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Men, what have you always wanted to know about feminine health?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

There's a story that went viral recently about a Deliveroo driver who was fired after posting a video online where he made fun of a customer's order.

He'd opened the package, which was a box of Canesten cream, and made a comment about someone "having problems downstairs". When the woman came down from her student halls to collect, he filmed her and asked her what the package was. She awkwardly tried to explain it was "just medicine". He continued to make fun of her, but when it was clear she didn't know how to react he drove off laughing.

Now this was despicable, and luckily there were a lot of men that recognised how truly awful this was and that thrush is completely normal and nothing to be ashamed about. However, there are always going to be people who are as misinformed as that driver when it comes to women's health issues (although thrush can affect males too).

Further to this, I've heard - both online and in real life - some comments from men just showing general misunderstanding about how periods, ovulation and just the menstrual cycle as a whole works. (No, we cannot just "hold" the blood like pee, or push it out all at once).

Hell, I even overheard some tweens on the bus once discussing how girls get pregnant every month!

So anyway, fellas. This is it. No judgement. No shame. If there's anything you want to know, here is the place to ask it. I'll try my best to answer but if some other lady forumites want to jump in please feel free

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By *lderflowerappleWoman over a year ago

Basingstoke

Great initiative OP. I'll be happy to help out with explanations too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are alot that need to be informed about bv!!!

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By *ampWithABrainWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

Great idea there was a thread on here recently where op implied thrush was an sti and any woman afflicted therefore “dirty”

There’s a lot of misunderstandings

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Great idea there was a thread on here recently where op implied thrush was an sti and any woman afflicted therefore “dirty”

There’s a lot of misunderstandings "

How strange considering males can get thrush too!

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman over a year ago

"Great idea there was a thread on here recently where op implied thrush was an sti and any woman afflicted therefore “dirty”

There’s a lot of misunderstandings "

Where’s the facepalm emoji when you need one!

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

I taught a guy last week that women aren't fertile every day.

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By *osephSamuel90Man over a year ago

Bracknell

On a scale of 1-10, 10 being the most, on average how painful are period pains?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Great idea there was a thread on here recently where op implied thrush was an sti and any woman afflicted therefore “dirty”

There’s a lot of misunderstandings "

My ex used to think thrush was an sti and he accused me of cheating when I got thrush!

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

I knew someone in his 20s who thought a woman released an egg only when she had an orgasm.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"There are alot that need to be informed about bv!!! "

Absolutely! Especially that's its not from being unclean. It's more commonly caused by over washing or using soaps that are too harsh or overly scented.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"On a scale of 1-10, 10 being the most, on average how painful are period pains?"

it varies from woman to woman. So 0 for some and genuinely 10 for others and every number in between. Have you ever seen those videos of men having period pain simulators? They're very funny

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On a scale of 1-10, 10 being the most, on average how painful are period pains?"

It’s different for every menstruating person and can also be affected by other conditions. For me, my period pain is 10 and definitely off the scale; but I’ve had friends who would class it was 1. Period pains are actually, practically, a ‘mini’ Labour, your uterus and cervix contracts to let the blood out. So even if a menstruating person has very little period pain, they will still have pain.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"Great idea there was a thread on here recently where op implied thrush was an sti and any woman afflicted therefore “dirty”

There’s a lot of misunderstandings

How strange considering males can get thrush too!"

And babies.

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Sadly it's not just males that don't understand how a woman's body works I've worked with enough teens who have no idea.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I taught a guy last week that women aren't fertile every day. "

Yeah this seems to be a common one.

The last time me and my fwb had a condom break scare, I got my MyDays out and went "oh it's okay, I ovulated like a week ago".

I might add he is not an unintelligent man, but this still led to me explaining how ovulation works.

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By *osephSamuel90Man over a year ago

Bracknell

"On a scale of 1-10, 10 being the most, on average how painful are period pains?

it varies from woman to woman. So 0 for some and genuinely 10 for others and every number in between. Have you ever seen those videos of men having period pain simulators? They're very funny

I wouldn't want to go near them. I'm an absolute pussy when it comes to pain. My car gives me a static shock sometimes when I go to close it so I always close the door with my feet when I get out just to avoid it. Definitely wouldn't be able to deal with a monthly pain

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By *ightkitty4uWoman over a year ago

Epsom

"On a scale of 1-10, 10 being the most, on average how painful are period pains?"

