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Being called a slut/whore..
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?
Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…
Genuinely curious about this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not in the first message.  
Ok, at what point would you do this…"
What I’m saying is there are some that are and some that aren’t going to tell you or show you how they feel about this.
I smile when I realise they are hiding things. 
Or, Sometimes it’s in their username, other times it’s not.
So, I’d pop that little word in at a moment I’d think was appropriate to us both, and it never the first message, and it’s never the wrong time. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
I understand that the words are being ‘reclaimed’ and used in a positive way but that’s with consent and in specific circumstances. Definitely with people that know the usage and it’s limits.
If it’s in the first message then it would be a straight block and report as that is about abuse or they just want to write whatever whilst they wank. Either way, it’s a big no |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
Stirling |
Instant turn off..not adverse to being called either but not in a first message for me these words are most effective when a connection has been built with someone - it’s often more about the moment when they are used and who is using them for me xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What about being called a c@nt in the first message ? "
That would piss me off more I think (not that I’m pissed off at being called a slut, more curious about the mindset) |
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"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?
Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…
Genuinely curious about this "
I never have and wouldn’t
I don’t disrespect women
Unless the scene was set and it was discussed 
It makes me feel uncomfortable  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For me this only happens if the lady initiates it, quite a common occurrence though in my experience"
Absolutely right. I love it, from the right person/after consent is given |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?
Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…
Genuinely curious about this "
It's all about context to me.
I mean, I'm definitely a total cake slut/where and will pretty much stick anything in my gob.
If we're talking about getting jiggy with others? I'd be devastated, given I'm practically a vestal virgin.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would just be ignored. Makes me roll my eyes so bad!
There’s a time and context to be filthy like that, and even then. Most of the times I’m not feeling it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't use such terms as my opener. Bit down the like with a consensual sense of fun, sure. But I'd expect to be called such things back because...... Equality! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it’s pretty rude to call someone that in a first message, or even if you haven’t built that connection with someone. It comes across as that’s all they view you as if they call it you straight off the bat. |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
If someone does it in a message before they’ve met me, it’s an instant turnoff and 99% of the time an instant block. What I do with other people is irrelevant, you’re not going to see that side of me unless I know you treat me with respect. |
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"Instant delete, some guys have been watching too much porn "
I don’t think it’s really just porn. I think it’s more in action films of certain niches that guys love watching. Scantily clad women / shitty hip hop lyrics ‘all dem hoes ‘ blah blah that are in so much of current music people listen to. Reinforces terms for use |
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Straight delete!
What right does someone have to just randomly call me those names???
Yes we enjoy using those names in sexy play with eachother but that stays between us, not just anyone who feels like using them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think most men wouldn't see this as an appropriate first message. They either see you as just a vagina or think it's something we want to hear, either way it's shows character. Respect goes both ways, once you have that, I have no issue with it. |
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Nah, don’t think I’d even go with it in a first message even if it states in the profile that they like being called that.
Chat first, definitely talk about the use of that, then when it’s the right time, use away. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I would mark it unread and delete the message and make a note on their profile that they did it so I would not interact with them again in future at any stage.
In my eyes anyone who says that to someone they don't know on here has absolutely no respect for the person and see every woman on here as someone below them to use for their pleasure and discard them like rubbish when done with them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?
Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…
Genuinely curious about this "
I would never say this until i knew it was something that particular person wanted |
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Not in the first message, if you’ve openly discussed it as a kink then fair enough, but consent to use that kind of term to someone is exactly that, consent. People shouldn’t be using it until certain it’s something the person is into abs certainly not on an opening message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do some people ask for permission or wait for consent. Is it roll play? 
In the past I know who or when to use such a seductive word (for someone) and I know who would absolutely turn off all thoughts of sex if they heard that word.
Communication is a lot more than just instructions. |
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"Fairly unequivocal then  "
Yes, pretty much! The Forum is as one!
Going to take a brave (or stupid) man to own up and say that's how he starts every first message he sends! (No, this isn't a confession. I save it for message #2). |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My lover is French born so he calls me ma petite saloppe and I love it  "
But as a first message, before he knew you loved it?
