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How many times a week do you loose hope on hear ?
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3 weeks in and you feel like that already!
I suppose if your here and just wanting to meet and fuck someone that could happen pretty quick. Think it has alot to do with peoples expectations when joining the site and what they think/assume will or should happen. |
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"3 weeks in and you feel like that already!
I suppose if your here and just wanting to meet and fuck someone that could happen pretty quick. Think it has alot to do with peoples expectations when joining the site and what they think/assume will or should happen. "
Feeling disbondant could happen quick I mean. |
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"3 weeks in and you feel like that already!
I suppose if your here and just wanting to meet and fuck someone that could happen pretty quick. Think it has alot to do with peoples expectations when joining the site and what they think/assume will or should happen. "
I get where the OP is coming from. So many times on here I've fitted someone's choices - right age, right interests, right location - on to just get ignored (a no thanks every once and while be nice).
Now I'm fast approaching 59 I've the added not of being too old, even for women my age.
I come on for the forums mainly now. Sometimes there are brief conversations with someone off the forum but rarely. Not actively looking, I like the occasional pic and send the odd wink or two. Not used the browse section in months. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You joined three weeks ago.
Did you expect that bored and lonely housewives and their inadequate husbands would be flooding your inbox with desperate pleas to come and help them out?
You haven’t lost hope you’ve just arrived at reality.
Get ready to put some work in. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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Best way is to treat this (and many other things in life) with no expectations. Being positive about yourself and life (I know it is challenging at the moment for many) and an upbeat profile definitely can help attract people.
Age, Height, photos etc... may superficially look like it is a good fit but sometimes we think there is a fit while the other person really does not see that.
The sexiest and most lovely people I have met... had a positive approach to life, communicated well and had a sense of humour. You quickly forget that they might not be exactly what you thought you were looking for .... but they are dead sexy because of their personality.  |
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"How many times a week do you guys say fuck this im out on here ?
Im getting more and more dispondent "
Having read your blurb you've been here before so I find it strange that you haven't git the measure of fab and are now clearly expecting "more" from it.
Surely you learnt how to play the game!?
Participate in the forums
Attend the social networking events
And just go with the flow
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"3 weeks in and you feel like that already!
I suppose if your here and just wanting to meet and fuck someone that could happen pretty quick. Think it has alot to do with peoples expectations when joining the site and what they think/assume will or should happen.
I get where the OP is coming from. So many times on here I've fitted someone's choices - right age, right interests, right location - on to just get ignored (a no thanks every once and while be nice).
Now I'm fast approaching 59 I've the added not of being too old, even for women my age.
I come on for the forums mainly now. Sometimes there are brief conversations with someone off the forum but rarely. Not actively looking, I like the occasional pic and send the odd wink or two. Not used the browse section in months. "
I hear what your saying, but at the same time though, just fitting someone's choices dosnt mean you're a match to them. Try not to take it personally especially when you feel your ignored. In the F&Q its quite clear that no reply just means no thanks. I personally dont reply to messages for lots of reasons, mainly i dont feel i need to explain myself every time. i dont have time to respond to all, and i dont want to either. When I do its rare thats the end of it but just opens up to the "why not" "but but but" or a shitty message because you said no. Plus who really wants to open a inbox full of "no thanks" messages? |
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over a year ago
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I get where the OP is coming from. So many times on here I've fitted someone's choices - right age, right interests, right location - on to just get ignored (a no thanks every once and while be nice). "
But you’ve missed the most vital criteria off your list……whether they fancy you or not.
Would an inbox full of “sorry, I don’t fancy you” make you feel any better about being here? |
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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago
Wombwell, Barnsley |
Like others have said, only 3 weeks on here and feeling despondent. It's not rent a shag. Maybe need to manage expectations, and put some effort in to get some reward. And even then you're up against it with the number of men on this site. Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All the time ….. then a friendly messages appears and restores faith….