Various female to female. Mine 10! Have special pills that lighten my blood flow in a bid to ease the pain

Yet I know friends who have never had cramps/pain

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No judgement. No shame"

Pretty much every comment that has followed 'hey let me tell you about the idiot men I've spoken to

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

I've no desire to talk about thrush, periods or any other women's health issue with men on an Internet sex site

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By *ightkitty4uWoman over a year ago

Epsom

"Great idea there was a thread on here recently where op implied thrush was an sti and any woman afflicted therefore “dirty”

There’s a lot of misunderstandings

My ex used to think thrush was an sti and he accused me of cheating when I got thrush! "

I got dumped

Lucky escape

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"I taught a guy last week that women aren't fertile every day.

Yeah this seems to be a common one.

The last time me and my fwb had a condom break scare, I got my MyDays out and went "oh it's okay, I ovulated like a week ago".

I might add he is not an unintelligent man, but this still led to me explaining how ovulation works. "

Yeah if you're never taught, you're never taught.

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By *EAT..85Woman over a year ago

Nottingham

"Great idea there was a thread on here recently where op implied thrush was an sti and any woman afflicted therefore “dirty”

There’s a lot of misunderstandings

How strange considering males can get thrush too!

And babies. "

I had thrush on my nipples when breast feeding my eldest. She had It in her mouth bless her and it was a vicious & painful cycle trying to clear it up whilst still feeding her.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman over a year ago

Reading

"On a scale of 1-10, 10 being the most, on average how painful are period pains?"

Every woman is different. When there are other conditions they can send a woman to a&e, others just need a painkiller to be fine.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"Great idea there was a thread on here recently where op implied thrush was an sti and any woman afflicted therefore “dirty”

There’s a lot of misunderstandings

How strange considering males can get thrush too!

And babies.

I had thrush on my nipples when breast feeding my eldest. She had It in her mouth bless her and it was a vicious & painful cycle trying to clear it up whilst still feeding her. "

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By * F 2018Couple over a year ago

shropshire

"On a scale of 1-10, 10 being the most, on average how painful are period pains?"

Mine when younger were a 9 agony!!!!

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By * F 2018Couple over a year ago

shropshire

Men should be educated on the symptoms of the menapauses too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"On a scale of 1-10, 10 being the most, on average how painful are period pains?"

There's not really an answer for this. It depends on the woman, and even then it depends on the month and which ovary the egg is released from (in my case one seems to cause way worse cramps than the other!).

It also depends on the time of day. If I get my period at night I'll probably be relatively okay, but if I come on slowly throughout the course of the day it always seems to be worse.

It's also not just the uterus that hurts. Periods play havoc with my gut, so I get intestinal pain too. And leg pain is something that's developed over the past few years. A few periods ago my right nipple went super stiff for hours and hurt so bad it drove me to tears and I had to take painkillers for it.

So yeah, no simple answer.

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By *osephSamuel90Man over a year ago

Bracknell

Also, can you 'feel' a tampon when you're wearing it? Cos I can't even wear a hat/helmet or glasses for too long without getting annoyed by them. Also can't wear contact lenses as can't physically touch my eye without wincing, so don't know how I'd deal with having to put something into such a sensitive area and having to deal with the uncomfort all day

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By *not123Couple over a year ago

sp1

I had one who got thrush in his mouth blamed me I never had thrush but he was on a very strong prescription of antibiotics which can cause thrush ..when I told him after he told a few it was me .. I told him to.google it . He shut up then

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No judgement. No shame

Pretty much every comment that has followed 'hey let me tell you about the idiot men I've spoken to"

If you have a question I promise not to judge you for it

I think it's important to remember it can be hard to understand something you'll never go through.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Also, can you 'feel' a tampon when you're wearing it? Cos I can't even wear a hat/helmet or glasses for too long without getting annoyed by them. Also can't wear contact lenses as can't physically touch my eye without wincing, so don't know how I'd deal with having to put something into such a sensitive area and having to deal with the uncomfort all day"

It depends on the person again…personally I don’t wear tampons (tilted uterus makes things hell) so I wear pads and sometimes I can feel them sometimes I can’t…depends on the brand and the flow too. I can feel an extra large overnight + pad but a regular pad (without wings) I can’t feel. I don’t wear winged pads; sensory issues

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You can be aware it's there but not "feel" it per se. If it's causing any discomfort you've either inserted it wrong or are using the wrong absorption level for your flow.

