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"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh" Not really, but thanks. Just setting the scene of where I am and how I feel. But thanks for you input  | |||
"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want. I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?" Sounds like depression. Take the time to do something for you and you alone. Even if you only go out in the sun and sun your balls. Just do something, anything. C | |||
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"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh" I think this might say a little more about you than him. I read, he has nothing to feel down about but he does and can't work it out. | |||
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"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh I think this might say a little more about you than him. I read, he has nothing to feel down about but he does and can't work it out." I’m as happy as Larry thanks. I don’t need to stealth boast about it though | |||
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"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh I think this might say a little more about you than him. I read, he has nothing to feel down about but he does and can't work it out. I’m as happy as Larry thanks. I don’t need to stealth boast about it though "Great to hear, you are more fortunate than the op in this regard | |||
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"I can relate in a way. Sometimes the focus on being set up with all the material things can cause us to lose focus of ourselves. Plus you wouldn't want someone to only like you for the things you provide rather than the person you are." I'm very reserved around people about myself and material things so people liking me for the things I have and provide isn't an issue. I just felt it was important to include those things in my opening statement so people can see where I'm at. If I didn't set a scene, so to speak, people could have thought maybe he has money issues, issues with work, problems with family or friends. But it's none of the above. But hey, some people can see fault in anything I guess. | |||
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"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want. I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?" Maybe you have nothing to aim for. You are happy where you're at and with the things you have. We need downs as well as ups I think. Could be depression. Maybe see your doctor? Or find something new to aim for/ look forward to?  | |||
"I posted something similar yesterday, must be catching, it is depression no matter how you paint it, it is indicative of where we are as humans, back in the day when we lived in caves, everything had a purpose, you hunted for food protected your family and the land around you, you didn’t do things that meant nothing because that’s when you got caught out by some wild animal and that’s it the end, fast forward to now, our only purpose worth pursuing is continuing our own individual genetics because everything else is done for you, you go work, even if the jobs hard it’s not impossible and if you can’t do it then it’s not the end of the world, basically we have gone soft, our version of hard is not even close to being purposeful over time, sure there’s a lot of great modern things and they make our lives easier, but easy lives aren’t actually in our dna, we are hunters, gatherers, homemakers, farmers, nurturers, all of us and because we basically do none of the above, we are lost bored and steadily sinking in to the abyss, society is failing because we have lost our individual purpose, wars are happening because we have mistaken what it is to be human with if I take that land or that thing I am better than everyone else therefore I am alpha, the world is big enough for us all to king of our own domain, to all those suffering you are in my thoughts, I hope you get out of this, I hope the world can be better, I hope we can find ourselves before it’s too late, responsibility is the first step out of this mess, be responsible for you, timekeeping, upkeep, diet, well being it’s all on you so take responsibility because people and you yourself will sit there and say I’m doing ok, what’s wrong with that? Well ok is way way less than what you could be."  | |||
"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want. I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?" Yes that's my life too. Difficult not getting regular sex when you're single. Bored of one nighters  | |||
"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want. I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel? Sounds like depression. Take the time to do something for you and you alone. Even if you only go out in the sun and sun your balls. Just do something, anything. C" Its definitely not depression to me. I know exactly how he feels. It's not having that meaningful human connection that we designed to have. Not everyone is lucky to have someone in their life that loves and cherish them as a sexual person  | |||
"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want. I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?" When that happens to me I'm usually thirsty, drink lots of water  | |||
"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh" Great example of how people who are struggling can be overlooked because they seem to have it all. Not just overlooked but also essentially scorned for speaking out, or dismissed by being told they’re bragging. OP seems to be stating those things which CAN be big stressors and yet still feels empty or lost. If you don’t have anything kind to say when someone is being vulnerable then may be don’t say anything at all | |||
