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Single males going to club events

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Question. I've not yet been to any club event and have an interest in doing so.

Are single guys sort after in clubs by couples or single ladies or is it more a market for couples and single ladies that are more sort after

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Clubs aren't guranteed sex and everyone who goes there are looking for different things. Most clubs have seperate nights that don't include men so if they aren't looking for single guys, most people will attend those.

Clubs are all about making connections and more of a social environment. If you decide to play with someone then great, if not you've still had a good night out. Just be open and have no expectations, you'll be fine.

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

It's the same dynamic as on here, OP. There will be more men than women, and some men will be more successful than others, for reasons including attitude, luck, conversation, appearance.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Clubs aren't guranteed sex and everyone who goes there are looking for different things. Most clubs have seperate nights that don't include men so if they aren't looking for single guys, most people will attend those.

This

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By *i_guy_sloughMan over a year ago

Langley

The problem with single guys at clubs is there are usually quite a few of them and they know the odds are not in their favour they typically pay more to get in and that elevates their frustration when their expectations of getting invited to fuck every woman they see are not met. The clubs typically have rules of conduct for single males and if you break them you will be kicked out.

Be polite, chat to people, ask for permission to join in if you see people you’d like to play with and if they say no thanks don’t take it personally just move on.

As others have said, go with realistic expectations

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

It depends on the event really. I wouldn't really say single men are sought after in terms of having a queue of offers or anything like that but there's certain events they're more likely to play at at such as greedy girls nights while some events are more catered to women and couples.

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By *agic.MMan over a year ago

Orpington

I would never go to a club as a single man...I feel as the main purpose for a man there is to generate an income for the organisers. Usually men have to pay around £50 to get in, couples pay maybe £40 (because well the guy is there

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

Of course (as a single man) you could have fun and a great time ... but like others have mentioned, it's not a guarantee. I personally would never partake, and I'm always curious to know why any single man would...

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman over a year ago

"I would never go to a club as a single man...I feel as the main purpose for a man there is to generate an income for the organisers. Usually men have to pay around £50 to get in, couples pay maybe £40 (because well the guy is there

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

To meet like minded people and make friends, doesn’t have to only be about sex

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By *parkle1974Woman over a year ago

Leeds

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

Probably most go with the mindset that there will be a guaranteed fuck involved.

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By *hatFellaMan over a year ago

Church Fenton

Went I went to Asylum 55, I went and a single guy.

I was welcomed by Theevilwithin and was made to feel very comfortable.

It was like going to a bar, but there were naked people walking around and people playing upstairs.

After a few visits, I was invited with a couple, to a room.

Don't go to a club expecting a guaranteed lay.

Just go and have fun. Meet new people, watch people play (if they allow it).

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By *agic.MMan over a year ago

Orpington

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

To meet like minded people and make friends, doesn’t have to only be about sex "

Unfortunately not even that is guaranteed.

I would assume the social events would be a better environment for that...or they could try to organise their own social event.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

I’m glad that single men attend as that’s all I’m interested in when I go to a club.

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

I go because I don't share your premise that I'm a cash cow.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

To meet like minded people and make friends, doesn’t have to only be about sex

Unfortunately not even that is guaranteed.

I would assume the social events would be a better environment for that...or they could try to organise their own social event. "

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By *agic.MMan over a year ago

Orpington

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

I go because I don't share your premise that I'm a cash cow.

What ever makes you happy

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I go because I don't share your premise that I'm a cash cow.

What ever makes you happy

So, you weren't as curious as you said, then

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By *agic.MMan over a year ago

Orpington

I go because I don't share your premise that I'm a cash cow.

What ever makes you happy

So, you weren't as curious as you said, then

Don't misunderstand my friend, your answer makes perfect sense

... and if that makes you happy, more power to you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I normally go to such events to make new friends. I find that when people see a single guy they think they are there just for a fuck and then go. For me it’s about making connections and reassuring people I speak to that it’s ok just to talk. I’ve made some good friends including couples who I bumped into regularly now. I hate to see desperate guys trying anything to get into a ladies knickers. Not cool

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"Question. I've not yet been to any club event and have an interest in doing so.

Are single guys sort after in clubs by couples or single ladies or is it more a market for couples and single ladies that are more sort after"

As was once quoted in here “single guys in clubs are a nice to have, not a necessity”…..

Some events single guys are sought after (usually greedy girl events), otherwise yes, clubs are basically for couples to meet other couples.

