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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago
Walthamstow |
Fake verifications
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And these fake profiles are making me think it's time to hang this up !
Also the word Preferences is getting thrown A LOT.
Anyway
Have a great weekend.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems like it may be time to take a break.
Maybe hide your profile and step away for a little while, see how you feel then.
Absolutely, I am getting this feeling also. "
I think we can all take a dip at times, then it feels less fun and more hassle.
Just hide and take a break.
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"Fake verifications
Upgrade me too gold
And these fake profiles are making me think it's time to hang this up !
Also the word Preferences is getting thrown A LOT.
Anyway
Have a great weekend.
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Personally lately for me. And I know not everyone will agree as loads love the posts but
Too much man bashing
Too many be kind/everyone’s beautiful/ everyone’s amazing posts
Too much moaning
Yes I can avoid the posts and I do usually but for me it’s lost the escapism/fun side.
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over a year ago
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"Personally lately for me. And I know not everyone will agree as loads love the posts but
Too much man bashing
Too many be kind/everyone’s beautiful/ everyone’s amazing posts
Too much moaning
Yes I can avoid the posts and I do usually but for me it’s lost the escapism/fun side.
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And then there’s me Nora  |
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"Personally lately for me. And I know not everyone will agree as loads love the posts but
Too much man bashing
Too many be kind/everyone’s beautiful/ everyone’s amazing posts
Too much moaning
Yes I can avoid the posts and I do usually but for me it’s lost the escapism/fun side.
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Too much of the wrong kind of moaning |
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"Personally lately for me. And I know not everyone will agree as loads love the posts but
Too much man bashing
Too many be kind/everyone’s beautiful/ everyone’s amazing posts
Too much moaning
Yes I can avoid the posts and I do usually but for me it’s lost the escapism/fun side.
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You almost, almost sound as cynical as me Nora |
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"Personally lately for me. And I know not everyone will agree as loads love the posts but
Too much man bashing
Too many be kind/everyone’s beautiful/ everyone’s amazing posts
Too much moaning
Yes I can avoid the posts and I do usually but for me it’s lost the escapism/fun side.
And then there’s me Nora "
I just find myself adding a lyric to your posts every now and then  |
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"Personally lately for me. And I know not everyone will agree as loads love the posts but
Too much man bashing
Too many be kind/everyone’s beautiful/ everyone’s amazing posts
Too much moaning
Yes I can avoid the posts and I do usually but for me it’s lost the escapism/fun side.
You almost, almost sound as cynical as me Nora "
Me cynical?! Shut the front door doctor! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally lately for me. And I know not everyone will agree as loads love the posts but
Too much man bashing
Too many be kind/everyone’s beautiful/ everyone’s amazing posts
Too much moaning
Yes I can avoid the posts and I do usually but for me it’s lost the escapism/fun side.
And then there’s me Nora
I just find myself adding a lyric to your posts every now and then "
Feel free darling everyone has missed tonight’s |
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"Personally lately for me. And I know not everyone will agree as loads love the posts but
Too much man bashing
Too many be kind/everyone’s beautiful/ everyone’s amazing posts
Too much moaning
Yes I can avoid the posts and I do usually but for me it’s lost the escapism/fun side.
And then there’s me Nora
I just find myself adding a lyric to your posts every now and then
Feel free darling everyone has missed tonight’s "
I saw it! Mamma used to say  |
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"Personally lately for me. And I know not everyone will agree as loads love the posts but
Too much man bashing
Too many be kind/everyone’s beautiful/ everyone’s amazing posts
Too much moaning
Yes I can avoid the posts and I do usually but for me it’s lost the escapism/fun side.
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Yep.....the man hating really grates  |
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I mostly use the forums and tbh for me its
Too much moaning (and yes I know this reply may be taken as moaning)
Too many jumping on people at every given opportunity and being sarcastic and belittling to them (then claiming its meant in jest)
A lot of regular users aren't posting a lot or replying anymore and some have even left as it's just not been that much fun of late on here
I used to come on here and have a giggle but I rarely want to reply to a lot now, and he doesn't feel like he can at all some days
Tg x |
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"People constantly whinging about all the things that are wrong with fab.
