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I was wondering how others feel about this. Does anybody else like to have friendship with people as well as the sex side? I have a lot of time on my hands and I like to chat - and I fully get that not everybody wants that or has the time for it or would argue that’s not what this is about - but it’s what I like. I’m married and my husband has an account here too, I’m not looking for a romantic relationship at all, but equally I’m left feeling a bit meh when guys I’ve been messaging predominantly or only pop up in my messages when they’re obviously horny. I want to feel like I’m worth more than just somebody to get people off at their convenience I guess.
I love nothing more than getting those teenage crush feelings and for me that needs to be two-sided - the bonus for them being that’s when they really get the best of me.
Possibly I’m being unrealistic expecting this, but I’ve had it in the past so I know it does exist! |
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over a year ago
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I'm definitely looking for friendship as well as NSA sex,I've met a couple of ladies in the past through fab who have become good friends as well as fuck buddies. The better you know someone,the better the sex. |
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over a year ago
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"I was wondering how others feel about this. Does anybody else like to have friendship with people as well as the sex side? I have a lot of time on my hands and I like to chat - and I fully get that not everybody wants that or has the time for it or would argue that’s not what this is about - but it’s what I like. I’m married and my husband has an account here too, I’m not looking for a romantic relationship at all, but equally I’m left feeling a bit meh when guys I’ve been messaging predominantly or only pop up in my messages when they’re obviously horny. I want to feel like I’m worth more than just somebody to get people off at their convenience I guess.
I love nothing more than getting those teenage crush feelings and for me that needs to be two-sided - the bonus for them being that’s when they really get the best of me.
Possibly I’m being unrealistic expecting this, but I’ve had it in the past so I know it does exist! "
I love a good chat .James. XXX |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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You’re not alone and the vast majority of my interactions are based on that type of dynamic.
I’ve got several friends on fab that I just chat with and there’s nothing beyond our friendship, others where it has built to meeting.
You’re not alone and I’m always happy to chat with folks. It’s all about being a person, not just body parts |
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"A fwb? Er……yeh.  "
Possibly, although I know some people take this to mean you spend time hanging out and just doing stuff you’d do as friends, I’m not really looking for that side of it though - although having somebody to go for walks with would be good since that’s something my husband and I can’t do that I’d like to be able to! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was looking for 'nameless' sex, but i have found a handful of great friends and i am also truly grateful to have met an incredible person, who i know will be a part of my life forever
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"A fwb? Er……yeh.
Possibly, although I know some people take this to mean you spend time hanging out and just doing stuff you’d do as friends, I’m not really looking for that side of it though - although having somebody to go for walks with would be good since that’s something my husband and I can’t do that I’d like to be able to!"
Your in a relationship, your wants are slightly different to mine.
You already said, ‘popping up wanting something sexy’ I’m not into that either.
I can talk about alsorts and enjoy that type of online friendship, which sadly can sometimes make people forget how much I want to be naked sat in a chair at the end of the bed with their legs over my shoulders
I want people to be in my life for chats and sexy sex stuff. That’s what makes me feel most comfortable and confident to be more myself with them.  |
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"Social friendships sure, I'm always happy to chat
Inner circle stuff is kept for real-life friends and that group is always kept very small, trust issues and all that Jazz..."
Oh absolutely! I think I just kind of need to feel like matter on some level and am not just a glorified sex bot to people! |
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"Social friendships sure, I'm always happy to chat
Inner circle stuff is kept for real-life friends and that group is always kept very small, trust issues and all that Jazz...
Oh absolutely! I think I just kind of need to feel like matter on some level and am not just a glorified sex bot to people! "
A kind of fwb relationship then, have you looked at hothusbands? |
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"Social friendships sure, I'm always happy to chat
Inner circle stuff is kept for real-life friends and that group is always kept very small, trust issues and all that Jazz...
Oh absolutely! I think I just kind of need to feel like matter on some level and am not just a glorified sex bot to people!
A kind of fwb relationship then, have you looked at hothusbands?"
I haven’t, mainly because my self-confidence is rubbish and the thought of being talked about between a husband and wife terrifies me!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m looking for partners. So expect friendships as a minimum. At the moment I don’t have the space to give a fair friendship because life is on top of me. But when I do have the space I would like someone to talk to often, go on dates with, have sex with etc. if someone only wanted to be fwb, that’s also fine as long as we remember the friend bit. I think communicating expectations around relationships with people is important but recognise it’s tough. I find it tough. triggers my anxiety. But it’s the key to success. On fab I think most people are after really casual encounters or they’re looking for a main/ primary partner. So it’s hard to sort through that but you’ll find the one that treats you like you’re worth  |
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"Social friendships sure, I'm always happy to chat
Inner circle stuff is kept for real-life friends and that group is always kept very small, trust issues and all that Jazz...
Oh absolutely! I think I just kind of need to feel like matter on some level and am not just a glorified sex bot to people!
A kind of fwb relationship then, have you looked at hothusbands?
I haven’t, mainly because my self-confidence is rubbish and the thought of being talked about between a husband and wife terrifies me! "
There is that yes. But with the right one for you, they can be great. Especially with the friend/sex stability balance and and of course knowing he's going home for reclaim sex is hot 
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think the kind of relationship you have with people is usually established from the get go. Even the people I see regularly, I don't want to talk to all the time as we all have lives outside of here. If they pop up now and again to see how you are and general chit chat then that's what I'd call a fwb. If they only pop up when they are horny, it's a bootycall. Only you can decide if your happy with that or want something deeper. |
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"Only if it's on equal terms, I've been friendly to a couple of people only to be let down/disappointed.
