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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Curious. I’ve always read them. Men on here say they always read them. Some of the math ain’t mathing.

#NotAllMen

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oooh look new thread what’s it about?

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By *inger_SnapWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

They really don't!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Oooh look new thread what’s it about? "

Info in my profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"They really don't! "

*pretends to be shocked*

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

Quite a lot don't, Steve

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By *phrodite_AdonisCouple over a year ago

They absolutely do read them, assume it doesn’t apply to them and blindly message anyway.

This goes for couples and single fems too.

Everyone is at it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They really don't! "

Don’t what?

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Pickle. I think sometimes people might *whispers* lie.

Look, I don't know if that's true or not, who really knows what's true or not in the crazy world of today?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Quite a lot don't, Steve"

I have read yours a lot of times.

Quiz me

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By *orbidden eastMan over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I always read them but it gets kind of disheartening when you finish reading a very long profile and it says the preferences and I’m nowhere near them.

It’s just time I cannot get back in my life

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Pickle. I think sometimes people might *whispers* lie.

Look, I don't know if that's true or not, who really knows what's true or not in the crazy world of today? "

Nothing is real. It’s all a social construction. Everything I was taught was a lie. *cries into pillow*

- God that took me back to uni.

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By *reat me rightWoman over a year ago

Rotherham

They so so so don't!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

TLDR

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They really don't! "

She’s really right, they don’t

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By *tinerant scribeMan over a year ago

County Durham

Your question is about cognition, not the activity of scanning and decoding texts. Men read and then, very quickly, forget profiles.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"TLDR

Are men trash?

Yes or no?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"TLDR

Are men trash?

Yes or no?

No some are lovely.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Not you taking me seriously. WHEN WILL THEY LEARN

ARGH! Curses. Anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"TLDR

Are men trash?

Yes or no?

No some are lovely. "

#NotAllMen

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people don't even read their own messages before they send them

And it's mostly men only because men send the most unsolicited messages - but we get our fair share from women, couples, etc etc too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Up to this point I’ve read 5 profiles above me in the past.

I know and recognise your names well.

Some of us will read them. It’s a fact.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They don’t.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"They don’t. "

Oh yes they do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Women’s profiles all say the same thing for me. Something about not being able to view it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for playing

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

My experience on here and on apps is they don’t

I’ve literally put stuff like “if you message me just a basic hey how’s u message your getting blocked”

And still, 75-80% of my messages would be basic “hey how’s u” messages

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"My experience on here and on apps is they don’t

I’ve literally put stuff like “if you message me just a basic hey how’s u message your getting blocked”

And still, 75-80% of my messages would be basic “hey how’s u” messages "

Wanna fuck or nah?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve sent hey u to literally several guys no response. What are they frigid or something?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My experience on here and on apps is they don’t

I’ve literally put stuff like “if you message me just a basic hey how’s u message your getting blocked”

And still, 75-80% of my messages would be basic “hey how’s u” messages "

I read stuff with instructions like yours and I’m tempted to send ‘how’s you’ just to wind you up

. It sounds demanding like I have to reply with something you want me to say.

Can I not be myself in here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’ve sent hey u to literally several guys no response. What are they frigid or something? "

Frigid and fussy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont read them its only propaganda i go by interaction of good people and the funny statuses

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve sent hey u to literally several guys no response. What are they frigid or something?

Frigid and fussy.

I was afraid of the fussy bit

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By *uitednbooted2Man over a year ago

Berkshire

Stopped reading them as they are all the same. Full of whining what they don’t want, making demands of what they do , threatening to block you if you have the audacity to message them and misspell any words! Why look at the mantle piece when all you want to do is just poke the fire eh lads !

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"I’ve sent hey u to literally several guys no response. What are they frigid or something? "

They can cope with hey, but adding the u bit was too many words to handle in one go.

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By *indergirlWoman over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

If my inbox is anything to by probably not

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By *atnip make me purrWoman over a year ago

Reading

"I always read them but it gets kind of disheartening when you finish reading a very long profile and it says the preferences and I’m nowhere near them.

It’s just time I cannot get back in my life "

That's why I put my biggest deal-breaker right at the top. Still doesn't work. That or people aren't very good at geography and think Dublin is within five miles of Reading.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They really don't!

