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"People's expectations never live up to reality "Well Reality lived up to my expectations on more than one occasion | |||
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"I'm sure we've all heard "you're not what I expected" at one point or another. So... How you come across online, vs how you are in real life. I'll go first. Intimidating and confident vs anxious self conscious wreck. " Talkative and thinks he knows everything vs introvert, chilled and laid back | |||
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"Personality is the same, i can't fake not giving a fuck. Looks, I'm better in pictures. A lot better. " this with the pics im a fat cunt in reality  | |||
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"I'm exactly the same "I can vouch for this | |||
"I'm exactly the same
I can vouch for this " | |||
"Narky vs cheeky, probably" Depends, has your taste in shirts changed?? | |||
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"Narky vs cheeky, probably Depends, has your taste in shirts changed??" Ffs, yes I've burnt the orange shirt.
And yes, my tastes have improved | |||
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"Narky vs cheeky, probably Depends, has your taste in shirts changed?? Ffs, yes I've burnt the orange shirt.
And yes, my tastes have improved"Burrn! | |||
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"I really thought I came across as I am but so many people say they find me intimidating or I come across as a hard ass on fab. I'm nice really I promise!! Don't know what makes me come across that way..." You’re not intimidating! Unless you’ve not eaten. You have eaten haven’t you?! | |||
"I really thought I came across as I am but so many people say they find me intimidating or I come across as a hard ass on fab. I'm nice really I promise!! Don't know what makes me come across that way... You’re not intimidating! Unless you’ve not eaten. You have eaten haven’t you?! " ........ | |||
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"I'm exactly the same "° I will attest to this.  | |||
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"Oh to answer the question, I think I am the same, possibly more random, clumsy and ditsy though! " . If I’d commented that’s how I would have described me | |||
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"Oh to answer the question, I think I am the same, possibly more random, clumsy and ditsy though!
. If I’d commented that’s how I would have described me "Me too .. For you I mean Nora | |||
"Oh to answer the question, I think I am the same, possibly more random, clumsy and ditsy though!
. If I’d commented that’s how I would have described me
Me too .. For you I mean Nora " oi! I can say it. You can’t | |||
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"I'm sure we've all heard "you're not what I expected" at one point or another. So... How you come across online, vs how you are in real life. I'll go first. Being from yorkshire-what you see is what you get Intimidating and confident vs anxious self conscious wreck. " | |||
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"A massive dickhead VS an average dickhead " So you’re just an average dickhead in real life then? | |||
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"A massive dickhead VS an average dickhead So you’re just an average dickhead in real life then? "That’s for others to decide I guess. I’m definitely some type of dickhead. | |||
"A massive dickhead VS an average dickhead So you’re just an average dickhead in real life then?
That’s for others to decide I guess. I’m definitely some type of dickhead."You’re alright you are | |||
"Oh to answer the question, I think I am the same, possibly more random, clumsy and ditsy though!
. If I’d commented that’s how I would have described me
Me too .. For you I mean Nora
oi! I can say it. You can’t "I'm dr*nk so I can say anything haha  | |||
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"A massive dickhead VS an average dickhead So you’re just an average dickhead in real life then?
That’s for others to decide I guess. I’m definitely some type of dickhead.
You’re alright you are "Don’t tell people. I’ve got a reputation to uphold. | |||
"Oh to answer the question, I think I am the same, possibly more random, clumsy and ditsy though!
. If I’d commented that’s how I would have described me
Me too .. For you I mean Nora
oi! I can say it. You can’t
I'm dr*nk so I can say anything haha "You party animal | |||
"I'm sure we've all heard "you're not what I expected" at one point or another. So... How you come across online, vs how you are in real life. I'll go first. Intimidating and confident vs anxious self conscious wreck. " Banter well on here. But in public quite shy first of all. Jo | |||
"A massive dickhead VS an average dickhead So you’re just an average dickhead in real life then?
That’s for others to decide I guess. I’m definitely some type of dickhead.