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By *tarflyLouWoman over a year ago

Preston

You can be aware it's there but not "feel" it per se. If it's causing any discomfort you've either inserted it wrong or are using the wrong absorption level for your flow. "

Nothing worse than removing a dry one!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've no desire to talk about thrush, periods or any other women's health issue with men on an Internet sex site "

Luckily you don't have to

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"On a scale of 1-10, 10 being the most, on average how painful are period pains?

It also depends on the time of day. If I get my period at night I'll probably be relatively okay, but if I come on slowly throughout the course of the day it always seems to be worse.

So yeah, no simple answer. "

When I still had periods, my whole vulva used to feel like it was bruised too.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

When it's in right you can't really feel the actual tampon but you are vaguely aware of the string at times. Well I am anyway. Its not uncomfortable unless it gets folded up against you funny.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On a scale of 1-10, 10 being the most, on average how painful are period pains?

It also depends on the time of day. If I get my period at night I'll probably be relatively okay, but if I come on slowly throughout the course of the day it always seems to be worse.

So yeah, no simple answer.

When I still had periods, my whole vulva used to feel like it was bruised too. "

I get this, along with a sharp pain on the left side of my lower tummy all through my cycle

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"On a scale of 1-10, 10 being the most, on average how painful are period pains?

It also depends on the time of day. If I get my period at night I'll probably be relatively okay, but if I come on slowly throughout the course of the day it always seems to be worse.

So yeah, no simple answer.

When I still had periods, my whole vulva used to feel like it was bruised too. "

Yes, this too! It doesn't happen every month, but when it does it's so achey and horrible. Even the lightest feather touch feels like fire.

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By *osephSamuel90Man over a year ago

Bracknell

Thanks for the informative and educational answers to my questions. Not going to lie though the comment about having to pull out a dry tampon made me feel genuinely queasy. Also don't mean this in a sexist way but the answers about period pain make me really glad I'm a man and never had to suffer that shit. I think I'd be wanting that entire time of the month off from work or doing anything if I was a woman. Also, this is probably a stupid question, but if you're a very squeamish woman who faints at the site of blood, would you faint/feel queasy if you saw your own used sanitary products or would it be less severe because it's your own blood? Or would you just have to somehow avoid ever seeing it?

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By *romagefraisWoman over a year ago

Sunderland

Not for most of the time, but when it's full it feels heavy inside and hurts a bit, that's when I know it needs changing.

I don't generally get period pain, but I have at times in my life which has been about a 7 and very occasionally worse than labour pain.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Years ago, an ex (late 20's) thought that tampon absorbency eg light regular, super,super plus was a good indication of how many sexual partners someone had....ie lots meant a bigger/ less tight vagina and so you needed super plus tampons when you had your period. He didn't date a girl because he saw the box in her bathroom. Needless to say, he was educated, but FFS!!!!

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan over a year ago

Aylesbury

I can only apologise to all of you women for the uneducated and ignorant of my gender.

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By *ampWithABrainWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

"On a scale of 1-10, 10 being the most, on average how painful are period pains?"

Varies greatly by woman depending on a number of factors. I have a condition called endometriosis which means they are so painful I frequently pass out etc due to the pain.

I’m not a wimpy person I’ve also had an impacted wisdom tooth, ovarian torsion and spent 28 hours in labour with no pain relief - all of these were significantly less painful than my periods are, I barely even noticed my labour contractions! The midwives and my daughters father were pointing out when I was having them on the monitor!

But I also have plenty of friends and family who barely notice their periods as they are not very painful at all for them.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"Years ago, an ex (late 20's) thought that tampon absorbency eg light regular, super,super plus was a good indication of how many sexual partners someone had....ie lots meant a bigger/ less tight vagina and so you needed super plus tampons when you had your period. He didn't date a girl because he saw the box in her bathroom. Needless to say, he was educated, but FFS!!!!"

