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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Mine is race. I hate talking about it. But yet I can’t stop 
Also talking about sex with platonic friends or family. My family are so conservative especially.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Poverty, hate the conversation because poverty in the uk isnt real there is just people who make poor choices and people that make good choices. "
there’s still time to delete this  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Weight. Specifically mine."
Yeah I get that. I get why that would be uncomfortable. I used to get comments from my Nan all the time when I’d come home from uni and now we don’t speak but I’ve already internalised all that shit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am a firm believer in freedom of speech and I have learned to live by it.
As of now, it's not the topics which make me uncomfortable. It's the people. It's not the people who have views opposing to me. It's the people who would resort to personal attacks, even if they are arguing on my side. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Definately Religion i try to stay well clear"
I hear that.
I don’t mind talking religion personally. I find it pretty easy to navigate and I learn lots. But I equally see why it can be really difficult especially if it goes down certain avenues. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The topic of justifying an open relationship based upon the dynamics of co-parenting a disabled child."
Yeah this would be tough. People are so judgemental already as well I bet navigating this conversation is so tough.  |
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Nothing really. Only if a conversation gets to a point where I’m out of my depth. I don’t tend to have many debates as such unless I know what I’m talking about on the subject. As for normal conversations I can’t think of anything. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am a firm believer in freedom of speech and I have learned to live by it.
As of now, it's not the topics which make me uncomfortable. It's the people. It's not the people who have views opposing to me. It's the people who would resort to personal attacks, even if they are arguing on my side."
I hear this. I feel similar. Talking about race doesn’t make me uncomfortable. Nor does talking about sex. But the responses you get or considering the responses you might get do. Around people I trust I feel comfortable having discussions about these things though we don’t always agree. |
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"Mine is race. I hate talking about it. But yet I can’t stop
Also talking about sex with platonic friends or family. My family are so conservative especially. "
As ridiculous as it sounds, taking about the parking in my street gives me massive anxiety at the moment! |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't mind talking about race. Actually I quite enjoy it. I'm quite lucky that I've friends and family who are fairly open to having those discussions though. Do you know what makes me really, really uncomfortable? Talking about how I feel. About others. Or about me. I end up clamming up or waffling or just... avoiding the question. Discussing the other person.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can't say anything much really. I have opinions on many topics and find it interesting having various discussions.
Yep I'm comfortable talking about most things. |
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Clickbait never makes me uncomfortable and most of the topics already mentioned don't either because they have all been endlessly discussed and debated and argued on here.
Individual comments make me more uncomfortable than thread topics.
A discussion about fab friendships can be triggering and uncomfortable when some people give advice or discuss how wonderful and sound others are while you know from experience that it's all made up and they are feathering the nest while hurting so many others.
Now that I think of it though, be nice threads make me uncomfortable for the same reasons as above. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On here? Nothing really. If it's a topic where I feel completely out of my depth I just won't comment.
In real life, anything involving harm to children. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Clickbait never makes me uncomfortable and most of the topics already mentioned don't either because they have all been endlessly discussed and debated and argued on here.
Individual comments make me more uncomfortable than thread topics.
A discussion about fab friendships can be triggering and uncomfortable when some people give advice or discuss how wonderful and sound others are while you know from experience that it's all made up and they are feathering the nest while hurting so many others.
Now that I think of it though, be nice threads make me uncomfortable for the same reasons as above. "
The be nice threads just make me cringe. |
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"As of now, it's not the topics which make me uncomfortable. It's the people."
I agree with this. Happy to talk about most things but only with those that can actually debate, not those that freak out at any opportunity. |
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I’m not what you’d call uncomfortable talking about anything really.
I have views and opinions about most things , as do others, and I’m comfortable about having good discussions.
