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By *alguyMan
over a year ago
Gibraltar & Manchester |
I've never definitively ended a friendship (like say getting dumped as a teen or whatever) but of course many have just lapsed and fizzled away over time.
But also had some rekindled for whatever reason often just carrying one where we left off, even after decades. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't abandon my friends even if i was the one who had to be abandoned its who i am thats my code if someone has got close enough to me they are family and i don't know anyone who would abandon family if i need to be sacrificed for someone i care for to be happy il hate it but i will take it |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Fizzle; it naturally happens over time. Sometimes I've explained why but I feel awful about it and then try and make the other person feel less bad so it becomes complicated. So fizzle generally. Trying to be better at speaking openly though. |
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"Have you ever had to let a friendship go? Like make a purposeful decision that the relationship is done now and step away? Do you tell the other person or let it fizzle? "
Yes, my (ex) best friend and I parted company 11 years ago. We'd been best friends since school. It was very acrimonious at the end. We were just completely different people and couldn't reconcile.
I've 0 regrets. |
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I leave town, admittedly very expensive, new job, family, memories but at least I don’t have to see the tears and tantrums.
Although I’m guessing if I ended a friendship there’d be tears and tantrums, or else the moving towns would be a waste of time.    |
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Let it fizzle - and if the other person makes no effort at that point, it probably means you’re mutually fizzling.
I’ve tried the more up-front method, but I end up feeling shitty and regretful that way. Chances are I’d you’re at the point of making this decision, you don’t need the extra baggage. |
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Social friends sure, they fizzle out all the time.
Inner circle family, never. We always talk through it and come to a mutual conclusion, and I'm talking friends I'd trust my kids with, if we decide to take a break we decide it together  |
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We let them fizzle out it’s the best way all around. It’s hard sometimes as a couple if one of you has stronger feelings than the other. But ultimately it’s always about us as a couple and that has to come first. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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Most people who I've not wanted in touch with it just fizzled away. Usually because I got fed up of being the one to make an effort all the time to keep the friendship going .Or some who I realised over time were never a friend ànyhow but were just using me for what they thought were their own gain. It's just easier to let friendships like those fizzle away I guess,because sometimes even if you try and talk it through things will get twisted and lies get told to others .Mind you sometimes that happens regardless but I suppose it just shows you were never true friends when they do that anyhow and says more about them than you. You're better off away from people who do that I've found throughout my life.
Luckily I have a couple of amazing real friends who I trust and know we are there for each other no matter what happens in out lives.Some I've known for over 20 years others are more recent but they are true friendships and worth their weight in gold.
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I don't have a single friend from school because I found I was the one making all the effort to keep in touch.
I don't have the time or energy for one way friendships so I let them fizzle out without making a fuss over it.
The only time I gave an explanation was to someone I believed was toxic and she was attempting to affect my friendship with others.
She was already stalking her ex all over social media and as soon as I walked away she decided to do likewise with me.
If you aren't feeling it you are much better off just letting it go without explaining yourself because that usually just leads to further drama.
Most of the above also applies to fab friends if you think they are using you for their own agenda. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you ever had to let a friendship go? Like make a purposeful decision that the relationship is done now and step away? Do you tell the other person or let it fizzle? "
It would entirely depend on the reason I feel it needs to end.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not the most sociable of people normally and I don't really like phoning people to chat. I prefer face to face. I will chat when they are in front of me, but I'm terrible in keeping in contact so most of mine fizzle. |
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I let a friendship with my very best friend from when I was a teenager fizzle out as life took over
Recently we met up and talked about the past and had a good laugh about our escapades but it’s not the same and I don’t feel the need to get in touch again which is a big shame |
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Thinking back I've actually told two people I no longer want to be their friend. One was an alcoholic and I told her I couldn't be her friend until she sought help. Another was stalking a mutual friend of ours in a very creepy way and tried to get to her through me. I told her I never wanted to see or speak to her again. |
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I've allowed a number of friendships to end mostly due to negative behaviours that I was longer willing to tolerate
Unfortunately that has also impacted where there have been mutual friends caught in the middle. |
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We’ve let some fizzle out of their own accord but as we’ve aged our fucks given has become far less and if one of us starts to feel something isn’t what we wanted then we’re more inclined to just cold cut tie’s these days.
When it comes to new friendship’s it takes time for true colours to show through.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not the most sociable of people normally and I don't really like phoning people to chat. I prefer face to face. I will chat when they are in front of me, but I'm terrible in keeping in contact so most of mine fizzle."
Do you text/ message?
I can't remember the last time I spoke to someone on the phone who wasn't a doctor's receptionist/ takeaway.  |
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I did a few years ago with 2 close friends. I wrote a long letter to them both, explaining how they were making me feel. Which was I needed help I was about to leave my ex, which I had avoided asking for help as they both had recently split up from their partners, so o helped them and was asking for the same help in return. They got defensive and dismissive and I cut off all contact from them. It hurt but it was the correct decision. |
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