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I see a lot of single men in the forums saying they are not having much luck on here. I’ve been on the site for well over a year and I’ve had 6 meets, and have spoken to lots of nice friendly people. I don’t get hung up on the many rejections or deleted messages I get. Yes it can be very disheartening at times, but it’s not the end of the world.
As a single man, it’s very hard to stand out from the what seems millions of similar profiles. One of my meets gave me some really good advice about my profile and how to approach others on here, and it’s seemed to work.
Yes at the end of the day we are all trying to get in each other’s pants, but I’ve found a bit of humility, confidence, manners and being upfront without being crude seems to work.
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I moved to the west of Scotland around 18 months ago and wrote a new profile, I've found it very difficult up here as opposed to when I lived in West London, 29 verifications down there none here, density of population I guess plus I'm getting older  |
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"I moved to the west of Scotland around 18 months ago and wrote a new profile, I've found it very difficult up here as opposed to when I lived in West London, 29 verifications down there none here, density of population I guess plus I'm getting older "
It’s funny you say that, as when I look at new public pictures I see a lot of action from Scotland. I thought it was all fun up there. As you said, must be the population down in London. Hope you have joy with the new profile and get those verifications up |
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"OP, most of the people complaining don't read the responses on THEIR threads, let alone look at anybody else's.
But it's good that you're happy. We should all be happy."
So true. Oh I’m very happy, hope you are too buddy |
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"OP, most of the people complaining don't read the responses on THEIR threads, let alone look at anybody else's.
But it's good that you're happy. We should all be happy.
So true. Oh I’m very happy, hope you are too buddy"
You look happy  top pictures and a classy profile, something that a lot can learn from |
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"OP, most of the people complaining don't read the responses on THEIR threads, let alone look at anybody else's.
But it's good that you're happy. We should all be happy.
So true. Oh I’m very happy, hope you are too buddy
You look happy top pictures and a classy profile, something that a lot can learn from "
Cheers Matey, I appreciate that. You certainly look like your having a good time in your pics |
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There really is no secret formula.
Decent pics (which aren’t just cock pics), a good bio explaining what you offer and are after (rather than I’m here to fuck anything) and good messages and chat…
Get your personality across, be polite, engaging and don’t go all in with vulgarity and it’s so much easier on here.
The only people who moan are the people who don’t want to put any effort in, by going to socials, clubs, getting on the forums…using all the tools that FAB offers.
It’s so much easier if you are willing to put the effort in.
Well done OP for showing how it can be done…
K |
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"There really is no secret formula.
Decent pics (which aren’t just cock pics), a good bio explaining what you offer and are after (rather than I’m here to fuck anything) and good messages and chat…
Get your personality across, be polite, engaging and don’t go all in with vulgarity and it’s so much easier on here.
The only people who moan are the people who don’t want to put any effort in, by going to socials, clubs, getting on the forums…using all the tools that FAB offers.
It’s so much easier if you are willing to put the effort in.
Well done OP for showing how it can be done…
K"
Spot on. |
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"And don't send dick pics...
Seriously, I had this convo with someone the other day about how guys just have to be genuine and decent, then we're more than happy to sleep with them. "
Thanks Mimi. It’s always great to get a single ladies POV |
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"And don't send dick pics...
Seriously, I had this convo with someone the other day about how guys just have to be genuine and decent, then we're more than happy to sleep with them.
Thanks Mimi. It’s always great to get a single ladies POV"
I've never once felt the need to take a pic of it and send it unsolicited, seems a bit tragic |
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over a year ago
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"I moved to the west of Scotland around 18 months ago and wrote a new profile, I've found it very difficult up here as opposed to when I lived in West London, 29 verifications down there none here, density of population I guess plus I'm getting older "
This is ironic as whenever I click the "new women" or "online women" tabs on here, the women are always usually in Scotland hahaha |
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"Glad you found what works for you op. I think I’m having the opposite issue of that I’m too polite in my messaging style. Fingers crossed I can find what works for me."