That's an interesting theory. I wonder if he thought the number of sexual partners I had changed throughout my period as I used a combination depending on flow.

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By *ampWithABrainWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

"Great idea there was a thread on here recently where op implied thrush was an sti and any woman afflicted therefore “dirty”

There’s a lot of misunderstandings

My ex used to think thrush was an sti and he accused me of cheating when I got thrush! "

I had that experience with my ex too. He had no clue about womens bodies

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman over a year ago

"I've no desire to talk about thrush, periods or any other women's health issue with men on an Internet sex site "

No one said you had to

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I can only apologise to all of you women for the uneducated and ignorant of my gender."

Like I said, if you don't go through something there's no way you'll ever really fully understand.

I don't think it's ignorance per se but just a general lack of education and it being a taboo subject until fairly recently. I don't really think it's fair to place the blame on the general male population for that and berating them isn't really going to help.

What's important is that they're willing to ask questions, listen and understand

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you put a cork in the pee hole would it come out of one of the others?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can only apologise to all of you women for the uneducated and ignorant of my gender.

Like I said, if you don't go through something there's no way you'll ever really fully understand.

What's important is that they're willing to ask questions, listen and understand

Great idea for a post

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"If you put a cork in the pee hole would it come out of one of the others?"

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

Where is the clit

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"If you put a cork in the pee hole would it come out of one of the others?"

no, your bladder, vagina and intestines aren't connected

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By *ampWithABrainWoman over a year ago

Glasgow

"On a scale of 1-10, 10 being the most, on average how painful are period pains?

It also depends on the time of day. If I get my period at night I'll probably be relatively okay, but if I come on slowly throughout the course of the day it always seems to be worse.

So yeah, no simple answer. "

Omg yes, period diarrhoea, nausea, thigh cramps…

Because I have endo on my spine my back would be in agony too

I’m now on meds so that I don’t have them at all as it’s the best way to manage things for me

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I can only apologise to all of you women for the uneducated and ignorant of my gender.

Like I said, if you don't go through something there's no way you'll ever really fully understand.

What's important is that they're willing to ask questions, listen and understand

I agree. If you're met with scorn you won't ask

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you put a cork in the pee hole would it come out of one of the others?

no, your bladder, vagina and intestines aren't connected"

That’s disappointing. With 3 holes can I use a woman as a bowling ball?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you put a cork in the pee hole would it come out of one of the others?

No"

There’s goes my science project

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"If you put a cork in the pee hole would it come out of one of the others?

no, your bladder, vagina and intestines aren't connected

That’s disappointing. With 3 holes can I use a woman as a bowling ball?"

quite easily

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By *otBunsHunWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

I can't feel them, only if I've not quite positioned it right, then it's a little uncomfortable

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you put a cork in the pee hole would it come out of one of the others?

no, your bladder, vagina and intestines aren't connected

That’s disappointing. With 3 holes can I use a woman as a bowling ball?"

Only if you have one freakishly long finger

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you put a cork in the pee hole would it come out of one of the others?

no, your bladder, vagina and intestines aren't connected

That’s disappointing. With 3 holes can I use a woman as a bowling ball?

Only if you have one freakishly long finger"

Now that you mention it

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"Where is the clit"

Under the hood where the inner labia meet at the top just below where a landing strip would be if they have one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Where is the clit"

Is this an Office reference?

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By *onb21Woman over a year ago

Cardiff

"Thanks for the informative and educational answers to my questions. Not going to lie though the comment about having to pull out a dry tampon made me feel genuinely queasy. Also don't mean this in a sexist way but the answers about period pain make me really glad I'm a man and never had to suffer that shit. I think I'd be wanting that entire time of the month off from work or doing anything if I was a woman. Also, this is probably a stupid question, but if you're a very squeamish woman who faints at the site of blood, would you faint/feel queasy if you saw your own used sanitary products or would it be less severe because it's your own blood? Or would you just have to somehow avoid ever seeing it?"

I'm sure there are some who struggle with it. But it isn't bright red a lot of the time. When I first got my period I didn't understand what it was straight away because it was the colour of dried blood and I expected it to be red.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yeah towards the end it goes quite dark brown. Sometimes when the next period starts the older blood will come out first and be dark brown before becoming bright red.

