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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Random:
If you’re using a pseudonym like me on here and it’s a name. Would you expect people to call you by your real name when they actually meet you in the flesh? Or is the fab name ok?
Would you try and call someone by their real name or instinctively stick with their fab name?
**Sorry my name is not really Steve or Stephen or Esteban.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I meet people I always tell them my real name (which isn’t Dan). Despite this some continue to call me Dan as it’s what they’ve always known me as! I don’t mind either way tbf. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d prefer it if people use Annie / Annabel which isn’t my ‘real’ name but I prefer it because of my gender / being trans etc…tho if I trusted the person I might let them know my ‘real’ name or let them call me by another name that I like |
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"Random:
If you’re using a pseudonym like me on here and it’s a name. Would you expect people to call you by your real name when they actually meet you in the flesh? Or is the fab name ok?
Would you try and call someone by their real name or instinctively stick with their fab name?
**Sorry my name is not really Steve or Stephen or Esteban. "
Meeting someone face to face I would expect real names to be used.
Trust, honesty and respect.
If it starts with lies can only go downhill from there.
A club or party may be different tho. |
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By *an1978Woman
over a year ago
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I don't tend to address someone by name in speech nor text (mainly as I'm awful at remembering them anyway)
But it is really hard to remember when you've known someone as a normal username like John or Brian.
Not so easy to accidentally call someone PussyFiller696969
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I might get mixed up if fake name is a real name (like Steve). But where it's not a name, like Swing, I'd tend to expect reverting to names. "
I imagine people do for a while with names like Steve. They’re the ones I meant. For example I’d find calling you Swing irl kinda weird. But I don’t imagine someone would find it weird calling me Steve. Especially if they’ve known me as Steve for longer than they have as my real name |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You mean people don’t use their real names on here?? 
You mean people actually meet on here??  "
Don’t be silly. I’m just freestyling some thoughts. Nobody meets |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My name isn't clit and his isn't cock funnily enough, we have pretty normal names though, we usually introduce ourselves on the evening of the meet.  "
Yeah I’d find it weird calling you those names obvs |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't tend to address someone by name in speech nor text (mainly as I'm awful at remembering them anyway)
But it is really hard to remember when you've known someone as a normal username like John or Brian.
Not so easy to accidentally call someone PussyFiller696969
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The johns and the Brians are the ones I’m thinking of here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Everyone I have met knows my real name. It still doesn’t stop some of them calling me Russ, Sprouty or Mr Sprout.
I don’t mind either way as I know it’s all in good fun  "
Yeah absolutely. Do you ever find yourself turning to respond when you hear Russ in public?
Sometimes I do with Steve. And have done for the years I’ve used it as a pseudonym |
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We tell people our real names when we are going to meet. One exception to that was the late Bobby Tupper, we lived too far away to meet but he knew our names.
We prefer to call people by their real names if they're ok with it |
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"Everyone I have met knows my real name. It still doesn’t stop some of them calling me Russ, Sprouty or Mr Sprout.
I don’t mind either way as I know it’s all in good fun
Yeah absolutely. Do you ever find yourself turning to respond when you hear Russ in public?
Sometimes I do with Steve. And have done for the years I’ve used it as a pseudonym "
I’ve never heard anyone say it out and about but if I did, I think I would be tempted to look round to see who was calling but then ignore it and carry on doing what I was doing |
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"I use a 'fab name' on here and at clubs. Only people I'm invested in and see regularly will ever know mt real name."
That’s what I mean too. Only people who I’ve had a lot to do with on here know it and it’s very few. I sometimes use a fab name until I really get to know them |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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Pretty much everyone I know from here calls me Posh... except Bob, and a couple of other people when they're telling me off (that would be Saff and Red).
I think everyone I've met knows my real name though... |
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We used to be friends with a couple from here , chatted for ages over several months. We met several times at clubs and Bdsm events for well over a year. Then we started going on holiday to Cap D Agde with them , several times over a few years.
The final year we went to Cap with them, they introduced us to some of their friends . One evening we kept getting funny looks from people they obviously knew. Then one awkward moment over dinner one night another couple said “who is K…… you keep talking about ? “ We all felt embarrassed and she said- “ ah , there’s something we’ve been meaning to tell you” . “K….. isn’t my real name ! It’s ………”. ( Not going to say her real name as they are still on here).
No wonder everyone we met with them kept giving us funny looks.
After 3 plus years of meeting them , going on holiday with them , them coming to us and meeting up at clubs, we felt cheated and let down. Their other friends must of thought we were stupid.
We realise people don’t want to give out their real identities early on , but for us we felt like second class friends/ or nobodies that they had just picked up !
We felt differently about them straight away.