I love it too, with consent |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends on context,wether as insult or as compliment ie your one gorgeous sexy slut.But probably not a good idea till you get to know someone "
Let me get this right.
You are advocating the term ‘you’re gorgeous’ to ‘you’re a whore / slut’ to being the same ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My lover is French born so he calls me ma petite saloppe and I love it
But as a first message, before he knew you loved it?
I love it too, with consent "
No we built up to it in play..so it's in context..
Anyone starts their message like that it's automatic block |
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For me it’s a term that may come into future play but it’s certainly not the way to start a conversation. It’s a binary way of addressing, which may appeal to some but will antagonise many others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?
Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…
Genuinely curious about this "
Call them fuck boys or meat dildos. If people want to identify as a "slut" then fair play to them but don't assume people are just because they use this site. |
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
Orpington |
I would never call a woman that...not even if she wants to be called that...not even if it's a kink of her during sex...I simply find it degrading. If a woman wants to be called " daddy's little cum slut" by a man (in any scenario), I am not that man.
Why would a man call a woman that in the first message they send? He is ignorant...he is uneducated..he is sexually frustrated... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Someone saw I was a dom, still messaged me a whole message about how he’s going to force me down, call me a slut/whore and now he’s going to make me daddy’s little whore, and was surprised when I told him to do one. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
There is a suitable time and place for language like that, and its not in an introductory message.
I worry for them and their families if they think talking to strangers like that is acceptable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah, not how I would approach anyone to be honest. If I'm asked to use language like that down the line thats different, but not as an opener.
You only get one chance to make a first impression. Don't waste it by acting like a letch |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
"Do some people ask for permission or wait for consent. Is it roll play?
In the past I know who or when to use such a seductive word (for someone) and I know who would absolutely turn off all thoughts of sex if they heard that word.
Communication is a lot more than just instructions. "
Each to their own. I’m a kinkster as well as a swinger and I only want partners who will ask my wants and preferences, not just make educated guesses. |
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"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?
Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…
Genuinely curious about this
Call them fuck boys or meat dildos. If people want to identify as a "slut" then fair play to them but don't assume people are just because they use this site. "
As a joke I used to call my ex the meat sack that was attached to my penis. He found it hilarious |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do some people ask for permission or wait for consent. Is it roll play?
In the past I know who or when to use such a seductive word (for someone) and I know who would absolutely turn off all thoughts of sex if they heard that word.
Communication is a lot more than just instructions.
Each to their own. I’m a kinkster as well as a swinger and I only want partners who will ask my wants and preferences, not just make educated guesses. "
You maybe making out I would be making an education guess, … I don’t know.
I can be kinky with the right people, but I don’t want someone handing me a menu or me asking them ‘what are you into?’ I like to find out in more subtle ways. It’s less clinical that way. And also great surprise like a bolt from the blue when someone gets it right. And with enough talking, it’s never wrong with someone.
Each to their own, your right.  |
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"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?
Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…
Genuinely curious about this "
My first reaction is
"Who the fuuuuuuuuuuck do you think you're talking to ya cunt?!! Oh, and before you answer that, make a dentist appointment coz you're gonna fucking need one" |
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"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?
Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…
Genuinely curious about this
My first reaction is
"Who the fuuuuuuuuuuck do you think you're talking to ya cunt?!! Oh, and before you answer that, make a dentist appointment coz you're gonna fucking need one" "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?
Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…
Genuinely curious about this
My first reaction is
"Who the fuuuuuuuuuuck do you think you're talking to ya cunt?!! Oh, and before you answer that, make a dentist appointment coz you're gonna fucking need one" "
So I guess you don’t like it then. … in a first message? |
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"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?
Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…
Genuinely curious about this
My first reaction is
"Who the fuuuuuuuuuuck do you think you're talking to ya cunt?!! Oh, and before you answer that, make a dentist appointment coz you're gonna fucking need one"
So I guess you don’t like it then. … in a first message? "
Cunts. That shit gets earned.
It's a fucking gift not a right. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?
Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…
Genuinely curious about this
My first reaction is
"Who the fuuuuuuuuuuck do you think you're talking to ya cunt?!! Oh, and before you answer that, make a dentist appointment coz you're gonna fucking need one"
So I guess you don’t like it then. … in a first message?
Cunts. That shit gets earned.
It's a fucking gift not a right."
*3 swear words in 3 short sentences….
*steps slowly away……..
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"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?
Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…
Genuinely curious about this
My first reaction is
"Who the fuuuuuuuuuuck do you think you're talking to ya cunt?!! Oh, and before you answer that, make a dentist appointment coz you're gonna fucking need one"
So I guess you don’t like it then. … in a first message?
Cunts. That shit gets earned.
It's a fucking gift not a right.
*3 swear words in 3 short sentences….
*steps slowly away……..
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That’s a record only I could beat |
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"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?
Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…
Genuinely curious about this "
Never done it, wouldn’t ever. Straight block. |
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"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?
Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…
Genuinely curious about this "
Nope def wouldn’t use that in a first message but on meets I have known a few ladies love the term in the middle of things - a massive turn on and if they enjoy it then great but definitely not on a first message x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would roll my eyes literally, and delete. I mean would they do that face to face? If not why do they think it's ok here? "
I asked that, apparently it’s different on here. |
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"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?
Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…
Genuinely curious about this "
What about when women refer to themselves a slut or a whore? If they refer to themselves as a whore, does that actually mean what they charge for sex or do they actually mean slut?
There are several profiles on here where women refer to themselves as whores |
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"I would roll my eyes literally, and delete. I mean would they do that face to face? If not why do they think it's ok here?
I asked that, apparently it’s different on here."
At that point I rage lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would roll my eyes literally, and delete. I mean would they do that face to face? If not why do they think it's ok here?
I asked that, apparently it’s different on here."
Well Yes. … But no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?
Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…
Genuinely curious about this "
I’ve been called a slut more times then I care to mention
Whore wise it comes with the territory, I’m a male escort so essentially it’s factually correct.
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"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?
Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…
Genuinely curious about this "
Totally disagree in calling that on the first message, lack of respect in my view.
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"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?
Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…
Genuinely curious about this "
First message is presumptuous without knowing you. More or a word to use if you share the same vibe and energy. Expect if you profile or comment suggest that type of approach. |
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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago
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"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?
Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…
Genuinely curious about this "
Its a term I would reserve for intimate moments if, and this bit is important, it is something that the lady:
1. Is ok with AND
2. Has asked for on THAT occasion.
There is no reason or excuse to use denigrating terms like this outside of that.
I would suggest that chaps that use these terms lightly, especially in an introductory message have issues and it should be treated as a red flag/block. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone calls you a slut/whore in their first message, what would your reaction be?
Men that call women this, what’s your thinking…
Genuinely curious about this "
Definitely a no. Yes I know what my username is and the odd word is fine. But some men take it too far before they've even said hi |
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By *oBeRodeMan
over a year ago
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"Not in the first message.
Ok, at what point would you do this…"
probably at the polnt with her back legs around my neck after we being doing foreplay for at least an hour when she says fuck me hard with your big cock and call me your dirty cum slut whore but no other circumstances unless she’s been a cunt and you can’t tolerate her anymore |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not in the first message.
Ok, at what point would you do this…probably at the polnt with her back legs around my neck after we being doing foreplay for at least an hour when she says fuck me hard with your big cock and call me your dirty cum slut whore but no other circumstances unless she’s been a cunt and you can’t tolerate her anymore "
Her back legs around your neck? Where are her front legs ? |
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By *uke OzadeMan
over a year ago
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"Not in the first message.
Ok, at what point would you do this…probably at the polnt with her back legs around my neck after we being doing foreplay for at least an hour when she says fuck me hard with your big cock and call me your dirty cum slut whore but no other circumstances unless she’s been a cunt and you can’t tolerate her anymore
Her back legs around your neck? Where are her front legs ? "
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Well if it's a way forward it looks like I've been missing something all these years, but for the moment I'll stick with what works for me, that's pass the compliments, and treat them like a princess unless they tell me different. |
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