The time I keep my opinions to myself is when I can’t be arsed with the grief, not that I’m uncomfortable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also discussing other people's success when it makes me feel bad about myself and I have to pretend to be happy for them. I don't even care how shitty and childish that makes me sound. |
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"Politics
Disability stuff, mainly because I anticipate backlash
Why do you expect backlash due to disability? "
Because I've been told I should be grateful for small mercies too many times, and too many people seem to think it's okay for spaces not to be disability accessible, e.g. "but it's an old building" etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Politics
Disability stuff, mainly because I anticipate backlash
Why do you expect backlash due to disability?
Because I've been told I should be grateful for small mercies too many times, and too many people seem to think it's okay for spaces not to be disability accessible, e.g. "but it's an old building" etc."
I hate discussing my disability too. People always say ‘well it could be worse’ and ‘others have it much worse’ and ‘well be grateful’ why should I be grateful at spending my entire life in physical and emotional pain? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nothing really. Only if a conversation gets to a point where I’m out of my depth. I don’t tend to have many debates as such unless I know what I’m talking about on the subject. As for normal conversations I can’t think of anything. "
I think this is the same for me .. Or if the other person is aggressive in their POV /attitude |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The topic that most recently made me uncomfortable was when my dad (95) asked me what lesbians do, sexually. I freely admit I said I didn't know."
Scissoring. |
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"The topic that most recently made me uncomfortable was when my dad (95) asked me what lesbians do, sexually. I freely admit I said I didn't know."
Did you not recommend some educational websites for him?! |
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"The topic that most recently made me uncomfortable was when my dad (95) asked me what lesbians do, sexually. I freely admit I said I didn't know."
See I would have just said not penis dad, not the penis |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't say that topics make me uncomfortable as such.
However any conversation to with economics or how businesses are operated I find difficult to have sometimes. Especially if I'm having it someone that's coming from a republican/conservative/libertarian frame of mind.
Talking to Jordan Peterson fans (about him - I'm not a fan) I also find aren't easy conversations.
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Nothing. I firmly believe that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, whether I agree with it or not. You can learn something from most discussions. Although I have no patience for people who don't seem to think it's acceptable for others to hold differing opinions and/or can't debate calmly and rationally...repeating the same thing over and over isn't going to get me to change my mind, it's just going to make me think you're a bit of a twonk. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nothing. I firmly believe that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, whether I agree with it or not. You can learn something from most discussions. Although I have no patience for people who don't seem to think it's acceptable for others to hold differing opinions and/or can't debate calmly and rationally...repeating the same thing over and over isn't going to get me to change my mind, it's just going to make me think you're a bit of a twonk. "
....you're in the wrong place then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Politics, its something that should be personal. I keep my beliefs personal and generally if politics come up within a conversation ill typically leave the area/table/room or wherever. I find it brings the worse out in people.  |
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"Nothing. I firmly believe that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, whether I agree with it or not. You can learn something from most discussions. Although I have no patience for people who don't seem to think it's acceptable for others to hold differing opinions and/or can't debate calmly and rationally...repeating the same thing over and over isn't going to get me to change my mind, it's just going to make me think you're a bit of a twonk.
....you're in the wrong place then "
*dons rose-tinted glasses*
In the good old days there used to be people on here who didn't get the hump and start making personal attacks just because you said Blur was better than Oasis  |
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"Nothing. I firmly believe that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, whether I agree with it or not. You can learn something from most discussions. Although I have no patience for people who don't seem to think it's acceptable for others to hold differing opinions and/or can't debate calmly and rationally...repeating the same thing over and over isn't going to get me to change my mind, it's just going to make me think you're a bit of a twonk.
....you're in the wrong place then
*dons rose-tinted glasses*
In the good old days there used to be people on here who didn't get the hump and start making personal attacks just because you said Blur was better than Oasis "
There certainly was  |
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"The topic that most recently made me uncomfortable was when my dad (95) asked me what lesbians do, sexually. I freely admit I said I didn't know.
Scissoring."
I had no desire to explain that to him  |
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"The topic that most recently made me uncomfortable was when my dad (95) asked me what lesbians do, sexually. I freely admit I said I didn't know.
