So.....
Your best mate's partner/husband/wife etc comes onto you and tells you they want you and what they want to do with you without said partners knowledge...
Do you say let's get it on
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Do you remain loyal to your friend?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Remain loyal but say nothing.
I once told a friend his gf (who was also a friend) had cheated on him. Long story short I lost 2 friends and their relationship only lasted another few months. |
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"So.....
Your best mate's partner/husband/wife etc comes onto you and tells you they want you and what they want to do with you without said partners knowledge...
Do you say let's get it on
Or
Do you remain loyal to your friend??"
I’ve done some fucked up shit even out of selfishness , but that’s one of the lines I wouldn’t cross…
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So.....
Your best mate's partner/husband/wife etc comes onto you and tells you they want you and what they want to do with you without said partners knowledge...
Do you say let's get it on
Or
Do you remain loyal to your friend??"
That's an easy one, loyal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say .......
Run it by your partner/my friend and if they're happy with this, we can talk about it.
In fact I did pretty much that, a couple I've been friends with since school, she always had a thing for me back then and mentions it often.
One time she d*unkenly said we could have an affair, or a one off and she'll pay for the hotel.
I replied .........
You both mean something to me as long term friends, I wouldn't do that, unless you're both kinky and both like the idea, run it by him, if he likes it, then we can talk about it between us all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have never and couldn’t ever cross the line with any woman of whom I know their partner in any way, just not the done thing 
However if I don’t know the OH I’m in  |
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I was on a night out once with a couple of friends and one of their boyfriends. At the end of the night he kept mouthing to me behind her back “I want to fuck you”. I told my other friend who went on to tell this girls and all hell broke lose. Of course I was the liar blah blah blah. Even though a couple of weeks later we caught him kissing some woman and sent the the girl proof but still he twisted it. Lesson I’ve learnt from this is whether you are honest or not you can still be seen as being in the wrong |
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"I was on a night out once with a couple of friends and one of their boyfriends. At the end of the night he kept mouthing to me behind her back “I want to fuck you”. I told my other friend who went on to tell this girls and all hell broke lose. Of course I was the liar blah blah blah. Even though a couple of weeks later we caught him kissing some woman and sent the the girl proof but still he twisted it. Lesson I’ve learnt from this is whether you are honest or not you can still be seen as being in the wrong "
Out of curiosity would you do anything different if there's a next time (not suggesting you'd jump the dodgy bloke) but as far as how you managed the situation.? |
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"I was on a night out once with a couple of friends and one of their boyfriends. At the end of the night he kept mouthing to me behind her back “I want to fuck you”. I told my other friend who went on to tell this girls and all hell broke lose. Of course I was the liar blah blah blah. Even though a couple of weeks later we caught him kissing some woman and sent the the girl proof but still he twisted it. Lesson I’ve learnt from this is whether you are honest or not you can still be seen as being in the wrong "
I think the best way to deal with situations like this is to stay true and loyal to YOURSELF and not engage in drama cos as you said, sometimes some people might lie to themselves cos they don’t wanna believe it and it’s easier to blame you to be the shit steerer… |
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
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Working in the pub trade as I do, I have had this happen, mostly when a large amount of alcohol has been consumed and inhibitions have been dropped, each time I have declined, never mix business with pleasure, no matter how attractive the other person is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My first husband had an affair with my "best friend", I use the term loosely as I don't believe people would do that to a friend.