She’s really right, they don’t "

Oooh yes they do

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By *adyJayneWoman over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"I always read them but it gets kind of disheartening when you finish reading a very long profile and it says the preferences and I’m nowhere near them.

It’s just time I cannot get back in my life "

Isn't distance right at the very top of a profile?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How we supposed to focus with fun bags in the way huh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wurdz is hard..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve sent hey u to literally several guys no response. What are they frigid or something?

They can cope with hey, but adding the u bit was too many words to handle in one go."

Explains why hmu nar was a fail

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thwy dont.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan over a year ago

Aylesbury

I will read a profile if I intend to message that person. But as I rarely message people I dont read that many

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By *oublethefunMan over a year ago

royston

Maybe 5% do but the other95% never do. It's very tedious when most of the messages we receive ask things that are clearly mentioned in our profile read. And guys wounder why they never get reply from people. It's simple just read the profile as it saves so much time boys.

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

"I’ve sent hey u to literally several guys no response. What are they frigid or something?

They can cope with hey, but adding the u bit was too many words to handle in one go.

Explains why hmu nar was a fail "

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

Most of the men who write to us either haven't read our profile or don't give a shit that we say we're not looking for single men. Some specifically say they did read that bit but try their luck anyway.

The silly thing is that pretty much anybody who approaches us with a normal conversation (i.e. not sexual) then we'd chat to them. If any guy were to get through to us, that's how it would happen. But if they sound like their target is to bed us (or more specifically, Hannah) then they won't get anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would be foolish to not read a profile.

Waste of time not reading it

Just my 2 penneth worth

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No they don't, at least not as much as they used to. If they did read my profile then bi or married men wouldn't message me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have 27 new messages and a brief glance tells me that 20 of the senders haven't read my profile (or assume it doesn't apply to them).

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No they don't, at least not as much as they used to. If they did read my profile then bi or married men wouldn't message me

Men used to open doors. Now they send Ubers to pick you up.

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By *ollydoesWoman over a year ago

Shangri-La

"They absolutely do read them, assume it doesn’t apply to them and blindly message anyway.

This goes for couples and single fems too.

Everyone is at it

Ha ha hit the nail on the head there lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have 27 new messages and a brief glance tells me that 20 of the senders haven't read my profile (or assume it doesn't apply to them)."

I clearly read your profile and resisted urge to be like them other dudes

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have 27 new messages and a brief glance tells me that 20 of the senders haven't read my profile (or assume it doesn't apply to them).

I clearly read your profile and resisted urge to be like them other dudes

Nice ti- nvm.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have 27 new messages and a brief glance tells me that 20 of the senders haven't read my profile (or assume it doesn't apply to them).

I clearly read your profile and resisted urge to be like them other dudes

I messaged you first so....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have 27 new messages and a brief glance tells me that 20 of the senders haven't read my profile (or assume it doesn't apply to them).

I clearly read your profile and resisted urge to be like them other dudes

Nice ti- nvm. "

I saw that!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have 27 new messages and a brief glance tells me that 20 of the senders haven't read my profile (or assume it doesn't apply to them).

I clearly read your profile and resisted urge to be like them other dudes

I messaged you first so....

All good love stories start with older woman pursuing younger man. Like the Graduate.

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By *ellinever70Woman over a year ago

Ayrshire

I think they do

It doesn't mean they'll follow the instructions though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have 27 new messages and a brief glance tells me that 20 of the senders haven't read my profile (or assume it doesn't apply to them).

I clearly read your profile and resisted urge to be like them other dudes

I messaged you first so....

All good love stories start with older woman pursuing younger man. Like the Graduate.

Oh my god

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No they don't, at least not as much as they used to. If they did read my profile then bi or married men wouldn't message me

Men used to open doors. Now they send Ubers to pick you up.

Demonstrating a lack of effort. Whatever happened to romantically evicting your neighbours and moving in? Gen whatever needs to get it’s shiz together

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hard to type something related to a profile with one hand so why bother at all?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think they do

It doesn't mean they'll follow the instructions though "

I bet you like giving instructions.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think they do

It doesn't mean they'll follow the instructions though

I bet you like giving instructions.

If a profile has more lines then buttons on a ps controller I lose interest

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think they do

It doesn't mean they'll follow the instructions though

I bet you like giving instructions.