Did you not recommend some educational websites for him?! "
No! I dread to think what rabbit hole that would have lead me down |
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"The topic that most recently made me uncomfortable was when my dad (95) asked me what lesbians do, sexually. I freely admit I said I didn't know.
Reminds me of when (god knows how it came up!!) my mum said about anal sex “men and women don’t do that though”. I said yes mum some do. And she said oh god don’t tell your dad .
There was also the time when my aunt was in use late 70s and asked me what a clitoris was for. I also told her I didn't know  "
. They say kids make you laugh with what they come out with but it’s the same with older people too |
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"The topic that most recently made me uncomfortable was when my dad (95) asked me what lesbians do, sexually. I freely admit I said I didn't know.
See I would have just said not penis dad, not the penis "
I never, ever want to discuss lesbian sex with my father...EVER |
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"The topic that most recently made me uncomfortable was when my dad (95) asked me what lesbians do, sexually. I freely admit I said I didn't know.
Reminds me of when (god knows how it came up!!) my mum said about anal sex “men and women don’t do that though”. I said yes mum some do. And she said oh god don’t tell your dad .
There was also the time when my aunt was in use late 70s and asked me what a clitoris was for. I also told her I didn't know
. They say kids make you laugh with what they come out with but it’s the same with older people too "
Yep! I did wonder afterwards if she'd only just discovered they were a thing and felt a bit sorry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The topic that most recently made me uncomfortable was when my dad (95) asked me what lesbians do, sexually. I freely admit I said I didn't know.
Reminds me of when (god knows how it came up!!) my mum said about anal sex “men and women don’t do that though”. I said yes mum some do. And she said oh god don’t tell your dad .
There was also the time when my aunt was in use late 70s and asked me what a clitoris was for. I also told her I didn't know
. They say kids make you laugh with what they come out with but it’s the same with older people too "
Reminds me of when my mum first learned about what Tinder is really used for and then started using it as an adjective. "Ooh, she looks a bit Tindery..." |
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By *lueFireCouple
over a year ago
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"Poverty, hate the conversation because poverty in the uk isnt real there is just people who make poor choices and people that make good choices. there’s still time to delete this "
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"I wouldn't say that topics make me uncomfortable as such.
However any conversation to with economics or how businesses are operated I find difficult to have sometimes. Especially if I'm having it someone that's coming from a republican/conservative/libertarian frame of mind.
Talking to Jordan Peterson fans (about him - I'm not a fan) I also find aren't easy conversations.
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Jordan Peterson himself makes me very uncomfortable. I don't know why. |
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"The topic that most recently made me uncomfortable was when my dad (95) asked me what lesbians do, sexually. I freely admit I said I didn't know.
Reminds me of when (god knows how it came up!!) my mum said about anal sex “men and women don’t do that though”. I said yes mum some do. And she said oh god don’t tell your dad .
There was also the time when my aunt was in use late 70s and asked me what a clitoris was for. I also told her I didn't know
. They say kids make you laugh with what they come out with but it’s the same with older people too
Reminds me of when my mum first learned about what Tinder is really used for and then started using it as an adjective. "Ooh, she looks a bit Tindery..." "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Poverty, hate the conversation because poverty in the uk isnt real there is just people who make poor choices and people that make good choices. there’s still time to delete this "
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"The topic that most recently made me uncomfortable was when my dad (95) asked me what lesbians do, sexually. I freely admit I said I didn't know.
See I would have just said not penis dad, not the penis
I never, ever want to discuss lesbian sex with my father...EVER "
Oh, my Dad informed me recently that he and his (much younger) Spanish lady friend are now just friends, not lovers. I knew they were anyway, but it didn't need reinforcing |
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"The topic that most recently made me uncomfortable was when my dad (95) asked me what lesbians do, sexually. I freely admit I said I didn't know.
Reminds me of when (god knows how it came up!!) my mum said about anal sex “men and women don’t do that though”. I said yes mum some do. And she said oh god don’t tell your dad .
