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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Anyone got any advice on how to get started on fab, I've sent a million messages and no one seems interested. Help"
Instead of sending millions which is time consuming and frustrating if you do not get a reply, try reading a profile and picking up on specific points in that profile.
Reading the profile also means you identify who is looking for somebody like you and who is not - don't message people who have different criteria, for example if somebody is looking for a particular age range, height, location etc and you do not fit that, move to the next person where you do fit and have a much better chance. Good luck!  |
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The only difference between fab and any other dating site is that everyone knows they are here for sex. It’s just as difficult to hook up on fab as in real life so don’t get too bothered by it. Keep your messages short and polite and don’t expect too much….you will get there |
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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago
Camberley occasionally doncaster |
"Anyone got any advice on how to get started on fab, I've sent a million messages and no one seems interested. Help"
Talk to them as if you were face to face. Its highly unlikely you would get anywhere in real life starting a conversation with graphic sex stuff. Take an interest. Ask about a status or forum post. It's possible to stand out by being normal and treating someone as a person on here.
Charm, humour and cake can work wonders. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Anyone got any advice on how to get started on fab, I've sent a million messages and no one seems interested. Help
Pot the red, then screw back."
LoL I like that ?? |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Anyone got any advice on how to get started on fab, I've sent a million messages and no one seems interested. Help
Talk to them as if you were face to face. Its highly unlikely you would get anywhere in real life starting a conversation with graphic sex stuff. Take an interest. Ask about a status or forum post. It's possible to stand out by being normal and treating someone as a person on here.
Charm, humour and cake can work wonders. "
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"The only difference between fab and any other dating site is that everyone knows they are here for sex. It’s just as difficult to hook up on fab as in real life so don’t get too bothered by it. Keep your messages short and polite and don’t expect too much….you will get there "
That's not true. People are here for many different reasons. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we’d have received a message from you and then seen your latest status update we wouldn’t have bothered replying.
As others have said though try some clubs and chat with people to build some contacts and perhaps verifications. |
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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago
Camberley occasionally doncaster |
"Just talk about normal stuff. You know how to have a conversation with somebody you're not hoping to have sex with? Do that. "
This.
Chatting sex stuff is cool expecially if you are working up to a meet. However it gets exhausted quite quickly unless you are endlessly inventive.. and if you have to reschedule where do you go with the convo? Going from filth to "oh I'm sorry you caught the Rona, can you taste anything yet?" Is a little anticlimactic. |
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O/p you are better off joining with the forum/cam room chat rather than messaging. Women are outnumbered by men by a vast amount and must get so many messages. Not all can be replied to or even looked at. Good luck! |
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By *rMs.NeekCouple
over a year ago
Worcestershire |
Mr speaking, but in my single days if I did send a message I would generally chat about anything other than sex.
Maybe mention something in the profile in the first message and then just chat about anything and everything. Pretty much like I would in real life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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im sorry and hope this is not too rude but.. if you have to ask how to talk to women then there is really no hope for you on a swingers site ...unless you thought women would just be dropping to there knees for your cock when you joined ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But old Willy Thorne his hair's all gone
And his mates all take the rise
His opponent said, "Cover up his head
'Cause it's shining in my eyes"
When the light shines down on his bare crown
It's a cert he's gonna walk it
It is just not fair giving off that glare
"Perhaps I ought to chalk it" |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi foxy and hubs, no I don't find your comment rude, I've asked myself the same question, I've no problem talking to women, I was just trying to find out if their was a certain way I should be approching ladies on fab. I'm always polite and try start a conversation based on what might be in their profile, I wouldn't be the rude sort to basically start off by saying I wanted to fuck their brains out ,I always read the profile because usually you have to put a certain word into the subject box to prove you read the profile, so even after all the messages and trying different things, I still see my messages being deleted or ignored. Maybe I'm just no one's cup of tea also I've been on fab alot longer than 3 weeks, maybe I need new photos or something. Thanks for the advice everyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just talk about normal stuff. You know how to have a conversation with somebody you're not hoping to have sex with? Do that.
This.
Chatting sex stuff is cool expecially if you are working up to a meet. However it gets exhausted quite quickly unless you are endlessly inventive.. and if you have to reschedule where do you go with the convo? Going from filth to "oh I'm sorry you caught the Rona, can you taste anything yet?" Is a little anticlimactic."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Develop a six pack and a fit body
Make sure you can accommodate
Its about peoples preferences also.
Read their profile in my case i stay away from the one stating NO ASIANs
Not that they are racist but there is no chance to initiate a conversation.
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"The only difference between fab and any other dating site is that everyone knows they are here for sex. It’s just as difficult to hook up on fab as in real life so don’t get too bothered by it. Keep your messages short and polite and don’t expect too much….you will get there
That's not true. People are here for many different reasons. "
Yes sorry I meant to say that everyone is on here because they are interested in sex of all kinds, not just vanilla and I feel that makes it easier to be comfortable about being sexually adventurous when meeting someone new. I do realise that there is a whole swingers lifestyle and scene too but it takes time to find your way in broaching that too. |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
Near Wells |
Go to an event at a club or social or whatever that's advertised on here and speak to actual people.
You will find out people's fab name's, get verified and have an enjoyable time as well. It's a way in and you won't just be another bloke sending a message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone got any advice on how to get started on fab, I've sent a million messages and no one seems interested. Help"
Talk about cushions. Chicks love cushions. |
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