If a profile has more lines then buttons on a ps controller I lose interest"

If she is reading this wondering what a PS controller is- Ive lost interest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The simple answer no

Most men don't read it and more important they don't seem to understand what is written on them.

My profile should be very clear in what I am looking for but by the message I get, it's doesn't seem to be.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

"Curious. I’ve always read them. Men on here say they always read them. Some of the math ain’t mathing.

#NotAllMen

They don't. And it's a vicious circle.

Men ping off random messages to Women.

Women get cheesed off with dross in their inboxes.

Men get frustrated as they're initiating conversations that go nowhere.

They send more mail.

And so it goes on!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Curious. I’ve always read them. Men on here say they always read them. Some of the math ain’t mathing.

#NotAllMen

They don't. And it's a vicious circle.

Men ping off random messages to Women.

Women get cheesed off with dross in their inboxes.

Men get frustrated as they're initiating conversations that go nowhere.

They send more mail.

And so it goes on!! "

Nice Heels

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Curious. I’ve always read them. Men on here say they always read them. Some of the math ain’t mathing.

#NotAllMen

They don't. And it's a vicious circle.

Men ping off random messages to Women.

Women get cheesed off with dross in their inboxes.

Men get frustrated as they're initiating conversations that go nowhere.

They send more mail.

And so it goes on!!

Nice Heels

I thought that too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t need to read profiles, the chicks just want me anyway. It’s just a non stop bird-o-rama over at Soze Towers.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"I don’t need to read profiles, the chicks just want me anyway. It’s just a non stop bird-o-rama over at Soze Towers."

A 5-bird roast?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don’t need to read profiles, the chicks just want me anyway. It’s just a non stop bird-o-rama over at Soze Towers."

You son of a

I’m in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Curious. I’ve always read them. Men on here say they always read them. Some of the math ain’t mathing.

#NotAllMen

Yes, I think they do.

And much like with any other guidance they assume they know best and batter right in with a boabie pic.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t need to read profiles, the chicks just want me anyway. It’s just a non stop bird-o-rama over at Soze Towers.

A 5-bird roast?"

Welcome to my life.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"I don’t need to read profiles, the chicks just want me anyway. It’s just a non stop bird-o-rama over at Soze Towers.

A 5-bird roast?

Welcome to my life.

It's a difficult world we live in. Our sympathies

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Curious. I’ve always read them. Men on here say they always read them. Some of the math ain’t mathing.

#NotAllMen

Yes, I think they do.

And much like with any other guidance they assume they know best and batter right in with a boabie pic."

What’s boabie?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Curious. I’ve always read them. Men on here say they always read them. Some of the math ain’t mathing.

#NotAllMen

Yes, I think they do.

And much like with any other guidance they assume they know best and batter right in with a boabie pic.

What’s boabie? "

The root of all evil.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Curious. I’ve always read them. Men on here say they always read them. Some of the math ain’t mathing.

#NotAllMen

Yes, I think they do.

And much like with any other guidance they assume they know best and batter right in with a boabie pic.

What’s boabie?

The root of all evil."

Nice. I want one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Curious. I’ve always read them. Men on here say they always read them. Some of the math ain’t mathing.

#NotAllMen

Yes, I think they do.

And much like with any other guidance they assume they know best and batter right in with a boabie pic.

What’s boabie?

The root of all evil."

I’ll never forget the first time I learned what the boabie is. A Glaswegian comic kept going on about it, I stupidly asked the question “what the fuck is a boabie?”

He comes over, grabs my cock and balls, and shouts “thems your boabies sonny”

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always read profiles before messaging anyone and won’t message at all, if the profile doesn’t grab my interest. They rarely do, since most are full of negative rhetoric; lists of “I wonts” and are quite often dull.

But when they do gab my interest and I craft a polite introductory message, 90% of the time it’ll get deleted or ignored anyway.

But that 10%…. That’s where it’s at

Will x

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

"Curious. I’ve always read them. Men on here say they always read them. Some of the math ain’t mathing.

#NotAllMen

They don't. And it's a vicious circle.

Men ping off random messages to Women.

Women get cheesed off with dross in their inboxes.

Men get frustrated as they're initiating conversations that go nowhere.

They send more mail.

And so it goes on!!