There was also the time when my aunt was in use late 70s and asked me what a clitoris was for. I also told her I didn't know
. They say kids make you laugh with what they come out with but it’s the same with older people too
Reminds me of when my mum first learned about what Tinder is really used for and then started using it as an adjective. "Ooh, she looks a bit Tindery..." "
You laugh, but "to Google" appears to be a verb and various other such examples. Your mother is quite possibly at the vanguard of the evolution of the English language  |
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
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Technically everything. Talking to people makes me anxious because I'm always terrified of putting my foot in it. But also nothing is off limits to me, like someone else said, I'm happy to talk about anything as long as people don't get personal.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Technically everything. Talking to people makes me anxious because I'm always terrified of putting my foot in it. But also nothing is off limits to me, like someone else said, I'm happy to talk about anything as long as people don't get personal.
P"
I hear you, P! I see you.
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Nothing what so ever makes me uncomfortable. Things either are logical or not logical in process for me with conversations Feeling I guess you would call it doesn’t factor in most of the time for me with topics of discussion |
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
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"Technically everything. Talking to people makes me anxious because I'm always terrified of putting my foot in it. But also nothing is off limits to me, like someone else said, I'm happy to talk about anything as long as people don't get personal.
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I hear you, P! I see you.
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Always love for you Steve
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Periods ..just struggle with concept of it and yes I know its natural amd normal just my head can't comprehend how hits normal
How periods are normal?! "
Everyone got that one thing that they can't deal with .. this is one of mine |
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On here, nothing as I’ll just avoid the subject.
In real life it’s ‘why do you cross dress ?’ I get fed up having to explain it and why I can’t just stop.
It’s ok with someone who’s sympathetic but the majority of the times it with someone challenging you.
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
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"Genders, to be completely honest I get kinda of lost with all of them these days. I don't want to insult someone by saying something wrong. "
Join me. I am happy to insult people.
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"Genders, to be completely honest I get kinda of lost with all of them these days. I don't want to insult someone by saying something wrong.
Join me. I am happy to insult people.
C"
ah i dont want to upset anyone its not my way
Its nice to be nice |
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
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"Genders, to be completely honest I get kinda of lost with all of them these days. I don't want to insult someone by saying something wrong.
Join me. I am happy to insult people.
Cah i dont want to upset anyone its not my way
Its nice to be nice "
I'm nice to people who earn it. The rest I am largely indifferent with.
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Poverty - absolutely very real in this country ridiculous comment to make when there are literally people dying through lack of food! Not healthy food ANY food
Being from a dysfunctional family - those who aren’t just don’t get it at all
Illness/disability - Yep! People think they are entitled to question and challenge without considering that by even asking certain questions or in certain ways they’re being offensive and even subtly accusing you of “faking it” (lots of conditions are variable across days/weeks/months even years)
On a (slightly) lighter note - economics as I’m TERRIBLE at maths. I can just about get my head around the basics but when they’re on about interest rates and inflation etc I really don’t understand the details of how it all works and feel stupid! |
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" Illness/disability - Yep!"
I didn't think of this one, but I'm generally not comfortable talking about autism, unless in a professional sense.
These days, such discussions often prove the old adage that a little knowledge is a dangerous thing.
Too many people have watched Atypical on netflix, read a book, heard a TED talk, or watched a movie and gone on to presume that they now know autism. |
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" Illness/disability - Yep!
I didn't think of this one, but I'm generally not comfortable talking about autism, unless in a professional sense.
These days, such discussions often prove the old adage that a little knowledge is a dangerous thing.
Too many people have watched Atypical on netflix, read a book, heard a TED talk, or watched a movie and gone on to presume that they now know autism. "
Not autism but a similarly misunderstood condition with lots of clichéd representations in tv/film/books - so I hear you! |
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" Illness/disability - Yep!
I didn't think of this one, but I'm generally not comfortable talking about autism, unless in a professional sense.
These days, such discussions often prove the old adage that a little knowledge is a dangerous thing.