For all the single women who comment on threads like this with “I only go to clubs to meet single guys”……it was rare I ever saw single ladies in the clubs I visited, and indeed, it’s likely you’ll see more single women comment on this thread, than you will on a club night

Single guys can be made to feel welcome, and included by some clubs, just check the reviews section and don’t be afraid to message guys for their unbiased opinions

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Question. I've not yet been to any club event and have an interest in doing so.

Are single guys sort after in clubs by couples or single ladies or is it more a market for couples and single ladies that are more sort after

As was once quoted in here “single guys in clubs are a nice to have, not a necessity”…..

Some events single guys are sought after (usually greedy girl events), otherwise yes, clubs are basically for couples to meet other couples.

Single guys can be made to feel welcome, and included by some clubs, just check the reviews section and don’t be afraid to message guys for their unbiased opinions

I wouldn't goto a greedy girls event, but your advice is solid and your reasoning

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You mean it was all a dream? Wow Toto, I really thought that I was at a club on multiple occasions but really I was asleep in my bed.

Back to Kansas we go. *clicks glittery red slippers that are two sizes too big but look too amazing to throw out.

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Question. I've not yet been to any club event and have an interest in doing so.

Are single guys sort after in clubs by couples or single ladies or is it more a market for couples and single ladies that are more sort after"

Yes, but it depends on your approach. Just treat it as a normal night out talk to couples find out what they are after if they say they are not interested in single guys just say " Ok, thanks for your honesty, enjoy your evening"

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By *mMrbrightsideMan over a year ago

wakefield

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

Think if you have the attitude that the world’s against you and your not partaking then that’s your choice

I have attended events and clubs as a single person and Iv had some great fun and met some really nice people, I go with the flow and just enjoy the night. If anything happens then that’s a bonus! Yes I pay a bit more than a couple or single lady but That’s how life works

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Question. I've not yet been to any club event and have an interest in doing so.

Are single guys sort after in clubs by couples or single ladies or is it more a market for couples and single ladies that are more sort after"

The main question to ask yourself is what you’re going to the clubs for?

If it’s for anything other than making friends/connections and having a good time with like minded people, you may come away disappointed. Sex is not guaranteed.

I’d say it’s the best place to go if you’re new but genuine or curious about this lifestyle, that’s M F or MF. I understand it can be daunting going by yourself and it took me months to pluck up the courage to first walk into a club solo, but it was one of the best things I’ve done since being on Fab. Just be yourself and have an open mind.

Most of the owners are good people and will give you a full tour and make you feel as comfortable as they can, and also everyone in there has been new before so understand how you feel there’s no shaming or anything like that.

I’ve recently moved and looking forward to going to the club near me to meet the locals. I’d say go for it as you’ll never know until you try.

All the best mate

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By *hrista BellendWoman over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Yes if I fancy them.

I'm not going to play with a man just because he is a man available for sex right there and then. Generally I go to clubs for the social aspect and if I make a connection with someone then it might end up in play it might not.

Going with zero play intentions works for me

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

You mean it was all a dream? Wow Toto, I really thought that I was at a club on multiple occasions but really I was asleep in my bed.

Back to Kansas we go. *clicks glittery red slippers that are two sizes too big but look too amazing to throw out."

You say tomatoes…….

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By *agic.MMan over a year ago

Orpington

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

Think if you have the attitude that the world’s against you and your not partaking then that’s your choice

I believe that is exactly what I said as well...

Me pointing out the reality of the situation and mentioning I do not like the dynamic of that situation doesn't really scream "the world is against me"

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

"Question. I've not yet been to any club event and have an interest in doing so.

Are single guys sort after in clubs by couples or single ladies or is it more a market for couples and single ladies that are more sort after

As was once quoted in here “single guys in clubs are a nice to have, not a necessity”…..

Some events single guys are sought after (usually greedy girl events), otherwise yes, clubs are basically for couples to meet other couples.

Single guys can be made to feel welcome, and included by some clubs, just check the reviews section and don’t be afraid to message guys for their unbiased opinions

I've never found it rare to see single ladies. I have a good circle of female friends from clubs.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

You mean it was all a dream? Wow Toto, I really thought that I was at a club on multiple occasions but really I was asleep in my bed.

Back to Kansas we go. *clicks glittery red slippers that are two sizes too big but look too amazing to throw out."

