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"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men "It isn't. It's just you. C | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
It isn't. It's just you.
C"What you mean it’s me? | |||
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"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
It isn't. It's just you.
C
What you mean it’s me?"They are correct. | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men "nothing is impossible. Just realise that everything takes time. Do you expect to go into a pub and get laid? I’ve been here 10 years looking for a swinging relationship and found it twice. Its all there. Just fight for it | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men nothing is impossible. Just realise that everything takes time. Do you expect to go into a pub and get laid? I’ve been here 10 years looking for a swinging relationship and found it twice. Its all there. Just fight for it"Yeah I get what you mean it’s just hard when all the older women tell you they have kids nearly your age so it would be weird for them…. Which I understand, it’s just hard to find one | |||
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"Stop fetishising older women. They are women, not just play things for kids that think this is a free sex site." I’m not “fetishing” them it’s just what I find myself attracted to? I’ve always liked an older women | |||
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"It’s not just your age" What else is it? | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men nothing is impossible. Just realise that everything takes time. Do you expect to go into a pub and get laid? I’ve been here 10 years looking for a swinging relationship and found it twice. Its all there. Just fight for it
Yeah I get what you mean it’s just hard when all the older women tell you they have kids nearly your age so it would be weird for them…. Which I understand, it’s just hard to find one"My sons are older than you so yes that is indeed a factor | |||
"Stop fetishising older women. They are women, not just play things for kids that think this is a free sex site." This  | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
It isn't. It's just you.
C"
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"It’s not just your age What else is it?" We can't say | |||
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"It’s not just your age What else is it? We can't say "If he can’t figure it out there is no hope | |||
"You've been here 4 weeks OP....ffs Some people haven't met in 4 months..4 years even!!! It's not instashag and most women don't like being turned into a kink/fetish just because of their age. Plus some don't want to fuck a guy who could be their son." | |||
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"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
It isn't. It's just you.
C"And I thought I was being blunt  | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men "Real life isnt like the porn you are probably watching. You need to get out there and talk to women, interact with them and develop rapport and chemistry. A little maturity helps too | |||
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"But it's OK for women to ask for older men, over 6ft, big cock and muscles??? Sounds like a double standard there.. would you have said the same thing if a woman asked why can't she find younger men?? I think not! " My answer would be the same if she had been here 4 weeks and was the same age as the OP who also had the same sense of entitlement.its got nothing to do with double standards | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
Real life isnt like the porn you are probably watching.
You need to get out there and talk to women, interact with them and develop rapport and chemistry.
A little maturity helps too"Yeah I understand what your saying and I do talk to them respectfully, it’s just hard to interact and find chemistry if you get shut down by them because they have kids your age… which I understand | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
It isn't. It's just you.
C
And I thought I was being blunt "I do try... C | |||
"But it's OK for women to ask for older men, over 6ft, big cock and muscles??? Sounds like a double standard there.. would you have said the same thing if a woman asked why can't she find younger men?? I think not! " Thank you! | |||
"But it's OK for women to ask for older men, over 6ft, big cock and muscles??? Sounds like a double standard there.. would you have said the same thing if a woman asked why can't she find younger men?? I think not! " People can ask for whatever they want. It's the assumption that they are going to get it that's the issue especially with the minimum of effort applied. My tastes are very specific so.i know it's a waiting game. I'm not about to post a "why won't gingers fuck me" thread anytime soon. | |||
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"Op I can't give you profile advice as you haven't asked ,that's what needs work though." Any advice would be appreciated | |||
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"Op I can't give you profile advice as you haven't asked ,that's what needs work though. Any advice would be appreciated "Ok the 2 just dick pics will put many off ,add some more if you can , something that leaves something to the imagination. Also fill in what you offer and why someone should meet you ,sell yourself ! That warning is a bit pointless too. | |||
"But it's OK for women to ask for older men, over 6ft, big cock and muscles??? Sounds like a double standard there.. would you have said the same thing if a woman asked why can't she find younger men?? I think not! People can ask for whatever they want. It's the assumption that they are going to get it that's the issue especially with the minimum of effort applied. My tastes are very specific so.i know it's a waiting game. I'm not about to post a "why won't gingers fuck me" thread anytime soon." But I haven’t asked for them to fuck me? I’m not here to fuck every older woman I can find I’d be happy to just have a chat and get to know people with a mutual attraction | |||
"Op I can't give you profile advice as you haven't asked ,that's what needs work though. Any advice would be appreciated "Of you say you are looking for "curvy, older women" then use the word "discreet" it gives of the vibe that you don't want to be seen with one. | |||
"Op I can't give you profile advice as you haven't asked ,that's what needs work though. Any advice would be appreciated
Ok the 2 just dick pics will put many off ,add some more if you can , something that leaves something to the imagination.