Too many people have watched Atypical on netflix, read a book, heard a TED talk, or watched a movie and gone on to presume that they now know autism. "
I won’t discuss that with anyone unless they are dealing with it in their every day lives. If they aren’t they know absolutely nothing. They have no idea and aren’t even entitled to an opinion in my view. |
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" Illness/disability - Yep!
I didn't think of this one, but I'm generally not comfortable talking about autism, unless in a professional sense.
These days, such discussions often prove the old adage that a little knowledge is a dangerous thing.
Too many people have watched Atypical on netflix, read a book, heard a TED talk, or watched a movie and gone on to presume that they now know autism. "
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Isn't it interesting how many of us dislike talking about disability related stuff (various)?
I've lost count how many people expect a potted medical history from me, within the first two or three words we exchange.
"Hi, I'm Enid"
"Hi Enid, I'm Mrs KC, nice to meet you"
"So why are you in a wheelchair? You look too young/doesn't look like anything is wrong with you [delete as appropriate]"
Me: 
I've been tempted to get a few 1-side A4 handouts of my (really not exciting) story or perhaps my GP records?! |
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"Isn't it interesting how many of us dislike talking about disability related stuff (various)?
I've lost count how many people expect a potted medical history from me, within the first two or three words we exchange.
"Hi, I'm Enid"
"Hi Enid, I'm Mrs KC, nice to meet you"
"So why are you in a wheelchair? You look too young/doesn't look like anything is wrong with you [delete as appropriate]"
Me:
I've been tempted to get a few 1-side A4 handouts of my (really not exciting) story or perhaps my GP records?!"
I’m shocked people actually do that! I wouldn’t dream of asking someone why they’re in a wheelchair. I know you from here of course and if I didn’t know why and I met you at a social there’s no way I’d ask! |
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Tattoos
Ricky Gervais says it best. The only thing you can really say about someone’s tattoos is “yeah that’s wicked ennit” no matter how awful they are. And the worse they are, the more they wanna show them off. It’s always an awkward position trying to fake it |
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"Isn't it interesting how many of us dislike talking about disability related stuff (various)?
I've lost count how many people expect a potted medical history from me, within the first two or three words we exchange.
"Hi, I'm Enid"
"Hi Enid, I'm Mrs KC, nice to meet you"
"So why are you in a wheelchair? You look too young/doesn't look like anything is wrong with you [delete as appropriate]"
Me:
I've been tempted to get a few 1-side A4 handouts of my (really not exciting) story or perhaps my GP records?!
I’m shocked people actually do that! I wouldn’t dream of asking someone why they’re in a wheelchair. I know you from here of course and if I didn’t know why and I met you at a social there’s no way I’d ask! "
LOADS of people ask. On the bus. In the supermarket. In the queue at Café Nero. Etc. And they expect a reply, not a polite version of "mind your own beeswax".
I don't have a thrilling story about falling off a mountain or a motorcycle crash or whatever, so they're invariably disappointed if I do give any information |
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"Isn't it interesting how many of us dislike talking about disability related stuff (various)?
I've lost count how many people expect a potted medical history from me, within the first two or three words we exchange.
"Hi, I'm Enid"
"Hi Enid, I'm Mrs KC, nice to meet you"
"So why are you in a wheelchair? You look too young/doesn't look like anything is wrong with you [delete as appropriate]"
Me:
I've been tempted to get a few 1-side A4 handouts of my (really not exciting) story or perhaps my GP records?!
I’m shocked people actually do that! I wouldn’t dream of asking someone why they’re in a wheelchair. I know you from here of course and if I didn’t know why and I met you at a social there’s no way I’d ask!
LOADS of people ask. On the bus. In the supermarket. In the queue at Café Nero. Etc. And they expect a reply, not a polite version of "mind your own beeswax".
I don't have a thrilling story about falling off a mountain or a motorcycle crash or whatever, so they're invariably disappointed if I do give any information "
Wow. People really are so nosey! I get it when I park in a disabled bay with my youngest (which I don’t do often). People ask me why I’m parking there?!! Wtf! Like it’s any of their business. I wouldn’t dream of doing that. |
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"Isn't it interesting how many of us dislike talking about disability related stuff (various)?
