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over a year ago
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I think there is a high level of immaturity permanently living at home, because you don’t want to leave.
If you’re living at home, I don’t think you’ve truly grown up.
Exception: Maybe your situation (divorce, back from Uni, being a carer ), so it’s temporary, I see no issues. |
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over a year ago
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"I know one man who lived with his parents until his mid fifties, my aunt lived with her parents until they both died. If it suits you and them, why not? "
I agree but must admit I wouldn’t want to meet anyone that lives with mum
And dad at that age |
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"I know one man who lived with his parents until his mid fifties, my aunt lived with her parents until they both died. If it suits you and them, why not?
I agree but must admit I wouldn’t want to meet anyone that lives with mum
And dad at that age "
Fair enough. I also have good friend who lives near her parents. She's mid fifties, they're mid eighties, her father has a key to her house, opens letters from her bank, arranges for work to be done on her house without consulting her, sits and watches tv while she's at work and helps himself to her food. I think that's way worse than living in the same house as someone and demonstrates a much higher level of co dependency. |
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"I know one man who lived with his parents until his mid fifties, my aunt lived with her parents until they both died. If it suits you and them, why not?
I agree but must admit I wouldn’t want to meet anyone that lives with mum
And dad at that age
Fair enough. I also have good friend who lives near her parents. She's mid fifties, they're mid eighties, her father has a key to her house, opens letters from her bank, arranges for work to be done on her house without consulting her, sits and watches tv while she's at work and helps himself to her food. I think that's way worse than living in the same house as someone and demonstrates a much higher level of co dependency."
Well maybe she did same to them when she lived at home so it’s payback |
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"I know one man who lived with his parents until his mid fifties, my aunt lived with her parents until they both died. If it suits you and them, why not?
I agree but must admit I wouldn’t want to meet anyone that lives with mum
And dad at that age
Fair enough. I also have good friend who lives near her parents. She's mid fifties, they're mid eighties, her father has a key to her house, opens letters from her bank, arranges for work to be done on her house without consulting her, sits and watches tv while she's at work and helps himself to her food. I think that's way worse than living in the same house as someone and demonstrates a much higher level of co dependency.
Well maybe she did same to them when she lived at home so it’s payback "
 . I'd say it's very different a parent having that level of involvement in an adult child's life.
Our daughter was driving me somewhere quite early in the morning last week, I thanked her and she told me it was paying me back in some small way for all the times I'd got out of bed in the early hours to pick her up from some God forsaken location |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know one man who lived with his parents until his mid fifties, my aunt lived with her parents until they both died. If it suits you and them, why not?
I agree but must admit I wouldn’t want to meet anyone that lives with mum
And dad at that age
Fair enough. I also have good friend who lives near her parents. She's mid fifties, they're mid eighties, her father has a key to her house, opens letters from her bank, arranges for work to be done on her house without consulting her, sits and watches tv while she's at work and helps himself to her food. I think that's way worse than living in the same house as someone and demonstrates a much higher level of co dependency.
Well maybe she did same to them when she lived at home so it’s payback
. I'd say it's very different a parent having that level of involvement in an adult child's life.
Our daughter was driving me somewhere quite early in the morning last week, I thanked her and she told me it was paying me back in some small way for all the times I'd got out of bed in the early hours to pick her up from some God forsaken location "
Sounds like you’ve brought her up well and she thankful |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I know one man who lived with his parents until his mid fifties, my aunt lived with her parents until they both died. If it suits you and them, why not?
I agree but must admit I wouldn’t want to meet anyone that lives with mum
And dad at that age
Fair enough. I also have good friend who lives near her parents. She's mid fifties, they're mid eighties, her father has a key to her house, opens letters from her bank, arranges for work to be done on her house without consulting her, sits and watches tv while she's at work and helps himself to her food. I think that's way worse than living in the same house as someone and demonstrates a much higher level of co dependency.
Well maybe she did same to them when she lived at home so it’s payback
. I'd say it's very different a parent having that level of involvement in an adult child's life.
Our daughter was driving me somewhere quite early in the morning last week, I thanked her and she told me it was paying me back in some small way for all the times I'd got out of bed in the early hours to pick her up from some God forsaken location "
I don’t have kids and only family I have I see maybe once To twice a year |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Me and my kids live with my mum, I sold up and moved in with her in 2015 due to her ongoing health issues.
Apart from wishing I’d rented out my property rather than sell it, I have no regrets. |
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"I think there is a high level of immaturity permanently living at home, because you don’t want to leave.
If you’re living at home, I don’t think you’ve truly grown up.
Exception: Maybe your situation (divorce, back from Uni, being a carer ), so it’s temporary, I see no issues."
I live at home because I have Asperger's which is a mild form of Autism. I find it easier living at home but like I said, it doesn't mean I have no independence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Me and my kids live with my mum, I sold up and moved in with her in 2015 due to her ongoing health issues.
Apart from wishing I’d rented out my property rather than sell it, I have no regrets. "
Fair play health issues and looking after parents is different . I’ve never married |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I left at 19 and never looked back. I've never owned my own home spending many years in tied accomodation as a farm hand.
I think it's sad now that many youngsters who are desperate to leave are forced to live with their parents because they just can't afford to move out.  |
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"I left at 19 and never looked back. I've never owned my own home spending many years in tied accomodation as a farm hand.
