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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Seems like EVERYONE is getting married, I don’t know if it’s because it’s a millennial thing and it’s that time that everyone is finally tying the not. But it seems that way?? 2 girls I met recently are getting married soon, one of my good friends is going to 3 weddings, I’ve been invited to 2.
I keep seeing it on Instagram…
It’s making me resentful and it’s not a good look! (Tho I’m not going to have a crease on my forehead over it)
And there’s me, a single Pringle , scrambling for scraps and dealing with fuck boys (mind you, at least they are VERY pretty ones) who I wouldn’t trust handling a piece of my chewed, chewing gum… never mind trusting them on actually committing to something.
What am I doing wrong? Guys! X   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No dating advice here, I’m out of practice since I’m two weeks off my 20th wedding anniversary, but the number of weddings is probably an age thing, I remember that phase.
Sending love  x"
Congrats on ur wedding anniversary!! That’s amazing x
It’s an unbearable phase  I’m feeling like the grinch |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And all my friends are splitting up and divorcing…
New love is wonderful to watch and give us hope op.
You’d be a catch for anyone who truly falls for you, And only you know if you’d be up for it all though. Can you imagine your whole life with them? If not, you don’t want marriage, you like the idea of it. Just enjoy peoples company, that’s good too.
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"No dating advice here, I’m out of practice since I’m two weeks off my 20th wedding anniversary, but the number of weddings is probably an age thing, I remember that phase.
Sending love x
Congrats on ur wedding anniversary!! That’s amazing x
It’s an unbearable phase I’m feeling like the grinch "
Bless you xx
And thank you, knowing my relationship with my husband it’s actually a miracle |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"And all my friends are splitting up and divorcing…
New love is wonderful to watch and give us hope op.
You’d be a catch for anyone who truly falls for you, And only you know if you’d be up for it all though. Can you imagine your whole life with them? If not, you don’t want marriage, you like the idea of it. Just enjoy peoples company, that’s good too.
*not a relationship expert. "
Thanks for this, I mean, divorce is pain. So I guess I do like the idea of it (like I love the idea of a lot of things… sur-fucking-prise), more than the reality but who knows, maybe once I find the one I’ll change my mind tho x
God , why am I like this?!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's not a millennial thing. In every generation there comes a time when all your friends are getting married. "
Yeah I meant as it’s the millennial time to do it, so generational. That’s what I meant |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Probably Covid and lockdown has a bit to do with that. A couple of my mates and their partners moved in together (not all together obvs) but maybe it made people realise that they can spend the rest of their lives with that person. It's actually quite wholesome to see considering we're considered the fuck it and Chuck it generation  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Probably Covid and lockdown has a bit to do with that. A couple of my mates and their partners moved in together (not all together obvs) but maybe it made people realise that they can spend the rest of their lives with that person. It's actually quite wholesome to see considering we're considered the fuck it and Chuck it generation "
It definitely made or break. |
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"It's not a millennial thing. In every generation there comes a time when all your friends are getting married.
Yeah I meant as it’s the millennial time to do it, so generational. That’s what I meant "
Ok you're forgiven. These millennials sometimes think they're a special unique breed  |
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
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From my perspective it appears like you are overly attached to the idea of being with someone that looks in a specific way first and being with someone that treats you in a specific way second ... if you are looking for a life partner, you have to start with the notion that looks will eventually fade away ( so that aspect becomes less important or irrelevant altogether). I'm not saying to lower your standards, I'm not saying you can't find a man that is beautiful both on the inside and outside (what ever that means to you), but those are not very easy to find.
When I get married or decide to start a new relationship, I want to make sure it's with the right woman...but before I meet the right woman I want to make sure I am the right man...therefore I will be focusing on myself for now |
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Think you're at that age OP, most of my friends got married late 20's early 30's. It's not that you are doing anything wrong whatsoever, everyone finds their own path. And I'm now in the age category that several of us are now getting divorced, so who wants to keep up with the crowd? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Think you're at that age OP, most of my friends got married late 20's early 30's. It's not that you are doing anything wrong whatsoever, everyone finds their own path. And I'm now in the age category that several of us are now getting divorced, so who wants to keep up with the crowd? "
I guess you feel the pressure and you are like… why is this even happening
But hey ho, one future bride did say “sounds like you are living the hot girl summer dream, we all secretely want” haha
I died
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By *inkycatWoman
over a year ago
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Don’t be jealous - I know someone who is getting married and his other half is completely oblivious to the fact he is seeing another woman. When I questioned why he was doing it, he said it was to keep her happy but nothing would change… poor woman  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"From my perspective it appears like you are overly attached to the idea of being with someone that looks in a specific way first and being with someone that treats you in a specific way second ... if you are looking for a life partner, you have to start with the notion that looks will eventually fade away ( so that aspect becomes less important or irrelevant altogether). I'm not saying to lower your standards, I'm not saying you can't find a man that is beautiful both on the inside and outside (what ever that means to you), but those are not very easy to find.
When I get married or decide to start a new relationship, I want to make sure it's with the right woman...but before I meet the right woman I want to make sure I am the right man...therefore I will be focusing on myself for now "
I mean, I see your point! I mean, I do have a type for sure, in every way |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don’t be jealous - I know someone who is getting married and his other half is completely oblivious to the fact he is seeing another woman. When I questioned why he was doing it, he said it was to keep her happy but nothing would change… poor woman "
You know what, I (shamefully) admit I’ve been the other woman a few times, and I did talk to some of these men. And they all seem to give the same answer. Either that or , it is what it is. Or can’t change things but (dick talk) if things were different id want you to be my gf… (yeah right)
Obviously now, looking back, I kinda wish I didn’t let myself know that side of some people, as it has created such a trust issue and jaded me a bit. |
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It's definitely just the phase of life you are in and is the done thing. Just because you meet someone in your twenties/thirties doesn't mean you are guaranteed to soulmates and will last forever, if it's going to happen then it's going to happen any time. Congrats to the folk that do but it's just not for me |
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Think of it this way at least it's weddings and not funerals. Don't worry about what's happening around you statistically speaking I'm sure some of the people you know getting married will end up divorced |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm going to lots of divorce parties this summer.