Also fill in what you offer and why someone should meet you ,sell yourself !
That warning is a bit pointless too."I have more but you can see my tattoos in them and they are quite distinctive and wouldn’t won’t anyone from my social life recognising them okay I’ll have to give it an update thank you! What warning? | |||
"Op I can't give you profile advice as you haven't asked ,that's what needs work though. Any advice would be appreciated "More depth to your profile. That one sentence wont cut it. Remember,men outnumber women on hereby at least 4 to one. Something other than dick pictures on your profile. I personally wouldnt have them More about you other than you like ladies from twenty something to alot older. | |||
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"Op I can't give you profile advice as you haven't asked ,that's what needs work though. Any advice would be appreciated
More depth to your profile.
That one sentence wont cut it. Remember,men outnumber women on hereby at least 4 to one.
Something other than dick pictures on your profile. I personally wouldnt have them
More about you other than you like ladies from twenty something to alot older."Yeah I’ll have to update it later didnt realise that would be much of a problem, it’s hard to find other photos because I won’t to keep this life and my social/work life separate and I’ve got quite a few distinctive tattoos that would stand out and be easy to recognise | |||
"OP the best thing you can do is go back to the person that told you, Fab would get you desperate old women wanting to shag you, and slap them round the face. Then Google what 'swinging' means "Man down | |||
"Op I can't give you profile advice as you haven't asked ,that's what needs work though. Any advice would be appreciated
Ok the 2 just dick pics will put many off ,add some more if you can , something that leaves something to the imagination.
Also fill in what you offer and why someone should meet you ,sell yourself !
That warning is a bit pointless too.
I have more but you can see my tattoos in them and they are quite distinctive and wouldn’t won’t anyone from my social life recognising them okay I’ll have to give it an update thank you! What warning?"The one about taking legal action if someone copies your pics etc You could cover your tats with a blurring app or clothes
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"OP the best thing you can do is go back to the person that told you, Fab would get you desperate old women wanting to shag you, and slap them round the face. Then Google what 'swinging' means "I haven’t stated anywhere that I want to shag “desperate old women” I’d be happy to chat and get to know people with a mutual attraction? | |||
"I haven’t stated anywhere that I want to shag “desperate old women”" I beg to differ. Maybe not in those actual words but everything about the profile shouts that. | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men "Sorry OP I have monopolised them all and now run an exclusively Fab-sourced harem from a secret location on the Wirral Peninsula. | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
Sorry OP I have monopolised them all and now run an exclusively Fab-sourced harem from a secret location on the Wirral Peninsula."So that's why I'm all alone here out in the wilderness | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men "Your looking in the wrong place buddy Look to the apps, it’s much easier | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
It isn't. It's just you.
C"   . Was thinking it
Why don’t you see who does like you and if you like them too you’re golden
Stop seeking the specific | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
Sorry OP I have monopolised them all and now run an exclusively Fab-sourced harem from a secret location on the Wirral Peninsula.
So that's why I'm all alone here out in the wilderness "Consider yourself successfully vetted for entry Or I can bus some young men across the Pennines. Your call really. | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men "Most older woman don't like to be acknowledged as such. | |||
"OP the best thing you can do is go back to the person that told you, Fab would get you desperate old women wanting to shag you, and slap them round the face. Then Google what 'swinging' means "
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"Go to a club. A lot of them have Cougars and Cub nights. " I’ll have to try find one, I’m new to all this so don’t know where any are | |||
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"Hello op. I'm an older woman. I'm not really interested in men very much younger than me but I look for the same things in all men. In general Respect. Decency Mutual attraction. On here All the above A well written profile Attractive pictures. As suggested above a club would be a good place to start. Look at the club section on here and see if there's one near you. Apart from that set your search to look for women who are also looking for your age groups. Good luck, stick around,vwatch and pick up some pointers "Thank you! I’m updating the profile later or in the morning | |||
Nothing wrong with a little younger but below 30, just no, sorry.