It’s a fine balance, being polite always goes down well. I hope you find what works for you, you seem like a nice genuine man |
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"Glad you found what works for you op. I think I’m having the opposite issue of that I’m too polite in my messaging style. Fingers crossed I can find what works for me.
It’s a fine balance, being polite always goes down well. I hope you find what works for you, you seem like a nice genuine man"
Thanks, I definitely make a lot of friends when I go to the clubs but outside of clubs not so much. |
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over a year ago
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"I see a lot of single men in the forums saying they are not having much luck on here. I’ve been on the site for well over a year and I’ve had 6 meets, and have spoken to lots of nice friendly people. I don’t get hung up on the many rejections or deleted messages I get. Yes it can be very disheartening at times, but it’s not the end of the world.
As a single man, it’s very hard to stand out from the what seems millions of similar profiles. One of my meets gave me some really good advice about my profile and how to approach others on here, and it’s seemed to work.
Yes at the end of the day we are all trying to get in each other’s pants, but I’ve found a bit of humility, confidence, manners and being upfront without being crude seems to work.
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By *orneytwoCouple
over a year ago
Not far from lichfield |
For most men they are just after a shag and the shit 100s of messages a week girls and couple get show that.
But for the couples and single girls that are getting the shag. They are on FAB FOR EXTRA FUN.
Not the same at all. Single men do not think about this. And think the shit message will get them fun. How is that working out for them. After a year they are fucking each other. Because somthing is better then nothing. If a single man cannot turn on a swinging couple or a single girl that is into the lifestyle.
They should be on a dating site NOT a swings site. |
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"I moved to the west of Scotland around 18 months ago and wrote a new profile, I've found it very difficult up here as opposed to when I lived in West London, 29 verifications down there none here, density of population I guess plus I'm getting older "
Loads of large socials get organised in Scotland and there are a couple of good clubs. You should try and go someday as Scotland is full of very horny men and women. |
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"For most men they are just after a shag and the shit 100s of messages a week girls and couple get show that.
But for the couples and single girls that are getting the shag. They are on FAB FOR EXTRA FUN.
Not the same at all. Single men do not think about this. And think the shit message will get them fun. How is that working out for them. After a year they are fucking each other. Because somthing is better then nothing. If a single man cannot turn on a swinging couple or a single girl that is into the lifestyle.
They should be on a dating site NOT a swings site."
Cute. |
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"For most people they are just after a shag and the shit 100s of messages a week Fab Folk get show that.
But for the sensible couples, single boys and girls that are getting the shag. They are on FAB FOR EXTRA FUN.
Not the same at all. Single women and men do not think about this. And think the shit message will get them fun. How is that working out for them. After a year they are fucking each other. Because somthing is better then nothing. If a single woman or man cannot turn on a swinging couple or a single boy or girl that is into the lifestyle.
They should be on a dating site NOT a swings site."
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There you go: I fixed it for you.
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"Yes at the end of the day we are all trying to get in each other’s pants, but I’ve found a bit of humility, confidence, manners and being upfront without being crude seems to work.
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And not wearing pants.
Also helps.
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
Bedfont Feltham |
"I see a lot of single men in the forums saying they are not having much luck on here. I’ve been on the site for well over a year and I’ve had 6 meets, and have spoken to lots of nice friendly people. I don’t get hung up on the many rejections or deleted messages I get. Yes it can be very disheartening at times, but it’s not the end of the world.
As a single man, it’s very hard to stand out from the what seems millions of similar profiles. One of my meets gave me some really good advice about my profile and how to approach others on here, and it’s seemed to work.
Yes at the end of the day we are all trying to get in each other’s pants, but I’ve found a bit of humility, confidence, manners and being upfront without being crude seems to work.
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Frankly you tick an awful lot of boxes for women in age odyssey type and looks and ethically.
I don't begrudge your success but I reckon you will find it easier than a 58yr old mix race guy with a hearing problem. |
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"I moved to the west of Scotland around 18 months ago and wrote a new profile, I've found it very difficult up here as opposed to when I lived in West London, 29 verifications down there none here, density of population I guess plus I'm getting older "
Location does help it’s true; the more people around you, naturally there’s more likely to be more potential swingers. |
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