I want connections in real life, not just on a screen."
That’s frustrating, I’m sorry to hear that. Hope you manage to find those connections x |
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I’m definitely here for the friendship aspect and would much prefer to be friends with my sexual partners rather than just seem like a living sex toy.
There’s a particular person I’ve been chatting to on here for coming on a couple of years now, we’ve not had sex (yet) |
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
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I’m open to a range of options from just chatting to one off meets, to regular fun to friendship with women or without sex being involved or even just a cuddle buddy. I don’t image myself ever being able to become really emotionally attached to anyone again but all those other options are on the table. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I really would like to make friends with people, near to me preferably. My life has led my away from my friends and family, they're all down south and since splitting up "our" friends dropped me like a hot turd. I'm time and cash poor, the Internet, messages and social media is not a medium I'm good at, think it's my adhd and dyslexia that make it difficult im not sure. I just hope one day someone will invest a bit of time in me and discover me and not the clumsy arsed, grumpy git I would appear to be |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very much OP. I have two or three great friends from Fab. We talk about all sorts, visit places etc. I think the physical side can add depth to the friendship, even if it's infrequent. I've found that both on and off Fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's nice to have good friends and I've made a few over the years I've been on here, some Istill chat to even though they left the site. It's true its not all about sex... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was wondering how others feel about this. Does anybody else like to have friendship with people as well as the sex side? I have a lot of time on my hands and I like to chat - and I fully get that not everybody wants that or has the time for it or would argue that’s not what this is about - but it’s what I like. I’m married and my husband has an account here too, I’m not looking for a romantic relationship at all, but equally I’m left feeling a bit meh when guys I’ve been messaging predominantly or only pop up in my messages when they’re obviously horny. I want to feel like I’m worth more than just somebody to get people off at their convenience I guess.
I love nothing more than getting those teenage crush feelings and for me that needs to be two-sided - the bonus for them being that’s when they really get the best of me.
Possibly I’m being unrealistic expecting this, but I’ve had it in the past so I know it does exist! "
I totally know where you're coming from.
It's nice to get close to someone. So many are afraid of feelings, but feelings are what make us human. As long as you set ground rules and communicate regularly, it can be wonderful and luckily I've experienced it a couple of times in the past. Just looking for my next willing victim |
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This is what keeps me coming back. I am amazed by the people I have met through here who have become great friends. I prefer the multiple aspect as it keeps at least a little distance. I don't have to have one person fulfill all my needs and vice versa.
Without the friendship, the sex would feel hollow |
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"I was wondering how others feel about this. Does anybody else like to have friendship with people as well as the sex side? I have a lot of time on my hands and I like to chat - and I fully get that not everybody wants that or has the time for it or would argue that’s not what this is about - but it’s what I like. I’m married and my husband has an account here too, I’m not looking for a romantic relationship at all, but equally I’m left feeling a bit meh when guys I’ve been messaging predominantly or only pop up in my messages when they’re obviously horny. I want to feel like I’m worth more than just somebody to get people off at their convenience I guess.
I love nothing more than getting those teenage crush feelings and for me that needs to be two-sided - the bonus for them being that’s when they really get the best of me.
Possibly I’m being unrealistic expecting this, but I’ve had it in the past so I know it does exist!
I totally know where you're coming from.
It's nice to get close to someone. So many are afraid of feelings, but feelings are what make us human. As long as you set ground rules and communicate regularly, it can be wonderful and luckily I've experienced it a couple of times in the past. Just looking for my next willing victim "
Yes! Exactly this!
Good luck x |
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I do currently have two FWBs that I would count primarily as friends. We message often to chat and meet up socially as often as we meet up for sex.
I get that it's not for everyone but it's my preferred style of arrangement and I find it works well for me. |
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Did I come here looking for friends? No.
My opinion has definitely changed though, I do need more of a connection.
Somewhere between and FB and an FWB would be lovely.
Regular friends too, can never have too many people to help you pass the day. |
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I think it hard thing to find and like us we are looking for that couple of lady that we can go to the pub and have drinks then back to ours to see how the night goes fun or no fun it still be a good night. Sometimes it hard thing to find when u have kids but if u find someone that gets that it opens up more time to have fun and play too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my book friendship almost comes first before sex if I can't get on with someone then I find sex quite flat.
With my FWB if the sex stopped today I know we would be mates for life because she's awesome a real down to earth wonderful person |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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The people I'm closest to in my life I've found here. Some I speak to every day, some not so often. But I know they have my back, which is incredible to me given past experience.
I've also found friends with whom I've shared benefits, and friends with whom I may share benefits, and that's glorious.
And I've found in one person so much more than I ever thought I would.
The friendship is the most important thing to me with all of these people though. And I don't want to go through life without them now. |
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Yes, for me friendship is equally if not more important than sex.
I can be a great and loyal friend without the need for benefits but having a close friendship with someone I'm having sex with is even better.
It's much more intimate and raw when there are literally no physical or mental barriers and being completely naked means more than just removing clothing.
Having fab friends even when distance means you may never meet is also fulfilling.
You can still be supportive and encourage them from afar.
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