"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh Great example of how people who are struggling can be overlooked because they seem to have it all. Not just overlooked but also essentially scorned for speaking out, or dismissed by being told they’re bragging. OP seems to be stating those things which CAN be big stressors and yet still feels empty or lost. If you don’t have anything kind to say when someone is being vulnerable then may be don’t say anything at all "well said | |||
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"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want. I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?" Yes how tou feel has nothing to do with personal wealth. Achieving life goals is a means to an end and not the end in itself. You can be alone in a crowded room. You should look at counselling and talking through this. Those thatbarw mocking you are idiots who are missing the point | |||
"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh Great example of how people who are struggling can be overlooked because they seem to have it all. Not just overlooked but also essentially scorned for speaking out, or dismissed by being told they’re bragging. OP seems to be stating those things which CAN be big stressors and yet still feels empty or lost. If you don’t have anything kind to say when someone is being vulnerable then may be don’t say anything at all "It doesn't suprise me sometimes why people don't speak up. People are encouraged to speak up and when they do get dismissed or recieve unhelpful comments. Thanks to people like yourself and the majority of others who have posted here I'm glad I posted something. It seems I'm not the only one who is having these struggles. | |||
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"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh" Be kind and all that. OP find someone to talk to. Doesn't matter what or who you've got if you feel sad, you feel sad. | |||
"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want. I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?" I think everyone feels like that at times, OP, but if it's been going on for some time or you feel like it's getting worse, I'd chat to your doctor. But have you also thought what might fill the void? Not material stuff, but more time doing things you like etc, or spending time with people you like? Just something to focus on. Easier said than done, I know. Hope you're feeling better soon. | |||
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"This is when my dad would tell you to turn to God. I wouldn't because I don't believe in it but you're probably missing something meaningful or spiritual. I don't have an answer I'm afraid. I don't know how old you are but maybe you've reached a watershed and you're reassessing. Do you have any goals to aim for, a purpose? " Trust me I tried God and you end up feeling guilty for craving things that Christians aren't meant to | |||
"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh" You seem to be on quite a lot of threads like this telling people to stop whining or some variant of that. You're in your late 50s now, maybe you should grow up and learn some empathy | |||
"This is when my dad would tell you to turn to God. I wouldn't because I don't believe in it but you're probably missing something meaningful or spiritual. I don't have an answer I'm afraid. I don't know how old you are but maybe you've reached a watershed and you're reassessing. Do you have any goals to aim for, a purpose? " Thanks for your support. A few people have mentioned on this thread regarding personal goals or doing something for me. I do have some things in mind which I've wanted to do for sometime, I think the right moment would be now so I'm going to look into those things and really aim to get stuck in. If anyone is interested then message me and I'll let you know what I have in mind, would be ace to make new friends on this journey  | |||
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"This is when my dad would tell you to turn to God. I wouldn't because I don't believe in it but you're probably missing something meaningful or spiritual. I don't have an answer I'm afraid. I don't know how old you are but maybe you've reached a watershed and you're reassessing. Do you have any goals to aim for, a purpose? Trust me I tried God and you end up feeling guilty for craving things that Christians aren't meant to "This absolutely….. every time I step into a religious establishment I get hot and feel the weight of the building on me, those people can’t save me, I can save myself one day at a time | |||
"This is when my dad would tell you to turn to God. I wouldn't because I don't believe in it but you're probably missing something meaningful or spiritual. I don't have an answer I'm afraid. I don't know how old you are but maybe you've reached a watershed and you're reassessing. Do you have any goals to aim for, a purpose? Trust me I tried God and you end up feeling guilty for craving things that Christians aren't meant to "Goodness me I'm not suggesting you do! I wouldn't either. | |||
"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh Great example of how people who are struggling can be overlooked because they seem to have it all. Not just overlooked but also essentially scorned for speaking out, or dismissed by being told they’re bragging. OP seems to be stating those things which CAN be big stressors and yet still feels empty or lost. If you don’t have anything kind to say when someone is being vulnerable then may be don’t say anything at all "well said there was absolutely no need for those crass comments | |||
