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For women after a certain age we become defined by our years.
'i love older women, they know what they want and how to get it' is an oft used phrase along with cougar and milf. If the number of years I've been alive is my main attractive feature god help me  |
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I don't think it changes that much for men. But I think some, not all men, forget that women in the same age bracket as them, may start experiencing peri menopause and menopause when they hit their 40's. So they may or may not meet less etc. So their normal pool shrinks a little making it more difficult to meet. |
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Personally I don't think so. I quite like older men as many men seem to become more manly as they get a bit older unlike the baby faced men of my youth. I do however get men who are 20-30 years older than me that complain I'm "descriminating by age" even though they themselves wouldn't consider a woman 20-30 years older than themselves. |
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"I don't think it changes that much for men. But I think some, not all men, forget that women in the same age bracket as them, may start experiencing peri menopause and menopause when they hit their 40's. So they may or may not meet less etc. So their normal pool shrinks a little making it more difficult to meet. "
So men are justified in trying to expand their pool of potential mates by going 20 years younger?  |
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"I don't think it changes that much for men. But I think some, not all men, forget that women in the same age bracket as them, may start experiencing peri menopause and menopause when they hit their 40's. So they may or may not meet less etc. So their normal pool shrinks a little making it more difficult to meet.
So men are justified in trying to expand their pool of potential mates by going 20 years younger? "
Lol there's no harm trying is there  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As I have aged somewhat disgracefully think age is just a number had shit life but haven’t we all the world turns and we ain’t getting any younger have nearly died three times motorcycle accident major op that wrong and last of all covid
So just take ever day as it comes live for today take every day like it’s my last |
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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago
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"I've heard a lot of people say we (men) age out at 50. I hope not, however am fast approaching that milestone so I'll report back in a year or so!  "
I know a few men on fab who've admitted to knocking a few years off their age to stay below the 50 mark. Sad really. |
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Being a bi CD I see both sides of this. I get lots of offers from much younger men, almost always married, but not many from my own age group. With women it tends to be around my age or older, not a lot from younger women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For us it's not about age, if we're attracted to someone and can hold a conversation that's what we want.
Age wise there's very mature early 20's so young isn't an issue, and absolute wallapers come in every age bracket  |
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"I don't think it changes that much for men. But I think some, not all men, forget that women in the same age bracket as them, may start experiencing peri menopause and menopause when they hit their 40's. So they may or may not meet less etc. So their normal pool shrinks a little making it more difficult to meet. "
My experience of menopausal women is that most go off sex, maybe just for a few years, but then it becomes difficult for them, and their partners, to restart. A few women get their libido turbo charged, and get far more kinky. |
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"For us it's not about age, if we're attracted to someone and can hold a conversation that's what we want.
Age wise there's very mature early 20's so young isn't an issue, and absolute wallapers come in every age bracket "
Absolute wallpapers! I love that, I'm pinching it, you don't charge royalties do you? |
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over a year ago
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age is but a nr. when it cums to having fun...
since been lucky to have gr8 meet-ups with young studs say 20-35 and alpha tops 35-70, each bringing new experience and have plenty stamina...!
our perception of our own limitations...
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"For us it's not about age, if we're attracted to someone and can hold a conversation that's what we want.
Age wise there's very mature early 20's so young isn't an issue, and absolute wallapers come in every age bracket
Absolute wallpapers! I love that, I'm pinching it, you don't charge royalties do you?"
We don't charge royalties however we do ask for the credit |
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"For us it's not about age, if we're attracted to someone and can hold a conversation that's what we want.
Age wise there's very mature early 20's so young isn't an issue, and absolute wallapers come in every age bracket
Absolute wallpapers! I love that, I'm pinching it, you don't charge royalties do you?
We don't charge royalties however we do ask for the credit "
Ha ha I'll try to remember to mention it when I say it my friends then ???? |
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From what I have seen, a huge amount of profiles have 45 as a top limit.
I’m 46 in a few months time so will by default, be unable to contact any of these people, unless as they are all a year older, increase their upper age limit by a year every year.