I've lost count how many people expect a potted medical history from me, within the first two or three words we exchange.
"Hi, I'm Enid"
"Hi Enid, I'm Mrs KC, nice to meet you"
"So why are you in a wheelchair? You look too young/doesn't look like anything is wrong with you [delete as appropriate]"
Me:
I've been tempted to get a few 1-side A4 handouts of my (really not exciting) story or perhaps my GP records?!
I’m shocked people actually do that! I wouldn’t dream of asking someone why they’re in a wheelchair. I know you from here of course and if I didn’t know why and I met you at a social there’s no way I’d ask!
LOADS of people ask. On the bus. In the supermarket. In the queue at Café Nero. Etc. And they expect a reply, not a polite version of "mind your own beeswax".
I don't have a thrilling story about falling off a mountain or a motorcycle crash or whatever, so they're invariably disappointed if I do give any information
Wow. People really are so nosey! I get it when I park in a disabled bay with my youngest (which I don’t do often). People ask me why I’m parking there?!! Wtf! Like it’s any of their business. I wouldn’t dream of doing that. "
Yeah, I get that when I'm pulling into blue badge spaces, before I've got out (on crutches) to get my wheelchair out of the boot. People obviously judging because what they see above the steering wheel is a woman in her 30s, often with a 5yo in the car... Balls to them!! |
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"Isn't it interesting how many of us dislike talking about disability related stuff (various)?
I've lost count how many people expect a potted medical history from me, within the first two or three words we exchange.
"Hi, I'm Enid"
"Hi Enid, I'm Mrs KC, nice to meet you"
"So why are you in a wheelchair? You look too young/doesn't look like anything is wrong with you [delete as appropriate]"
Me:
I've been tempted to get a few 1-side A4 handouts of my (really not exciting) story or perhaps my GP records?!"
My stuff generally falls into “invisible disability” category so I get challenged/judged on having disability travel passes and using the disabled seating, toilets when necessary etc (don’t always use disabled toilets depends on where the “normal” ones are if I can access them) and of course on not working and being on benefits when I’m unable to work.
Still so many people who think they are entitled to judge and comment |
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"Isn't it interesting how many of us dislike talking about disability related stuff (various)?
I've lost count how many people expect a potted medical history from me, within the first two or three words we exchange.
"Hi, I'm Enid"
"Hi Enid, I'm Mrs KC, nice to meet you"
"So why are you in a wheelchair? You look too young/doesn't look like anything is wrong with you [delete as appropriate]"
Me:
I've been tempted to get a few 1-side A4 handouts of my (really not exciting) story or perhaps my GP records?!
My stuff generally falls into “invisible disability” category so I get challenged/judged on having disability travel passes and using the disabled seating, toilets when necessary etc (don’t always use disabled toilets depends on where the “normal” ones are if I can access them) and of course on not working and being on benefits when I’m unable to work.
Still so many people who think they are entitled to judge and comment "
My gym PT (who obviously looks super fit etc) has epilepsy and can't drive. He's had words with train conductors who've asked him about his right to a disabled rail pass! It's fecking ridiculous!
I hope you are doing okay at the moment, Vamp |
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"Isn't it interesting how many of us dislike talking about disability related stuff (various)?
I've lost count how many people expect a potted medical history from me, within the first two or three words we exchange.
"Hi, I'm Enid"
"Hi Enid, I'm Mrs KC, nice to meet you"
"So why are you in a wheelchair? You look too young/doesn't look like anything is wrong with you [delete as appropriate]"
Me:
I've been tempted to get a few 1-side A4 handouts of my (really not exciting) story or perhaps my GP records?!
My stuff generally falls into “invisible disability” category so I get challenged/judged on having disability travel passes and using the disabled seating, toilets when necessary etc (don’t always use disabled toilets depends on where the “normal” ones are if I can access them) and of course on not working and being on benefits when I’m unable to work.