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By *itsAndTaffCouple over a year ago

Grays, Essex

People look for different things

Our preference in clubs is single guys, others will want ladies or couples

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By *itsAndTaffCouple over a year ago

Grays, Essex

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

Because many have a great time & enjoy the club environment & it's a great way to make connections for meets outside of clubs also

While I don't agree with many clubs pricing structure we are a couple that attend clubs together but also solo so over the years have paid all 3 levels on numerous occasions, what we pay has no impact on the night we have

We go to meet new people, enjoy the facilities (if it's a spa type venue) hopefully have some fun the cost has no impact on the night unless you let it, which unfortunately many single guys do

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

"Question. I've not yet been to any club event and have an interest in doing so.

Are single guys sort after in clubs by couples or single ladies or is it more a market for couples and single ladies that are more sort after

As was once quoted in here “single guys in clubs are a nice to have, not a necessity”…..

Some events single guys are sought after (usually greedy girl events), otherwise yes, clubs are basically for couples to meet other couples.

Single guys can be made to feel welcome, and included by some clubs, just check the reviews section and don’t be afraid to message guys for their unbiased opinions

I've never found it rare to see single ladies. I have a good circle of female friends from clubs."

Clearly then, I went to the wrong clubs, on the wrong nights......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

Because many have a great time & enjoy the club environment & it's a great way to make connections for meets outside of clubs also

We go to meet new people, enjoy the facilities (if it's a spa type venue) hopefully have some fun the cost has no impact on the night unless you let it, which unfortunately many single guys do

The reason I now will not visit clubs is due to comments which are made regarding single men who attend clubs, w23king dead, standing in a corner staring, following women about, grouping women, not being invited to play etc. which I understand, I would expect a sound thrashing if I did that.

so I do not want anyone even strangers thinking I could behave like that so I stay away and will continue to do so.

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

Because many have a great time & enjoy the club environment & it's a great way to make connections for meets outside of clubs also

We go to meet new people, enjoy the facilities (if it's a spa type venue) hopefully have some fun the cost has no impact on the night unless you let it, which unfortunately many single guys do

so I do not want anyone even strangers thinking I could behave like that so I stay away and will continue to do so.

Or go to stricter clubs. If that behaviour was widespread, I wouldn't attend again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

Because many have a great time & enjoy the club environment & it's a great way to make connections for meets outside of clubs also

We go to meet new people, enjoy the facilities (if it's a spa type venue) hopefully have some fun the cost has no impact on the night unless you let it, which unfortunately many single guys do

so I do not want anyone even strangers thinking I could behave like that so I stay away and will continue to do so.

Or you could go, be a respectable person and enjoy your night without letting the few who do behave like that spoil it for you.

Not going because of the behaviours of others is crazy. If you thought like that in real life, you’d never go anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

Because many have a great time & enjoy the club environment & it's a great way to make connections for meets outside of clubs also

We go to meet new people, enjoy the facilities (if it's a spa type venue) hopefully have some fun the cost has no impact on the night unless you let it, which unfortunately many single guys do

so I do not want anyone even strangers thinking I could behave like that so I stay away and will continue to do so.

In most cases strangers won't think you're a twat until you you give them a reason to believe you are a twat. And I suspect that many people think no more or less of a single guy at a swingers club then they do do in a nightclub or a pub. Men in general are a bit shit when they have a few drinks and are horny.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

Because many have a great time & enjoy the club environment & it's a great way to make connections for meets outside of clubs also

We go to meet new people, enjoy the facilities (if it's a spa type venue) hopefully have some fun the cost has no impact on the night unless you let it, which unfortunately many single guys do

so I do not want anyone even strangers thinking I could behave like that so I stay away and will continue to do so.

Or you could go, be a respectable person and enjoy your night without letting the few who do behave like that spoil it for you.

Not going because of the behaviours of others is crazy. If you thought like that in real life, you’d never go anywhere. "

Ho boy, I am respectable, and it is my bag if I have been put off by comments of others, I once booked a last minute holiday eventhcugh the reviews for the accommodation were bad, I had a good time met wonderful people but really overspent on food as the hotels was poorly heated, leftover sometimes food, now if I had took notice of the reviews.......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

Because many have a great time & enjoy the club environment & it's a great way to make connections for meets outside of clubs also

We go to meet new people, enjoy the facilities (if it's a spa type venue) hopefully have some fun the cost has no impact on the night unless you let it, which unfortunately many single guys do

so I do not want anyone even strangers thinking I could behave like that so I stay away and will continue to do so.

that isn't me and please respect my preference as I respect yours.

also am not a twat, can you see the reason I wouldn't attend based on the comments im getting.

Sweet Christmas.

a footnote,

those comments do nothing for those clubs attendance as they have lost three customers from the threads ive have seen today.