Today mine has been more of a pinkish red (first day).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Where is the clit"

The clitoris is right under the point where the inner labia meet and form a little hood (known as the clitoral hood, in fact). It's on top of (or in front of, depending on which angle you're at) the vagina and the urethra (the hole you pee out of).

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan over a year ago

Aylesbury

"I can only apologise to all of you women for the uneducated and ignorant of my gender.

Like I said, if you don't go through something there's no way you'll ever really fully understand.

What's important is that they're willing to ask questions, listen and understand

You are right, men will never fully understand, but more men could make greater efforts to understand, and the men that dont are ignorant.

A lack of education isnt an excuse, most of what I know about women's bodies was self taught because I wasnt being taught it. Berating them men doesnt help, but shaming them is appropriate.

It is important for men to ask these questions, and I'm not apologising on behalf of these men

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By *inkylipsWoman over a year ago

Debauchery

"On a scale of 1-10, 10 being the most, on average how painful are period pains?"

Usually mine are 0-1 but this time they are about an 8 so it does vary

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By *iromancergirl1Woman over a year ago

bolton

I tend to only get period pains when I’m ovulating and mainly on my right side occasionally I’ll have then on both sides when I’m producing an egg from both sides I also have non identical twins so I obviously got caught at one of those times.

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By *orny PTMan over a year ago

Peterborough

"If men had periods" is a sketch from Ben Elton from the 1980s. This explains how it would be seen as a badge of honour for men to bear this open wound.

Religious leaders are the blame why menstruation is still, not-talked-about-in-polite-circles-and-certainly-not-with-men. Their collective stigma and dogma.

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The Biblical regulations of Leviticus specify that a menstruating woman must "separate" for seven days (Leviticus 15:19). Any object she sits on or lies upon during this period is becomes a "carrier of tumah" (midras uncleanness).

Other religions are not so open minded about this subject either.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"On a scale of 1-10, 10 being the most, on average how painful are period pains?"

For me, 0-9. Sometimes I don't even notice, sometimes it's debilitating. Certain things (weight, exercise, sleep) can influence the pain.

Different for different women, as noted. It's become less painful as I've gotten older (so far - 36) although I don't know if my contraception changes that.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yeah towards the end it goes quite dark brown. Sometimes when the next period starts the older blood will come out first and be dark brown before becoming bright red.

Today mine has been more of a pinkish red (first day). "

Oddly, since being on the Mirena coil I only get brown blood.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im good tar

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

"No judgement. No shame

Pretty much every comment that has followed 'hey let me tell you about the idiot men I've spoken to"

No one called anyone an idiot.

We're highlighting how people can be uninformed or ill-informed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can only apologise to all of you women for the uneducated and ignorant of my gender."

To be totally fair there are both men and women totally uninformed (ignorant perhaps or just naïve) about male and female anatomy and reproductive health.

We aren’t taught enough about how our bodies work when we are young. Some schools teach kids how people become pregnant but they don’t teach the intricacies of fertility for both men and women, egg quality, female reproductive issues etc.

As youngsters it’s all about pregnancy and sti prevention (rightly so) but when it comes to actually wanting family sometimes it doesn’t happen as easily as we are led to believe when we’re taught about the birds and the bees.

Anyone feel free to correct me!!! Eggs are ‘lost’ each cycle but I didn’t realise that you’re born with your quota of eggs. As you get older the quality of your eggs also deteriorates ( I did realise this).

These are perhaps facts people are not aware of and they should be.

Someone mentioned BV - bacterial vaginosis - more people need to be educated on this too. It’s not an sti, can be embarrassing but is normal and treatable.

Our bodies are incredible, beautiful and complex. We should be curious about what they’re capable of and not embarrassed to ask questions.

There should be absolutely no judgment of any queries. I actually find it so refreshing to see people asking the questions posted.

I love programs like Naked Attraction and Embarrassing Bodies. I think they help us see what is ‘normal’ and not what porn portrays as what is normal.

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

"I can only apologise to all of you women for the uneducated and ignorant of my gender."

There's probably plenty of stuff women don't know about men; no need to apologise.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I knew someone in his 20s who thought a woman released an egg only when she had an orgasm.