Nice Heels

Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Curious. I’ve always read them. Men on here say they always read them. Some of the math ain’t mathing.

#NotAllMen

Yes, I think they do.

And much like with any other guidance they assume they know best and batter right in with a boabie pic.

What’s boabie?

The root of all evil.

I’ll never forget the first time I learned what the boabie is. A Glaswegian comic kept going on about it, I stupidly asked the question “what the fuck is a boabie?”

He comes over, grabs my cock and balls, and shouts “thems your boabies sonny”

Nice. Did he give you a reach-around before head butting you then?

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

"Curious. I’ve always read them. Men on here say they always read them. Some of the math ain’t mathing.

#NotAllMen

They don't. And it's a vicious circle.

Men ping off random messages to Women.

Women get cheesed off with dross in their inboxes.

Men get frustrated as they're initiating conversations that go nowhere.

They send more mail.

And so it goes on!!

Nice Heels

I thought that too "

You're the best.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In our experience some read whilst waiting for the message to be replied to (or not!) and then send another message trying to put right the wrong done in the first one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In our experience some read whilst waiting for the message to be replied to (or not!) and then send another message trying to put right the wrong done in the first one. "

That just sounds like hard work

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Curious. I’ve always read them. Men on here say they always read them. Some of the math ain’t mathing.

#NotAllMen

They don't. And it's a vicious circle.

Men ping off random messages to Women.

Women get cheesed off with dross in their inboxes.

Men get frustrated as they're initiating conversations that go nowhere.

They send more mail.

And so it goes on!!

Nice Heels

I thought that too

You're the best.

Only to you.

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By *iman2100Man over a year ago

Glasgow

"If my inbox is anything to by probably not

I suggest you put "### Currently not meeting at the moment, only chatting in forums ###" as your heading. Just a thought to avoid unwanted aporoaches.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

considering the first line on my profile is no beards and then 80% of messages are from guys with beards tells all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"considering the first line on my profile is no beards and then 80% of messages are from guys with beards tells all"

What’s a beard these day though….?

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

"Curious. I’ve always read them. Men on here say they always read them. Some of the math ain’t mathing.

#NotAllMen

They don't. And it's a vicious circle.

Men ping off random messages to Women.

Women get cheesed off with dross in their inboxes.

Men get frustrated as they're initiating conversations that go nowhere.

They send more mail.

And so it goes on!!

Nice Heels

I thought that too

You're the best.

Only to you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"considering the first line on my profile is no beards and then 80% of messages are from guys with beards tells all

What’s a beard these day though….?

a turn off

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"considering the first line on my profile is no beards and then 80% of messages are from guys with beards tells all

What’s a beard these day though….?

What’s in a beard?

…

A beard with any other face would look as sweet

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Women’s profiles all say the same thing for me. Something about not being able to view it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Women’s profiles all say the same thing for me. Something about not being able to view it.

You get me, Swing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"considering the first line on my profile is no beards and then 80% of messages are from guys with beards tells all

What’s a beard these day though….?

a turn off

I am genuinely interested in how a naturally occurring thing can be a turn off. That’s fascinating

Do other naturally occurring phenomenons like “eyebrows” and “nails” turn you off too? Serious question x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My favourite ones are "I know your profile says.... but"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we all have things we dont like ... the human body is all natural yet we are all so different hence we have likes and dislikes .... facial hair has always been a thing for me even as a child i disliked then i found them creepy then and its stuck with me as ive got older i really do dislike facial hair massive turn off for me it should not worry too many guys as there are far more women who like them than dislike them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"considering the first line on my profile is no beards and then 80% of messages are from guys with beards tells all

What’s a beard these day though….?

a turn off

I am genuinely interested in how a naturally occurring thing can be a turn off. That’s fascinating

Do other naturally occurring phenomenons like “eyebrows” and “nails” turn you off too? Serious question x "

would you bed a woman with 2 inch fungus infected toe nails ?? all natural of couse ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always read the profile.I like to read about them and find out what they like / don't like and also it gets me going reading some of them. Then looking at the pics and let the imagination run wild.

Short profiles I just skip past.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My favourite ones are "I know your profile says.... but"

Bloody blokes! trying their damndest to get their ends away !