Shape up or ship out.
Mine wasn’t a whinge. I just laugh, cringe or roll my eyes. I shan’t be shipping out "
The comment was aimed at the OP Nora |
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"People constantly whinging about all the things that are wrong with fab.
Shape up or ship out.
Mine wasn’t a whinge. I just laugh, cringe or roll my eyes. I shan’t be shipping out
The comment was aimed at the OP Nora "
Oh I know, I was just saying. Didn’t want anyone thinking I was whinging/moaning  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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nothing has ruined fab for those of us couples and women who do very well ...however what has ruined fab for men is ..... men and only in the sense there are far too many ..no other reason needed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally lately for me. And I know not everyone will agree as loads love the posts but
Too much man bashing
Too many be kind/everyone’s beautiful/ everyone’s amazing posts
Too much moaning
Yes I can avoid the posts and I do usually but for me it’s lost the escapism/fun side.
And then there’s me Nora
I just find myself adding a lyric to your posts every now and then
Feel free darling everyone has missed tonight’s
I saw it! Mamma used to say "
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"Personally lately for me. And I know not everyone will agree as loads love the posts but
Too much man bashing
Too many be kind/everyone’s beautiful/ everyone’s amazing posts
Too much moaning
Yes I can avoid the posts and I do usually but for me it’s lost the escapism/fun side.
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Agreed Nora |
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The whole “Fab” experience has been impacted by Covid in our view.
During lockdown there seemed to be an influx of fakes and time wasters here to pass the time and get wank fodder.
Only in our experience, of course. |
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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago
Walthamstow |
"Personally lately for me. And I know not everyone will agree as loads love the posts but
Too much man bashing
Too many be kind/everyone’s beautiful/ everyone’s amazing posts
Too much moaning
Yes I can avoid the posts and I do usually but for me it’s lost the escapism/fun side.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing ruins Fab, it's an entity in and of itself. But there are things that ruin your own personal experience of Fab. Nothing really ruins it for for me because I choose to take part in the things I want to take part in and ignore the things I want to ignore. If I find myself ignoring more things, then there are other mediums of entertainment I can indulge in |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Slighty off topic, do you think single guys should have to pay more than couples and ladies, same as clubs?
This could possibly bring some balance, is it the imbalance and lots of fantasists from all groups that make the site less than it could be or once was? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Slighty off topic, do you think single guys should have to pay more than couples and ladies, same as clubs?
This could possibly bring some balance, is it the imbalance and lots of fantasists from all groups that make the site less than it could be or once was?"
No I really don’t - it would probably make some men feel even more entitled that they’ve paid more… |
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Have I missed something or what??? I hadn't noticed that fab has been ruined in any way whatsoever. There's jokers in every pack whether it's in the real world or the fab world, and you just treat them with the contempt they deserve, and enjoy the rest of the game. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have I missed something or what??? I hadn't noticed that fab has been ruined in any way whatsoever. There's jokers in every pack whether it's in the real world or the fab world, and you just treat them with the contempt they deserve, and enjoy the rest of the game. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The whole “Fab” experience has been impacted by Covid in our view.
During lockdown there seemed to be an influx of fakes and time wasters here to pass the time and get wank fodder.
Only in our experience, of course. "
I also think this to |
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"Have I missed something or what??? I hadn't noticed that fab has been ruined in any way whatsoever. There's jokers in every pack whether it's in the real world or the fab world, and you just treat them with the contempt they deserve, and enjoy the rest of the game.
What do you mean?? "
Fab is as great today as it always was, it's only one or two idiots that let the side down. |
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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago
Walthamstow |
"Have I missed something or what??? I hadn't noticed that fab has been ruined in any way whatsoever. There's jokers in every pack whether it's in the real world or the fab world, and you just treat them with the contempt they deserve, and enjoy the rest of the game.