It's a swingers site not swipe left or right. | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men nothing is impossible. Just realise that everything takes time. Do you expect to go into a pub and get laid? I’ve been here 10 years looking for a swinging relationship and found it twice. Its all there. Just fight for it
Yeah I get what you mean it’s just hard when all the older women tell you they have kids nearly your age so it would be weird for them…. Which I understand, it’s just hard to find one"This is related to the private messages we had. I said you were a good looking man but that my kids were nearly the same age. That is weird for me which is why I have my age range starting at 30. You still decided to message so you can't be upset that I say you are too young. Try focusing on women who are happy with your age range and you will likely be more successful. Also closer to home. It wouldn't have mattered if you had been older tbh. The distance would still have meant I wasn't interested xx. Good luck with you search xx | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men nothing is impossible. Just realise that everything takes time. Do you expect to go into a pub and get laid? I’ve been here 10 years looking for a swinging relationship and found it twice. Its all there. Just fight for it
Yeah I get what you mean it’s just hard when all the older women tell you they have kids nearly your age so it would be weird for them…. Which I understand, it’s just hard to find one
This is related to the private messages we had. I said you were a good looking man but that my kids were nearly the same age. That is weird for me which is why I have my age range starting at 30. You still decided to message so you can't be upset that I say you are too young. Try focusing on women who are happy with your age range and you will likely be more successful. Also closer to home. It wouldn't have mattered if you had been older tbh. The distance would still have meant I wasn't interested xx. Good luck with you search xx"It’s not related to your message I said to you during the conversation I don’t get much luck on here because I like older women and they say they have kids my age, that although you did say it after it’s not related to your message and is not aimed at you sorry if you thought that!xx | |||
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"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
It isn't. It's just you.
C"Savage, but brilliant | |||
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"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
It isn't. It's just you.
C"Great answer. | |||
"We are interested in meeting single guys, however we wouldn’t be interesting in meeting a couple your age either. We have 6 children between us and 4 of them are older than you. It just isn’t right in our opinion, for lots of reasons. But happy fabbing and we hope you find what you’re looking for. I’m sure there’s lots of lovely ladies on fab that would be interested if you take the time to update your profile and are respectful and courteous OP. " Yeah I get you and I understand and respect that like I’d never won’t to make someone leave their comfort zone and certainly wouldn’t be disrespectful to them about it, yeah I’ve removed my old “about me” part of my profile and will be updating it later or tomorrow | |||
"make your profile interesting " What profile?? | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men "I cringe and find it really off putting when a guy messages saying he loves older women.  | |||
"make your profile interesting What profile??" I had on my profile I liked an older woman with curves and apparently that comes across disrespectful so I deleted it | |||
"You've been here 4 weeks OP....ffs Some people haven't met in 4 months..4 years even!!! It's not instashag and most women don't like being turned into a kink/fetish just because of their age. Plus some don't want to fuck a guy who could be their son." | |||
"Some are some aren't. Just be respectful, as an older lady it makes me cringe when I get messages from guys acting like over excited puppydogs " I could not agree more. The minute somebody approaches me asking to meet as they fancy "the older/ more mature.. whatever "woman it is an instant turn-off. I would not want to be "picked" (= fetishised) in want of a better word based on my age but based on my profile. Well said. | |||
"I like, some, much younger men... Them being younger, is not enough though" Absolutely! | |||
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"make your profile interesting What profile?? I had on my profile I liked an older woman with curves and apparently that comes across disrespectful so I deleted it" And now you have no profile at all. Great move. | |||
"make your profile interesting What profile?? I had on my profile I liked an older woman with curves and apparently that comes across disrespectful so I deleted it And now you have no profile at all. Great move." It’s only until I update it later | |||
"Look as much as I’m attracted to them I think I’ll just leave them be from now on… I’ve tried to be nothing but respectful to everyone I’ve come across on this site and been completely understanding if it’s not their thing but apparently my taste in womens offensive and “fetishing” so I’ll just leave it be "Got to be honest here. What you are attracted to is not offensive to anyone. Your lack of effort however is offensive in our opinion. Do you think that is all it takes for you to get free sex?? | |||