** shakes fist **

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By *entleman JayMan over a year ago

Wakefield

I like reading a profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"considering the first line on my profile is no beards and then 80% of messages are from guys with beards tells all

What’s a beard these day though….?

a turn off

I am genuinely interested in how a naturally occurring thing can be a turn off. That’s fascinating

Do other naturally occurring phenomenons like “eyebrows” and “nails” turn you off too? Serious question x

would you bed a woman with 2 inch fungus infected toe nails ?? all natural of couse ??"

That’s the same as likening a pair of eyes to herpes.

(but no, for the record!)

I wasn’t having a dig at you, I was genuinely curious. And thank you for taking the time to answer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I estimate between 97% and 99% of men do not read profiles

The ones that do read often have the most verifications

Read into that what you will...

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"I estimate between 97% and 99% of men do not read profiles

The ones that do read often have the most verifications

Read into that what you will... "

I'm going to start some academic research into the reading age of men and sexual prowess

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By *urious8240Man over a year ago

Ammanford

I read every profile before messaging, some women are pretty closed off on their profiles so not many conversation starters and some are great, almost everyone I have messaged that has replied haven't read my profile.

Might be an idea ladies on some conversations starters and maybe you'll have better conversations (just a thought)

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I estimate between 97% and 99% of men do not read profiles

The ones that do read often have the most verifications

Read into that what you will...

I'm going to start some academic research into the reading age of men and sexual prowess

The findings will not be shocking

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By *ikestowatchherMan over a year ago

Southgate

To paraphrase.. the only thing worse than being messaged is not being messaged

But I suspect men do read profiles otherwise the number of male profile views would equal the number of messages from distinct male profiles.

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By *ouneverknow79Man over a year ago

milton keynes

I always read profiles and as a result don’t always message but as a single guy on her it’s difficult to get a reply even if you do read and write a message showing you have! #minorityruinitforeveryone

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple over a year ago

West Bromwich (just for Sat)

In our experience, not very often!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lol

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

"Quite a lot don't, Steve

I have read yours a lot of times.

Quiz me

I would if I could remember what I wrote.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just look at the tits.

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By *isaB45Woman over a year ago

Fabville

I suspect that 90% of men do not read profiles. Maybe because they can only look at pictures, rather than being able to read.

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By *undance_KidMan over a year ago

London

I don’t if they’re too long.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just look at the tits."

Don't forget the vids lol..

I always read a profile. Like to see what they are into and if they are apposed to attached guys before messaging

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By *omRachCouple over a year ago

Wirral

It's pretty clear some dont bother reading profiles - if it's clear to me that they haven't I either block them or (if I'm feeling mischievous) engage them in bulkshit chat that is just a waste of their time (pretty much like they have done to me).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just look at the tits."

Mrs of Mr speaking?

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan over a year ago

Aylesbury

"Curious. I’ve always read them. Men on here say they always read them. Some of the math ain’t mathing.

#NotAllMen

Also Steve, in my usual pedantic way, mathematics has more than one discipline, hence why its plural

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By *mily36CWoman over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

Fab is just a grown-up picture book, surely?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fab is just a grown-up picture book, surely?

Nice rack

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman over a year ago

Wherever

Some do, but then proceed to message anyway

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By *mily36CWoman over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

Fab is just a grown-up picture book, surely?

Nice rack"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wonder if the problem is that several people will log in here when they are horny, wanting relief.

At that point they're busy looking who's online and then at the pictures to see if they grab their interest.

At that point, that's enough for them to message as they're pretty much gagging.

In short, too many think of this place as an easy booty call and too many are left disappointed.

There are many that do read profiles though, our messages have dropped a lot since we've changed our profile to 'not looking', some of those messages we do receive acknowledge we're not looking but offer compliments or ask if we'd like to chat until we are looking.

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By *host63Man over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

"They really don't! "

I do it's pointless contacting people unless you know if you might be a match or not

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

"I wonder if the problem is that several people will log in here when they are horny, wanting relief.

At that point they're busy looking who's online and then at the pictures to see if they grab their interest.

At that point, that's enough for them to message as they're pretty much gagging.

In short, too many think of this place as an easy booty call and too many are left disappointed.