You’re alright you are
Don’t tell people. I’ve got a reputation to uphold." | |||
"I really thought I came across as I am but so many people say they find me intimidating or I come across as a hard ass on fab. I'm nice really I promise!! Don't know what makes me come across that way..." Something to keep in mind, it may seem like a bizarre concept to some but we do give of a certain energy towards other ppl even over the internet through pics and text Generally speaking when someone speaks to you (or even reading your profile), they can get a certain idea of who you are by the way you speak (or write in this), the wording, points of interests you highlight, that information the brain takes in begins to formulate an initial preconception of that person. Given the limited information the brain receives, often, and quite well known, our expectations of the person dont align with the reality You may believe youre a nice person and you probably are. However when you put yourself out there, your own ideologies, opinions, interests etc. will tend to shape the way you speak, and that in turn translates into the energy you give off through your text, and therefore into the personality you give off to other ppl Likewise the same goes for your pics, seeing your face, it sends all sorts of msgs to other ppl, a face can tell a thousand words and stories. Couple that with the way you speak and youve crafted an online persona. Which in your case is one of intimidation Just from looking at your face and reading your profile, i can see why ppl would feel intimidated. Your attractiveness isnt whats intimidating, i feel its the sense that you have some very high closely guarded walls, one wrong slip as someone is climbing to "get in" with you, and theyll fall hard. You want to be inviting to ppl when they see and interact with you, and i dont feel a lot of invitation from you. In my mind i get this sense that youll only ever meet up with ppl you have an interest in and contact them first But thats just how im seeing it, i dont doubt you are a very nice person, but as youre not sure why ppl are intimidated by you i thought id weigh in on that and give you a possible cause for it | |||
"Oh to answer the question, I think I am the same, possibly more random, clumsy and ditsy though!
. If I’d commented that’s how I would have described me
Me too .. For you I mean Nora
oi! I can say it. You can’t
I'm dr*nk so I can say anything haha
You party animal "But no Tequila though I'm partially sensible | |||
"Oh to answer the question, I think I am the same, possibly more random, clumsy and ditsy though!
. If I’d commented that’s how I would have described me
Me too .. For you I mean Nora
oi! I can say it. You can’t
I'm dr*nk so I can say anything haha
You party animal
But no Tequila though I'm partially sensible " | |||
"I didn’t mean to trip up and land on Mr Monkeys thighs that time. Honest "They what they all say | |||
"Oh to answer the question, I think I am the same, possibly more random, clumsy and ditsy though!
. If I’d commented that’s how I would have described me
Me too .. For you I mean Nora
oi! I can say it. You can’t
I'm dr*nk so I can say anything haha
You party animal
But no Tequila though I'm partially sensible
"I agree with those emojis….you? Sensible? | |||
"Oh to answer the question, I think I am the same, possibly more random, clumsy and ditsy though!
. If I’d commented that’s how I would have described me
Me too .. For you I mean Nora
oi! I can say it. You can’t
I'm dr*nk so I can say anything haha
You party animal
But no Tequila though I'm partially sensible
I agree with those emojis….you? Sensible? "I can be .. Just not tonight  | |||
"No idea how I come across personality wise and how that translates in real life But I try to be as honest as possible visually particularly prior to a meet and even send a no holds barred full length nude that way no unrealistic expectations there " Yeah I like to be honest rather than pretend to be something I’m not | |||
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"No idea how I come across personality wise and how that translates in real life But I try to be as honest as possible visually particularly prior to a meet and even send a no holds barred full length nude that way no unrealistic expectations there Yeah I like to be honest rather than pretend to be something I’m not " m For here I think it makes sense to do so as otherwise you’re likely to be disappointed or even offended if a meet is like “yea no thanks” whereas I’m brutally honest about how I look etc and then nobody under any illusions I expect the same in return…don’t always get it! | |||
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"I don't have any idea how I come across online. I'd hope that in person I come across as a good person. " You are awesome IRL x | |||
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