Her betrayal hurt more than his. |
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"I was on a night out once with a couple of friends and one of their boyfriends. At the end of the night he kept mouthing to me behind her back “I want to fuck you”. I told my other friend who went on to tell this girls and all hell broke lose. Of course I was the liar blah blah blah. Even though a couple of weeks later we caught him kissing some woman and sent the the girl proof but still he twisted it. Lesson I’ve learnt from this is whether you are honest or not you can still be seen as being in the wrong
Out of curiosity would you do anything different if there's a next time (not suggesting you'd jump the dodgy bloke) but as far as how you managed the situation.? "
Would I do anything different….. do you know I wouldn’t because I learnt a valuable lesson that day. |
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"I was on a night out once with a couple of friends and one of their boyfriends. At the end of the night he kept mouthing to me behind her back “I want to fuck you”. I told my other friend who went on to tell this girls and all hell broke lose. Of course I was the liar blah blah blah. Even though a couple of weeks later we caught him kissing some woman and sent the the girl proof but still he twisted it. Lesson I’ve learnt from this is whether you are honest or not you can still be seen as being in the wrong
I think the best way to deal with situations like this is to stay true and loyal to YOURSELF and not engage in drama cos as you said, sometimes some people might lie to themselves cos they don’t wanna believe it and it’s easier to blame you to be the shit steerer… "
Absolutely, though even though I got the back lash I believe she needed to know the truth. I think half of her reaction was humiliation and I’m pretty sure she knew what he was like |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Loyalty all day long and she has the right to know. No way would I keep it a secret.
Pxx
What if it was her who came on to you? Would you tell him?"
No. My loyalty lies with her and I would only laugh at her anyway as she's as straight as a die. Would be clear she'd done it for a dare or because she was hammered.
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
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Before I am loyal to any person, I stay 100% loyal to my ethics and morals. I would Absolutely NOT accept that! I wouldn't even accept the question...heck I probably wouldn't even accept their presence anymore. To hell with their lust and lack of self control |
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"On a side note...
Would you tell your friend??
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Yes. Having being cheated on, I was very grateful to the one who told me though I can't help but wonder how many there were before her who didn't. If the friend chooses not to believe me or falls out with me over it then that's unfortunate but I can live with myself knowing I did the right thing. I could never sit by and watch my friend be with somebody knowing they were doing things like that behind her back and not say anything. I may have turned him down but others may not.
I would be a bit more torn on whether to say something if it was just an acquaintance. I would probably assess the individual situation. If I've seen any prior indication of the person or relationship being temperamental ir toxic then I would probably stay out of it. I have also been in this position with ex partners and decided not to tell the new girlfriend because its unlikely to end well. |
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By *lynJMan
over a year ago
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"I'd say .......
Run it by your partner/my friend and if they're happy with this, we can talk about it.
In fact I did pretty much that, a couple I've been friends with since school, she always had a thing for me back then and mentions it often.
One time she d*unkenly said we could have an affair, or a one off and she'll pay for the hotel.
I replied .........
You both mean something to me as long term friends, I wouldn't do that, unless you're both kinky and both like the idea, run it by him, if he likes it, then we can talk about it between us all"
What was the result? |
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Got to be loyal to your friend
Out of interest, what difference would it make to people if it wasn't a best friend? Someone within a friendship group that maybe you weren't that close to?
To me it doesn't change but interested in peoples thoughts x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Loyalty and I’ve actually been in this situation with a friends wife on night out, I hit the roof and instantly told him unfortunately he didn’t actually believe me and in fact blamed me that was the end of our friendship. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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No brainier.
The only decision there is whether to tell the friend, a tough one but I think I’d have to tell them and accept I’d lose them as a friend until they see what their partners really like |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From experience, say nothing to the friend but tell him in no uncertain terms its happening. I lost my friend. I didn't know at the time that she was pregnant.
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"I’d stay loyal but I’d not say anything to her. I’d probably distance myself a bit too as I’d think he was a knob head and I’d probably get arsey with him whenever I saw him."
Yeah I think I'd distance myself. Nobody needs that drama.
We went for drinks with a not fab couple and when she was at the bar he made rude comments about her bum. I know it's not the same as propositioning somebody but it's unkind and unnecessary and shows a deep lack of respect. We didn't continue to meet them |
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I'd stay loyal but yes I would tell my friend.
Had it happen to me... and I was grateful of the person who said something.. although I was sure I knew.
Seems there are a lot out there that would cross that line in real kife |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find this very hard to imagine. .. but I’ll try.
I would tell them directly a story that would make them cry and wish they’d never brought up the stupid idea. |
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