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"Mate give up, you’re getting hammered on this thread "That’s the plan mate don’t want to upset anyone…. But like it was said earlier it’s okay for a woman to say she likes a man that is older 6ft tall full of muscles and has a big dick but it’s if a guy says he likes and older women it’s taken offensively | |||
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"Mate give up, you’re getting hammered on this thread
That’s the plan mate don’t want to upset anyone…. But like it was said earlier it’s okay for a woman to say she likes a man that is older 6ft tall full of muscles and has a big dick but it’s if a guy says he likes and older women it’s taken offensively "It is ok for a woman to be very specific in her requirements, there’s probably one lady to a hundred blokes on here so you don’t have that luxury | |||
"Look as much as I’m attracted to them I think I’ll just leave them be from now on… I’ve tried to be nothing but respectful to everyone I’ve come across on this site and been completely understanding if it’s not their thing but apparently my taste in womens offensive and “fetishing” so I’ll just leave it be "People have tried to give you constructive criticism, and some 9f us older ladies have given our input but you have come across as defensive which says to me that you really didn't want advice in the first place but maybe saw the forum as an opening to a meet. I could be wrong but that is how it comes across I like a mature attitude in a guy regardless of his age | |||
"Mate give up, you’re getting hammered on this thread
That’s the plan mate don’t want to upset anyone…. But like it was said earlier it’s okay for a woman to say she likes a man that is older 6ft tall full of muscles and has a big dick but it’s if a guy says he likes and older women it’s taken offensively "You’ve been calm all through this thread which in itself shows maturity not usually shown by people your age on here, especially with a few shitty comments aimed at you. I didn’t see your profile so don’t know if it was disrespectful or not. There’s lots of women who like younger so don’t give up, hopefully you’ll find one/some. Personally I’m like a few others and wouldn’t meet anyone near my childrens’ ages. It just doesn’t sit right with me, but that’s my choice. Good luck though. | |||
"Look as much as I’m attracted to them I think I’ll just leave them be from now on… I’ve tried to be nothing but respectful to everyone I’ve come across on this site and been completely understanding if it’s not their thing but apparently my taste in womens offensive and “fetishing” so I’ll just leave it be
People have tried to give you constructive criticism, and some 9f us older ladies have given our input but you have come across as defensive which says to me that you really didn't want advice in the first place but maybe saw the forum as an opening to a meet. I could be wrong but that is how it comes across
I like a mature attitude in a guy regardless of his age"I didn’t see that to be honest. Until perhaps that last comment. | |||
"Mate give up, you’re getting hammered on this thread
That’s the plan mate don’t want to upset anyone…. But like it was said earlier it’s okay for a woman to say she likes a man that is older 6ft tall full of muscles and has a big dick but it’s if a guy says he likes and older women it’s taken offensively "Welcome to the double standards buddy. Don’t you know? On here your just meant to take what your given and smile Don’t take it personally. It’s just the site these days. You’d have better luck on fb dating or tinder. Pulled like 8 older women off them this year. And none of them were offended | |||
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"Look as much as I’m attracted to them I think I’ll just leave them be from now on… I’ve tried to be nothing but respectful to everyone I’ve come across on this site and been completely understanding if it’s not their thing but apparently my taste in womens offensive and “fetishing” so I’ll just leave it be
People have tried to give you constructive criticism, and some 9f us older ladies have given our input but you have come across as defensive which says to me that you really didn't want advice in the first place but maybe saw the forum as an opening to a meet. I could be wrong but that is how it comes across
I like a mature attitude in a guy regardless of his age"I agree a lot of people have given me constructive criticism and I’m thankful for it I have taken that all in I’ve removed most of what was on my profile so I can update it later, I didn’t want the forum as an opening to meet older women I was hoping more for people who was having the same problem or people who have had abit more luck in that area to comment and give some advice on it, okay I could have worded it a little better but I’ve had alot of shit for basically saying I’m into older women? | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men "Because at my age, all the older women have died, or are in nursing homes. | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
Most older woman don't like to be acknowledged as such. "Exactly this. Biggest insult ever when I got a message off someone saying they love 'older women.' I'm only 36!! Think the OP doesn't deserve all the stick they're getting though. All they've said is that they like older women, nowt about desperate or having a fetish. OP I think you would get more luck if you updated your profile with more info. | |||
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"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men "I don’t think it’s that hard to find an older lady at all | |||
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"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
It isn't. It's just you.