I know a man in his 40s who cant be convinced otherwise

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

"Where is the clit

Is this an Office reference?

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Menstruating person? Surely it is women who have periods

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By *orny PTMan over a year ago

Peterborough

‘I’m the Cliff Richard of sitcoms’, he joked, as he reminded us about his infamous sketch about how different life would be if men had periods and not women, and how he took on the establishment – which once banned ads about tampons – and won. ‘I did that’, he said with a wry smile – and he did.

Ben Elton: he knows stuff, speaking to James Driver-Fisher from the Shropshire Star 23/10/93.

Just imagine, two gigantic tampons strapped to the outside of the space shuttle's main booster rocket, pointing towards a blood red sky at dusk. The tampon packaging would have NASA logos all over it.

Fuck it, even LEGO would get involved (in vulv'd?) with a model womb and ovaries structure.

Comedy is a serous business and can change the world.

This was the "picolax thread returns" of the day

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I can only apologise to all of you women for the uneducated and ignorant of my gender.

To be totally fair there are both men and women totally uninformed (ignorant perhaps or just naïve) about male and female anatomy and reproductive health.

These are perhaps facts people are not aware of and they should be.

Someone mentioned BV - bacterial vaginosis - more people need to be educated on this too. It’s not an sti, can be embarrassing but is normal and treatable.

Our bodies are incredible, beautiful and complex. We should be curious about what they’re capable of and not embarrassed to ask questions.

There should be absolutely no judgment of any queries. I actually find it so refreshing to see people asking the questions posted.

I love programs like Naked Attraction and Embarrassing Bodies. I think they help us see what is ‘normal’ and not what porn portrays as what is normal.

In terms of "normal" stuff, I was very lucky. My parents didn't want to touch any of that crap so gave me books on human anatomy for children. Double page on heart, double page on lungs, double page on female reproductive organs, double page for male reproductive organs. I knew a lot and early.

(My health issues - I have PCOS, endo, and have had gynaecological emergencies - another matter. But you can't have everything

)

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

Do females actually orgasm? And when they do is it bad for the baby?

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Menstruating person? Surely it is women who have periods"

Trans men also have periods

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Menstruating person? Surely it is women who have periods"

I’m non-binary and about to socially transition to male and I have periods.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I had one who got thrush in his mouth blamed me I never had thrush but he was on a very strong prescription of antibiotics which can cause thrush ..when I told him after he told a few it was me .. I told him to.google it . He shut up then"

I get thrush everytime I take an antibiotic. Drives me nuts

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"I can only apologise to all of you women for the uneducated and ignorant of my gender.

Like I said, if you don't go through something there's no way you'll ever really fully understand.

What's important is that they're willing to ask questions, listen and understand

You are right, men will never fully understand, but more men could make greater efforts to understand, and the men that dont are ignorant.

A lack of education isnt an excuse, most of what I know about women's bodies was self taught because I wasnt being taught it. Berating them men doesnt help, but shaming them is appropriate.

It is important for men to ask these questions, and I'm not apologising on behalf of these men

Sometimes though they think they do know about it so have no reason to research anything and it's only if the topic comes up with a woman any they're corrected that they even realise their understanding was wrong.

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By *eroLondonMan over a year ago

Mayfair

When women wear an 'underwired' bra can you feel the wire? Is it uncomfortable?

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By *otBunsHunWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Do females actually orgasm? And when they do is it bad for the baby? "

Yes they do. And no it's not. Ha.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"When women wear an 'underwired' bra can you feel the wire? Is it uncomfortable?

Depends on the bra. Ideally not uncomfortable.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Menstruating person? Surely it is women who have periods

Trans men also have periods"

By dint of the fact they are biologically female

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

"Do females actually orgasm? And when they do is it bad for the baby?

Yes they do. And no it's not. Ha. "

Is there any proof they orgasm? Because, personally, I’ve never seen it

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By *otBunsHunWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

"When women wear an 'underwired' bra can you feel the wire? Is it uncomfortable?

"
properly fitted bras are quite tight, especially to begin with, and they can be felt. My personal experience is they are very uncomfortable.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When women wear an 'underwired' bra can you feel the wire? Is it uncomfortable?