Fab will more or less be consigning me to sex death. |
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"From what I have seen, a huge amount of profiles have 45 as a top limit.
I’m 46 in a few months time so will by default, be unable to contact any of these people, unless as they are all a year older, increase their upper age limit by a year every year.
Fab will more or less be consigning me to sex death."
Oh dear.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For us it's not about age, if we're attracted to someone and can hold a conversation that's what we want.
Age wise there's very mature early 20's so young isn't an issue, and absolute wallapers come in every age bracket
Absolute wallpapers! I love that, I'm pinching it, you don't charge royalties do you?
We don't charge royalties however we do ask for the credit
Ha ha I'll try to remember to mention it when I say it my friends then ????"
At least we've given you one of the more tame insults to throw around in every day life |
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"For us it's not about age, if we're attracted to someone and can hold a conversation that's what we want.
Age wise there's very mature early 20's so young isn't an issue, and absolute wallapers come in every age bracket
Absolute wallpapers! I love that, I'm pinching it, you don't charge royalties do you?
We don't charge royalties however we do ask for the credit
Ha ha I'll try to remember to mention it when I say it my friends then ????
At least we've given you one of the more tame insults to throw around in every day life "
True! I'll mention you every time I say it but very, very fast like the terms and conditions on adverts  |
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When I first came on here I was a teen with a six pack and a "BBC" living with my parents couldn't keep up with the offers
Now as a 35 year old I come in an its people who block single guys say get me to the top of fab list you are aging but we all age at the same pace
Thier was a shift in the site its turned to Instagram with gangbangs   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For us it's not about age, if we're attracted to someone and can hold a conversation that's what we want.
Age wise there's very mature early 20's so young isn't an issue, and absolute wallapers come in every age bracket
Absolute wallpapers! I love that, I'm pinching it, you don't charge royalties do you?
We don't charge royalties however we do ask for the credit
Ha ha I'll try to remember to mention it when I say it my friends then ????
At least we've given you one of the more tame insults to throw around in every day life
True! I'll mention you every time I say it but very, very fast like the terms and conditions on adverts "
Super fast, or in very very small print  |
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"When I first came on here I was a teen with a six pack and a "BBC" living with my parents couldn't keep up with the offers
Now as a 35 year old I come in an its people who block single guys say get me to the top of fab list you are aging but we all age at the same pace
Thier was a shift in the site its turned to Instagram with gangbangs "
Tbf if you think about the numbers way more ganbangs and fucking going on on non sex sites I know i get nothing here but people wanna fuck me on pic and tinder
This place can suck the life out of a single guy |
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I’m in my 50’s and find younger women enjoy chatting about sex because as we age we gain experience of love making can converse easier and although may not as fast off the starting blocks as a youngster we make up for it spending more time on the preliminary’s ( kissing , cuddling and touching ) and have stamina for a main course and still enjoy a chat afterwards |
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"I don't think it changes that much for men. But I think some, not all men, forget that women in the same age bracket as them, may start experiencing peri menopause and menopause when they hit their 40's. So they may or may not meet less etc. So their normal pool shrinks a little making it more difficult to meet.
My experience of menopausal women is that most go off sex, maybe just for a few years, but then it becomes difficult for them, and their partners, to restart. A few women get their libido turbo charged, and get far more kinky. "
I've heard the same so I guess if you're a man in his mid 40's here, I can imagine it becomes a little more difficult for a bit. |
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over a year ago
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"From what I have seen, a huge amount of profiles have 45 as a top limit.
I’m 46 in a few months time so will by default, be unable to contact any of these people, unless as they are all a year older, increase their upper age limit by a year every year.
Fab will more or less be consigning me to sex death."
I'm 58, will be 59 end of the year. For most profiles I come across 55 seems to be the cut off.