C
Great answer."Why is it a great answer? He’s a young guy who has asked for advice and has got shot down in flames as is sadly the usual on the forums these days. We were all newbies at some stage. | |||
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"Look as much as I’m attracted to them I think I’ll just leave them be from now on… I’ve tried to be nothing but respectful to everyone I’ve come across on this site and been completely understanding if it’s not their thing but apparently my taste in womens offensive and “fetishing” so I’ll just leave it be
People have tried to give you constructive criticism, and some 9f us older ladies have given our input but you have come across as defensive which says to me that you really didn't want advice in the first place but maybe saw the forum as an opening to a meet. I could be wrong but that is how it comes across
I like a mature attitude in a guy regardless of his age
I agree a lot of people have given me constructive criticism and I’m thankful for it I have taken that all in I’ve removed most of what was on my profile so I can update it later, I didn’t want the forum as an opening to meet older women I was hoping more for people who was having the same problem or people who have had abit more luck in that area to comment and give some advice on it, okay I could have worded it a little better but I’ve had alot of shit for basically saying I’m into older women?"Sorry if I misread you. We can get quite defensive as it's a common theme and like others have said we get tired of getting treated like a fetishised object. Not everyone is courteous | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
It isn't. It's just you.
C
Great answer.
Why is it a great answer?
He’s a young guy who has asked for advice and has got shot down in flames as is sadly the usual on the forums these days.
We were all newbies at some stage."a lot on here seem to d forget that they were once newbies and how hard it is to get meets on here when you are new. | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
It isn't. It's just you.
C
Great answer.
Why is it a great answer?
He’s a young guy who has asked for advice and has got shot down in flames as is sadly the usual on the forums these days.
We were all newbies at some stage."Thank you I appreciate that! Nice for somebody to understand where I was coming from | |||
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"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men "Put simply OP, Old (or its derivatives) isn't a compliment. Mature should only refer to cheese. See? | |||
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"Guys that do well on here have a decent profile and have quite a few intriguing pics - usually none of their cocks. They will have written a good bio to show what they can offer and also what they are looking for. I’ve yet to see a successful guy start a thread moaning about not being able to meet the women they want. You haven’t asked for profile advice so I can’t offer any… K" I’m trying to keep this life and my social/work life separate so it’s hard to find pictures of me with out any of my tattoos showing but I’d never have a problem sending them to people if they wished to see them, any profile advice would be appreciated thank you! | |||
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"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
It isn't. It's just you.
C
Great answer.
Why is it a great answer?
He’s a young guy who has asked for advice and has got shot down in flames as is sadly the usual on the forums these days.
We were all newbies at some stage."Err, do you really need advice to know that you actually have to write a profile?? After all, there are thousands and thousands of them to look at.. | |||
"Also, when you use the search facility, check the box that says only show people looking for "I'm the age they're looking for" " Yeah I’ve done that but a lot of people still have it saying from 18+ so can be misleading | |||
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" Err, do you really need advice to know that you actually have to write a profile?? After all, there are thousands and thousands of them to look at.." Then why not just tell him that instead of trying to belittle him with your sarcastic reply? He’s shown more maturity with his replies than most on here, including yourself. | |||
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any lad under 30 was guaranteed at least a knee trembler on the walk home.
don't they do that anymore? | |||
" Err, do you really need advice to know that you actually have to write a profile?? After all, there are thousands and thousands of them to look at.. Then why not just tell him that instead of trying to belittle him with your sarcastic reply? He’s shown more maturity with his replies than most on here, including yourself." He REALLY can't figure it out for himself?? Wow!! | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men "Op. If you’re finding it difficult and are brave enough, post a thread asking for profile advice maybe, it helped for me when I was new.
These threads open my eyes a lot. There’s joking around and banter, and there’s just plain mean. | |||
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"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
It isn't. It's just you.
C"^^totally this. | |||
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"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men "Because so many younger men are not as attractive or interesting as they think. | |||
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"You don't ask you don't get . You do ask and you might not get anyway. "I’m done with asking things on this site it gets you nothing but abuse and trouble | |||
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"Older women have lots to choose from, you need to make yourself more appealing. " Anything is better than the zero effort put in at this moment | |||
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"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
It isn't. It's just you.