What do you mean??
Fab is as great today as it always was, it's only one or two idiots that let the side down. "
In some way perhaps, but I think from my point off view it has changed if you were too look bit deeper in too it.
Perhaps I been on this site for a few years for it too notice what it used too be then what it is today.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fake verifications
Upgrade me too gold
And these fake profiles are making me think it's time to hang this up !
Also the word Preferences is getting thrown A LOT.
Anyway
Have a great weekend.
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Fab has ALWAYS been like this. I've just come back after several years away and it's exactly the same as when I left. |
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By *igmaMan
over a year ago
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Fabs still good! …I still find it possible to find what I’m looking for on here
The bullshit has always been there in various guises
It is possible to filter out the bullshit by not interacting with it!! |
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"The whole “Fab” experience has been impacted by Covid in our view.
During lockdown there seemed to be an influx of fakes and time wasters here to pass the time and get wank fodder.
Only in our experience, of course. "
I agree with that and those that joined because of the tv program as well. But seeing some say x is the problem well that’s also the problem because people are instantly jumping on it. I saw the comment that men are the problem yes there are a lot of single men on here but that means more to choose from. |
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"Fake verifications
Upgrade me too gold
And these fake profiles are making me think it's time to hang this up !
Also the word Preferences is getting thrown A LOT.
Anyway
Have a great weekend.
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I’m sorry op but the word preferences has been around for well ever because people are sick and tired of getting terrible one line or one word messages. So they are trying to filter for what they are looking for |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally lately for me. And I know not everyone will agree as loads love the posts but
Too much man bashing
Too many be kind/everyone’s beautiful/ everyone’s amazing posts
Too much moaning
Yes I can avoid the posts and I do usually but for me it’s lost the escapism/fun side.
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And spouting about how inclusive they are in one thread while rinsing someone in another thread |
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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think fabs ruined. I've been on here longer than I care to remember. It has it's up and downs yes, but so does life!
Everything changes and evolves over time. It's what we do about that that matters. Maybe take a break for a while. I've done that a couple of times. Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To many people talk about sex and not having it. As they seem to think they is something wrong about enjoy sex without being in a relationship. "
absolutely! |
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"I feel no one is allowed an opinion lately unless your being nice and pc, different points of views are what makes the forums interesting "
Sorry, I can’t agree with this!
Als I don’t like Nigel Farage. Or Pretty Patel ! Mind with Patel I can understand why she is so bitter |
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I'm not sure anything has ruined it. It serves a purpose depending on how you use it and what you want from it.
Does it keep you informed on club events etc? Yes. Therefore it works.
What has tainted my experience of sex in general is my own eyes being opened to how an awful lot of folk behave when it comes to sex (well, the getting it part) and the lack of honesty and respect. That's not the sites doing. |
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"Woman that act as clickbait to get men to pay up and then give men a bad rep for saying that they are sex and wanted to meet up.
Pay what? It’s not a paying site. "
Seriously, sounds like a dude who's throwing a wobbly coz the bitches ain't giving up the poontang as expected, coz they're paid their whole fiver and now they should be getting the sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From my extensive scientific research, I've concluded time ruins fab.
The longer you are here, the more you get annoyed with the stuff that was there when you started.
Also, the fact that Tits out Tuesday is only once a week.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"From my extensive scientific research, I've concluded time ruins fab.
The longer you are here, the more you get annoyed with the stuff that was there when you started.
Also, the fact that Tits out Tuesday is only once a week.
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You do realise people have them out ALL the time??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Woman that act as clickbait to get men to pay up and then give men a bad rep for saying that they are sex and wanted to meet up.
Pay what? It’s not a paying site.
Seriously, sounds like a dude who's throwing a wobbly coz the bitches ain't giving up the poontang as expected, coz they're paid their whole fiver and now they should be getting the sex."