Sex death happened for me a couple of years ago feels like. |
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Try being 62!I've made a few friends, had some horny chats with people and published some dirty stories but have come to the conclusion that any for of actual physical friendship with a couple is highly unlikely. I'll stick it out for a bit longer but it'd a shame as there are a lot of older couples on here but they seem to be spread out around the cout. I've always though having a forum section for the over 50s was a good idea. |
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"Try being 62!I've made a few friends, had some horny chats with people and published some dirty stories but have come to the conclusion that any for of actual physical friendship with a couple is highly unlikely. I'll stick it out for a bit longer but it'd a shame as there are a lot of older couples on here but they seem to be spread out around the cout. I've always though having a forum section for the over 50s was a good idea. "
Start a thread for over fifties, see how you get on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"About 20 years ago, I was at a wedding and a little 7 year old girl looked at me and said "You need anti-ageing cream".
I've used it ever since!"
You look 56! |
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"Age is an interesting aspect of being on fab. Do we think, for guys particularly, that we “age out” or does our “appeal” change? Interested in people’s thoughts and experiences "
Without a doubt, I have seen my inbox become ever more quiet the older I’ve become. It was very noticeable when I turned 46, when I first fell over the cliff edge of the Fab preferred age limit of 45, then again, I felt the deafening roar of silence as I turned 50……. 
To be fair though; I have received messages, and met, women in their 30’s who look for the more mature gentleman, so all is not lost!  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think that your appeal does change slightly, it's the same for any gender.
Leaning on some 'slightly' dodgy stereotypes now to illustrate but a woman's appeal in her early twenties, the doe eyed, fresh faced, eager and perhaps less experienced compared to the milf caricature of a woman in her 40s, sexually experienced and voracious.
You just need to be confident and comfortable in who you are, regardless of age. That's what will attract people to you. Maybe not always the people who give you a hard on but the ones you're compatible with, sure. |
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over a year ago
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I generally prefer a man around the same age or older.
I have a few guys I've met with who are a fair bit younger but they are the exception.
D is 9 years older than me and we met on here originally.
It really does depend on the individual though. |
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I think age only becomes an issue if you make it one yourself.
I've no idea who I appeal to on here in general but I certainly don't let my age dictate anything.
I didn't join the site until I was 52 and my age has never been an issue or topic for discussion.
The only time it has ever been mentioned was by a few couples who in their opening message told me I was too old, too straight and too male to ever succeed on here and I would never have options.
My verifications say otherwise. |
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When I first joined at about 22/23 I always said age is just a number. I got chatting to (and made friends with someone who had claimed he was around 43ish but turned out to be a lot closer to 50. He was honest and I thought I was ok with it but when we met for a social the age difference smacked me in the face. Unfortunately, from that point on I couldn't see past it. A real shame because he was such a gent too x |
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"About 20 years ago, I was at a wedding and a little 7 year old girl looked at me and said "You need anti-ageing cream".
I've used it ever since!
You look 56! "
Thank you. You weren't far out (58)!
I don't look much older now, thanks to the cream, so not much point in finding a newer picture! |
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It will be interesting when I fem hit 50. Will see if our message rates drop. I know Mr being over 50's on his single account effects his meets. Lack of there of. I'm guessing where fall into the couger range. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When you get to 40's the under 25s just feel wrong and Eugh.,
wasn't expecting to be receiving so much serious attention from ages between 25yr to 45yr olds (especially now we're just into our 50's) |
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"When I first joined at about 22/23 I always said age is just a number. I got chatting to (and made friends with someone who had claimed he was around 43ish but turned out to be a lot closer to 50. He was honest and I thought I was ok with it but when we met for a social the age difference smacked me in the face. Unfortunately, from that point on I couldn't see past it. A real shame because he was such a gent too x"
For some people I guess the age difference is the attraction of an older partner and they want someone who looks their age.
What I take from your post is that you weren't worried about age as long as the person didn't look obviously twice as old as you.
