
A few maybe?
We haven't. |
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"My profile is fairly honest and open as my situation won’t be to everyone’s taste. Do you prefer honesty or a little bit of mystery ?
Is this a roundabout way of asking if telling people you're cheating on your missus is stopping you from getting meets?
It adds another hurdle for sure, but there are plenty of women who will meet married men, if they are attracted to him.
Um, not sure there are 'plenty of women' who will meet married men knowingly
I've seen threads on here before where women HAVE stated that they would meet men playing without permission "
Some maybe. Plenty i don't think so |
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
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"My profile is fairly honest and open as my situation won’t be to everyone’s taste. Do you prefer honesty or a little bit of mystery ?
Is this a roundabout way of asking if telling people you're cheating on your missus is stopping you from getting meets?
It adds another hurdle for sure, but there are plenty of women who will meet married men, if they are attracted to him.
Um, not sure there are 'plenty of women' who will meet married men knowingly
I've seen threads on here before where women HAVE stated that they would meet men playing without permission
Some maybe. Plenty i don't think so "
Maybe I'm over-estimating the numbers, but this discussion does the rounds periodically & there are always a few single women & a few cheating wives that say they will!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My profile is fairly honest and open as my situation won’t be to everyone’s taste. Do you prefer honesty or a little bit of mystery ?
Is this a roundabout way of asking if telling people you're cheating on your missus is stopping you from getting meets?
It adds another hurdle for sure, but there are plenty of women who will meet married men, if they are attracted to him.
Um, not sure there are 'plenty of women' who will meet married men knowingly
I've seen threads on here before where women HAVE stated that they would meet men playing without permission
But have you seen plenty of them?
A few maybe?
We haven't. "
But you aren't looking for females and any married ladies on here probably don't have a reason to reveal that to you.
Enough ladies have revealed their status to me to suggest there are 'plenty' on here, yet not one of them stated it on their profile. |
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"I really don't care. People lie.
Profiles are bullshit, just a snapshot of what they want to say.  "
Pretty much I take all profiles with a pinch of whatever It’s fab not life partner dating for me
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"My profile is fairly honest and open as my situation won’t be to everyone’s taste. Do you prefer honesty or a little bit of mystery ?
Is this a roundabout way of asking if telling people you're cheating on your missus is stopping you from getting meets?
It adds another hurdle for sure, but there are plenty of women who will meet married men, if they are attracted to him.
Um, not sure there are 'plenty of women' who will meet married men knowingly
I've seen threads on here before where women HAVE stated that they would meet men playing without permission
But have you seen plenty of them?
A few maybe?
We haven't.
But you aren't looking for females and any married ladies on here probably don't have a reason to reveal that to you.
Enough ladies have revealed their status to me to suggest there are 'plenty' on here, yet not one of them stated it on their profile."
In just six weeks? Well you have been busy!
Just a question though, why haven't you met any yet? Or are those meetings planned?
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