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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is there such a thing?
Do you want it?
What if you don't get it, what if tomorrow never comes.
You always think things will work out, but if they don't, do you have a back up plan?
I aim on becoming a crazy dog lady, I'll have a pack of dogs, huskies. With a sledge obviously.
It's going to be awesome.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it clearly happens, but I'm not sure I will find it.
I try not to think about it too much to be honest.
At the moment it's just me and the cat, but I would absolutely love a companion |
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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago
Kettering |
For me at present there is no happy ever after. There was I was going to retire in October but due our government and Russia that's all been knocked on the head. As I will never have enough to pay my bills  |
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"Is there such a thing?
Do you want it?
What if you don't get it, what if tomorrow never comes.
You always think things will work out, but if they don't, do you have a back up plan?
I aim on becoming a crazy dog lady, I'll have a pack of dogs, huskies. With a sledge obviously.
It's going to be awesome.
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I guess it depends how you define “happy” - what you’d be happy with? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Curly said the meaning of life is 1 thing happy ever after im more and more believing was created for children to give them hope and the survival instinct just like you can do what ever you want if you are willing to work hard and sacrifice its all sentimental bullshit |
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"Is there such a thing?
Do you want it?
What if you don't get it, what if tomorrow never comes.
You always think things will work out, but if they don't, do you have a back up plan?
I aim on becoming a crazy dog lady, I'll have a pack of dogs, huskies. With a sledge obviously.
It's going to be awesome.
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You might want to rethink the huskies/sledging plan. Apparently, they shit prolifically and it's easy to get caught in a fecal slipstream  |
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By *lynJMan
over a year ago
Morden |
Plans are overrated. They are always out of date as soon as you finish creating it.
Take life, generally, as it comes. Some stuff will be good, but a load will be s**t of the deepest smelliest kind.
Even in a happily ever after situation, inevitably, it will almost certainly end with one or more of you experiencing an enormous sense of loss and grief.
What a cheery soul I am today. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone has a different idea of what they need to be happy. Most people will never be as humans are always looking for something better. No one knows what's going to happen tomorrow but being happy in who you are, what you have and being content is the best you can hope for.. everything else in life is a bonus level. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't know when I will, but until I can find me...a girl who will stay and won't play games behind me...I'll be what I am...a SOLITARY MAN  "
Neil Diamond. Unexpected!  |
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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago
Orpington |
"Don't know when I will, but until I can find me...a girl who will stay and won't play games behind me...I'll be what I am...a SOLITARY MAN
Neil Diamond. Unexpected! "
Maybe it's Johnny Cash...or HIM  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Having a goal for your perfect life is laudable so some degree. But when you change and your goals change your life has to if you still want to be happy.
Better to find someone to share the road, not the destination, even if they are huskies… |
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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago
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Yes. Happy ever after does exist. It doesn't mean happy always and it doesn't mean it can't be broken. But it can exist.
However, happy ever after in the traditional fairy tale sense absolutely isn't in my cards. So I'll take the happy as it comes and embrace it when it does.
Life has too much shit, too much hurt, abuse and heartache to not grab hold of the happy times.
So even if forever isn't something that is for everyone, right now can be. And if you can make right now happy, you can have your happy ever after  |
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I get through the day, make contingencies for the medium term. The long term doesn't concern me that much (other than saving for retirement etc, assuming society doesn't collapse before then and assuming the retirement age is below 145 by the time I get there) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes we have it then just push it away,
sometimes we're just destined to fuck up a good thing,
Sometimes we find it impossible to try and repair the damage,
Sometimes we're scared of dropping our gaurd in the thought that the pain is too much to encounter once more,
One or all of the above is true for gatsby
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't feel like the typical happy ever after i.e marriage etc is for me... Not that I don't want it, it just doesn't seem to want me.
I'll be a crazy old Great Dane lady with a fuck tonne of Jamshed wine. That'll be a Happy Ever After for me. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
No, I don’t think that there is a happy ever after but I think that there can be happiness along the way.
No one will have a forever happy life, that’s just not possible but the bad makes the good better, when it does come.
The key is to smell the roses along the way.
That’s not a euphemism for sucking cock by the way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There absolutely is a happy ever after, for everyone, in my Love Actually/Notting Hill fueled heart.
How that looks, or is, will be different for each individual, but I truly believe that everybody deserves that.
For me, I don't want to get married or any of that shizzle, my happy ever after right now is someone to take me for dinner, or drinks, or veg on the sofa with , once or twice a week, spend a weekend , maybe two a month together, who wants to devour and adore me in equal measure, who isn't shagging anyone else (unless I'm involved ) and makes me laugh, and is my best friend.
I dont believe thats not possible |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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10 years ago I'd have said it's entirely possible, unfortunately life and in particular the last six months are teaching me otherwise. I still live in hope, but the pragmatist in me is preparing for loneliness to prevail. |
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By *bw44DDWoman
over a year ago
Nottingham |
"Is there such a thing?
Do you want it?
What if you don't get it, what if tomorrow never comes.
You always think things will work out, but if they don't, do you have a back up plan?
I aim on becoming a crazy dog lady, I'll have a pack of dogs, huskies. With a sledge obviously.
It's going to be awesome.
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I thought I had my happily every after when I was married, then I went through hell and thought I’d never be happy again but now I’m happier than I’ve ever been and I’m by myself.