There's actually a lot of research at the moment into the difference between chronological age and biological age, which seems to suggest that you could find someone twice as old who doesn't look it. So it is possible to enjoy the advantages of maturity and experience without physical decrepitude! |
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"When I first joined at about 22/23 I always said age is just a number. I got chatting to (and made friends with someone who had claimed he was around 43ish but turned out to be a lot closer to 50. He was honest and I thought I was ok with it but when we met for a social the age difference smacked me in the face. Unfortunately, from that point on I couldn't see past it. A real shame because he was such a gent too x
For some people I guess the age difference is the attraction of an older partner and they want someone who looks their age.
What I take from your post is that you weren't worried about age as long as the person didn't look obviously twice as old as you.
There's actually a lot of research at the moment into the difference between chronological age and biological age, which seems to suggest that you could find someone twice as old who doesn't look it. So it is possible to enjoy the advantages of maturity and experience without physical decrepitude!"
It wasn't his appearance that swayed me, I'd seen pictures prior to meeting. It was the conversation. Which was odd as we had spoke for a couple of months online. Guess you don't properly know until you meet up. As I said a genuine shame as he was a real gent and very respectful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I suppose I am at that stage in the Fab circle of life where Fab admin will send a Blade runner to switch me off when I reach 65.
Hopefully it will be one of those ladies who are in the top 10 most fabbed pictures and made it to page one. Hopefully she will be circa 6ft in height a curvy size 12 wearing a little black dress and heels with an ankle strap.
Appearing unannounced and holding out her hand she leads to the bedroom and hits the expiry button and reports back to the FAB mother ship that Rick is no longer a fab follower of fun. |
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Of the women local to me that I've chatted to over the past 3 years I've been on fab, almost all of them have trimmed between 5-10 years off their real age on their profiles, but at least they've admitted it!
Me, I'm genuinely the age I display, I don't see anything to fear, I'd rather be upfront from the off. |
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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago
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"Looks play a bigger part over age specifically.
Some people age like wine, others age like milk."
I like to think I am ageing like a good wine, just waiting for someone with a corkscrew to turn up. |
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"I see Bluebelle has reentered the top ten again. So I would choose her as my appointed Blade Runner...........Admin take note! "
What’s a blade runner??  |
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"I see Bluebelle has reentered the top ten again. So I would choose her as my appointed Blade Runner...........Admin take note!
What’s a blade runner?? "
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Age really is just a number, and you can meet young people in life who are very mature for their years, and similarly older people who act like children.
Personally, I have always been attracted to people my own age or older, so no, I wouldn't say you age out |
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"I see Bluebelle has reentered the top ten again. So I would choose her as my appointed Blade Runner...........Admin take note!
What’s a blade runner?? "
Google is a friend I Need! |
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"I see Bluebelle has reentered the top ten again. So I would choose her as my appointed Blade Runner...........Admin take note!
What’s a blade runner??
Google is a friend I Need!"
Similarly ignorant and never having any previous interest in finding out, I looked it up on Google.
Now, I feel compelled to ask "Is Rick a replicant, then"? |
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"I see Bluebelle has reentered the top ten again. So I would choose her as my appointed Blade Runner...........Admin take note!
What’s a blade runner??
Google is a friend I Need!
Similarly ignorant and never having any previous interest in finding out, I looked it up on Google.
Now, I feel compelled to ask "Is Rick a replicant, then"?"
Maybe repellent? |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Age is an interesting aspect of being on fab. Do we think, for guys particularly, that we “age out” or does our “appeal” change? Interested in people’s thoughts and experiences "
Whilst obviously people have age filters on here that may cause issues the key thing to ensure is that you have good visuals.
I've seen photos of some guys in their 40's and 50's that put some 20/30something guys to shame and will attract plenty of female attention.
If people are really worried about age/filter issues then just go to a club. Nobody wears age badges and in over a decade I've not once been asked my age in a club when chatting or playing.
And if all else fails?
Marry someone a decade younger and set up a couples profile and hey presto - all those age filter issues will vanish.
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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago
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"Age is an interesting aspect of being on fab. Do we think, for guys particularly, that we “age out” or does our “appeal” change? Interested in people’s thoughts and experiences
Whilst obviously people have age filters on here that may cause issues the key thing to ensure is that you have good visuals.