They posted on another thread about how admin let’s ‘women flaunt their bodies and makes men pay’ or something along those lines. Awfully strange. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From my extensive scientific research, I've concluded time ruins fab.
The longer you are here, the more you get annoyed with the stuff that was there when you started.
Also, the fact that Tits out Tuesday is only once a week.
You do realise people have them out ALL the time???"
do they ?
Tbh, I don't look at the pics, just read the profiles.
I'm a rebel like that. |
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"Woman that act as clickbait to get men to pay up and then give men a bad rep for saying that they are sex and wanted to meet up.
Pay what? It’s not a paying site.
Seriously, sounds like a dude who's throwing a wobbly coz the bitches ain't giving up the poontang as expected, coz they're paid their whole fiver and now they should be getting the sex.
They posted on another thread about how admin let’s ‘women flaunt their bodies and makes men pay’ or something along those lines. Awfully strange."
“Makes men pay” that’s on the gullible men. Not the women! |
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"Woman that act as clickbait to get men to pay up and then give men a bad rep for saying that they are sex and wanted to meet up.
Pay what? It’s not a paying site.
Seriously, sounds like a dude who's throwing a wobbly coz the bitches ain't giving up the poontang as expected, coz they're paid their whole fiver and now they should be getting the sex.
They posted on another thread about how admin let’s ‘women flaunt their bodies and makes men pay’ or something along those lines. Awfully strange."
Yeah I saw it and it's still bollocks no matter how many times its written *insert wtf face* |
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the number of single female profiles that aren't single, have a FWB/Hubby in tow that pops up within 2 messages lol .. or all over their bio text ... just setup the right profile in first place smh
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"Woman that act as clickbait to get men to pay up and then give men a bad rep for saying that they are sex and wanted to meet up.
Pay what? It’s not a paying site.
Seriously, sounds like a dude who's throwing a wobbly coz the bitches ain't giving up the poontang as expected, coz they're paid their whole fiver and now they should be getting the sex.
They posted on another thread about how admin let’s ‘women flaunt their bodies and makes men pay’ or something along those lines. Awfully strange.
Yeah I saw it and it's still bollocks no matter how many times its written *insert wtf face*"
Literally lmaooo…an awfully strange thing to write fr fr |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"Fake verifications
Upgrade me too gold
And these fake profiles are making me think it's time to hang this up !
Also the word Preferences is getting thrown A LOT.
Anyway
Have a great weekend.
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Everyone is entitled to choose,life is about having choices IE preferences your can't always have what you might want in life or have it or been offered it but don't want it welcome to LIFE'S adventure's |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From my extensive scientific research, I've concluded time ruins fab.
The longer you are here, the more you get annoyed with the stuff that was there when you started.
Also, the fact that Tits out Tuesday is only once a week.
You do realise people have them out ALL the time???"
Where? |
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I think the general way the site is, is it’s down fall
It needs to get much stricter on it messaging methods. New accounts need to be given much fewer messages. Messages in general, need to be limited
By limiting messages it would massively lower the amount of shitty mail people get
That’s solves woman’s problem. Guys now need to make messages count. No more spamming 200 profiles with the same 1 liner.
And, it fixes mens biggest problem, which is messages getting buried in peoples inboxes. I’d say 80-90% of the messages I used to send just went unopened. You know the “250 new messages can’t read then all” status
That’s my opinion anyways. The biggest problem is low quality mail. It clogs up woman’s inboxes and it hides other mens messages
Limit messaging fixes that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a single bloke, which I am too, it's always going to be a tough gig. I have ups and downs on here and just accept it's the nature of the beast. My attitude is persevere but don't harass, and always be polite and respectful, and what will be will be, and what won't won't. I don't have high expectations and when Fab isn't working for me, I take a break by either deleting or hiding my account.
Like in all walks of life, you'll find arseholes, narcissists, the self entitled, liars and scammers in the form of all genders. Just online it's magnified.
I've been on and off Fab for 12 years now, and it's always been pretty much the same for me.