It could also be the point that 90% of message don’t unopened. Not even ignored. Just unopened

Eventually lots of guys realise this and stop trying. Why spend the time reading a profile and trying to put together a well crafted first message when it goes unopened most of the time

If someone fancied you, they fancy you. A quick message and a few pics will achieve the result you want with way less effort. Why waste effort on things that go unopened is the idea a lot of guys reach.

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By *host63Man over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham

I do there is no point in wasting time and energy on contacting people on here unless you meet some of their criteria.

However what I don't understand is why people look at mine when I am obviously not what they are looking for. Utterly pointless

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wonder if the problem is that several people will log in here when they are horny, wanting relief.

At that point they're busy looking who's online and then at the pictures to see if they grab their interest.

At that point, that's enough for them to message as they're pretty much gagging.

In short, too many think of this place as an easy booty call and too many are left disappointed.

It could also be the point that 90% of message don’t unopened. Not even ignored. Just unopened

Eventually lots of guys realise this and stop trying. Why spend the time reading a profile and trying to put together a well crafted first message when it goes unopened most of the time

Didn't realise you had done such extensive research on the site?

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By *oelDorianMan over a year ago

vanaheim

From what I have seen yes they don’t read profiles at all

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By *inky_couple2020Couple over a year ago

North West

"Curious. I’ve always read them. Men on here say they always read them. Some of the math ain’t mathing.

#NotAllMen

Also Steve, in my usual pedantic way, mathematics has more than one discipline, hence why its plural

Our American amigos disagree

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

"I wonder if the problem is that several people will log in here when they are horny, wanting relief.

At that point they're busy looking who's online and then at the pictures to see if they grab their interest.

At that point, that's enough for them to message as they're pretty much gagging.

In short, too many think of this place as an easy booty call and too many are left disappointed.

It could also be the point that 90% of message don’t unopened. Not even ignored. Just unopened

Eventually lots of guys realise this and stop trying. Why spend the time reading a profile and trying to put together a well crafted first message when it goes unopened most of the time

Didn't realise you had done such extensive research on the site?

DM for my thesis

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always read profiles. Sometimes more than twice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wonder if the problem is that several people will log in here when they are horny, wanting relief.

At that point they're busy looking who's online and then at the pictures to see if they grab their interest.

At that point, that's enough for them to message as they're pretty much gagging.

In short, too many think of this place as an easy booty call and too many are left disappointed.

It could also be the point that 90% of message don’t unopened. Not even ignored. Just unopened

Eventually lots of guys realise this and stop trying. Why spend the time reading a profile and trying to put together a well crafted first message when it goes unopened most of the time

Didn't realise you had done such extensive research on the site?

DM for my thesis "

Can't

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wonder if the problem is that several people will log in here when they are horny, wanting relief.

At that point they're busy looking who's online and then at the pictures to see if they grab their interest.

At that point, that's enough for them to message as they're pretty much gagging.

In short, too many think of this place as an easy booty call and too many are left disappointed.

It could also be the point that 90% of message don’t unopened. Not even ignored. Just unopened

Eventually lots of guys realise this and stop trying. Why spend the time reading a profile and trying to put together a well crafted first message when it goes unopened most of the time

And so this begins the vicious circle.

From a swinging couples perspective, it's not only about fancying someone.

There's more to it, being a straight guy, if we're looking to find a guy, I'll not be looking to see if we fancy one another.

If Mrs and He fancy each other, that's one step forward.

But there's more, an element of trust, understanding, compatibility in more than do we like the look of one another.

Though swinging can be based around primal instincts, bringing someone in to join us in the most intimate aspect of a relationship requires more than just 'fancying'.

That's from our perspective anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So don’t, or have a weird concept of self perceived height and handsomeness

But anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't always read profiles.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Of course…. Allows the first message to include something of shared interest or discussion

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

"I wonder if the problem is that several people will log in here when they are horny, wanting relief.

At that point they're busy looking who's online and then at the pictures to see if they grab their interest.

At that point, that's enough for them to message as they're pretty much gagging.

In short, too many think of this place as an easy booty call and too many are left disappointed.

It could also be the point that 90% of message don’t unopened. Not even ignored. Just unopened

Eventually lots of guys realise this and stop trying. Why spend the time reading a profile and trying to put together a well crafted first message when it goes unopened most of the time

And so this begins the vicious circle.

From a swinging couples perspective, it's not only about fancying someone.