I've seen photos of some guys in their 40's and 50's that put some 20/30something guys to shame and will attract plenty of female attention.
If people are really worried about age/filter issues then just go to a club. Nobody wears age badges and in over a decade I've not once been asked my age in a club when chatting or playing.
And if all else fails?
Marry someone a decade younger and set up a couples profile and hey presto - all those age filter issues will vanish.
A"
This and never ask a woman her age as they are all gorgeous |
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"When I first joined at about 22/23 I always said age is just a number. I got chatting to (and made friends with someone who had claimed he was around 43ish but turned out to be a lot closer to 50. He was honest and I thought I was ok with it but when we met for a social the age difference smacked me in the face. Unfortunately, from that point on I couldn't see past it. A real shame because he was such a gent too x
For some people I guess the age difference is the attraction of an older partner and they want someone who looks their age.
What I take from your post is that you weren't worried about age as long as the person didn't look obviously twice as old as you.
There's actually a lot of research at the moment into the difference between chronological age and biological age, which seems to suggest that you could find someone twice as old who doesn't look it. So it is possible to enjoy the advantages of maturity and experience without physical decrepitude!
It wasn't his appearance that swayed me, I'd seen pictures prior to meeting. It was the conversation. Which was odd as we had spoke for a couple of months online. Guess you don't properly know until you meet up. As I said a genuine shame as he was a real gent and very respectful. "
I see what you mean. Of course, an age gap can manifest in other ways than in appearance so that was my own prejudices coming out there. It does seem slightly strange that it took meeting in the flesh for the lack of common ground to become evident but maybe these things can be camouflaged by electronic communications. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Then you get me on the other end of the spectrum who to many is too young and not quite within their age bracket.
But of course like other factors it’s one to be respected. |
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"Then you get me on the other end of the spectrum who to many is too young and not quite within their age bracket.
But of course like other factors it’s one to be respected. "
I know that feeling mate |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I see Bluebelle has reentered the top ten again. So I would choose her as my appointed Blade Runner...........Admin take note!
What’s a blade runner??
Google is a friend I Need!
Similarly ignorant and never having any previous interest in finding out, I looked it up on Google.
Now, I feel compelled to ask "Is Rick a replicant, then"?"
Or Repugnant?
But then again I don’t root through bathroom cabinets! |
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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago
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"I see Bluebelle has reentered the top ten again. So I would choose her as my appointed Blade Runner...........Admin take note!
What’s a blade runner??
Google is a friend I Need!
Similarly ignorant and never having any previous interest in finding out, I looked it up on Google.
Now, I feel compelled to ask "Is Rick a replicant, then"?
Or Repugnant?
But then again I don’t root through bathroom cabinets!"
Maybe the door keys or car keys in the bowl cuts out age and you enjoy what you pick ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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When we first joined ten years ago we generally felt pretty young both on here and at clubs.
Back then I thought we'd probably feel there were more options as we got older as that seemed to be the demographic. But actually there seems to be far more younger people here these days than there were back then and for the most part I'd say now I feel too old
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm gutted I'm now 41....seems the benchmark for a lot of women was 40! Goddammmmmit"
It's when you see lots of profiles with a cut off that's a year older than you. Like this is your very last chance |
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"I'm gutted I'm now 41....seems the benchmark for a lot of women was 40! Goddammmmmit
It's when you see lots of profiles with a cut off that's a year older than you. Like this is your very last chance "
It actually makes me cry a little inside! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like men my age or older and thankfully there's a few on here.younger doesn't interest me especially 30 and under
(ive kids that age and just not for me) |
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"I'm gutted I'm now 41....seems the benchmark for a lot of women was 40! Goddammmmmit
Nope, it’s 46. As soon as you leave 45 then that’s when blokes fall off most radars "
Exactly this! When you turn 45 lads, make the most of the remaining 364 days…….you have been warned! |
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