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By *om and JennieCouple over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I used to go quite a lot on my own ,i used to go with the mindset that its a social and anything else is a bonus. Quite often i would chat to people who were already meeting others but we would exchange details and meet at a later date, its also good for getting veris.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

Because many have a great time & enjoy the club environment & it's a great way to make connections for meets outside of clubs also

We go to meet new people, enjoy the facilities (if it's a spa type venue) hopefully have some fun the cost has no impact on the night unless you let it, which unfortunately many single guys do

so I do not want anyone even strangers thinking I could behave like that so I stay away and will continue to do so.

that isn't me and please respect my preference as I respect yours.

also am not a twat, can you see the reason I wouldn't attend based on the comments im getting.

Sweet Christmas.

a footnote,

those comments do nothing for those clubs attendance as they have lost three customers from the threads ive have seen today."
for clarity, I'm not calling you a twat. I don't know you from Adam.

If you don't want go that's cool. I'm not gonna pressure you. Imo, people are challenging your view that you will be assumed to be a twat just because you're a single male. I don't think they/we are being rude. If I've come across that way, then I'm sorry. It wasn't my intention.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

Because many have a great time & enjoy the club environment & it's a great way to make connections for meets outside of clubs also

We go to meet new people, enjoy the facilities (if it's a spa type venue) hopefully have some fun the cost has no impact on the night unless you let it, which unfortunately many single guys do

so I do not want anyone even strangers thinking I could behave like that so I stay away and will continue to do so.

that isn't me and please respect my preference as I respect yours.

also am not a twat, can you see the reason I wouldn't attend based on the comments im getting.

Sweet Christmas.

a footnote,

those comments do nothing for those clubs attendance as they have lost three customers from the threads ive have seen today.for clarity, I'm not calling you a twat. I don't know you from Adam.

I apologise to you for misunderstanding your comment, I can see what your saying, but the more I read these comments the more I fear going.

I joined this site to go to a club in fact wanted to see if I could get a partner in crime so to speak, but was laughed away, so I left the site, missed the forums so returned to debate.

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

"Question. I've not yet been to any club event and have an interest in doing so.

Are single guys sort after in clubs by couples or single ladies or is it more a market for couples and single ladies that are more sort after"

My own personal opinion, not worth it unless you know people going

You’ll pay 2-5x as much as women to get in. Once your in everyone will assume your a sex starved lunatic that can’t control himself. People will complain that you existed near them for too long.

Honestly, I don’t get why anyone would pay so much to go somewhere you’ll be hated and judged

If you know people, great. Go, enjoy their company, hey introduced to others, have fun

If your going alone. Expect an uphill struggle

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Question. I've not yet been to any club event and have an interest in doing so.

Are single guys sort after in clubs by couples or single ladies or is it more a market for couples and single ladies that are more sort after

My own personal opinion, not worth it unless you know people going

You’ll pay 2-5x as much as women to get in. Once your in everyone will assume your a sex starved lunatic that can’t control himself. People will complain that you existed near them for too long.

Honestly, I don’t get why anyone would pay so much to go somewhere you’ll be hated and judged

If you know people, great. Go, enjoy their company, hey introduced to others, have fun

If your going alone. Expect an uphill struggle "

As in the words of Blade some mo fo's are always trying to ice-skate uphill.

I took my off and stick to the forums.

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By *r SensualMan over a year ago

London

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

What a bleak outlook and attitude to have… I can safely say that every club I’ve been to (bar one), I’ve met and chatted with a mixture of people couples, single ladies AND other single men and had an absolute whale of a time. I definitely think you’re looking at clubs in totally the wrong way if I’m honest.

And Just for the record, I can assure you that there’s an abundance of single women in clubs! In fact most prefer to meet there first than in a 1-1 setting. So for me imma go where the ladies are at, simples

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By *uckslut and MCouple over a year ago

Poole

Single men are sort after if it's a greedy girl or gangbang night. Although it's not guarenteed your get to play. Us ladies csn and do say no to some.

We tend to attend gg nights, as I, like the attention of lots of men.

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By *itsAndTaffCouple over a year ago

Grays, Essex

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

Because many have a great time & enjoy the club environment & it's a great way to make connections for meets outside of clubs also

We go to meet new people, enjoy the facilities (if it's a spa type venue) hopefully have some fun the cost has no impact on the night unless you let it, which unfortunately many single guys do

so I do not want anyone even strangers thinking I could behave like that so I stay away and will continue to do so.