We were on holiday with them in the same apartment. All was well but it was never the same again and we drifted apart very soon .
We haven’t spoken or messaged them in over 5 years now.
Everyone has different circumstances we know, but we think after a few meets you’d want to be truthful and honest.
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If I'm meeting I prefer real names. Met someone and they said their real name for example was John. M wanted to catch his attention during a MFM called his name and he was totally oblivious and ignored him. Not for a long time but enough to make me uncomfortable. |
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"If you’re using a pseudonym like me on here and it’s a name. Would you expect people to call you by your real name when they actually meet you in the flesh? Or is the fab name ok? "
Half my friends call me Tibs. It's quite funny if I have a BBQ say where I have Internet and 'other' friends present. People call me Tibs and you can see people wondering why is that person calling Dean Tibs, and even stranger, why is he answering them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I'm meeting I prefer real names. Met someone and they said their real name for example was John. M wanted to catch his attention during a MFM called his name and he was totally oblivious and ignored him. Not for a long time but enough to make me uncomfortable. "
I'd agree. If I'm getting that intimate I'd rather know someone's real name. Call me old fashioned! |
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"If I'm meeting I prefer real names. Met someone and they said their real name for example was John. M wanted to catch his attention during a MFM called his name and he was totally oblivious and ignored him. Not for a long time but enough to make me uncomfortable.
I'd agree. If I'm getting that intimate I'd rather know someone's real name. Call me old fashioned! "
You old fashioned? No way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I'm meeting I prefer real names. Met someone and they said their real name for example was John. M wanted to catch his attention during a MFM called his name and he was totally oblivious and ignored him. Not for a long time but enough to make me uncomfortable.
I'd agree. If I'm getting that intimate I'd rather know someone's real name. Call me old fashioned!
You old fashioned? No way "
Eighteenth century  |
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"If I'm meeting I prefer real names. Met someone and they said their real name for example was John. M wanted to catch his attention during a MFM called his name and he was totally oblivious and ignored him. Not for a long time but enough to make me uncomfortable.
I'd agree. If I'm getting that intimate I'd rather know someone's real name. Call me old fashioned!
You old fashioned? No way
Eighteenth century "
I loved the costumes in Harlots |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I'm meeting I prefer real names. Met someone and they said their real name for example was John. M wanted to catch his attention during a MFM called his name and he was totally oblivious and ignored him. Not for a long time but enough to make me uncomfortable.
I'd agree. If I'm getting that intimate I'd rather know someone's real name. Call me old fashioned!
You old fashioned? No way
Eighteenth century
I loved the costumes in Harlots "
I am The Dandy Highwayman haha!  |
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By *ack688Man
over a year ago
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I’ve been ‘Jack’ on Kik, Reddit, fab etc for quite a few years, and when I’ve met people in real life, even though they normally get told my real name, most still call me Jack, which is fine, it’s almost like an alter ego and I’m very comfortable being called that. |
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I once spent four or five nights a week with a guy for over 6 months.
His user name was Bob, and even now, quite a few years on, that's what I call him.
It wasn't his name, but we'd chatted using that name for so long that in my head that's how I think of him. To remember his real name I have to go into my Facebook messages to see it!
Thankfully he didn't seem to object. |
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People using different first names is one of the weirdest things on Fab imo. It's called signing up with your brain (ie your imagination) in your cock I think.
Also I HATE the name Simon! Why are there so many freaking "xxx Simons" on this site?
Until people know you at least to some degree, they will always associate a name with someone else who shares it! Ok when they know something or other they will quickly transition over to the concept of 'you', but why introduce yourself this way??
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People using different first names is one of the weirdest things on Fab imo. It's called signing up with your brain (ie your imagination) in your cock I think.
Also I HATE the name Simon! Why are there so many freaking "xxx Simons" on this site?
Until people know you at least to some degree, they will always associate a name with someone else who shares it! Ok when they know something or other they will quickly transition over to the concept of 'you', but why introduce yourself this way??
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I love your username btw. Always makes me chuckle!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think about four people on Fab know my real name. I very rarely give it out. I have another name which I've gone by for over 3 years or I'm happy with Bertie. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tell people my real name but still get called Nell by some. That's cool. One guy I've known for 7 years from here and have seen in person many times has me on his phone as Nell. |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
Burnleyish (She/They) |
Because _adyjayne has been my BDSM scene name for more years than I care to count I'm pretty much used to people calling me Jayne.
There are plenty on the bdsm scene who only know me as Jayne so it's as natural to me as my other name.
My best friend is the same, in fact myself, her husband etc call her by her scene name all the time - even her family know that she has an official name and the name those close to her use... And my parents come to think of it. My parents call her by her scene name but have her official name on the facestalk app |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd rather be called by my real name. Fewer syllables
Easier to shout out?