There's more to it, being a straight guy, if we're looking to find a guy, I'll not be looking to see if we fancy one another.

If Mrs and He fancy each other, that's one step forward.

But there's more, an element of trust, understanding, compatibility in more than do we like the look of one another.

Though swinging can be based around primal instincts, bringing someone in to join us in the most intimate aspect of a relationship requires more than just 'fancying'.

That's from our perspective anyway."

I mean it’s the first step in getting a reply. Once a reply had been received then great, start crafting your messages to entice them

But can you blame guys for no reading profiles and putting in low effort when most messages go unopened? I can’t.

I used to believe in all that, until I saw how many of my well thought out messages were left unread

Then I went to just a quick “here’s me drop me a message if you take my fancy” - the sabe results but way less effort

Now I just don’t message. Let the ones that want to meet message me. Less results, but it’s zero effort which is what I want from here as I’m not willing to go to socials or clubs

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By *idnight RamblerMan over a year ago

Pershore

So what if you're a guy seeking the kind of woman who'd have no truck with profile-reading men?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

To conclude, men are…

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

[redacted] readers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They really don't! "

Guilty as charged.

Winston

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wonder if the problem is that several people will log in here when they are horny, wanting relief.

At that point they're busy looking who's online and then at the pictures to see if they grab their interest.

At that point, that's enough for them to message as they're pretty much gagging.

In short, too many think of this place as an easy booty call and too many are left disappointed.

It could also be the point that 90% of message don’t unopened. Not even ignored. Just unopened

Eventually lots of guys realise this and stop trying. Why spend the time reading a profile and trying to put together a well crafted first message when it goes unopened most of the time

And so this begins the vicious circle.

From a swinging couples perspective, it's not only about fancying someone.

There's more to it, being a straight guy, if we're looking to find a guy, I'll not be looking to see if we fancy one another.

If Mrs and He fancy each other, that's one step forward.

But there's more, an element of trust, understanding, compatibility in more than do we like the look of one another.

Though swinging can be based around primal instincts, bringing someone in to join us in the most intimate aspect of a relationship requires more than just 'fancying'.

That's from our perspective anyway.

I mean it’s the first step in getting a reply. Once a reply had been received then great, start crafting your messages to entice them

But can you blame guys for no reading profiles and putting in low effort when most messages go unopened? I can’t.

I used to believe in all that, until I saw how many of my well thought out messages were left unread

Then I went to just a quick “here’s me drop me a message if you take my fancy” - the sabe results but way less effort

Now I just don’t message. Let the ones that want to meet message me. Less results, but it’s zero effort which is what I want from here as I’m not willing to go to socials or clubs "

This is why we like the option to wink.

If we receive a wink (when looking) and their profile catches our eye, we will wink back to suggest we open to chatting.

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By *eneralKenobiMan over a year ago

North Angus

Nah I just wank over the photos then run away giggling

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just look at the tits.

Mrs of Mr speaking?"

I see what you did there

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By *onkeynutWoman over a year ago

somewhere

I had a long profile that hardly anyone read.

Most don’t even read one line of mine now

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By *eneralKenobiMan over a year ago

North Angus

"I had a long profile that hardly anyone read.

Most don’t even read one line of mine now

Ok that put a big ol smile on my face

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By *annaBeStrongMan over a year ago

wokingham

This is why we like the option to wink.

If we receive a wink (when looking) and their profile catches our eye, we will wink back to suggest we open to chatting."

I think that’s the best idea and have that in my profile. I’ll take a wink as “I’m interested” and if I like the look of them I’ll message

Still, about 50% of those go unopened

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By *ollydoesWoman over a year ago

Shangri-La

This is why we like the option to wink.

If we receive a wink (when looking) and their profile catches our eye, we will wink back to suggest we open to chatting.

I think that’s the best idea and have that in my profile. I’ll take a wink as “I’m interested” and if I like the look of them I’ll message

Still, about 50% of those go unopened

I wouldn't rely on a wink as a first point of contact and no message. Many never check the winks, i very rarely do. I had over 50 winks the other day, i dont have the time or the inclination to then check the profile of the 50 guys who sent winks to see If i like them and then messager them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be fair to men, I get distracted by the titties too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To be fair to men, I get distracted by the titties too.

I blame a lockdown diet for my titties.....