"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh" What an unkind comment | |||
"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want. I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?" Yep, then I start to pick my life apart- a bit like those Talking heads lyrics "this is not my beautiful house, this is not my beautiful wife" etc. Main thing is to try and swim against the tide and focus on those positive part of your life you have already mentioned. | |||
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"I'm very reserved around people about myself and material things so people liking me for the things I have and provide isn't an issue. I just felt it was important to include those things in my opening statement so people can see where I'm at. If I didn't set a scene, so to speak, people could have thought maybe he has money issues, issues with work, problems with family or friends. But it's none of the above. But hey, some people can see fault in anything I guess. " You mention family, does that include a spouse? Being on here if there is one, and they don't know, could be making you feel guilty? And that is a depressing thing to live with. | |||
"I'm very reserved around people about myself and material things so people liking me for the things I have and provide isn't an issue. I just felt it was important to include those things in my opening statement so people can see where I'm at. If I didn't set a scene, so to speak, people could have thought maybe he has money issues, issues with work, problems with family or friends. But it's none of the above. But hey, some people can see fault in anything I guess. You mention family, does that include a spouse? Being on here if there is one, and they don't know, could be making you feel guilty? And that is a depressing thing to live with." No spouse, no children. And I guess some could say maybe I need a partner in my life but I know me and right now I don't need a partner. I feel I've a bit yet to accomplish for myself and reaching out on this forum has helped me realise that very quickly. | |||
"I'm very reserved around people about myself and material things so people liking me for the things I have and provide isn't an issue. I just felt it was important to include those things in my opening statement so people can see where I'm at. If I didn't set a scene, so to speak, people could have thought maybe he has money issues, issues with work, problems with family or friends. But it's none of the above. But hey, some people can see fault in anything I guess. You mention family, does that include a spouse? Being on here if there is one, and they don't know, could be making you feel guilty? And that is a depressing thing to live with. No spouse, no children. And I guess some could say maybe I need a partner in my life but I know me and right now I don't need a partner. I feel I've a bit yet to accomplish for myself and reaching out on this forum has helped me realise that very quickly. " really pleased it's gone well for you after the appalling first comment,it's good to remember that we are not all arseholes and genuine caring people among us will try to support others | |||
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"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh" Some people actually do feel that way, they have everything they need a good life.. beautiful children... but feel like they are alone in life and feel like they haven't got anything.. or anyone to turn to.. i know this because I'm one of them, it's anxiety and depression disorder. If you have it properly it's horrible. | |||
"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh Great example of how people who are struggling can be overlooked because they seem to have it all. Not just overlooked but also essentially scorned for speaking out, or dismissed by being told they’re bragging. OP seems to be stating those things which CAN be big stressors and yet still feels empty or lost. If you don’t have anything kind to say when someone is being vulnerable then may be don’t say anything at all " agree with this and it just shows not everyone understands mental health yet | |||
"But do you do anything for YOU OP? Or do you spend your time maintaining the things you've listed or being part of them instead? What makes YOU happy? Hobbies and interests and simple pleasures can take a backseat when you're there for you family and work and jetting off for business trips. It can leave you without many choices and freedoms of your own, like fitting in a walk on a sunny day just because you feel like it, there's no time, work needs doing, it's family time, when is it You time? Are your choices missing? PW " Thanks for your support. I have recently started making time for myself and started going on long walks and going for runs. It helps to some degree but I'm now putting goals into place so that after I go for a walk I have other things to focus on albeit a small or big goal. | |||
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"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want. I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?" Often go through times like this, or just feeling inadequately equipped to do my work, even though I know I am bloody good at what I do. It usually passes, so hope you get through this and start to feel better about things soon | |||
"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh Great example of how people who are struggling can be overlooked because they seem to have it all. Not just overlooked but also essentially scorned for speaking out, or dismissed by being told they’re bragging. OP seems to be stating those things which CAN be big stressors and yet still feels empty or lost. If you don’t have anything kind to say when someone is being vulnerable then may be don’t say anything at all "Well said! | |||