Don't take it too seriously, enjoy it, and if not, then it's definitely time for a break. |
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"Personally lately for me. And I know not everyone will agree as loads love the posts but
Too much man bashing
Too many be kind/everyone’s beautiful/ everyone’s amazing posts
Too much moaning
Yes I can avoid the posts and I do usually but for me it’s lost the escapism/fun side.
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Been on and off FAB for more years than would like to admit and completely see a change over time. Now as older person the age filters block however have certainly enjoyed my long established episodes on FAB. So for me nothing really spoils FAB but age sometimes stifles options. |
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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago
Walthamstow |
"OP, would you're preference be for people to not have preferences? "
No, it's not what I meant, this place is becoming us vs them type in my eyes, it maybe not too you but too me when I read posts I read between the lines off what is being said and what isn't.
Sleep with whoever you like, just don't be a cunt about it too other people who have opinions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I came across swinging in a different way, (I was swinging before I found this site single women and couples seemed to find me in social settings).
I joined to be more involved in the scene, alas I have been put off since joining this site, men bashing, 80 quid to enter a club, I've been put off couples due to the comments I've seen on theses forums regarding single men, the lack of respect towards each other.
It may well be a snap shot of how life is now I do not know.
But the forums are interesting when I keep to subjects that interest me. |
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"As a single bloke, which I am too, it's always going to be a tough gig. I have ups and downs on here and just accept it's the nature of the beast. My attitude is persevere but don't harass, and always be polite and respectful, and what will be will be, and what won't won't. I don't have high expectations and when Fab isn't working for me, I take a break by either deleting or hiding my account.
Like in all walks of life, you'll find arseholes, narcissists, the self entitled, liars and scammers in the form of all genders. Just online it's magnified.
I've been on and off Fab for 12 years now, and it's always been pretty much the same for me.
Don't take it too seriously, enjoy it, and if not, then it's definitely time for a break."
This
Very sensible, very balanced, very thoughtful from someone who seems like a lovely guy…
Even if he does think he is past his best with s greying beard and nice eyes
I think your beard looks good if you don’t mind me saying so x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As a single bloke, which I am too, it's always going to be a tough gig. I have ups and downs on here and just accept it's the nature of the beast. My attitude is persevere but don't harass, and always be polite and respectful, and what will be will be, and what won't won't. I don't have high expectations and when Fab isn't working for me, I take a break by either deleting or hiding my account.
Like in all walks of life, you'll find arseholes, narcissists, the self entitled, liars and scammers in the form of all genders. Just online it's magnified.
I've been on and off Fab for 12 years now, and it's always been pretty much the same for me.
Don't take it too seriously, enjoy it, and if not, then it's definitely time for a break.
This
Very sensible, very balanced, very thoughtful from someone who seems like a lovely guy…
Even if he does think he is past his best with s greying beard and nice eyes
I think your beard looks good if you don’t mind me saying so x"
Well thank you very much  The compliment is very much appreciated |
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Haven't read any of the posts above but for me people ruin fab.
Often they ruin it for themselves with attitudes and expectations and more often than not unfortunately that feeds into deliberately ruining it for others.
Too many take the " If I can't have it then no-one else will" approach and jealously, lack of validation or just pure nastiness cause them to share personal info, spread rumours and/or use others to continuously nip away at those they take issue with. |
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By *k82 OP Man
over a year ago
Walthamstow |
"As a single bloke, which I am too, it's always going to be a tough gig. I have ups and downs on here and just accept it's the nature of the beast. My attitude is persevere but don't harass, and always be polite and respectful, and what will be will be, and what won't won't. I don't have high expectations and when Fab isn't working for me, I take a break by either deleting or hiding my account.
Like in all walks of life, you'll find arseholes, narcissists, the self entitled, liars and scammers in the form of all genders. Just online it's magnified.
I've been on and off Fab for 12 years now, and it's always been pretty much the same for me.
Don't take it too seriously, enjoy it, and if not, then it's definitely time for a break."
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