I think it's sad now that many youngsters who are desperate to leave are forced to live with their parents because they just can't afford to move out. "
Yeah I was lucky bouught my own place and now have a portfolio of property |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think there is a high level of immaturity permanently living at home, because you don’t want to leave.
If you’re living at home, I don’t think you’ve truly grown up.
Exception: Maybe your situation (divorce, back from Uni, being a carer ), so it’s temporary, I see no issues.
I live at home because I have Asperger's which is a mild form of Autism. I find it easier living at home but like I said, it doesn't mean I have no independence."
My son has autism and he will never leave home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think there is a high level of immaturity permanently living at home, because you don’t want to leave.
If you’re living at home, I don’t think you’ve truly grown up.
Exception: Maybe your situation (divorce, back from Uni, being a carer ), so it’s temporary, I see no issues.
I live at home because I have Asperger's which is a mild form of Autism. I find it easier living at home but like I said, it doesn't mean I have no independence.
My son has autism and he will never leave home. "
Feel for you all FairPlay must be tough |
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"Society varies, some it's perfectly normal for multigenerational families to be under the same roof. Plusses and minuses every where"
I agree. What saddens me is that in some parts of society, it is frowned upon if some people are still living at home. It's like they think something is wrong with the person if they don't have their own place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Society varies, some it's perfectly normal for multigenerational families to be under the same roof. Plusses and minuses every where"
I’m south asian and I’ll reiterate, until one leaves home and have your own house and in time perhaps your family, one always remain a mummy’s boy.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Society varies, some it's perfectly normal for multigenerational families to be under the same roof. Plusses and minuses every where
I agree. What saddens me is that in some parts of society, it is frowned upon if some people are still living at home. It's like they think something is wrong with the person if they don't have their own place."
In fairness it’s usually lack of money or. Any cut the apron strings |
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"Society varies, some it's perfectly normal for multigenerational families to be under the same roof. Plusses and minuses every where
I agree. What saddens me is that in some parts of society, it is frowned upon if some people are still living at home. It's like they think something is wrong with the person if they don't have their own place."
People are judgemental and will jump to conclusions without finding out individual circumstances. We all do it to a certain extent.
Don't apologise for or excuse the fact that you live at home.  |
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"Society varies, some it's perfectly normal for multigenerational families to be under the same roof. Plusses and minuses every where
I agree. What saddens me is that in some parts of society, it is frowned upon if some people are still living at home. It's like they think something is wrong with the person if they don't have their own place.
In fairness it’s usually lack of money or. Any cut the apron strings "
That's true |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"See so many that if kids do leave home they live very local and are never away from
Each other’s houses
It’s like that can’t cope without each other "
That’s called a community . And what’s so wrong living in the same area as your parents? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"See so many that if kids do leave home they live very local and are never away from
Each other’s houses
It’s like that can’t cope without each other
That’s called a community . And what’s so wrong living in the same area as your parents?"
Area is fine but see lads and girls that are back at mums for tea every night and same with lads
Mum doing washing for them or hoovering seeing them every day etc not natural . I’m 8 hours drive away from my mum |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"See so many that if kids do leave home they live very local and are never away from
Each other’s houses
It’s like that can’t cope without each other
That’s called a community . And what’s so wrong living in the same area as your parents?
Area is fine but see lads and girls that are back at mums for tea every night and same with lads
Mum doing washing for them or hoovering seeing them every day etc not natural . I’m 8 hours drive away from my mum "
Seems you’re envious mate. It’s not anyone business.
All I said in this thread was that : I don’t feel people are independent until they have their own place. There is a level of immaturity, if a person relies on living with mum and dad, if it’s through choice. People have good reason to stay home, and some have shared their story. Some don’t care, and j say good for them.
I don’t begrudge people who do stay home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"See so many that if kids do leave home they live very local and are never away from
Each other’s houses
It’s like that can’t cope without each other "
My boys are polar opposite, eldest bought the house that backs onto mine because he wanted to be close, my youngest moved to Scotland  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I left at 19 and never looked back. I've never owned my own home spending many years in tied accomodation as a farm hand.
I think it's sad now that many youngsters who are desperate to leave are forced to live with their parents because they just can't afford to move out.
Yeah I was lucky bouught my own place and now have a portfolio of property "
But it's people like you who have taken that opportunity away from them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I left at 19 and never looked back. I've never owned my own home spending many years in tied accomodation as a farm hand.
I think it's sad now that many youngsters who are desperate to leave are forced to live with their parents because they just can't afford to move out.
Yeah I was lucky bouught my own place and now have a portfolio of property
But it's people like you who have taken that opportunity away from them. "
If you want to blame anyone it’s successive governments and the Bank of England to blame. No point blaming the smarty pants taking advantage of the situation.
It’s like saying I don’t like bill gates because he had a computer before anyone else lol . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I left at 17 and couldn't imagine having having to share my space with my parents again.
My children are welcome to stay until they're ready to leave. I wasn't ready and had to flee due to domestic abuse, so that time was a bit traumatic. Also, one of my children is autistic and I don't think he'll be ready until well into his 20's, possibly longer. Bright as a button but struggles with organising and executive function. |
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