Winston

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Curious. I’ve always read them. Men on here say they always read them. Some of the math ain’t mathing.

#NotAllMen

I admit it!!! I’m a man. I don’t read instructions for flat packs, I don’t read directions when travelling, why would I read a profile?

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By *tooveMan over a year ago

belfast

"Curious. I’ve always read them. Men on here say they always read them. Some of the math ain’t mathing.

#NotAllMen

You answered it. some do, some don't.

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By *ames-77Man over a year ago

milton keynes

Not if they are huge paragraphs

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By *appytaffWoman over a year ago

blackwood

Many don’t bother reading the profile- mine says about not responding to one line messages and guess what ….

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Every word and it makes fuck all difference.

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By *ames-77Man over a year ago

milton keynes

"Every word and it makes fuck all difference."

Hahaha legend

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just like most things. If the cover / headline is interesting we may read the rest of the book/ paper. Otherwise no.. we only send a wink!

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By *ensual-dominant-passionMan over a year ago

sheffield

Depends how long it is lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Many don’t bother reading the profile- mine says about not responding to one line messages and guess what …. "

Hi x how’s u x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I try and read all profiles I look at, but it really depends, if I'm in a rush and a profile catches my eye, then I'll send a quick wink. hopefully that tells them I'm interested, if I get a wink back then I'll come that up with a message and a full read of their profile

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By *uckslut and MCouple over a year ago

Poole

Voyers don't even read our profile title.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m too busy wanking over the pictures

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By *xydadbodMan over a year ago

Milton keynes

I do read them. I do enjoy the funny ones and a good balance between describing yourself and putting across clearly what youre looking for, yeah, go for it but when you tumble across a profile that requires me to read an essay, yeah.. thats when you lost me really. I leave the essay reading for uni lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Many don’t bother reading the profile- mine says about not responding to one line messages and guess what ….

Hi x how’s u x"

Fun?

Lady Astor

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By *rLothbrokMan over a year ago

Lancs

What’s a profile?

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By *inAndTonic21Couple over a year ago

Merseyside

We do get a lot of messages just saying wanna meet today and our profiles clearly says we can’t and don’t want to do that maths adds up to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do read the profiles, more often than not I don't send a message, mainly because some have far higher requirements than I would qualify for.

Partly because I know if I'm looking then I know others will be looking also and of course its more often than not any message I do send will be lost in the masses and subsequently deleted.

However it's seems a given that many don't, I get messages from men as well despite me saying I'm not interested (I have blocked since)

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By *onderstuff73mMan over a year ago

Brum

"Curious. I’ve always read them. Men on here say they always read them. Some of the math ain’t mathing.

#NotAllMen

Should be titled “Do people not read profiles?”

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe men read them and just ignore completely everything they’ve read? Or think “fuck you, I want to send my dick pic so here it is”?

My profile has gone from short and friendly to long and negative over time based on the messages I’ve received.

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By *onderstuff73mMan over a year ago

Brum

"Maybe men read them and just ignore completely everything they’ve read? Or think “fuck you, I want to send my dick pic so here it is”?

My profile has gone from short and friendly to long and negative over time based on the messages I’ve received. "

I agree about the ever expanding profile! Ironic isn’t it? As it rarely gets read

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By *ervent_fervourMan over a year ago

Halifax

There're words on the profile?

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

#notallmen?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe men read them and just ignore completely everything they’ve read? Or think “fuck you, I want to send my dick pic so here it is”?

My profile has gone from short and friendly to long and negative over time based on the messages I’ve received.

I agree about the ever expanding profile! Ironic isn’t it? As it rarely gets read

Very ironic. It just gives me back up to say “it’s all on my profile”.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

R-E-A-D

P-R-O-F-I-L-E??

Sorry what’s that mean, I don’t speak foreign languages

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By *iberius61Man over a year ago

Pontefract

"Curious. I’ve always read them. Men on here say they always read them."

Well, men on here have proven that they can read, the rest, the majority, the great unwashed...they just look at the pictures.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe men read them and just ignore completely everything they’ve read? Or think “fuck you, I want to send my dick pic so here it is”?

My profile has gone from short and friendly to long and negative over time based on the messages I’ve received. "

Pretty privilege.

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I have found more men have read my profile than couples or even some single women that have messaged me.

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