Yes; my bras are always poking into me. Sometimes they are fine; when my boobs are swollen before my period that’s when it gets really uncomfortable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"When women wear an 'underwired' bra can you feel the wire? Is it uncomfortable?

Wearing an underwired bra is about as far from comfortable as it's humanly possible to get.

On the other hand, you will never know relief like releasing the girls from titty prison at the end of a long day. There's no feeling like it.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"When women wear an 'underwired' bra can you feel the wire? Is it uncomfortable?

not if it fits properly. If the wire works its way out and sticks into you its excruciatingly painful

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Menstruating person? Surely it is women who have periods

I’m non-binary and about to socially transition to male and I have periods. "

As stated in another post, because you are biologically female. The point I’m making is the word women is being supplanted

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Menstruating person? Surely it is women who have periods

Trans men also have periods

By dint of the fact they are biologically female"

Cool story bro.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"Do females actually orgasm? And when they do is it bad for the baby?

Yes they do. And no it's not. Ha.

Is there any proof they orgasm? Because, personally, I’ve never seen it "

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By *orny PTMan over a year ago

Peterborough

I get thrush everytime I take an antibiotic. Drives me nuts "

Are steroids an option for you? I had them for a really, really nasty post cold, upper respiratory tract infection, never had covid though: the jabs worked for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Menstruating person? Surely it is women who have periods

I’m non-binary and about to socially transition to male and I have periods.

As stated in another post, because you are biologically female. The point I’m making is the word women is being supplanted "

There’s literally bigger things to worry about I promise you; I say menstruating person and that’s okay. No one’s forcing you to say it.

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By *eroLondonMan over a year ago

Mayfair

"....you will never know relief like releasing the girls from titty prison at the end of a long day. There's no feeling like it. "

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...as if they're making a break for the border?

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

" Men should be educated on the symptoms of the menapauses too."

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"I can only apologise to all of you women for the uneducated and ignorant of my gender.

To be totally fair there are both men and women totally uninformed (ignorant perhaps or just naïve) about male and female anatomy and reproductive health.

We aren’t taught enough about how our bodies work when we are young."

This is true. I've had to teach many women that they don't pee from their vagina and can therefore go for a wee with a tampon in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Menstruating person? Surely it is women who have periods

I’m non-binary and about to socially transition to male and I have periods.

As stated in another post, because you are biologically female. The point I’m making is the word women is being supplanted

There’s literally bigger things to worry about I promise you; I say menstruating person and that’s okay. No one’s forcing you to say it. "

Fair point, no one compels me to use particular speech, I concede that point. I’ll be the judge of what I believe to be big enough to worry about

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Menstruating person? Surely it is women who have periods

I’m non-binary and about to socially transition to male and I have periods.

As stated in another post, because you are biologically female. The point I’m making is the word women is being supplanted

There’s literally bigger things to worry about I promise you; I say menstruating person and that’s okay. No one’s forcing you to say it. "

I have no issue being referred to as a menstruating person. It's factually accurate.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"I can only apologise to all of you women for the uneducated and ignorant of my gender.

To be totally fair there are both men and women totally uninformed (ignorant perhaps or just naïve) about male and female anatomy and reproductive health.

We aren’t taught enough about how our bodies work when we are young.

This is true. I've had to teach many women that they don't pee from their vagina and can therefore go for a wee with a tampon in. "

yep. I had to tell a young woman that she was likely to have a period every month, not just one and that was it.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"Menstruating person? Surely it is women who have periods"

Contrary to what some may believe, women are also people.

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By *otBunsHunWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

"Do females actually orgasm? And when they do is it bad for the baby?

Yes they do. And no it's not. Ha.

Is there any proof they orgasm? Because, personally, I’ve never seen it "

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By *cruffymooWoman over a year ago

Skelmersdale

"There are alot that need to be informed about bv!!! "

Agreed ??

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By *eviant KnightMan over a year ago

Norton

Are boobs as fun to be played with as men think they are to play with?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I can only apologise to all of you women for the uneducated and ignorant of my gender.

To be totally fair there are both men and women totally uninformed (ignorant perhaps or just naïve) about male and female anatomy and reproductive health.

We aren’t taught enough about how our bodies work when we are young.