"Hi all, hope everyone is enjoying the great weather. Stay safe all. So an update; I'm putting myself first and doing things for me. Reaching out by posting this thread almost felt like making that initial step. I had a really positive week all of last week. I've set out to achieve goals. I'm still going out for walks and runs but also spent time with friends and family over the weekend which was great. I guess this beautiful weather also helps but having things to aim for is such a motivator and a focus point to keep your mind active. Thanks all for the support. Onwards and upwards
"I've just read this update. Great news but I suspect it's a temporary uplift. I've been in a similar situation. Communication, communication, communication makes it a far less lonely experience, whether that is with your family, a friend or a professional, it helps. They're there when you hit the wall and the motivation isn't quite there. | |||
"I can relate in a way. Sometimes the focus on being set up with all the material things can cause us to lose focus of ourselves. Plus you wouldn't want someone to only like you for the things you provide rather than the person you are." | |||
"Sounds like you are fufilling your financial needs but not your spiritual needs. What do you do for fun? Hobbies etc Stuff that does not revolve around money or material possessions. " Thanks everyone for your support once again. I think you're right regarding fulfilling financial needs and not spiritual needs. I have started taking long walks and sometimes go running. As I say, I have a great family network and friends circles but I'm looking to expand that by join a tennis club or the gym. I'm keen on keeping fit so I can incorporate health and socialising in one. | |||
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"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want. I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?" All material success. Life is not just about mind and body, but spirit/ soul too. If you feel empty, do some charity work when you can and/ or spiritual practice | |||
"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want. I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel? All material success. Life is not just about mind and body, but spirit/ soul too. If you feel empty, do some charity work when you can and/ or spiritual practice "I even do that... I know what my emptiness us. Not being loved by someone who thinks I'm special. Romantic love. As I have many friends and family who love me dearly | |||
"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want. I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel? All material success. Life is not just about mind and body, but spirit/ soul too. If you feel empty, do some charity work when you can and/ or spiritual practice
I even do that... I know what my emptiness us. Not being loved by someone who thinks I'm special. Romantic love. As I have many friends and family who love me dearly"Maybe you are meeting guys in the wrong places? Also look critically at yourself too, in case there may be behaviours that are making it hard for people to get close to you (I say this to many who are unlucky in relationships) x | |||
"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want. I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel? All material success. Life is not just about mind and body, but spirit/ soul too. If you feel empty, do some charity work when you can and/ or spiritual practice
I even do that... I know what my emptiness us. Not being loved by someone who thinks I'm special. Romantic love. As I have many friends and family who love me dearly
Maybe you are meeting guys in the wrong places? Also look critically at yourself too, in case there may be behaviours that are making it hard for people to get close to you (I say this to many who are unlucky in relationships) x"Not that I'm aware of in my situation. Just meet cheats, liars and time wasters | |||
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"Sounds like a long brag followed by a boo boo poor me tbh I think this might say a little more about you than him. I read, he has nothing to feel down about but he does and can't work it out." Agree | |||
"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want. I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?" Take time out to pamper yourself, have fun and try not to overthink. You’ll find no two days are the same and we all have ups and down moments. If we’ve no happiness and or god health then it makes us very poor. So enjoy life doing the things that make you feel happy. Surround yourself with positive energy peeps and have fun... Best wishes | |||
"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want. I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel? All material success. Life is not just about mind and body, but spirit/ soul too. If you feel empty, do some charity work when you can and/ or spiritual practice
I even do that... I know what my emptiness us. Not being loved by someone who thinks I'm special. Romantic love. As I have many friends and family who love me dearly
Maybe you are meeting guys in the wrong places? Also look critically at yourself too, in case there may be behaviours that are making it hard for people to get close to you (I say this to many who are unlucky in relationships) x
Not that I'm aware of in my situation. Just meet cheats, liars and time wasters "Well that can often be a sign of you getting hurt, then looking for someone to mend that pain that may not be suitable. So you get hurt and more damaged and seek out again. It is a vicious cycle I see so many fall in. Whenever I got hurt, I took a long break from dating, rather than risking rebounds x | |||