C
What you mean it’s me?"It might be, your profile doesn't give a lot away, there's nothing to get intrigued/excited about nothing to draw me in & get me interested | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
It isn't. It's just you.
C
What you mean it’s me?
It might be, your profile doesn't give a lot away, there's nothing to get intrigued/excited about nothing to draw me in & get me interested"I deleted everything off my profile yesterday because I was getting a lot of stick for it and it was “fetishing” because it said I liked an older woman so I’m going to re write it all later | |||
"Have a look at other men’s profiles , Their are ways to hide your tattoos. personally I don’t mind seeing a dick picture as long as theirs more pics to look at. Check out the club section like someone else also said their are clubs that have cougar and Cubs nights .Don’t worry not everyone is as offended and not very helpful these forums make up a small percentage.Grow a thick skin and you’ll do fine." Good advice and good luck to you | |||
"You don't ask you don't get . You do ask and you might not get anyway.
I’m done with asking things on this site it gets you nothing but abuse and trouble "Just take on board the bits that are positive and helpful to you. I haven't read the while thread but have been around long enough to know some like to be negative to those seeking advice | |||
" He REALLY can't figure it out for himself?? Wow!!" I rest my case. Let’s hope you never have to seek advice on the forums and get a taste of your own medicine. Takes nothing to be nice! | |||
" He REALLY can't figure it out for himself?? Wow!! I rest my case. Let’s hope you never have to seek advice on the forums and get a taste of your own medicine. Takes nothing to be nice!" Please rest your case!! We would NEVER ask for anything that we could find out for ourselves. Takes absolutely nothing to be nice we know. But takes even less to be sensible. We actually rest our case. | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
It isn't. It's just you.
C
What you mean it’s me?
It might be, your profile doesn't give a lot away, there's nothing to get intrigued/excited about nothing to draw me in & get me interested"To be fair all single guys have problems on here no matter what they are looking for there's over 100 single guys for every lady here the maths just isn't in your favour Maybe try a Cougars & Cubs night at a club where ladies specifically look for younger guys | |||
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"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men "You’ve only been here 4 weeks. Give it time | |||
"Can someone on this thread have a look at my profile update and let me know if this is abit better? Thanks in advance "Better than it was... But you need to be able to express what you're looking for, likes, dislikes, ideal meet scenarios, if you have and boundaries. | |||
"Can someone on this thread have a look at my profile update and let me know if this is abit better? Thanks in advance
Better than it was... But you need to be able to express what you're looking for, likes, dislikes, ideal meet scenarios, if you have and boundaries. "I get you, thank you! | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
It isn't. It's just you.
C
What you mean it’s me?
It might be, your profile doesn't give a lot away, there's nothing to get intrigued/excited about nothing to draw me in & get me interested
I deleted everything off my profile yesterday because I was getting a lot of stick for it and it was “fetishing” because it said I liked an older woman so I’m going to re write it all later "I want to be clear about the "fetish", which I thought I had been but perhaps not. I said I did not want to be chosen by anybody ( by that I mean older or younger) because of my age. I feel I have a lot more to offer including conversation, wit, humour, good company etc... so if I am chosen based on one feature like my age, over which I have no control, it feels to me that the person has no appreciation of the the majority of what makes me the person I am but is only interested in being with an older/ younger woman. That to me feels a bit like being fetishised. I have been with people twenty years older and twenty years younger than me and both were great. But I did not choose them because of their age, but because they were intelligent, funny, sexy and had a decent personality. And they just happened to be their respective age. Others may feel different in what they base their choice on. I spoke for myself only. | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
It isn't. It's just you.
C
What you mean it’s me?
It might be, your profile doesn't give a lot away, there's nothing to get intrigued/excited about nothing to draw me in & get me interested
I deleted everything off my profile yesterday because I was getting a lot of stick for it and it was “fetishing” because it said I liked an older woman so I’m going to re write it all later
I want to be clear about the "fetish", which I thought I had been but perhaps not.
I said I did not want to be chosen by anybody ( by that I mean older or younger) because of my age. I feel I have a lot more to offer including conversation, wit, humour, good company etc... so if I am chosen based on one feature like my age, over which I have no control, it feels to me that the person has no appreciation of the the majority of what makes me the person I am but is only interested in being with an older/ younger woman.
That to me feels a bit like being fetishised. I have been with people twenty years older and twenty years younger than me and both were great. But I did not choose them because of their age, but because they were intelligent, funny, sexy and had a decent personality. And they just happened to be their respective age.