Have you read Block, Delete, Move On?
Ouhh no, do I have to go buy it? X "
I enjoyed reading it. It was very relatable. I would lend it to you but you're too far away |
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"I'm not getting married. Everything I ever learnt about marriage, I learnt from my parents and can be summed up as a very expensive legally binding contract"
My parents were abysmal at marriages. Dad 4 of them, Mum 3. However both my brother and I are happily married in steady, very long term relationships. It doesn't have to follow that history repeats.
Nor do you have to get married either! |
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"Think of it this way at least it's weddings and not funerals. Don't worry about what's happening around you statistically speaking I'm sure some of the people you know getting married will end up divorced "
Yeah, it's funerals for me at the moment  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From my perspective it appears like you are overly attached to the idea of being with someone that looks in a specific way first and being with someone that treats you in a specific way second ... if you are looking for a life partner, you have to start with the notion that looks will eventually fade away ( so that aspect becomes less important or irrelevant altogether). I'm not saying to lower your standards, I'm not saying you can't find a man that is beautiful both on the inside and outside (what ever that means to you), but those are not very easy to find.
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Excellent advice.
Take everything on Instagram with a pinch of salt too. People trying to show off their lives when they are likely dead inside. |
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"I'm not getting married. Everything I ever learnt about marriage, I learnt from my parents and can be summed up as a very expensive legally binding contract
My parents were abysmal at marriages. Dad 4 of them, Mum 3. However both my brother and I are happily married in steady, very long term relationships. It doesn't have to follow that history repeats.
Nor do you have to get married either!"
I agree, I just dont think it's for me |
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Marriage is over rated.
No one really takes marriage seriously.
Everyone lies and the grass is always greener on the other side.
Marriage is just a word to keep people together...they might as well use the word handcuffs instead. |
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"I'm going to lots of divorce parties this summer.
Have you read Block, Delete, Move On?
Ouhh no, do I have to go buy it? X
I enjoyed reading it. It was very relatable. I would lend it to you but you're too far away "
I follow her on Instagram, she's brillilliant! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems like EVERYONE is getting married, I don’t know if it’s because it’s a millennial thing and it’s that time that everyone is finally tying the not. But it seems that way?? 2 girls I met recently are getting married soon, one of my good friends is going to 3 weddings, I’ve been invited to 2.
I keep seeing it on Instagram…
It’s making me resentful and it’s not a good look! (Tho I’m not going to have a crease on my forehead over it)
And there’s me, a single Pringle , scrambling for scraps and dealing with fuck boys (mind you, at least they are VERY pretty ones) who I wouldn’t trust handling a piece of my chewed, chewing gum… never mind trusting them on actually committing to something.
What am I doing wrong? Guys! X "
Girl, same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"From my perspective it appears like you are overly attached to the idea of being with someone that looks in a specific way first and being with someone that treats you in a specific way second ... if you are looking for a life partner, you have to start with the notion that looks will eventually fade away ( so that aspect becomes less important or irrelevant altogether). I'm not saying to lower your standards, I'm not saying you can't find a man that is beautiful both on the inside and outside (what ever that means to you), but those are not very easy to find.
When I get married or decide to start a new relationship, I want to make sure it's with the right woman...but before I meet the right woman I want to make sure I am the right man...therefore I will be focusing on myself for now "
This says it really well, and especially about focusing on yourself. You have to love yourself first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm sure once the weddings are done and dusted you won't be feeling like this. Just ride it out, enjoy the parties you've been invited to and wish them all the best  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Seems like EVERYONE is getting married, I don’t know if it’s because it’s a millennial thing and it’s that time that everyone is finally tying the not. But it seems that way?? 2 girls I met recently are getting married soon, one of my good friends is going to 3 weddings, I’ve been invited to 2.
I keep seeing it on Instagram…
It’s making me resentful and it’s not a good look! (Tho I’m not going to have a crease on my forehead over it)
And there’s me, a single Pringle , scrambling for scraps and dealing with fuck boys (mind you, at least they are VERY pretty ones) who I wouldn’t trust handling a piece of my chewed, chewing gum… never mind trusting them on actually committing to something.
What am I doing wrong? Guys! X
Girl, same. "
catch 22 |
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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago
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Marriage doesn’t come when you’re looking for it imo.
I’m planning my second wedding. I was widowed 5 years ago after a very happy 10 year marriage.
Pretty much the only thing in common both have is that I wasn’t looking, or expecting, anything serious either time.
It’ll find you when it’s right. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Marriage doesn’t come when you’re looking for it imo.
I’m planning my second wedding. I was widowed 5 years ago after a very happy 10 year marriage.
Pretty much the only thing in common both have is that I wasn’t looking, or expecting, anything serious either time.
It’ll find you when it’s right. "
To be fair I’d be just okay to be with a guy I trust and fancy that treats me right. I ain’t asking for much |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Enjoy the parties OP. Think of all the hot guys, best man etc in suits...
Love a wedding, just wish i hadnt had one myself !"
Sets reminder: don’t shag the groom
I’m KIDDING!! I’m not that bad |
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