But you just got to be tel about this place… the vast number of guys is so much more than single women / couples…probably even combined…. So it’s a lottery style when it. Comes to chances…
Also , not everyone is everyone else’s cup of tea so that narrows your chances down too.
The forums tend to be friendly and interactive and you never know … messages might come from that….
Keep faith… |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You joined three weeks ago.
Did you expect that bored and lonely housewives and their inadequate husbands would be flooding your inbox with desperate pleas to come and help them out?
You haven’t lost hope you’ve just arrived at reality.
Get ready to put some work in. "
I like this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most days lol"
Is this because of the number of mail you get?
With so many guys on here surely the expectation is that vast numbers would send you messages?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m just here for free cake
When does that get served
Yeah I'm still waiting on mine
We want cake! We want cake! We want cake!
Calm down
Lol"
It’s a time for strikes !!! And protests!! No more bin collection till we get cake    |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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*full
Come on, you're making this too easy.
"Correct spelling is not for everyone I guess.
*lose
*here
yw.
* Have a day off
Yw
On a site fuck off dicks and pussy? Not a priority really. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Correct spelling is not for everyone I guess.
*lose
*here
yw.
* Have a day off
Yw
What does yw mean? Can you not spell the words?
“Your weird “
You’re welcome "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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* you're weird
"Correct spelling is not for everyone I guess.
*lose
*here
yw.
* Have a day off
Yw
What does yw mean? Can you not spell the words?
“Your weird “
You’re welcome "
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"Most days lol
Is this because of the number of mail you get?
With so many guys on here surely the expectation is that vast numbers would send you messages?
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No, I don't get that many messages. Certainly not inundated. It's more the content of the messages and the flakiness of those looking to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How many times a week do you guys say fuck this im out on here ?
Im getting more and more dispondent "
I lose hope on here when I see some of the appalling spelling. |
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"How many times a week do you guys say fuck this im out on here ?
Im getting more and more dispondent
I lose hope on here when I see some of the appalling spelling."
What is a wisnae? |
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I don’t really have a lot of time to meet even if I got the offers so it doesn’t bother me much. I had some great meets in a past fab life here so I never feel despondent.
There are some horrendous people on fab but the vast majority are great! As a bloke this is more a social site than a fuck site. As in real life the ladies find it easier to get the fun they want than us blokes.
Once you accept that- fine! |
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"Correct spelling is not for everyone I guess.
*lose
*here
yw.
* Have a day off
Yw
What does yw mean? Can you not spell the words?
“Your weird “
You’re welcome "
Would it not be you’re weird?  |
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"Most days lol
Is this because of the number of mail you get?
With so many guys on here surely the expectation is that vast numbers would send you messages?
No, I don't get that many messages. Certainly not inundated. It's more the content of the messages and the flakiness of those looking to meet."
Sorry to hear that |
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"Correct spelling is not for everyone I guess.
*lose
*here
yw.
* Have a day off
Yw
What does yw mean? Can you not spell the words?
“Your weird “
You’re welcome
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Oh mine meant something else....ooops. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There shouldn’t be any expectations other than like everything individually you will have to work at it, don’t be relentless take some time out, I know I have had a lot of fun over the years on here but This time I’m back for the forums and hotlist and that’s it, it’s perve and swerve, keeps you sane |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Correct spelling is not for everyone I guess.
*lose
*here
yw.
* Have a day off
Yw
What does yw mean? Can you not spell the words?
“Your weird “
You’re welcome
Oh mine meant something else....ooops. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get where the OP is coming from. So many times on here I've fitted someone's choices - right age, right interests, right location - on to just get ignored (a no thanks every once and while be nice).
But you’ve missed the most vital criteria off your list……whether they fancy you or not.