Others may feel different in what they base their choice on. I spoke for myself only. "The “fetishing” part wasn’t about your comment it was mentioned in earlier on in the thread, sorry if you thought it was aimed at you! I understand what you mean I really do, I wouldn’t just go for a woman because of her age other factors do apply I was just saying that my preference was somebody abit older and was finding it hard to find one that would talk to me because they have kids around my age, which is completely understandable and I respect, sorry again if you felt like that was aimed at you | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
It isn't. It's just you.
C
What you mean it’s me?
It might be, your profile doesn't give a lot away, there's nothing to get intrigued/excited about nothing to draw me in & get me interested
I deleted everything off my profile yesterday because I was getting a lot of stick for it and it was “fetishing” because it said I liked an older woman so I’m going to re write it all later
I want to be clear about the "fetish", which I thought I had been but perhaps not.
I said I did not want to be chosen by anybody ( by that I mean older or younger) because of my age. I feel I have a lot more to offer including conversation, wit, humour, good company etc... so if I am chosen based on one feature like my age, over which I have no control, it feels to me that the person has no appreciation of the the majority of what makes me the person I am but is only interested in being with an older/ younger woman.
That to me feels a bit like being fetishised. I have been with people twenty years older and twenty years younger than me and both were great. But I did not choose them because of their age, but because they were intelligent, funny, sexy and had a decent personality. And they just happened to be their respective age.
Others may feel different in what they base their choice on. I spoke for myself only.
The “fetishing” part wasn’t about your comment it was mentioned in earlier on in the thread, sorry if you thought it was aimed at you! I understand what you mean I really do, I wouldn’t just go for a woman because of her age other factors do apply I was just saying that my preference was somebody abit older and was finding it hard to find one that would talk to me because they have kids around my age, which is completely understandable and I respect, sorry again if you felt like that was aimed at you "Thank you, it's cool really. I was not offended or anything. I just wanted to explain what may not have come across in the way I had intended. The thing with your profile, any profile really, is to be yourself and to say what you want while thinking about how this may sound to a potential meet. Most women like a bit of humour, a bit of tongue in cheek etc. Just give it w go and see what feedback you get. Good luck x | |||
"We were all newbies at some stage." True, but I wrote my own profile with my own text and content that I thought up all by myself. | |||
"Why is it impossible to find older women that are attracted to younger men
It isn't. It's just you.
C
What you mean it’s me?
It might be, your profile doesn't give a lot away, there's nothing to get intrigued/excited about nothing to draw me in & get me interested
I deleted everything off my profile yesterday because I was getting a lot of stick for it and it was “fetishing” because it said I liked an older woman so I’m going to re write it all later
I want to be clear about the "fetish", which I thought I had been but perhaps not.
I said I did not want to be chosen by anybody ( by that I mean older or younger) because of my age. I feel I have a lot more to offer including conversation, wit, humour, good company etc... so if I am chosen based on one feature like my age, over which I have no control, it feels to me that the person has no appreciation of the the majority of what makes me the person I am but is only interested in being with an older/ younger woman.
That to me feels a bit like being fetishised. I have been with people twenty years older and twenty years younger than me and both were great. But I did not choose them because of their age, but because they were intelligent, funny, sexy and had a decent personality. And they just happened to be their respective age.
Others may feel different in what they base their choice on. I spoke for myself only.
The “fetishing” part wasn’t about your comment it was mentioned in earlier on in the thread, sorry if you thought it was aimed at you! I understand what you mean I really do, I wouldn’t just go for a woman because of her age other factors do apply I was just saying that my preference was somebody abit older and was finding it hard to find one that would talk to me because they have kids around my age, which is completely understandable and I respect, sorry again if you felt like that was aimed at you
Thank you, it's cool really. I was not offended or anything. I just wanted to explain what may not have come across in the way I had intended.
The thing with your profile, any profile really, is to be yourself and to say what you want while thinking about how this may sound to a potential meet. Most women like a bit of humour, a bit of tongue in cheek etc. Just give it w go and see what feedback you get. Good luck x"Yeah I’ve updated my profile now and was nice to have some pointers off some people so I could improve my profile and hopefully make it stand out more and hopefully get abit more luck trying to meet new people | |||