This is true. I've had to teach many women that they don't pee from their vagina and can therefore go for a wee with a tampon in. "

To be fair I also only found this out embarrassingly late into my teens

It feels like the same place!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Are boobs as fun to be played with as men think they are to play with? "

Yes 100%

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Do females actually orgasm? And when they do is it bad for the baby?

Yes they do. And no it's not. Ha.

Is there any proof they orgasm? Because, personally, I’ve never seen it "

What do you want?

Fireworks?

Can't speak for all ladies, I clench my muscles and stomach ones too and get very wet.

My breathing changes too and a make noises.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Menstruating person? Surely it is women who have periods

I’m non-binary and about to socially transition to male and I have periods.

As stated in another post, because you are biologically female. The point I’m making is the word women is being supplanted

There’s literally bigger things to worry about I promise you; I say menstruating person and that’s okay. No one’s forcing you to say it.

I have no issue being referred to as a menstruating person. It's factually accurate."

In your instance you may be ok with that term but what about women who have been that way from day one. For them, the term is probably wide of the mark and the word women has been supplanted by a term to placate those who identify as otherwise. It is similar to the term birthing person being used instead of mother

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Are boobs as fun to be played with as men think they are to play with?

Yes 100%"

No fun for they guy yes not always fun for the lady

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Also something else I found out at too late of an age: I always wondered why I had what looked like bleach spots on my black underwear.

Turns out vaginal discharge is naturally acidic and can bleach your underwear

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Do females actually orgasm? And when they do is it bad for the baby?

Yes they do. And no it's not. Ha.

Is there any proof they orgasm? Because, personally, I’ve never seen it

What do you want?

Fireworks?

Can't speak for all ladies, I clench my muscles and stomach ones too and get very wet.

My breathing changes too and a make noises. "

He's taking the piss

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By *eroLondonMan over a year ago

Mayfair

Is it common (and painful or uncomfortable) to get sore nipples or areolas during menstruation?

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"Are boobs as fun to be played with as men think they are to play with? "

Yes

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman over a year ago

"Are boobs as fun to be played with as men think they are to play with? "

Yeah just don’t go mad

gentle-ish and plenty of nipple licking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is it common (and painful or uncomfortable) to get sore nipples or areolas during menstruation?"

It is for me; can’t speak for others but mine can be hell sometimes. Can’t even touch them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is it common (and painful or uncomfortable) to get sore nipples or areolas during menstruation?"

I got this for the first time a couple of months ago. It was incredibly painful. Like having a permanent nipple clamp on.

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Menstruating person? Surely it is women who have periods

I’m non-binary and about to socially transition to male and I have periods.

As stated in another post, because you are biologically female. The point I’m making is the word women is being supplanted

There’s literally bigger things to worry about I promise you; I say menstruating person and that’s okay. No one’s forcing you to say it.

I have no issue being referred to as a menstruating person. It's factually accurate.

I'm a cis female. There is an F on my birth certificate. "It's a girl" was cried when I was born.

I am a person who menstruates.

If I had a baby, I would be a birthing person.

I'm also a woman. That isn't true for all people who menstruate or give birth.

Please don't assume that all people who disagree with you are trans.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"Is it common (and painful or uncomfortable) to get sore nipples or areolas during menstruation?"

Unfortunately yes. My boobs also itched when they grew which was fun!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Menstruating person? Surely it is women who have periods

Contrary to what some may believe, women are also people. "

And do women want to be referred to as people/person with issues of a female nature? Surely you are not advocating an approach to get rid of gender specific terms?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When women wear an 'underwired' bra can you feel the wire? Is it uncomfortable?

Wearing an underwired bra is about as far from comfortable as it's humanly possible to get.

On the other hand, you will never know relief like releasing the girls from titty prison at the end of a long day. There's no feeling like it. "

I've read that bras can be quite damaging to breasts.

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By *uxom redCouple over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Do females actually orgasm? And when they do is it bad for the baby?

Yes they do. And no it's not. Ha.

Is there any proof they orgasm? Because, personally, I’ve never seen it

What do you want?

Fireworks?

Can't speak for all ladies, I clench my muscles and stomach ones too and get very wet.

My breathing changes too and a make noises.

He's taking the piss

I know.

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