Would an inbox full of “sorry, I don’t fancy you” make you feel any better about being here? "
Buts it's not got to any stage where they would even know if they fancied me as never replied to intial message or wink. Certainly never exchanged pics. |
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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago
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I get where the OP is coming from. So many times on here I've fitted someone's choices - right age, right interests, right location - on to just get ignored (a no thanks every once and while be nice).
But you’ve missed the most vital criteria off your list……whether they fancy you or not.
Would an inbox full of “sorry, I don’t fancy you” make you feel any better about being here?
Buts it's not got to any stage where they would even know if they fancied me as never replied to intial message or wink. Certainly never exchanged pics. "
It's a hard fact of fab life. You may have been the 100th person that day who had the right interests, right location, right age. There should be no sense of entitlement on here. No one owes you a sorry not interested response. No reply means not interested for whatever reason. This neediness is not an attractive quality in my opinion. Just move on.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everytime I see spelling and grammar mistakes"
Mine is when I see smug cunts that cruise the forums looking for spelling mistakes and poor grammar to try and make the OP feel shitty rather than actually post and interesting, original post of their own. Each to their own, I guess. |
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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago
Wombwell, Barnsley |
"Who is Hope? Should she be on my hotlist?
I was going to say something like ‘you get out what you put in’ - but that’s open season for smutty puns, so I won’t. "
Lol too late. Let the smuttiness begin! |
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I don’t think anything about fab / meets. It’s just entertainment and if csn grab a meet here and there is great. If it’s dead then no matter it’s just fab not real life as such.
Don’t put all your eggs in one basket that this site is 100% going to work. Plus be realistic with what you actually seek … for many guys that just want a quick fuck and blow with no effort . Be easier to book an escort tbh and then crack on with your day .
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By *lofeldMan
over a year ago
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Never. I use this site for the perving and the forums, not with any expectation that women are going to be running over the hills and stampeding their way through my front door.
If you really want to immerse yourself in the lifestyle then make the effort to attend socials and clubs. |
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I get where the OP is coming from. So many times on here I've fitted someone's choices - right age, right interests, right location - on to just get ignored (a no thanks every once and while be nice).
But you’ve missed the most vital criteria off your list……whether they fancy you or not.
Would an inbox full of “sorry, I don’t fancy you” make you feel any better about being here?
Buts it's not got to any stage where they would even know if they fancied me as never replied to intial message or wink. Certainly never exchanged pics. "
Send a face pic with your first msg. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been on over a year and basically given up trying to meet anyone as my messages rarely get a reply and if i do it usually the odd 1 or 2 then they ignore me. Im never disrespectful or anything like that, dont expect sex straight off but im great at being ignored i had one message me a few times then just stopped, next day she put on that she had the worst meet ever and the guy should be avoided at all costs. Those are the types of guy im losing out to |
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I get where the OP is coming from. So many times on here I've fitted someone's choices - right age, right interests, right location - on to just get ignored (a no thanks every once and while be nice).
But you’ve missed the most vital criteria off your list……whether they fancy you or not.
Would an inbox full of “sorry, I don’t fancy you” make you feel any better about being here?
Buts it's not got to any stage where they would even know if they fancied me as never replied to intial message or wink. Certainly never exchanged pics.
Send a face pic with your first msg."
Yeah quite alot of men do that. Its really helpful as for me face is equally important as the cock  |
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I'm a chunky, furry older gent who by all rights should have hung up his wishes a while ago at 45 but why the hell should I, planning on being here until I depart this mortal coil and I've been lucky enough to be lucky and meet some amazing couples and female friends along the way. Outlook on life being glass half full wins out |
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"How many times a week do you guys say fuck this im out on here ?
Im getting more and more dispondent "
Everytime we speak to someone, they are either a Messer, a fantasist or a liar lol, hope lost totally |
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"How many times a week do you guys say fuck this im out on here ?
Im getting more and more dispondent
Everytime we speak to someone, they are either a Messer, a fantasist or a liar lol, hope lost totally "
Or way too far South |
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