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Larger body sizes. I am a larger woman, and unfortunately I spent my whole life being in the category of 'fine to fuck, but not dating material'.
Lets just say its a real headfuck and demoralising.
I've seen plenty of posts of people who enjoy latger figures but personally, I rarely find them and have been single over 10 years now. Even when I was smaller, I still had curves and was never in the 'thin' category. It's just who I am.
So the question is, do people prefer smaller people, not just for fun but also for something longer term, more meaningful? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Larger body sizes. I am a larger woman, and unfortunately I spent my whole life being in the category of 'fine to fuck, but not dating material'.
Lets just say its a real headfuck and demoralising.
I've seen plenty of posts of people who enjoy latger figures but personally, I rarely find them and have been single over 10 years now. Even when I was smaller, I still had curves and was never in the 'thin' category. It's just who I am.
So the question is, do people prefer smaller people, not just for fun but also for something longer term, more meaningful?"
Just looked on your profile(Liz)
You are hot as feck!!!!  we both loooove curvy girls.
When it comes to relationships...its not just looks they looking for.
 im sure you know that yourself. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
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"Larger body sizes. I am a larger woman, and unfortunately I spent my whole life being in the category of 'fine to fuck, but not dating material'.
Lets just say its a real headfuck and demoralising.
I've seen plenty of posts of people who enjoy latger figures but personally, I rarely find them and have been single over 10 years now. Even when I was smaller, I still had curves and was never in the 'thin' category. It's just who I am.
So the question is, do people prefer smaller people, not just for fun but also for something longer term, more meaningful?"
You look just fine to me, I wouldn’t even say you’re large, like side 16? is very common almost average . Maybe it isn’t your size ? Are you a wierdo ?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm sorry to hear that, it can't be fun thinking you aren't special enough for more than sex but please know that you are!
As far as I go, I'm more into facial attraction and personality. The body comes after that  |
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I think people will gravitate towards the body type they prefer in the first instance and if they like each others personality it'll develop into something long term.
I might be wrong but most men aren't so shallow that they choose their long term partner based on body size |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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No OP, they don't. I've never struggled for attention even away from Fab and when I was a size 30. And that's not just dicking attention, actual dating attention.
It's really tough when you're feeling low and invisible to not place your worth on your body isn't it? I do that sometimes. It's bollocks. Of course physical attraction matters but there's so much to it. And you're more than your meat suit.
I still get a bit... gosh about getting naked in front of new people. But. Life is too short. You can work on your body (not you specifically) but more importantly work on loving yourself. Believe that you're worth more than a fuck, you are and don't let the negative thoughts penetrate your mind.
You're really not particularly big and I say that as a fat woman. Regardless of your size, providing you're not a throbber, that meaningful is deserved. x |
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To catch all the comments
I'm a little weird but who isn't.
Profile pic is flattering and also when I was a little smaller than I am now.
After years and years of no interest from others, yes I do think its me. I'm far from a '10' in the looks dept and know there needs to be some level of attraction. And no, I'm not punching too high either, at least I don't think so. Conversation and chemistry are more important to me, but there still needs to be a basic level of attraction too. |
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"To catch all the comments
I'm a little weird but who isn't.
Profile pic is flattering and also when I was a little smaller than I am now.
After years and years of no interest from others, yes I do think its me. I'm far from a '10' in the looks dept and know there needs to be some level of attraction. And no, I'm not punching too high either, at least I don't think so. Conversation and chemistry are more important to me, but there still needs to be a basic level of attraction too."
I think you should stop thinking of yourself in terms of where you come on some imaginary scale of looks and referring to punching too high. Your self worth as a woman is not down to how attractive your body is to men. |
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I've been a lot bigger than I am now and a lot slimmer. I can't say there was a difference in the amount of men who were attracted to me. The main difference was my own confidence in myself regardless of my size. When I've been confident I've attracted more attention then when I'm not. Not saying this is the case for you though. |
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"Skinny bunts don’t necessarily make good wives. I like my large bird to cuddle up to at night."
Did you really have to be so derogatory against slimmer women? Nothing makes turns me off quicker than putting others down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Remember, people will never be as unkind to you as you are to yourself OP. Embrace who you are and the right person for you will accept you for who you are  |
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OP, most people have a completely different (and usually longer) list of preferences for a dating partner than they do for a casual sex partner. I'd hazard a guess that body size/shape features higher on most people's casual sex list than it does on their dating list. Most men really aren't that shallow in my experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To catch all the comments
I'm a little weird but who isn't.
Profile pic is flattering and also when I was a little smaller than I am now.
After years and years of no interest from others, yes I do think its me. I'm far from a '10' in the looks dept and know there needs to be some level of attraction. And no, I'm not punching too high either, at least I don't think so. Conversation and chemistry are more important to me, but there still needs to be a basic level of attraction too.
I think you should stop thinking of yourself in terms of where you come on some imaginary scale of looks and referring to punching too high. Your self worth as a woman is not down to how attractive your body is to men. "
What Mrs NC said ^
You are enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Skinny bunts don’t necessarily make good wives. I like my large bird to cuddle up to at night.
Did you really have to be so derogatory against slimmer women? Nothing makes turns me off quicker than putting others down. "
Agreed  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Man this thread has triggered me. I've been in that "good enough to fuck but not date" camp my whole adult life too - hugs OP
I will say your pics are beautiful and you're nowhere near "large". |
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I always liked curvier larger ladies. It's a body type that makes me go phwoaar.