They are the few rather than the norm, plenty of females and couples ourselves included only attend clubs to meet single guys

I've received far worse behaviour from the male halves of couples in clubs than I ever have single men

I've had a guy grab my breasts and when I pushed his hand away and asked what he was doing his wife shouted from across the room don't mind him he's with me, he's not one of those awful single men, & boobs are his thing.. that doesn't make it ok, I've had another repeatedly try and stick his toe inside me in the Hottub while his wife lay d*unk & barely awake beside him

Never let others opinions stop you experiencing something people are very quick to complain but rarely compliment

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It depends on the event really. I wouldn't really say single men are sought after in terms of having a queue of offers or anything like that but there's certain events they're more likely to play at at such as greedy girls nights while some events are more catered to women and couples."

Greedy girl nights, are these quite common

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By *itsAndTaffCouple over a year ago

Grays, Essex

Greedy girl nights, are these quite common "

Most clubs have them at least once a month, some have them weekly

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By *agic.MMan over a year ago

Orpington

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

No reason to be offended or passive aggressive my friend ...my comment was just my opinion

. If going to clubs works for you then great, by all means go where the ladies are

...for me what works the best is letting the ladies approach me on fab

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By *inkyDuo XXXCouple over a year ago

somewhere near you

It's not that easy for single ladies sometimes depending on the event. Yes it's social and if you play that's a bonus. Expect nothing. I've found before that couples prefer other couples at some events. Single ladies can get looked down upon by a female partner if they don't know each other and meet in a club for the first time and somewhat against playing.

Single guys, yes Single females could play one on one but it depends on click dynamic is important. I like to get to know someone first and not bed hop. Connection is important for me and to feel comfy.

Female x

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By *acey_RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

) and women pay for a glass of champagne which is £ 5-10 (or in other cases they do not pay anything). I understand why that is the case, but that dynamic puts me off completely...

Because many have a great time & enjoy the club environment & it's a great way to make connections for meets outside of clubs also

We go to meet new people, enjoy the facilities (if it's a spa type venue) hopefully have some fun the cost has no impact on the night unless you let it, which unfortunately many single guys do

so I do not want anyone even strangers thinking I could behave like that so I stay away and will continue to do so.

They are the few rather than the norm, plenty of females and couples ourselves included only attend clubs to meet single guys

I've received far worse behaviour from the male halves of couples in clubs than I ever have single men

Never let others opinions stop you experiencing something people are very quick to complain but rarely compliment

That's awful. I've never experienced anything like that but I have certainly experienced men in couples who consider themselves automatically better than single men in clubs which is annoying.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

the worse men in clubs are those of some couples where because they are part of a couple think its ok to do anything they are the worse ... the next worse are the gawpers / wanking zombies these are the guys who go weekly that do nothing but stare wank or try to grope they are the guys that get off on naked bodies being around them these guys take up alot of the quota therefore making it hard for decent looking guys to even get in ...

its a rare thing nowdays to see a few hot guys and since covid the couples seem too shun single guys even more but there is logic to this it protects the male half of the couple from competition ... we only do clubs now when we know the clubs let single guys in and single hot guys are rare .... if i was a single guy i would not go .... yep agree good for social and yep good for veris and starting on the ladder but the guys in some couples will make it dam hard for you (bearing in mind alot of couples are very male led) ..

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By *eyond PurityCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I would go with the attitude of seeing it as another way to show your face and get your personality across. I wouldn’t go with the intention that you’ll get some sex.

We’ve played with guys at clubs - but they’ve been respectful and chatted with us at the bar. They are the people that do well at clubs.

It’s the same if you were going to a night club, you’d look to chat and engage first, before trying to kiss someone. Yes there may be times when you’ll be called over to help out but the majority of the times, it’s developing a connection.

There is disparity in the prices between guys and girls but you’d spend more on a night out in town. If something’s going to upset you before you’ve set foot in the door, then I wouldn’t go - but I also wouldn’t moan about it.

Different clubs and nights have different vibes, so if one doesn’t feel right, another club/night might.

Try it and see - but like FAB you’ve got to put the effort in…be friendly, approach people, smile, be respectful. You mightn’t get anywhere the first time but once you become more familiar you might be called upon more.

Enjoy

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman over a year ago

tf1

I go on my own as a single woman. There are several other woman that go on their own.

The guys do better treating it as a social and being chatty. Do not follow people round wanking, that will get you nowhere.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman over a year ago

North West

(Didn’t read the above).

As a single gal who only clubs I only play with single men too.

Every single guy I know from here goes regular and always enjoys.

It’s a lot more welcoming for single men than some people would have you believe. Try it for yourself and see what you think

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