Still so many people who think they are entitled to judge and comment
My gym PT (who obviously looks super fit etc) has epilepsy and can't drive. He's had words with train conductors who've asked him about his right to a disabled rail pass! It's fecking ridiculous!
I hope you are doing okay at the moment, Vamp "
Grinds my fucking gears when people ask loudly about my reasonable adjustments at work. I then get the ah well you would never know you have so and so! And you hide it so well. I don’t hide it just leave me alone and stop fecking talking about  |
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"Isn't it interesting how many of us dislike talking about disability related stuff (various)?
I've lost count how many people expect a potted medical history from me, within the first two or three words we exchange.
"Hi, I'm Enid"
"Hi Enid, I'm Mrs KC, nice to meet you"
"So why are you in a wheelchair? You look too young/doesn't look like anything is wrong with you [delete as appropriate]"
Me:
I've been tempted to get a few 1-side A4 handouts of my (really not exciting) story or perhaps my GP records?!
My stuff generally falls into “invisible disability” category so I get challenged/judged on having disability travel passes and using the disabled seating, toilets when necessary etc (don’t always use disabled toilets depends on where the “normal” ones are if I can access them) and of course on not working and being on benefits when I’m unable to work.
Still so many people who think they are entitled to judge and comment
My gym PT (who obviously looks super fit etc) has epilepsy and can't drive. He's had words with train conductors who've asked him about his right to a disabled rail pass! It's fecking ridiculous!
I hope you are doing okay at the moment, Vamp "
So many ignorant people about, my daughter also disabled (not the same conditions) but looks young, slim, healthy, mobile (for the moment thankfully) and has similar nonsense! Ridiculous! |
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"Isn't it interesting how many of us dislike talking about disability related stuff (various)?
I've lost count how many people expect a potted medical history from me, within the first two or three words we exchange.
"Hi, I'm Enid"
"Hi Enid, I'm Mrs KC, nice to meet you"
"So why are you in a wheelchair? You look too young/doesn't look like anything is wrong with you [delete as appropriate]"
Me:
I've been tempted to get a few 1-side A4 handouts of my (really not exciting) story or perhaps my GP records?!
My stuff generally falls into “invisible disability” category so I get challenged/judged on having disability travel passes and using the disabled seating, toilets when necessary etc (don’t always use disabled toilets depends on where the “normal” ones are if I can access them) and of course on not working and being on benefits when I’m unable to work.
Still so many people who think they are entitled to judge and comment
My gym PT (who obviously looks super fit etc) has epilepsy and can't drive. He's had words with train conductors who've asked him about his right to a disabled rail pass! It's fecking ridiculous!
I hope you are doing okay at the moment, Vamp "
Sorry meant to say I’m not too bad at the moment- waxes and wanes as many peoples health does, I’m better in spring and summer as cold damp weather makes me worse |
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"Isn't it interesting how many of us dislike talking about disability related stuff (various)?
I've lost count how many people expect a potted medical history from me, within the first two or three words we exchange.
"Hi, I'm Enid"
"Hi Enid, I'm Mrs KC, nice to meet you"
"So why are you in a wheelchair? You look too young/doesn't look like anything is wrong with you [delete as appropriate]"
Me:
I've been tempted to get a few 1-side A4 handouts of my (really not exciting) story or perhaps my GP records?!
My stuff generally falls into “invisible disability” category so I get challenged/judged on having disability travel passes and using the disabled seating, toilets when necessary etc (don’t always use disabled toilets depends on where the “normal” ones are if I can access them) and of course on not working and being on benefits when I’m unable to work.
Still so many people who think they are entitled to judge and comment
My gym PT (who obviously looks super fit etc) has epilepsy and can't drive. He's had words with train conductors who've asked him about his right to a disabled rail pass! It's fecking ridiculous!
I hope you are doing okay at the moment, Vamp
Grinds my fucking gears when people ask loudly about my reasonable adjustments at work. I then get the ah well you would never know you have so and so! And you hide it so well. I don’t hide it just leave me alone and stop fecking talking about "
Exactly! Nobody else’s business |
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