But I don't really discriminate, I like larger ladies all the way through to muscular ladies. Sexy is sexy.
There's definitely someone out there for everyone. |
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"Larger body sizes. I am a larger woman, and unfortunately I spent my whole life being in the category of 'fine to fuck, but not dating material'.
Lets just say its a real headfuck and demoralising.
I've seen plenty of posts of people who enjoy latger figures but personally, I rarely find them and have been single over 10 years now. Even when I was smaller, I still had curves and was never in the 'thin' category. It's just who I am.
So the question is, do people prefer smaller people, not just for fun but also for something longer term, more meaningful?"
Looking at your pics I wouldn't say your a larger lady. A good figure for me is boobs and a bum. An attractive face (just being honest) and a great personality (someone who doesn't take themselves too seriously and enjoys a laugh). |
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I'm not exactly slim (read "I'm a chubby chubster") but never found it hard to get a boyfriend and have been in a committed relationship for 18 years now. I'm not sure there's a universal "rule" on body sizes. |
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"Larger body sizes. I am a larger woman, and unfortunately I spent my whole life being in the category of 'fine to fuck, but not dating material'.
Lets just say its a real headfuck and demoralising.
I've seen plenty of posts of people who enjoy latger figures but personally, I rarely find them and have been single over 10 years now. Even when I was smaller, I still had curves and was never in the 'thin' category. It's just who I am.
So the question is, do people prefer smaller people, not just for fun but also for something longer term, more meaningful?"
All about the curves for me OP, and yours look gorgeous to me  |
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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago
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To me ‘something meaningful’ isn’t about a body shape or size it’s about a person, the way they laugh, there little quirks and unique qualities that make you just want to be around them.
When I’ve spoken to friends about previous partners I don’t wax lyrical about there shape I talk about all the daft stuff we would do together, trips we had taken, places we had eaten - the proper memory kinda stuff!
If you wish to be meaningful to someone you need to be happy in you, not picking yourself apart, sometimes on fab woman see all these half naked other woman and suddenly feel like there not in the same league (hate that term) or that they couldn’t possibly offer more than the stereotypical perfect body - slim/curvy/bbw/petit none of it matters if it’s meaningful all of it is not just your body!
Know your own worth, don’t let others dictate what you are worth! Xx |
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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago
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"Larger body sizes. I am a larger woman, and unfortunately I spent my whole life being in the category of 'fine to fuck, but not dating material'.
Lets just say its a real headfuck and demoralising.
I've seen plenty of posts of people who enjoy latger figures but personally, I rarely find them and have been single over 10 years now. Even when I was smaller, I still had curves and was never in the 'thin' category. It's just who I am.
So the question is, do people prefer smaller people, not just for fun but also for something longer term, more meaningful?"
From a male perspective, I wouldn't class you as a larger lady, yes you have curves,and very nice they are too, however I haven't spoke to or interacted with you, so I don't know what your personality is like, which for me is the clincher.
All I can say is be yourself, love your curves, and Mr right will come along, it really is a lottery, sooner or later you will hit the jackpot |
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Body size has nothing to do with getting a long term boyfriend/partner, it's about the person inside.
We all have preferences and you haven't found him yet.
You've gorgeous curves, some slim people are jealous of curves.
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"I hate my figure"
When women say that I always get annoyed as its much more about the person inside the body. A womans mind is more attractive. You could be a super model, but if you just lay there in bed then it isn't really attractive.
Although I went on the scales yesterday and was shocked at my weight and then checked the mirror.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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physical atraction is important but personality/how much we get along together is far more important. just keep looking op i am sure there is somone for you. have to agree with everyone else you have some nice pics. I know it's easier said than done though to have confidence in yourself but wish you all the best. |
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I've dated ladies with a more full figure and those with less curves.
Their personalities were the determining factor, not what the tape measure said.....
Love yourself OP, there's only one of you and its amazing.
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"No OP, they don't. I've never struggled for attention even away from Fab and when I was a size 30. And that's not just dicking attention, actual dating attention.
It's really tough when you're feeling low and invisible to not place your worth on your body isn't it? I do that sometimes. It's bollocks. Of course physical attraction matters but there's so much to it. And you're more than your meat suit.
I still get a bit... gosh about getting naked in front of new people. But. Life is too short. You can work on your body (not you specifically) but more importantly work on loving yourself. Believe that you're worth more than a fuck, you are and don't let the negative thoughts penetrate your mind.
You're really not particularly big and I say that as a fat woman. Regardless of your size, providing you're not a throbber, that meaningful is deserved. x"
Thank you for answering more eloquently than I could!
OP, I'm a Very Fat Bird, have been my entire life. Sometimes I'm fitter than others depending on whether I'm training but even at my fittest I was still a large 22, at my least fit I was a 32.
I've never been in that "good enough to fuck but not date" situation, but I have heard it mentioned before on here. I've had messages from guys who have clearly seen me that way but they tend not to be guys I've had much interest in so no great loss.
I see plenty of very large women in relationships though so I'm not convinced it's a norm outside of this type of site, out in the real world.
Hold yourself precious OP, you are far more than a number on a scale and you shouldn't have to settle for something clandestine if that's not what you're looking for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sexy or beauty is an attitude.
It’s all tied into confidence and who you are as a person. It’s never about body size. Or at least that’s the way I see it.
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