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Would you talk about your ex on a first date??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe. Maybe not. If it’s relevant I don’t see why talking about your past is that bad, I’m might be trying to find out about them too.
What am going to do? Get jealous?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you're talking about your ex, obviously not in the right head space for dating."
So where did you go on your lady holiday?
USA
Who with?
I can’t tell you that?
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"Only in that we remained friends, despite how she treated me."
Oh and that in still dealing with the scars. It's better to be upfront about these things so that they know what they are getting into. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well she was a significant part of my life for the last 20 years, we've two kids and we still need to be in contact, I honestly can't see how she wouldn't come up in conversation somewhere. Just as long as you're not banging on about how wonderful, beautiful, attractive or whatever they are it should be fine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well she was a significant part of my life for the last 20 years, we've two kids and we still need to be in contact, I honestly can't see how she wouldn't come up in conversation somewhere. Just as long as you're not banging on about how wonderful, beautiful, attractive or whatever they are it should be fine."
26 yrs. I win.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well she was a significant part of my life for the last 20 years, we've two kids and we still need to be in contact, I honestly can't see how she wouldn't come up in conversation somewhere. Just as long as you're not banging on about how wonderful, beautiful, attractive or whatever they are it should be fine.
26 yrs. I win.
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Christ! Did you get extra time for bad behaviour or something?  |
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As a young 20 something, I had a date talk about her ex, it got a little annoying when she repeated the same thing a little later in the night, how he made her want for nothing.
Apparently charming her with the words “just shut up and kiss me” was all it took to get her to stop. 
We had a few dates afterwards but a distance relationship wasn’t on the cards for me at that point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well she was a significant part of my life for the last 20 years, we've two kids and we still need to be in contact, I honestly can't see how she wouldn't come up in conversation somewhere. Just as long as you're not banging on about how wonderful, beautiful, attractive or whatever they are it should be fine.
26 yrs. I win.
Christ! Did you get extra time for bad behaviour or something? "
I know, that’ll teach me to let someone tie me to a bed.  |
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Depends on where the conversation goes. I wouldn't bring them up but I'm 48 years of age so it's pretty obvious I have some there in the background and shouldn't come as a shock to anyone.
It wouldn't put me off if the person I was meeting brought their ex up anecdotally, I think I'd only have an issue if the ex was their main topic of conversation or if it was obvious they are still working through major issues with their previous relationships. I want to spend time with them, not with them and their ex. |
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The last date I went on my ex husband was in the pub. He never goes out or drinks. We get on really well and see him most days because of my son. Anyway he comes up to me and starts chatting. He found it funny I didn't  |
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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago
Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?) |
"If you're talking about your ex, obviously not in the right head space for dating."
That's a useful red flag if they make a lot of references to an ex when you've not even asked (...children aside) |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
Burnleyish (She/They) |
I did on my first date with my husband. But then I talked about lots of things about where I was in life and what I was looking for.
We both talked about how our past experiences had shaped who were were and more importantly, what we did and didn't want out of a relationship. |
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"I did on my first date with my husband. But then I talked about lots of things about where I was in life and what I was looking for.
We both talked about how our past experiences had shaped who were were and more importantly, what we did and didn't want out of a relationship."
This is what I would do if I god forbid, ever dated again. |
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Never specifically, but if something came up in conversation it might mean a passing mention about an ex and an experience we had together. But certainly wouldn't Labour the point. Equally wouldn't avoid it. We all have history and out experiences make us who we are today. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you're talking about your ex, obviously not in the right head space for dating."
Exactly why I won’t date.
If they asked about my ex I’d cry and leave as I miss him terribly  |
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By *ymster10Man
over a year ago
Ellesmere Port |
Interesting question
If you already know the person in question , I’m guessing their going to know a bit about your past over previous small talk “ are you married , partner single , etc “.. This leading to the date obviously..!
if they then ask on the date about your previous relationship, you can tell them something about it .. Wasn’t right for either of you leading to more when you feel comfortable to talk more about it , and then hammer them for what their worth .. Making your new Muse feeling totally wonderful about themselves, that your not going back .. |
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