You tell me 
We can test it. "
As long as you don't confuse my fab name with someone else's  |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
I’ve been referred to as Tea by friends for years. Many people, even when they know my real name still call me that.
I think that a good fab name ‘fits’, it’s like the name we choose for ourselves in this community |
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"People using different first names is one of the weirdest things on Fab imo. It's called signing up with your brain (ie your imagination) in your cock I think."
Us not using our birth names has nothing to do with what we signed-up with. It's far more to do with privacy and occupation.
There are whole industries out there where people would not even use their 'real' names on e.g. facebook. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t always share my real name. I had a situation recently where someone who knows it contacted one of my veris and referred to me by my real name and couldn’t understand why I was vex (hence now my veris are all hidden  ) |
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"People using different first names is one of the weirdest things on Fab imo. It's called signing up with your brain (ie your imagination) in your cock I think.
Us not using our birth names has nothing to do with what we signed-up with. It's far more to do with privacy and occupation.
There are whole industries out there where people would not even use their 'real' names on e.g. facebook."
Some of us have pretty distinct real names (e.g. not Dave or Sarah) and so keeping it under wraps is necessary to maintain a bit of anonymity. I give my real name to people I trust. |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"People using different first names is one of the weirdest things on Fab imo. It's called signing up with your brain (ie your imagination) in your cock I think.
Us not using our birth names has nothing to do with what we signed-up with. It's far more to do with privacy and occupation.
There are whole industries out there where people would not even use their 'real' names on e.g. facebook.
Some of us have pretty distinct real names (e.g. not Dave or Sarah) and so keeping it under wraps is necessary to maintain a bit of anonymity. I give my real name to people I trust. "
Your name isn't that distinct, Roger. It's just a surprise to find a lady called it
Oops. Sorry I real named you. My bad |
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"People using different first names is one of the weirdest things on Fab imo. It's called signing up with your brain (ie your imagination) in your cock I think.
Us not using our birth names has nothing to do with what we signed-up with. It's far more to do with privacy and occupation.
There are whole industries out there where people would not even use their 'real' names on e.g. facebook.
Some of us have pretty distinct real names (e.g. not Dave or Sarah) and so keeping it under wraps is necessary to maintain a bit of anonymity. I give my real name to people I trust.
Your name isn't that distinct, Roger. It's just a surprise to find a lady called it
Oops. Sorry I real named you. My bad "
Fucking hell, Karen   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People using different first names is one of the weirdest things on Fab imo. It's called signing up with your brain (ie your imagination) in your cock I think.
Us not using our birth names has nothing to do with what we signed-up with. It's far more to do with privacy and occupation.
There are whole industries out there where people would not even use their 'real' names on e.g. facebook.
Some of us have pretty distinct real names (e.g. not Dave or Sarah) and so keeping it under wraps is necessary to maintain a bit of anonymity. I give my real name to people I trust. "
Mine is very distinct. Even when I've dated men they've still not used it as they got used to my alt-name! |
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"People using different first names is one of the weirdest things on Fab imo. It's called signing up with your brain (ie your imagination) in your cock I think.
Us not using our birth names has nothing to do with what we signed-up with. It's far more to do with privacy and occupation.
There are whole industries out there where people would not even use their 'real' names on e.g. facebook.
Some of us have pretty distinct real names (e.g. not Dave or Sarah) and so keeping it under wraps is necessary to maintain a bit of anonymity. I give my real name to people I trust. "
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Do you trust me, Maud? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t always share my real name. I had a situation recently where someone who knows it contacted one of my veris and referred to me by my real name and couldn’t understand why I was vex (hence now my veris are all hidden )"
Agree |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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"People using different first names is one of the weirdest things on Fab imo. It's called signing up with your brain (ie your imagination) in your cock I think.
Us not using our birth names has nothing to do with what we signed-up with. It's far more to do with privacy and occupation.
There are whole industries out there where people would not even use their 'real' names on e.g. facebook.
Some of us have pretty distinct real names (e.g. not Dave or Sarah) and so keeping it under wraps is necessary to maintain a bit of anonymity. I give my real name to people I trust.
Your name isn't that distinct, Roger. It's just a surprise to find a lady called it
Oops. Sorry I real named you. My bad
Fucking hell, Karen "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t have my name on my profile but some of the guys on here follow me on insta so obviously know my real name. It freaks me out when they address me as my real name on here. Makes me really uneasy but I don’t know why |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We use names specifically for fab, for several reasons.
One being our comfort zone regarding discretion.
Another, it kinda helps us with the role play side of things. Mrs loves reading messages, and hearing on the phone how I refer to her as a different name, almost a different person, brings out the naughty in her.