Everyone has their happy ever after inside, we just need to remember we are responsible for it and not pin it on someone else because things can change so fast and they’ll be gone. You’ll always have yourself |
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"Don't know when I will, but until I can find me...a girl who will stay and won't play games behind me...I'll be what I am...a SOLITARY MAN
Neil Diamond. Unexpected!
Maybe it's Johnny Cash...or HIM "
Ville Valo  - the definitive version!
I think I've got what I'm looking for in life. I'm the luckiest woman in the world, with Mr KC |
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"There absolutely is a happy ever after, for everyone, in my Love Actually/Notting Hill fueled heart.
How that looks, or is, will be different for each individual, but I truly believe that everybody deserves that.
For me, I don't want to get married or any of that shizzle, my happy ever after right now is someone to take me for dinner, or drinks, or veg on the sofa with , once or twice a week, spend a weekend , maybe two a month together, who wants to devour and adore me in equal measure, who isn't shagging anyone else (unless I'm involved ) and makes me laugh, and is my best friend.
I dont believe thats not possible "
Ditto. Evaded me so far |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't really believe in a 'happy ever after', more a 'content ever after'. Happy isn't a permanent state of being, just a fleeting emotion that comes in waves throughout the day, if we're lucky, along with a host of other emotions. Relationships aren't without their issues, even the best ones, but being content with the overall quality of a relationship is doable. Being ecstatically happy all the time is not. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There absolutely is a happy ever after, for everyone, in my Love Actually/Notting Hill fueled heart.
How that looks, or is, will be different for each individual, but I truly believe that everybody deserves that.
For me, I don't want to get married or any of that shizzle, my happy ever after right now is someone to take me for dinner, or drinks, or veg on the sofa with , once or twice a week, spend a weekend , maybe two a month together, who wants to devour and adore me in equal measure, who isn't shagging anyone else (unless I'm involved ) and makes me laugh, and is my best friend.
I dont believe thats not possible "
Can I have this please.
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By *inkycatWoman
over a year ago
High Wycombe |
I thought I had my Happy Ever After, then he got on a plane and never came home (except in a coffin). No one is going to come close to what I had with him and I will never look. I’m managing my life now and it has got easier.
I have a card in my room that says “remember the small things because one day you will look back and realise they were the big things”… and I live by that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I do think sometimes you meet someone, and everything just clicks. For whatever reason it ends and you never quite feel that level of happiness again. No one compares.
So you might have moments of happiness but it's never quite the same, you just learn to live life not quite to the fullest.
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"I do think sometimes you meet someone, and everything just clicks. For whatever reason it ends and you never quite feel that level of happiness again. No one compares.
So you might have moments of happiness but it's never quite the same, you just learn to live life not quite to the fullest.
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I feel I was so lucky with my husband.
The devastation of losing him is something that’s hard to live with. It eases, but doesn’t go.
Knowing how quickly you can lose someone, it makes me want it all the more.
I just can’t find it |
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I think it does OP. But I think the older we get maybe the more doubtful we get. Hurt in the past etc.when it feels right with one person then I’m happy,never look elsewhere.and hopefully they’ll feel the same. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I don't really believe in a 'happy ever after', more a 'content ever after'. Happy isn't a permanent state of being, just a fleeting emotion that comes in waves throughout the day, if we're lucky, along with a host of other emotions. Relationships aren't without their issues, even the best ones, but being content with the overall quality of a relationship is doable. Being ecstatically happy all the time is not."
I agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't know when I will, but until I can find me...a girl who will stay and won't play games behind me...I'll be what I am...a SOLITARY MAN
Neil Diamond. Unexpected!
Maybe it's Johnny Cash...or HIM "
Haven't heard Johnny Cash sing it. I grew up with Neil Diamond-loving parents. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I play most things pretty safe so it's highly unlikely my plans or goals go completely tits up. On the other hand, it may stop me me having the chance to truly match my ambitions or potential.
I pretty much have 0 relationship goals as it's not really in my control, but I have career goals I'm sure I can meet because I have a longer timeframe to do it |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I do think sometimes you meet someone, and everything just clicks. For whatever reason it ends and you never quite feel that level of happiness again. No one compares.
So you might have moments of happiness but it's never quite the same, you just learn to live life not quite to the fullest.
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I sometimes think that the sadness of things that have happened, stay with you and bring a tinge of melancholy to happy times.
As I get older (I’m not old, dammit!) the happy times seem less ‘vibrant’ but the sad times are easier to manage.
Perhaps part of it is that life experience brings the wisdom that moments are fleeting, people come and go and you can’t be forever happy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do think sometimes you meet someone, and everything just clicks. For whatever reason it ends and you never quite feel that level of happiness again. No one compares.
So you might have moments of happiness but it's never quite the same, you just learn to live life not quite to the fullest.
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I've had that and I still miss him, but time has passed and I think I could find happiness again with someone else. But I had to be open to it to have a chance of that happening. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there such a thing?
Do you want it?
What if you don't get it, what if tomorrow never comes.
You always think things will work out, but if they don't, do you have a back up plan?
I aim on becoming a crazy dog lady, I'll have a pack of dogs, huskies. With a sledge obviously.
It's going to be awesome.
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things will always work out in the end, so if it ain't working out right now, it ain't the end!
Be brave, take a chance and have confidence in yourself, you can do it. I promise x. |
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