"I can relate in a way. Sometimes the focus on being set up with all the material things can cause us to lose focus of ourselves. Plus you wouldn't want someone to only like you for the things you provide rather than the person you are. I'm very reserved around people about myself and material things so people liking me for the things I have and provide isn't an issue. I just felt it was important to include those things in my opening statement so people can see where I'm at. If I didn't set a scene, so to speak, people could have thought maybe he has money issues, issues with work, problems with family or friends. But it's none of the above. But hey, some people can see fault in anything I guess. " I know how you feel ,I'm in an identical situation, its hard to shake off | |||
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"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want. I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?" Yeah some thing or some one missing im ya life | |||
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"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want. I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel? All material success. Life is not just about mind and body, but spirit/ soul too. If you feel empty, do some charity work when you can and/ or spiritual practice
I even do that... I know what my emptiness us. Not being loved by someone who thinks I'm special. Romantic love. As I have many friends and family who love me dearly"I often feel like this because I'm never been in love or in a relationship, I feel I've missed out on that journey in life, but I've also watched relationships which I would have been jealous of and often wondered why I didn't have that, watching them now fall apart etc I've realised maybe that's not my path. As for op, I think sometimes people get to an age and think they haven't achieved it all, aren't happy enough etc and we compare ourselves to other people, what other show us, but I can guarantee who the ones we watch thinking they have it all are also wondering why can't I have tbat or why ain't I happy. A friend told me lately she's jealous of the freedom I have of been single, been able to come and go as I please, my reply I'd love to have someone to lie beside at night and hold me, tell me they love me etc. Her reply she wished she had it too and as for me coming and going as I please, sometimes it greats lonely. Depression etc isn't something you cure or solve with a flick of a switch or a light bulb moment, it's something you have to work at everyday, be grateful for what you do have, remove the negative people etc from your life. Life is but a fleeting moment, a roller coaster of emotions and journeys, enjoy the ride  | |||
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"Anyine feel like there's something missing even though people around you enjoy your company and say you have everything anyone would want. I have an incredible family. My jobs is great, I enjoy it and it pays well. I have a nice home and a nice car. I've been unlucky enough to have travelled to some amazing places. I've got investments that'll, fingers crossed, do me well in the future. Yet sometimes I feel, empty. Lost. Confused. Anyone else get this or understand how I feel?" I might be wrong and if so I will apologise. But your situation reminds me of the scene in only fools and horses where they sell the watch. In life you have effectively won. So there are no more battles. No more challenges so what is the point? It's akin to being a great samurai. But with no enemy to fight. If I'm correct. You need a challenge. A real challenge that will push you to excel. Where there is a real risk that without hard effort you will fail. Without skill and resourcefulness you will fail. I wish you good luck on your quest. | |||
"I've been dealing with a lot of this for a long time. Initially without realising it. I know I have lots of positive things going for me. I go through a long phase of normality. But knowing something isn't right. Then a few days of being silent when talking becomes hard work. Followed by anger then emotion and back to "normality"" I hear you mate. Really struggle sometimes. The next few days are going to be hot and sunny and people's moods will be lifted, people in beer gardens after work, smells of bbqs everywhere and I can already see myself dreading that and wishing it would just chuck it down and rain all day and night so that I can not feel guilty for staying indoors and shutting everyone and the world away | |||
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"I've been dealing with a lot of this for a long time. Initially without realising it. I know I have lots of positive things going for me. I go through a long phase of normality. But knowing something isn't right. Then a few days of being silent when talking becomes hard work. Followed by anger then emotion and back to "normality" I hear you mate. Really struggle sometimes. The next few days are going to be hot and sunny and people's moods will be lifted, people in beer gardens after work, smells of bbqs everywhere and I can already see myself dreading that and wishing it would just chuck it down and rain all day and night so that I can not feel guilty for staying indoors and shutting everyone and the world away "You might get a friendly shoulder here, and good on everyone for providing that shoulder. It might be worthwhile thinking about support from a professional that could provide you the tools you need to manage your feelings. If you are interested in that, speak to your GP, Im sure they will know how to help you. Chin up | |||