We don't have a particular rule but find, if we meet the once, we tend to not share our real names, if though we arrange to meet again and feel a friendship could begin, we'll give our real names.
We do have stand out names and the wrong person knowing could cause us some real issues.
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"People using different first names is one of the weirdest things on Fab imo. It's called signing up with your brain (ie your imagination) in your cock I think.
Us not using our birth names has nothing to do with what we signed-up with. It's far more to do with privacy and occupation.
There are whole industries out there where people would not even use their 'real' names on e.g. facebook.
Some of us have pretty distinct real names (e.g. not Dave or Sarah) and so keeping it under wraps is necessary to maintain a bit of anonymity. I give my real name to people I trust.
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Do you trust me, Maud?"
We may find out soon, Ethelred |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My real name is not Woody. I would not want somebody screaming that out mid orgasm
If on a social or meeting from here, I’m suppose it’s like a nickname, and that’s how we know people. I’d introduce myself as Woody but then offer my real name, after all we want to get to know each other, don’t we? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have fab name I tell people.
Not many know my real name.
But, I'd prefer he know my real name before he stuck his penis in me.
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Do you need my penis’s name too? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Got funny looks in the pub last night when I was at the bar and called across to our table "Cumguzzler, do you want ice?"
Apologies if there IS some called cumguzzler."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have fab name I tell people.
Not many know my real name.
But, I'd prefer he know my real name before he stuck his penis in me.
Do you need my penis’s name too? "
Obviously |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t have my name on my profile but some of the guys on here follow me on insta so obviously know my real name. It freaks me out when they address me as my real name on here. Makes me really uneasy but I don’t know why "
Sorry Sharon |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have fab name I tell people.
Not many know my real name.
But, I'd prefer he know my real name before he stuck his penis in me.
Do you need my penis’s name too?
Obviously"
I’d you to like to meet Mr Hardy…
It’s gone weird now hasn’t it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t have my name on my profile but some of the guys on here follow me on insta so obviously know my real name. It freaks me out when they address me as my real name on here. Makes me really uneasy but I don’t know why
Sorry Sharon"
Haha it’s Shazza to you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t have my name on my profile but some of the guys on here follow me on insta so obviously know my real name. It freaks me out when they address me as my real name on here. Makes me really uneasy but I don’t know why
Sorry Sharon
Haha it’s Shazza to you "
Yeah, but Soz Shazza just seems a bit off |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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People call me Meli all the time.
Even during sex.
It's rare to hear my actual name and so when I do/read it, I melt inside a little. Get a bit soft and  like aww, you see the woman behind the caricature of a millennial who waffles.
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"People call me Meli all the time.
Even during sex.
It's rare to hear my actual name and so when I do/read it, I melt inside a little. Get a bit soft and like aww, you see the woman behind the caricature of a millennial who waffles.
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I call you Meli when I'm having sex.
Admittedly I'm usually on my own, but you know, it still counts, right.
Winston
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"I'm not overly fond of my real name or my username to be quite honest. But I take the stance that so long as I know that it's me that you are talking to me then you can call me what you want"
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I'm calling you Manfred. It's rather, umm, 'becoming'. |
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"People call me Meli all the time.
Even during sex.
It's rare to hear my actual name and so when I do/read it, I melt inside a little. Get a bit soft and like aww, you see the woman behind the caricature of a millennial who waffles."
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Henceforth I shall call you Meli-nnial. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"People call me Meli all the time.
Even during sex.
It's rare to hear my actual name and so when I do/read it, I melt inside a little. Get a bit soft and like aww, you see the woman behind the caricature of a millennial who waffles.
I call you Meli when I'm having sex.
Admittedly I'm usually on my own, but you know, it still counts, right.
Winston
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Winston you saucy devil!
Yeah, still counts. Solo play is a valid form of sex.  |
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"People call me Meli all the time.
Even during sex.
It's rare to hear my actual name and so when I do/read it, I melt inside a little. Get a bit soft and like aww, you see the woman behind the caricature of a millennial who waffles.
I call you Meli when I'm having sex.
Admittedly I'm usually on my own, but you know, it still counts, right.
Winston
Winston you saucy devil!
Yeah, still counts. Solo play is a valid form of sex. "
Oooooooooooaaaarrrrrgggghhhhhhooooft Meliiiiii.......
*falls asleep
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds |
"Random:
If you’re using a pseudonym like me on here and it’s a name. Would you expect people to call you by your real name when they actually meet you in the flesh? Or is the fab name ok?
Would you try and call someone by their real name or instinctively stick with their fab name?
**Sorry my name is not really Steve or Stephen or Esteban. "
I alwaya thought your name was Princess Consuela Bananahammock anyway |
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